https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 11 Apr 2026 09:24:19 +0000 Tue, 28 Jul 2009 22:41:00 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=27705 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=733300&title=im-so-upset#733300 Author: Maya
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Posted: 28 July 2009 at 10:41pm

LOL we cross posted Laurie

Two weeks huh, exciting! Best of luck!]]> Tue, 28 Jul 2009 22:41:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=733300&title=im-so-upset#733300 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732767&title=im-so-upset#732767 Author: ISpyCharlie
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Posted: 28 July 2009 at 1:06pm

 I hope things get better for you and Jackson, you are doing such a great job, I admire your will ! ]]> Tue, 28 Jul 2009 13:06:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732767&title=im-so-upset#732767 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732713&title=im-so-upset#732713 Author: Snappy
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Posted: 28 July 2009 at 12:14pm

Oh thats awesome Laurie
Hang in there, you are doing such a great job by the sound of it.

In terms of porse, make sure you get plenty of people to interview, maybe gather some questions you'd like to ask them. Im sure there will be someone out there for Jackson, its just a matter of sorting through them all ]]> Tue, 28 Jul 2009 12:14:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732713&title=im-so-upset#732713 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732708&title=im-so-upset#732708 Author: catisla
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Posted: 28 July 2009 at 12:09pm

yay Jackson! It is such a good feeling isn't it!

Marmite toast is one of the only finger foods Catriona eats too

and you do an excellent job Laurie - you are a wonderful mother ]]> Tue, 28 Jul 2009 12:09:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732708&title=im-so-upset#732708 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732502&title=im-so-upset#732502 Author: Maya
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:55pm

Hugs Laurie . I hope Porse have a few choice words to say to the carer, that's pretty poor on her part!

I know it sounds trite, but it WILL get easier. It's really, really hard to see when you're in the middle of the chaos, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will get there. I look back at everything I've been thru with the gremlins and I can't believe we survived, it just seems like way more than any one person could handle, but we got thru, and now things are awesome. You'll get there! More hugs.]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 22:55:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732502&title=im-so-upset#732502 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732501&title=im-so-upset#732501 Author: KiwiL
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:55pm

Thanks for all of the positive comments guys. I don't feel like I am doing a good job, a lot of the time I barely feel like I can keep my head above water. It's the hardest thing I have been through in my whole life.

But, after saying we never get a break, I saw a glimmer of hope tonight. Jackson went in his high chair and for the first time in ages he started eating his finger food. He chomped away on marmite toast, and he gagged like crazy and even vomited once, but he kept putting it back into his mouth. And usually his vomits would be stomach emptying, but he controlled himself, and even took a little potato from a spoon. It sounds like such a simple thing for a 10 month old, but for Jackson (who normally nibbles cruskits only) it was huge. I felt so uplifted.

Which makes me believe that we can get rid of this tube. With the support of an amazing Australian forum for tube fed babies that I have found, I have decided that in two weeks we are going to take out the tube and give Jackson another chance. I know he can do it, and I just pray that he will.

Thanks again for the hugs and comments, boy did I need them today!]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 22:55:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732501&title=im-so-upset#732501 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732463&title=im-so-upset#732463 Author: BeLoved
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 9:50pm

big hugs to you Laurie! I hope you find someone who will be perfect for looking after Jackson. And I so understand your frustration with the previous carer not being honest about why she cannot care for Jackson, but just think she the one who has to live with being dishonest, and I bet deep down she feels really guilty. Its good to know that Porse are aware that they need to find a carer who is not just doing it for financial reasons.

Things will turn around for you and your family I am sure, I would feel just the same way if I was in your position but I don't know if I would be able to do the amazing job that you are doing! ]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:50:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732463&title=im-so-upset#732463 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732431&title=im-so-upset#732431 Author: mummyofprinces
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 9:23pm

I wish I was near you, I would totally love to help you out hun!!!

Hope you find someone ASAP and big Grrr at the waste of money!]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:23:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732431&title=im-so-upset#732431 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732188&title=im-so-upset#732188 Author: KiwiL
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 4:15pm

Thanks guys. Yes, we've been in touch with Porse and I am sure they'll find us another carer. It's just unfair as it takes a bit to get used to feeding Jackson, so we started J's care early so the carer could get used to it before he had to be full time. Now that was a waste of time and money, wasn't it?!?

I really believe the carer has put it in the too hard basket, which is fine and I understand, but I just wish she'd say that instead of other stuff, and I wish she'd spoken to me first before just calling to say that she was replacing Jackson with another kid.

