OHbaby! Forums : When to tell your family/Mum? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 08 May 2026 10:49:51 +0000 Mon, 24 Aug 2009 09:32:22 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=28137 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : It was abit hard to keep it a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=755268&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#755268 Author: Babe
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Posted: 24 August 2009 at 9:32am

It was abit hard to keep it a secret coz I started throwing up, fainting and having seizures lmao anyone that was round for my first preg would instantly suspect!
We told my parents at 6 weeks and made them promise to keep their mouths shut, my lil bro whos still at home figured it out which was fine, and I told my aunty coz I needed to be taken to a&e after I ruptured something in my throat after too much vomitting and everyone who already knew was out of the country. My bro and sis down in Invers still don't know I'm telling them when we get down there in a fortnight. I've had about 7 mcs since my son so it took us awhile to get excited but after 2 scans and numerous hearings of the heartbeat and hitting 14 weeks we're suddenly looking at each other going omg lol this is happening ]]> Mon, 24 Aug 2009 09:32:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=755268&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#755268 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : We were out of the country when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=754533&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#754533 Author: SquishysMum
Subject: 28137
Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:17am

We were out of the country when we found out I was pregnant - so everyone in China knew (lol, well, everyone we were meeting! Had to explain the sickness) but it was easy to keep from everyone at home. We came home when I was 10 weeks, and told mum and dad not long after. I knew I had to tell mum soon-ish, she's a midwife, so if I wanted her to have time off I have to book her 9 months in advance! As it was she was already fully booked for March and 1/2 of April .

They were really good about not telling anyone though - little bro who lives at home knew, but no one else. They were BEGGING me by 12 weeks to tell people, cos they were avoiding talking to my sisters in case they slipped! Mum flew up for the 12 week scan, and "helped" me call the family. ]]> Sun, 23 Aug 2009 08:17:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=754533&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#754533 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : Peanut wrote:FIrst time we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=754296&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#754296 Author: Paws
Subject: 28137
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 6:23pm

Originally posted by Peanut Peanut wrote:

FIrst time we told parents etc at about 5-6 weeks and the same this time. I also told my HOD at around the same time.

I am big on telling parents early as you def need the support if something goes wrong and it means you never have to expalin yourself or the way you are feeling.

Even telling your Mum just before you leave so you are not there to "hear" if she tells people might be easier.


We're the same, we tell people before the second line of the stick has dried for the same reasons.

It is a personal though, maybe Peanut's idea is a good one!!! ]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:23:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=754296&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#754296 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : I told my parents while I was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=753723&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#753723 Author: JAFAjaffa
Subject: 28137
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 6:52pm

I told my parents while I was still holding the pregnancy test. I was hyper excited. I did then have to get mum a stern talking to about not telling other people, but she still did.

DH's parents we waited till a bit later. Mainly cos he doesn't like talking to them much so he wanted to wait for a while.

Work etc I told people once I had had the 12 week scan and all was well.]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 18:52:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=753723&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#753723 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : We told my mum at 4 weeks, who...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=750607&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#750607 Author: Lizze
Subject: 28137
Posted: 18 August 2009 at 2:22pm

We told my mum at 4 weeks, who then told my Dad.. (which we were going to do in person anyway).
We didn't tell DP's parents until 9 weeks, they live in Nelson so wanted to tell them face to face.
We told our friends at 14 weeks, it got to the stage where we didn't feel like telling people (kept the excitement to ourselves), but it was only courteous to!]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:22:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=750607&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#750607 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : First PG I had no idea what to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=750586&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#750586 Author: BessieBear
Subject: 28137
Posted: 18 August 2009 at 2:08pm

First PG I had no idea what to do so after the doc visit I rang my mum. She was so ecited she told her whole office, which got around prety quick. At the time I was only 5 weeks.
This time I intended on waiting but i got sick with a bad cold at 6 weeks so had to tell my mum as she was forsing all sorts of drugs into me. We didn't tell DH's parents til 8 weeks and only just told brothers and sisters in the weekend.

Honestly if you don't want her to tell everyone don't tell her. News like that is so exciting she'll be busting to tell someone.

]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:08:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=750586&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#750586 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : Thanks everyone ... is a tough...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749780&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749780 Author: Pants
Subject: 28137
Posted: 17 August 2009 at 6:21pm

Thanks everyone ... is a tough call. Everyone else we'll wait until the 13 week scan. I think I'll tell a close friend next week who recently had a baby and also went through a miscarriage so would be great support if anything does go wrong.

As for Mum .... love her to bits, but I think I'll wait. For now at least.

]]> Mon, 17 Aug 2009 18:21:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749780&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749780 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : We waited until after I had my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749713&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749713 Author: girly_girl
Subject: 28137
Posted: 17 August 2009 at 5:11pm

We waited until after I had my bloods back to confirm being pg. But then we only told our immediate families, and two close friends each. Last week (at 10 and a 1/2 weeks) I also told my team at school and my principal. For everyone else we are waiting until after the scan - 9 days to go and counting!!]]> Mon, 17 Aug 2009 17:11:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749713&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749713 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : I&#039;m not telling my parents...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749693&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749693 Author: lemongirl
Subject: 28137
Posted: 17 August 2009 at 4:58pm

I'm not telling my parents until we get the 13 week scan, I'm planning on giving them a framed picture of lil' one as it will be their first grandchild.

