https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 20:43:41 +0000 Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:48:09 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=27395 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=724600&title=surrogacy#724600 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 27395
Posted: 16 July 2009 at 10:48pm

I can't remember labour but I can remember morning sickness

I don't think I could do it emotionally. I'd be too worried about feeling jealousy/loss and that it would affect our relationship. Thankfully so far all my sisters are very fertile.

Wouldn't do it for a stranger.]]> Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:48:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=724600&title=surrogacy#724600 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=723769&title=surrogacy#723769 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 27395
Posted: 16 July 2009 at 8:16am

I hate labour way to much to even contemplate it ]]> Thu, 16 Jul 2009 08:16:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=723769&title=surrogacy#723769 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=723760&title=surrogacy#723760 Author: james
Subject: 27395
Posted: 16 July 2009 at 7:59am

nope i wounld,nt do it to hard to give the baby away even for my sister. I know it might sound mean but i just counld,nt do it ]]> Thu, 16 Jul 2009 07:59:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=723760&title=surrogacy#723760 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=723403&title=surrogacy#723403 Author: Madiandmini
Subject: 27395
Posted: 15 July 2009 at 5:51pm

Haha what a brilliant idea!! A tummy tuck as a thank you. Gosh i'd do it just so I could get one!! My first baby of 8lb13 left me with nasty stretch marks that are insisting on staying and a rather stretched tum. No i'm kidding but it would be a nice thank you.]]> Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:51:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=723403&title=surrogacy#723403 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=722464&title=surrogacy#722464 Author: lisa85
Subject: 27395
Posted: 14 July 2009 at 2:39pm

I think I would do it for one of my sisters if they had been in the position of needing one. I could never do it for a stranger or a friend. I hated pregnancy waaaay too much.

Maybe if the person needing a surrogate was keen to pay for a tummy tuck afterwards I'd do it lol.]]> Tue, 14 Jul 2009 14:39:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=722464&title=surrogacy#722464 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720809&title=surrogacy#720809 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 27395
Posted: 12 July 2009 at 12:15pm

i admire anyone who could do it...I don't have a sister so i *might* think differently if i did?but I hate being pregnant as well so there is that..and that I am so in love with my baby already and don't think i could separate out that it wasn't mine if the baby is growing in me...

it is truly an amazing gift..i think everyone agrees on that but not one a lot of people could give..?

if i was younger...had my children and had great pregnancies and had a sister I might consider it I guess?]]> Sun, 12 Jul 2009 12:15:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720809&title=surrogacy#720809 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720786&title=surrogacy#720786 Author: freckle
Subject: 27395
Posted: 12 July 2009 at 11:31am

I would do it without hesistation for my sister, had it been necessary... and maybe close friends.... definitely would be using their egg though, otherwise there is no way I could hand over the baby... ]]> Sun, 12 Jul 2009 11:31:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720786&title=surrogacy#720786 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720212&title=surrogacy#720212 Author: monkey33
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 8:08pm

Good on you madiandme - it is very admirable that you are thinking about it ]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:08:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720212&title=surrogacy#720212 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720114&title=surrogacy#720114 Author: Madiandmini
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 5:16pm

And use their sperm + egg. That way it wouldn't be mine at all. But I would definetly want to be involved in some way..]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:16:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720114&title=surrogacy#720114 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720110&title=surrogacy#720110 Author: Madiandmini
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 5:12pm

Mummyde; Thats a definite on the counselling but I think it would be an amazing gift.
Whats more amazing than the gift of life!!? Especially to a deserving couple and I know theres a ton out there. But I would finish my family first definetly]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:12:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720110&title=surrogacy#720110 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720014&title=surrogacy#720014 Author: Turtle
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 2:53pm

I can only imagine doing it for my sister - probably not my sister in law though, but she has a child anyway. I trust my sister in every way so would know the child is safe, and basically after DH she is the one person I would do anything for.]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:53:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=720014&title=surrogacy#720014 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719999&title=surrogacy#719999 Author: sally belly
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 2:23pm

I'm not sure I could do it but I think if I was it would be for a couple I didn't know at all... I can't imagine doing it for my sister & then having to see the baby , even though genetically it wouldn't be mine.