Porse have been really good, they were quite horrified by what happened and are going to focus on finding a carer who is doing it for the love of children, not for financial reasons. ]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 16:15:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732188&title=im-so-upset#732188 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732123&title=im-so-upset#732123 Author: kiwisj
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 3:14pm

hun. There WILL be someone who would LOVE to care for Jackson, I hope you find them soon.]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 15:14:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732123&title=im-so-upset#732123 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732066&title=im-so-upset#732066 Author: caliandjack
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 2:16pm

Can you not get in touch with Porse to find you someone else who will be willing to care for him?]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:16:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732066&title=im-so-upset#732066 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732058&title=im-so-upset#732058 Author: noodle
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 2:10pm

nzpiper wrote: OT but I didnt realise you were having such troubles. I remember all the trouble at the start with feeding and teeth etc but didnt realise it is still ongoing to the point on an NG tube......you poor thing!! Hope things improve. Maybe you are going to have a dream teenager...polite, helpful, tidy etc to make up for the tough start.

Ditto chick! huge huge 's coming your way!!! ]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:10:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732058&title=im-so-upset#732058 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732050&title=im-so-upset#732050 Author: peanut butter
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 2:04pm

OT but I didnt realise you were having such troubles. I remember all the trouble at the start with feeding and teeth etc but didnt realise it is still ongoing to the point on an NG tube......you poor thing!! Hope things improve. Maybe you are going to have a dream teenager...polite, helpful, tidy etc to make up for the tough start.]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:04:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732050&title=im-so-upset#732050 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732022&title=im-so-upset#732022 Author: catisla
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 1:46pm

Hugs Laurie - i really understand why you are so upset - I'm sure you will find a carer who will love Jackson. he is such a lovely wee boy]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 13:46:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=732022&title=im-so-upset#732022 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731886&title=im-so-upset#731886 Author: Snappy
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 11:02am

Im sure you will Kiwilaurie. I have a little deaf boy that is definately more work than another child his age, but he is really rewarding. YOU WILL find someone. ]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 11:02:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731886&title=im-so-upset#731886 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731854&title=im-so-upset#731854 Author: KiwiL
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:36am

Aw, Kylie, we're in Tawa.

You know, the more I think about it, I feel that the reason the carer didn't talk to us is because Jackson is in the too hard basket. Why would she want Jackson full time if she could have a normal baby full time?

Maybe I am being oversensitive, but he is so hard to feed, maybe it was too much?

I just don't know how we'll find another carer who will be able to be bothered with my little boy.

This is so hard and I am so scared.

]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 10:36:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731854&title=im-so-upset#731854 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731848&title=im-so-upset#731848 Author: Henna79
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:30am

Laurie. You so deserve a break and I hope one comes your way soon. ]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 10:30:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731848&title=im-so-upset#731848 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731836&title=im-so-upset#731836 Author: Snappy
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:11am

Awwww

I would have expected that she would have approached you first as well. Surely a week wouldnt have mattered to much in the long run. I really hope you get this sorted, sounds like you've had a rough time.

P.S Where abouts in WGTN are you based? Im a porse caregiver ]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 10:11:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731836&title=im-so-upset#731836 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731834&title=im-so-upset#731834 Author: peanut butter
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:10am

Sorry no advice but I can go grrrrrrrrrr for you and offer hugs]]> Mon, 27 Jul 2009 10:10:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731834&title=im-so-upset#731834 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27705&PID=731832&title=im-so-upset#731832 Author: KiwiL
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Posted: 27 July 2009 at 10:06am

I feel like everything with Jackson is one big set back after another.

I have just had a call from his Porse carer to tell me that she is in some financial trouble and can't just look after Jackson one day a week anymore. She needs kids full time so she's gone ahead and organised two other babies to start in two weeks, and is therefore giving us notice.

We put J in care one day a week so the carer could get used to feeding him with the NG tube and get used to feeding him full stop. We clicked really well with the carer and Jackson took to her well too.

I am so upset that she didn't speak to us first. I have to go back to work in 4 weeks, and would have strongly considered starting his four day a week care early. That would have been so much easier than trying to find, and train, and new carer.

If I had an easy baby, this wouldn't matter so much, but right now it is just feeling like another kick in the guts. I have and am trying so, so hard with Jackson, and nothing ever gets better. I just wish for once we could get some good news and not things that make me more sad. When are we going to catch a break?

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