Although I kind of feel stink as there's been people that I've had to tell about the pregnancy like my trainer, waxist etc. so it is getting a bit silly.]]> Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:58:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749693&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749693 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : FIrst time we told parents etc...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749325&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749325 Author: Peanut
Subject: 28137
Posted: 17 August 2009 at 12:09pm

FIrst time we told parents etc at about 5-6 weeks and the same this time. I also told my HOD at around the same time.

I am big on telling parents early as you def need the support if something goes wrong and it means you never have to expalin yourself or the way you are feeling. I also tell my HOD for the same reason.

In the end I was pleased we told people early the second time as we ended up losing a baby. We thought we had lost our baby altogether only to find out a week later that we had lost a twin. The support and understanding I had from my parents and HOD was overwhelming and I could not have got thru it all without them. So just another side to it.

Even telling your Mum just before you leave so you are not there to "hear" if she tells people might be easier.]]> Mon, 17 Aug 2009 12:09:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=749325&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#749325 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : With my first pg I told my mum...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748988&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748988 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 9:30pm

With my first pg I told my mum once I had seen the gp, was 4 weeks.

With the second pg we decided to wait until after the 13 week scan before we told anyone but some family things happened so we told DH family at 7 weeks and then I felt bad so told my mum at 8 weeks. I told her not tell anyone but she told my sister who got upset because I didnt tell her!

Next time we will keep it a surprise until the 13 week scan.]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 21:30:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748988&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748988 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : I told everyone at 4 weeks, I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748964&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748964 Author: Natalie_G
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 9:08pm

I told everyone at 4 weeks, I didn't know then about chances of miscarriage dropping past a certain time. If I get pregnant again I will be waiting till after 13wks.]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 21:08:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748964&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748964 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : Hi Pants, my parents live down...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748929&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748929 Author: Treen
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 8:32pm

Hi Pants, my parents live down South, too. DH and I couldn't contain ourselves and broke the news over the phone a couple hours after I got a BFP on a POAS. I suspect she has already told half the town despite me telling her not to, but I don't care too much. I don't live there anymore so if we run into problems, they can gossip all they want and it won't matter to me.]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 20:32:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748929&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748929 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : I think the reason you&#039;d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748905&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748905 Author: crafty1
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 8:13pm

I think the reason you'd tell people early is because you'd want and need their support if something did go wrong. But if you can't trust her to keep it to herself then that makes it hard.

I told people early, but it's such a personal decision. ]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 20:13:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748905&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748905 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : First 2 pregnancies I didn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748902&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748902 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 8:09pm

First 2 pregnancies I didn't tell anyone 'cause I wanted to wait until 12 weeks and surprise everyone. But sadly twice at 12 weeks I had to tell them that things had gone wrong, since I needed their support so it was a bit pointless keeping it quiet in the first place. This time I told family at 8 weeks since they know we've been trying, and this way so we can all have a few weeks of excitement even if it goes wrong again. Work people and friends I'll be telling after my 12 weeks scan.]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 20:09:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748902&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748902 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : we didnt tell our parents both...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748880&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748880 Author: NovemberMum
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 7:46pm

we didnt tell our parents both times will after I was about 8 weeks I had a scan and could see a heart beat by then and once we told them we basically told everyone]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:46:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748880&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748880 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : Thx Febgirl - we have first appt...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748869&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748869 Author: Pants
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 7:41pm

Thx Febgirl - we have first appt with the mw at 8 weeks, when we'll get bloods and scan done. I think we'll wait until after this before I tell Mum ]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:41:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748869&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748869 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : I waited to tell mum both pregnancies...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748840&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748840 Author: Febgirl
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 7:21pm

I waited to tell mum both pregnancies until after I'd had a healthy early scan (6 weekish) as once you see a heartbeat then the chances of a successful pregnancy rise to above 90%.

Maybe just wait and see how you feel when you're down there - you'll know if the 'right' moment comes up to tell her. ]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:21:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748840&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748840 <![CDATA[When to tell your family/Mum? : Hi everyone, wondering if you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748828&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748828 Author: Pants
Subject: 28137
Posted: 16 August 2009 at 7:10pm

Hi everyone, wondering if you might have some advice for me ....

My husband and I live in Auckland and my family live down south. My brother and his wife have just had their first baby and next week we're going to visit for a week.

We'll be staying with my parents who I absolutely love. I'm only 5 weeks pregnant and am in two minds about telling my Mum.

Love love love my Mother but she and my Dad live in a small town, where not much goes on and she likes to gossip (even though she swears black and blue she doesn't). She can also be a bit selfish at times and is more like a friend than a stereotypical motherly type who always has my best interests at heart.

While I'd love to tell her I'm pregnant, I'm not convinced she would keep it to herself and I really dont want anyone knowing we're pregnant at the moment ...

What would you do??    ]]> Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:10:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28137&PID=748828&title=when-to-tell-your-family-mum#748828