OHbaby! Forums : pregnancy advice https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 11 Apr 2026 15:37:26 +0000 Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:51:03 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=25274 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : I have no advice really , all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638999&title=pregnancy-advice#638999 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 25274
Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:51pm

I have no advice really , all I have is lots and lots of big hugs

....but do keep focussing on what you are already telling yourself, at the end of the day no matter what you decide to do there will be people that have an opinion on which decision you make, the only opinion that matters , is yours and DHs , its really nobody elses business.

Lots of hugs hun,and the best of luck ]]> Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:51:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638999&title=pregnancy-advice#638999 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : so yeah i did a test today and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638971&title=pregnancy-advice#638971 Author: mrshouse
Subject: 25274
Posted: 18 March 2009 at 2:25pm

so yeah i did a test today and got a BFP- so it confirms everything and im pregnant .............its starting to sink in and the advice you have all given has helped me to realise its not the end of the world and so is life........and i think when it comes down to it-its the effort that i put into thinking what others may think that is really getting me down so that out of the way it really is "nobodys business but mine and DH"- (i will remember this line during the next few months)..........

]]> Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:25:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638971&title=pregnancy-advice#638971 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Aww what a shock I felt the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638404&title=pregnancy-advice#638404 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 9:03pm

Aww what a shock

I felt the same way as you when I fell pregnant with Caprece but you know even if people do think things they soon get over it. Which ever way you decide to go things will work out they always do. ]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 21:03:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638404&title=pregnancy-advice#638404 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : lisa85 wrote:mrshouse wrote...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638392&title=pregnancy-advice#638392 Author: LadyLizard
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 8:50pm

Originally posted by lisa85 lisa85 wrote:

mrshouse wrote -
i dont know if i even have a right to think of any other option but to have it?

Chic you have plenty of options and without wanting to start a pro-life pro-choice debate I'm just going to say that no one elses opinion matters regarding that issue except yours. You do whats right for you. If you can handle it and want to add to your family awesome if you don't you wouldn't be the first in the world to make a tough, but well thought out decision to do whats best for you and the kids you already have.

Big hugs chic it's not nice having so much weight on your shoulders. Hope your DH gets home soon and makes things seem a little clearer


I agree with Lisa85. I am not interested in hearing pro-life/ pro-choice debates either, but luckily in NZ you DO have a choice and its nobody elses business but yours and your DHs.

And whatever you decide you deserve not to be judged for it.

All the best.





]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 20:50:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638392&title=pregnancy-advice#638392 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : im 100% sure because theres no...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638390&title=pregnancy-advice#638390 Author: mrshouse
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 8:47pm

im 100% sure because theres no doubting the feeling of all day nausea but i will double check at the doc tomorrow.....thank you for all your kind words and just reading your posts will make me sleep a little easier tonight- DH gets back on saturday...........

hannibal ive planned to finish my degree this year and have already enrolled in my last 4 papers and i got wicked MS for atleast 4months with my first 2....also planned to start my career...planned to go Hawaii at the end of the year for my sisters wedding....planned a big 25th birthday....anyway if i tough it out i might be able to do half of these things....there may be a bright light at the end of the tunnel

]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 20:47:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638390&title=pregnancy-advice#638390 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Oh boy, big to you chicky. Very...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638330&title=pregnancy-advice#638330 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 8:10pm

Oh boy, big to you chicky. Very hard to be home "alone" with this weighing on your mind. I have nothing to add that the other girls haven't already said but didn't want to read and run.

again ]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 20:10:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638330&title=pregnancy-advice#638330 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Hugs!!! While the initial shock...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638271&title=pregnancy-advice#638271 Author: busymum
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 7:25pm

Hugs!!! While the initial shock is probably hard to bear, especially on your own (in a way), you will be okay. As for what people think - who cares? People have a lot of opinions about our planned four kids, let alone the spacing and our income. People just have outspoken opinions about everything! Yesterday I met a mum with three kids under three... the youngest were 10 months apart and she confided that the baby was conceived while she was on the pill! So don't be so hard on yourself.

