OHbaby! Forums : Invading own personal space https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 20:11:37 +0000 Sun, 28 May 2006 18:01:55 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=2575 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : My midwife didnt do that to me.....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=49084&title=invading-own-personal-space#49084 Author: Tastic
Subject: 2575
Posted: 28 May 2006 at 6:01pm

My midwife didnt do that to me.. she showed me how to hold Baileys head etc and told me to put my nipple onto his lips and when he opens his mouth put it in to the top of his mouth, because I wasnt putting it in properly she asked me if it was alright if she helped me, I said yes , but that was the only time she touched me and it was with my permission first!

Trish ]]> Sun, 28 May 2006 18:01:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=49084&title=invading-own-personal-space#49084 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Im the same Marlene. although...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=49014&title=invading-own-personal-space#49014 Author: my2angels
Subject: 2575
Posted: 28 May 2006 at 7:56am

Im the same Marlene. although I did let mum and hubby look during labour but that was only because the doctors kept telling them to look at the baby and I was on drugs so thought it was really funny at the time cos ventouse is not pretty and they both looked a bit green. I didnt want hubby to see me like that, figured he would never look at me the same way again!]]> Sun, 28 May 2006 07:56:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=49014&title=invading-own-personal-space#49014 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : I had my pjs on when i had the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=49011&title=invading-own-personal-space#49011 Author: k&jsmum
Subject: 2575
Posted: 27 May 2006 at 11:27pm

I had my pjs on when i had the boys so if there was anychance of b/f i would have just undone a few buttons.
As for the being sensitive with ppl touching your boobs - well I was.   absolutley hated all the handleing of my bits and Im sorry but i totally did not want to lose any dignity and totally cared about losing it. With the b/f feeding thing best to explain how you feel so the midwife can be intune with you. i realised i couldnt really do much about it but its ok not to be ok about it (if that makes sense!!).
As for giving birth - well I wasnt worried about the docs being where they should be but my big thing was anyone that came with me when I had the boys wasnt allowed below my belly button. And I can tell you even in the middle of contractions i made sure on one looked!! My friend even commented on how I made sure she didnt peek lol
And i have to tell you that now Im even worst when it comes to smears etc then b4 I had the boys. Before i handled them ok - now i keep putting them off. Bad I know
So much for not caring about all that once you have kids huh. ]]> Sat, 27 May 2006 23:27:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=49011&title=invading-own-personal-space#49011 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : I wasnt keen on being naked either...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48984&title=invading-own-personal-space#48984 Author: 98765
Subject: 2575
Posted: 27 May 2006 at 8:21pm

I wasnt keen on being naked either but sumwhere along the way my clothes just came off and i didn't even think about it. I didn't feed Jack til at least an hour after and that happened when i was ready. I held him straight away and then my partner Ben had skin to skin contact with him.]]> Sat, 27 May 2006 20:21:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48984&title=invading-own-personal-space#48984 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Definitely talk to your midwife....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48051&title=invading-own-personal-space#48051 Author: linda
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 8:03pm

Definitely talk to your midwife. I formula feed so that wasn't a problem but I also didn't want the baby to be put on me straight after giving birth....I wanted him cleaned off a bit so discussed that with my doctor and it was not a problem. I felt a bit guilty thinking maybe I wasn't being very maternal but at the end of the day it was what I was more comfortable with. I was big on dignity all the way through (as much as you can)]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 20:03:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48051&title=invading-own-personal-space#48051 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : I wore a big tshirt of hubbys...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48047&title=invading-own-personal-space#48047 Author: my2angels
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 7:35pm

I wore a big tshirt of hubbys that came down past my bum. I didnt want to be in hospital clothes at all and wasnt thankfully, I hate those gowns]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 19:35:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48047&title=invading-own-personal-space#48047 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : i also had a c-section and james...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48046&title=invading-own-personal-space#48046 Author: james
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 7:30pm

i also had a c-section and james had to wait a hour for his frist feed and they did ask me just think of it this way that bub needs to feed and your if and only if u want to can lrean to b/f with as much help u may need ]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 19:30:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48046&title=invading-own-personal-space#48046 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : I had one of those lovely gowns...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48044&title=invading-own-personal-space#48044 Author: Kelpa
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 7:27pm

I had one of those lovely gowns on with nothing on underneath....but this time I think I will take my own trackies and big T-shirt of Marks...For some reason that makes me feel better!!!]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 19:27:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48044&title=invading-own-personal-space#48044 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Yeah I&#039;d rather be wearing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48024&title=invading-own-personal-space#48024 Author: Paws
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 6:08pm

Yeah I'd rather be wearing an old t-shirt at least...I'm pretty sure there are no problems with that.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 18:08:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48024&title=invading-own-personal-space#48024 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : At anti-natal they said the midwife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48015&title=invading-own-personal-space#48015 Author: ErinC
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 4:51pm

At anti-natal they said the midwife will give the baby straight to you (assuming everything is OK) and then the baby will start to suckle. I think i would like help getting him to latch on, but I have been wondering about the skin on skin thing - cause right now Im not particularly keen to give birth with no top or bottom on - so I guess I will just take off my top straight after? Is this what other people did?]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 16:51:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48015&title=invading-own-personal-space#48015 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : My midwife helped I am a real...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48010&title=invading-own-personal-space#48010 Author: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 4:40pm