But it's not something I have given much thought to. ]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:23:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719999&title=surrogacy#719999 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719960&title=surrogacy#719960 Author: xLUCKYx
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 1:32pm

Mummydee yep I reckon counselling would be a goer too in case of issues at 'handover'!]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:32:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719960&title=surrogacy#719960 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719955&title=surrogacy#719955 Author: xLUCKYx
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 1:25pm

I think I could do it for my friend who looks like won't be able to carry a baby to term herself. I don't think I'd do it for just anyone.... I had fairly easy pregnancys and births so guess thats why I wouldn't mind. I would actually love to be pregnant againa nd have another baby even though we def dont want anymore kikds for a while if ever.]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:25:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719955&title=surrogacy#719955 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719949&title=surrogacy#719949 Author: purpledragon
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 1:21pm

It just depends on how complicated you want it to be.
If you use your eggs and there sperm, then it is less complicated, no medication and can do it at home with a turkey baster and a sperm sample.
Or
You use there eggs and there sperm and you have to then go through a fertility clinic, get councelling done, do IVF to get pregnant.]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:21:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719949&title=surrogacy#719949 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719887&title=surrogacy#719887 Author: clover
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 12:10pm

I don't have children yet but I think I would be open to being a surrogate for family or very close friends, I wouldn't be able to donate eggs though.]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 12:10:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719887&title=surrogacy#719887 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719835&title=surrogacy#719835 Author: purpledragon
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 11:09am

It's funny I have found this thread as I have always wanted to do it.
I talked to hubby about it when I first met him and he was dead against it. Now nearly 6yrs later he has told me that he doesn't think the idea is that bad.
So if the timing is right, after we have our next baby then I would be happy to do a surrogacy where it is there egg and sperm.
But with us ttcing for over 2years now and me turning 35yr old this year, I don't know if I am going to run out of time to do it.
There is a surrogacy N.Z website, which is quiet interesting as they tell you all the legalites of it all.]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 11:09:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719835&title=surrogacy#719835 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719796&title=surrogacy#719796 Author: Babe
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 10:25am

I'd do it for my sister definitely.
As for someone else hmm I think if you had the right boundaries for yourself and the parents you could get through it fine. I know someone who did it and they wouldn't speak to the baby, touch their stomach or basically refer to the child as anything but the parents child. She was able to hand the baby over and only had a touch of the 3 day baby blues. She said it was always their baby in her head and she never EVER let herself connect with the baby. She now sees the kid but just has an aunty-type relationship with him.

Edited by Babe]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 10:25:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719796&title=surrogacy#719796 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719788&title=surrogacy#719788 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 10:17am

Yeah that's the general rule, but I think its really up to you. I've often pondered the thought of surrogacy. at 24 I've definitely not completed my family!. I loved being pregnant, and though of course there would be those maternal instincts felt, I would definitely do it for someone close to me. To be able to be part of creating a gift so longed for, yet is out of  reach for someone I care for,how could you not want to help knowing that indeed you could.]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 10:17:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719788&title=surrogacy#719788 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719736&title=surrogacy#719736 Author: EmDee
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 9:18am

Good on you Madiandme. Its something I have thought about as I have a very good friend who has been trying for 7 years to have children and even after IVF has been unsuccessful. I know I would find it incredibly hard to hand the baby over after birth so IF I ever do it I would need a lot of counselling before and afterwards. Am I right in thinking that you are meant to have finished your own family first?]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 09:18:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719736&title=surrogacy#719736 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719693&title=surrogacy#719693 Author: Madiandmini
Subject: 27395
Posted: 10 July 2009 at 7:57am

Yeah your right there but giving the gift of a baby would be so great. Maybe I want to do it because I feel guilty its so easy for me to get pregnant..]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2009 07:57:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719693&title=surrogacy#719693 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719543&title=surrogacy#719543 Author: monkey33
Subject: 27395
Posted: 09 July 2009 at 8:39pm

My sister & I were talking about surrogacy when I told her that we had just starting TTC - she said that I was the only person she would do it for. She has already had two kids so I know I won't be in that position but I know I would definitely have done it for her too. As much as I would love to, I don't think I could do it for anyone else.]]> Thu, 09 Jul 2009 20:39:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719543&title=surrogacy#719543 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719447&title=surrogacy#719447 Author: Madiandmini
Subject: 27395
Posted: 09 July 2009 at 7:06pm

I would be a bit the same there, however seeing the actual parents so overjoyed with their baby would be amazing!]]> Thu, 09 Jul 2009 19:06:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719447&title=surrogacy#719447 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719443&title=surrogacy#719443 Author: kebakat
Subject: 27395
Posted: 09 July 2009 at 6:59pm

One of my friends needs this if shes going to have children and I really feel for her. I personally couldn't do it. I hate being pregnant and don't think I could carry someone elses child and then hand it over at the end of it.]]> Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:59:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719443&title=surrogacy#719443 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719431&title=surrogacy#719431 Author: Madiandmini
Subject: 27395
Posted: 09 July 2009 at 6:43pm

Just wanted to know everyones views on this? As i'm rather suprised that there aren't already posts about this. I think I would probably do it..]]> Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:43:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27395&PID=719431&title=surrogacy#719431