https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 05 May 2026 04:04:08 +0000 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 21:21:38 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=28202 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752904&title=baby-name-trouble#752904 Author: Paws
Subject: 28202
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 9:21pm

Yeah I'd just have a chat to them and see what they think. I'm sure they won't mind but I get wanting to ask, not that long ago I asked someone (from here acutally) if we could use her son's first name and spelling as a middle name if we had a boy. It just made me feel a little better asking.]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 21:21:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752904&title=baby-name-trouble#752904 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752807&title=baby-name-trouble#752807 Author: 45 Dolma Street
Subject: 28202
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 7:57pm

Thank you for all your help. We are good friends with them so will run it past them to see what they say. ]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 19:57:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752807&title=baby-name-trouble#752807 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752378&title=baby-name-trouble#752378 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 28202
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 1:31pm

we had one mum at daycare ask if she could use bubs first name if she ever has a girl...heck I dont own the name....why not! and another ask if she could use her middle name if she ever had a girl...seriously we dont own names - and this was not family etc so I didnt mind...

I am still offended slightly that inlaws called their dog (6 months ago) by our "boys name" - Jack - which they knew was our back up name and is DHs family member name....and so now we will never use Jack = and his cousin called her son Thomas - im ok with that but which was the second name we had so wont be using that either now...]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:31:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752378&title=baby-name-trouble#752378 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752124&title=baby-name-trouble#752124 Author: Peanut
Subject: 28202
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 9:41am

Its def depends on how close you are too them.

I must admit that I would be a bit annoyed if close friends of ours named their child the same as ours.

My SIL and I have had our children closeish together so we had the "please don't use" names discussion which was actually really handy - none of our shortlisteds were the same so it was fine. DH's younger sister (22, no partner etc) had a tantrum when we named Mac as she loved Max and couldn't use it now...hmm, bad luck.]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 09:41:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=752124&title=baby-name-trouble#752124 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751865&title=baby-name-trouble#751865 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 8:49pm

I agree especially if the name is common - they don't have 'dibs' on it but it would be good to mention that you have shortlisted it.

We know a couple who banned us from using 6 names (no kidding!) for our first pregnancy. We didn't use any of them because we already had our names picked anyway.

But this pregnancy as far as I'm concerned all bets are off - they've had time to get UTD if they really wanted to (oh yeah they don't actually have kids yet) and there is a variation of one of the names we may use if we have a girl. ]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:49:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751865&title=baby-name-trouble#751865 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751852&title=baby-name-trouble#751852 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 8:38pm

I would mention that you were considering it, but I wouldn't "ask" them, though, as no one can stop you calling your baby whatever you like, no one "owns" a name!
I've had 2 friends ask me if they can "have" Charlotte as their girls name, nice and polite, however I find it weird, as I don't "own" Charlotte!! ]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:38:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751852&title=baby-name-trouble#751852 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751836&title=baby-name-trouble#751836 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 8:16pm

I agree - if you're close/see them a fair bit, just talk to them about it. We had friends of friends call their wee boy Callum a couple of months after our Callum was born. We're sort of in the same circle of mummy-friends but since this is such a transient city we're unlikely to know them once C is at school, or maybe even in a couple of years time so it's not a big deal

If you really like it and it's the only name you agree on then I'm sure your friends will be fine with it.]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:16:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751836&title=baby-name-trouble#751836 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751771&title=baby-name-trouble#751771 Author: Snappy
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 7:14pm

Yeah I agree with Kiwilaurie, approach them first! Is it a popular name?

I had a friend name her daughter "Tanaya" (our daughters name is Janaya) I was quite annoyed, would have rather she just called her Janaya, at least we would have felt honoured! ]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:14:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751771&title=baby-name-trouble#751771 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751548&title=baby-name-trouble#751548 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 3:09pm

I would maybe run it by the friends. The chance they are going to say no is minimal! But at least then they feel like they were considered.

DH's cousin has a daughter who she named the girl's name I have loved since I was young! So, if we found out we were having a girl, then I will be asking her if she minds if we use the name as well, and explaining why i want to. I know she'll say it's ok. We're not close cousins and the last names will be different. ]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 15:09:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751548&title=baby-name-trouble#751548 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751528&title=baby-name-trouble#751528 Author: jazzy
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 2:48pm

I don't think it matters at all, just remember it has to be a name you both like & the child is going to have it for the rest of there life.

Who is to say that friends will stay friend, live in the same place & if the kids will be close for ever.



]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 14:48:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751528&title=baby-name-trouble#751528 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751498&title=baby-name-trouble#751498 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 2:35pm

Hi goldielocks, I think it would depend on how close you were to these friends, And if you are close maybe just have a chat to them about how they feel, but really in the end it is up to you guys its your baby and no one has the right to say you can't call your baby a name. Sorry probably no help but good luck!! ]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 14:35:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751498&title=baby-name-trouble#751498 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751482&title=baby-name-trouble#751482 Author: 45 Dolma Street
Subject: 28202
Posted: 19 August 2009 at 2:15pm

I need your help. My husband dosen't like any of the names I suggest for babe no 2 if it is a boy go figure
We do have one name that we both like but there is a problem our friends that live in the same town as us have a boy called it. There boy is coming up three do you think it would be on the nose for us to call our boy the same name if we have one. ]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2009 14:15:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28202&PID=751482&title=baby-name-trouble#751482