My midwife helped I am a real prude and usually never like anyone touching me, but I guess as eveyone said at that piont I did not really care. I discovered you leave everything like that at the door when you go in and pick it up on the way out.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 16:40:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=48010&title=invading-own-personal-space#48010 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : i also had a c-section with jack...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47981&title=invading-own-personal-space#47981 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 3:02pm

i also had a c-section with jack and while in recovery my midwife told me it was time to get him to feed. she asked me if it was ok for her to get him to latch on and as i was so out of it i didn't care. through the night feeds too the nurses at the hospital did the latching thing for me as i couldn't sit upright and didn't have the confidence to do it either.
see how you feel at the time, you don't really know how you are going to react until it's happening
]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 15:02:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47981&title=invading-own-personal-space#47981 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Really? It did not happen to me....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47957&title=invading-own-personal-space#47957 Author: Roksana
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:22pm

Really? It did not happen to me. I had a c section and after which I was taken to the recovery room and my midwife brought Zaara and asked me if it was ok to give her the boob. I said yes and she took my boob and gave it to Zaara. I could not move my arms (epi) so I couldnt do it myself.....

Put it on your birth plan that you do not wish any one to touch your boobs, specially if you give birth virginally (sp??).]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 14:22:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47957&title=invading-own-personal-space#47957 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : I think it depends on the midwife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47953&title=invading-own-personal-space#47953 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:13pm

I think it depends on the midwife and what you put in your birth plan.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 14:13:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47953&title=invading-own-personal-space#47953 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : to be honest and sorry if this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47951&title=invading-own-personal-space#47951 Author: my2angels
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:09pm

to be honest and sorry if this is the wrong thing to say but I was especailly sensitive to being touched and everything after giving birth, I felt like I had been poked and proded enough and just didnt want anyone touching me. I went straight back to being a prude even when they were cleaning me up afterwards I hated it. Sorry maybe its just me but once he was out I wanted my dignity again.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 14:09:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47951&title=invading-own-personal-space#47951 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Yes after all that goes on in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47950&title=invading-own-personal-space#47950 Author: Kelpa
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:07pm

Yes after all that goes on in a birth....Personal Space and dignity are the last things on your mind!!!

You have a new little BABY!!!


YAY]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 14:07:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47950&title=invading-own-personal-space#47950 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : mmmm not to keen on that idea.........]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47946&title=invading-own-personal-space#47946 Author: shelleybean
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:00pm

mmmm not to keen on that idea......]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 14:00:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47946&title=invading-own-personal-space#47946 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : i agree, have a talk to your midwife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47934&title=invading-own-personal-space#47934 Author: Paws
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:44pm

i agree, have a talk to your midwife but I undestand if they do it, it's just to help with latching on.

and yeah, after delivery I suspect personal space goes out the window along with modesty! *lol* ]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 13:44:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47934&title=invading-own-personal-space#47934 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Mine didn&#039;t do it to me,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47928&title=invading-own-personal-space#47928 Author: emeldee
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:37pm

Mine didn't do it to me, either time - however believe me, after giving birth vaginally, you aren't going to be THAT concerned about personal space. Also, breastfeeding can be tricky to get a handle on, so if you are finding it challenging, ask for all the help you can get at the hospital while you are there - it will make things a bit easier at 3am on your first night home!
Oh - and talk to your midwife about what will happen afterwards and what you would like her to do etc. ]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 13:37:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47928&title=invading-own-personal-space#47928 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : if it happens, it will only be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47926&title=invading-own-personal-space#47926 Author: MILF
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:28pm

if it happens, it will only be her helping baby to latch on, i dont think it will be every time or every person either. i had a nurse help me with breastfeeding that way - and they are professionals, so it isnt gross or anything.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 13:28:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47926&title=invading-own-personal-space#47926 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : My midwife done that to me. At...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47925&title=invading-own-personal-space#47925 Author: Dashone
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:11pm

My midwife done that to me. At the time it didn't really matter. I was just happy to have my baby.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 13:11:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47925&title=invading-own-personal-space#47925 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : I know my midwife didnt do that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47919&title=invading-own-personal-space#47919 Author: my2angels
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 12:49pm

I know my midwife didnt do that although maybe because Kobe was taken to nicu but I wouldnt be having it. I found most people really good with not touching me or anything unless they asked first.]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 12:49:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47919&title=invading-own-personal-space#47919 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Really do they do that? I know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47917&title=invading-own-personal-space#47917 Author: pepsi
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 12:45pm

Really do they do that? I know they want mothers to try and breastfeed asap after birth but does that mean you have to do it when they have just slithered out or what? I would have thought they'd let you clean up and have the baby cleaned first but from what people have told me this is not the case..]]> Tue, 23 May 2006 12:45:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47917&title=invading-own-personal-space#47917 <![CDATA[Invading own personal space : Hi, I have heard when you are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2575&PID=47907&title=invading-own-personal-space#47907 Author: kellverona
Subject: 2575
Posted: 23 May 2006 at 12:25pm

Hi,

I have heard when you are in labour that the midwife just grabs your boob and puts baby on them without asking, etc. I dont like the idea of that. Im a personal person. I know I prob wont care  at the time but the thought is

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