Secondly, get your pg'cy confirmed for sure as the post-baby hormones can be somewhat murky and it's best to know for sure.]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 19:25:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638271&title=pregnancy-advice#638271 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : My friend Just about to send...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638247&title=pregnancy-advice#638247 Author: arohanui
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 6:57pm

My friend Just about to send u a pm ]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 18:57:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638247&title=pregnancy-advice#638247 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Eek I can imagine how scared you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638218&title=pregnancy-advice#638218 Author: my4beauties
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 6:27pm

Eek I can imagine how scared you must be!  The one bit of advice that I live by is..... Take each day as it comes.  Some days it will seem all too hard, other days it will be sweet and you'll wonder what your were worried about.  Also remember that it takes 9 months to brew a baby, so by then Malia will be 12ish months, and Ane will be closer to 3.  Hugs to you though, things must be overwhelming at the moment especially with your Dh away.  Have you done a HPT to confirm you're pregnant?]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 18:27:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638218&title=pregnancy-advice#638218 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Firstly congratulations to you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638214&title=pregnancy-advice#638214 Author: tishy
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 6:19pm

Firstly congratulations to you and DH. I'm a firm believer that we're only dealt hands that we can deal with and someone out there obviously thinks you are a great Mum.

I can imagine it's all overwhelming at the moment. When is DH home? I'm sure a hug from him will calm the nerves a lot!]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 18:19:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638214&title=pregnancy-advice#638214 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : mrshouse wrote - i dont know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638181&title=pregnancy-advice#638181 Author: lisa85
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 5:31pm

mrshouse wrote -
i dont know if i even have a right to think of any other option but to have it?

Chic you have plenty of options and without wanting to start a pro-life pro-choice debate I'm just going to say that no one elses opinion matters regarding that issue except yours. You do whats right for you. If you can handle it and want to add to your family awesome if you don't you wouldn't be the first in the world to make a tough, but well thought out decision to do whats best for you and the kids you already have.

Big hugs chic it's not nice having so much weight on your shoulders. Hope your DH gets home soon and makes things seem a little clearer ]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:31:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638181&title=pregnancy-advice#638181 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Hi, sending hugs to you too -...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638176&title=pregnancy-advice#638176 Author: hannibal
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 5:26pm

Hi, sending hugs to you too - I guess I would say do a test if you haven't already or go to the docs - just in case your not pregnant and you are worrying for nothing. Everything happens for a reason and its nobody's business apart from your DH and yourself's (is your mum supporting you???) - we are lucky to be able to have kids think of the couples who can't    My bubs in only 5 months old - but I already want another - just had a disagreement with hubby over this - he just wants 1 but I want 2!!!! What sorts of things have you planned for the year and why can't you still achieve them? ]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:26:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638176&title=pregnancy-advice#638176 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : hey mrshouse... first of all (((((hugs)))))...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638167&title=pregnancy-advice#638167 Author: Aquarius
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 5:18pm

hey mrshouse...
first of all (((((hugs))))) to you
my kids are so spaced apart it felt like having an only child each time so im not gonna comment on something i havent experienced but im sure you'll get plenty who are on here soon..
what i do want to say is this....for some mystic reason fate only deals the hand that it knows we can handle...our second son has autism and at the time we thought why us we cant do this....but looking back we are awesome parents for him and its obvious now why it happened to us.
you guys must be more than capable...even if it tests you to the limit...what doesnt kill us makes us stronger
good luck xx]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:18:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638167&title=pregnancy-advice#638167 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : Firstly a big hug to you. I can...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638131&title=pregnancy-advice#638131 Author: first
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 4:39pm

Firstly a big hug to you. I can imagine you are very overwhelmed right now. Its definately going to take time for this to settle with you but you will get there.
I was embarrased when I got pregnant with my boy as he was a big surprise but try not to over think what people will think. IT a precious life that is going to bless your life and people should see it like that way.
Try being gentle on yourself. It will all work its way out.]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:39:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638131&title=pregnancy-advice#638131 <![CDATA[pregnancy advice : sorry i didnt know where to put...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638114&title=pregnancy-advice#638114 Author: mrshouse
Subject: 25274
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 4:23pm

sorry i didnt know where to put this.........anyway i "know" im pregnant again. Malia has only just turned 3 months.....Ane is turning 2 next month. how can i be so stupid?......just the 1 time and it was well before ovulation...but 1 time is all it takes. DH is away in Australia....he says its ok and we will be ok. but i dont know if I will be ok. i dont know if i even have a right to think of any other option but to have it? to be honest im really embarrased and what will people think? my mum? blah blah.......i just feel lost and lonely really....so much ive planned for this year....and now?......any ideas or advice or telling offs would be appreciated because i dont feel like i can cope with this alone for the rest of the week til DH gets home]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:23:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25274&PID=638114&title=pregnancy-advice#638114