https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 06 May 2026 00:17:42 +0000 Mon, 24 Aug 2009 06:53:43 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=28258 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=755135&title=so-what-do-you-call#755135 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 28258
Posted: 24 August 2009 at 6:53am

Jezsika wrote: Why does everything even need a name? How about just answering this? So are you breast or bottle feeding? Well im just feeding. Baby is a person, baby needs to grow, baby needs food be it breast or bottle, they are still happy and healthy and so is mum.

I plan on doing both next time as just BF'ing has fully sucked for me, but what a wonderful answer Jess!]]> Mon, 24 Aug 2009 06:53:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=755135&title=so-what-do-you-call#755135 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=755108&title=so-what-do-you-call#755108 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 23 August 2009 at 10:27pm

Jezsika wrote: Why does everything even need a name?

good question! but we name so much dont we - the type of parent we are (attachment anyone?), how we settle our babies (CIO, self settle, CC), what we put on their bums... ECers, non vaccers, self weaners, and so on! ]]> Sun, 23 Aug 2009 22:27:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=755108&title=so-what-do-you-call#755108 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754920&title=so-what-do-you-call#754920 Author: busyissy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 23 August 2009 at 7:04pm

Hmm...a little bit of a sensitive subject because mums get judged and I have been on the end of that judgement many times. But if your baby is nourished that is all that matters. If you were looking for a serious answer though it is supplement feeding and loads of mums do it out of choice and necessity. ]]> Sun, 23 Aug 2009 19:04:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754920&title=so-what-do-you-call#754920 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754710&title=so-what-do-you-call#754710 Author: Babe
Subject: 28258
Posted: 23 August 2009 at 1:11pm

I hate the whole BF v FF. Its stupid and unhelpful and undermining!
I couldn't get DS1 to latch on and was begging for help coz he was almost 10 hours old before I could figure out that if I dripped BM onto his lips he'd finally stop crying. All the stupid nursing staff did when I was asking them to help me was tell me to harden up, they squeezed my nipples and tried to stuff it into babys mouth THEN when I asked for a bottle coz Jake wouldn't stop crying and I hadn't had any sleep since his birth they ranted at me about being irresponsible and refused to give me a bottle - they said if I wasn't going to BF I had to supply my own bottles and formula! I saw a lactation consultant once and nobody did jack to help me figure out what I was doing and it was my cousin a week later who went to a pharmacist and discovered nipple shields! I was finally able to latch my week old baby on and fill him up after having to cup feed him for the week we were in hospital because of the bottle issue! I ended up BFing AND FFing then 5 weeks later after getting mastitis coz nobody told me thats a side-effect of nipple shields I gave up in despair and put him fully on the bottle.

Honestly Annie - I totally wish I had someone like you come around and offer to help! It was a completely miserable, lonely experience and having someone who was supportive and encouraging and had some ideas would've been a godsend!!!! You can come be a BF nazi for me this time round lol I'd be so happy!!!

ETA Hehe sorry I still get really upset thinking about it if you hadn't noticed. Sorry I kinda went OT...

Edited by Babe]]> Sun, 23 Aug 2009 13:11:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754710&title=so-what-do-you-call#754710 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754437&title=so-what-do-you-call#754437 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 10:33pm

Maya wrote: Or a particularly nasty, pussy sore

eeewwwww ]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:33:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754437&title=so-what-do-you-call#754437 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754434&title=so-what-do-you-call#754434 Author: Maya
Subject: 28258
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 10:27pm

Or a particularly nasty, pussy sore ]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:27:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754434&title=so-what-do-you-call#754434 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754428&title=so-what-do-you-call#754428 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 10:24pm

breastula sounds like a bad action figure! LOL!!!]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:24:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754428&title=so-what-do-you-call#754428 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754363&title=so-what-do-you-call#754363 Author: LittleBug
Subject: 28258
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 8:32pm

I do both BF and FF.

Maybe they could be "breastula" fed, or "formuleast" fed.

]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 20:32:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754363&title=so-what-do-you-call#754363 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754356&title=so-what-do-you-call#754356 Author: emz
Subject: 28258
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 8:13pm

Yeah I would just say 'mum' as well.

I don't give a sh*t what you feed your kids, as long as you bloody well feed them, love them and do the best you can by them

I think BF is a lovely, natural thing but at the end of the day, I think way too much time is spent by people pondering what people feed their babies when in 20 years time the kid is not going to care, and noone will notice the difference in their development anyway.

I know heaps of mums that have shared BF and FF, for a number of factors. I've heard them called lazy by some full time BF'ers, clever by some full time FF'ers (as in clever because neither 'side' of the fence can hassle you apparently). Hey if it works for you then go for it! ]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 20:13:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=754356&title=so-what-do-you-call#754356 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753838&title=so-what-do-you-call#753838 Author: Maya
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 8:27pm

I have no idea, but I just realised the irony in me donating EBM for someone else's bub when there was a time when I couldn't breastfeed my own ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:27:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753838&title=so-what-do-you-call#753838 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753819&title=so-what-do-you-call#753819 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 8:15pm

I thought you called them Mum

As long as the baby gets fed does it really matter how?]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:15:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753819&title=so-what-do-you-call#753819 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753816&title=so-what-do-you-call#753816 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 8:12pm

Annie, you're doing great! I am all for encouraging mums to BF (cos I do believe it is best) but I think it is really important to have the support there for them so good on you ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:12:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753816&title=so-what-do-you-call#753816 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753811&title=so-what-do-you-call#753811 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 8:11pm

lizzle wrote: gee Annie, you're being a bit nazish about being a nazi... mwahahaha

I'll explain, lol. I'm now working for Public Heath doing some counselling for Bf and someone asked me what I did the other day, so I said exactly what i just wrote above and they went off on this huge bloody tangent about BF Nazis and how I must be one and how sick I am for forcing women to BF etc. I tried to explain tht I only help if asked etc but no, I BF so thus am Nazi!

So anyway, my "mission statement" is actually that I support mums however they choose to feed thier babies and help them to make informed choices and offer support which ever way they choose, and help them to feel empowered withtheir chices. And yes I help mums bottle feed as well or wean to bottles etc.]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:11:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753811&title=so-what-do-you-call#753811 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753808&title=so-what-do-you-call#753808 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 8:09pm

Why thank you!

Just cos I can ...

Thanks from FASB, mum to DOB

Edited by Flissty]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:09:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753808&title=so-what-do-you-call#753808 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753797&title=so-what-do-you-call#753797 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 8:02pm

Bizzy wrote: i think flisstly should get an award for the most initialisms in a post!

lol yup! ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:02:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753797&title=so-what-do-you-call#753797 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753786&title=so-what-do-you-call#753786 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 7:53pm

i think flisstly should get an award for the most initialisms in a post! ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:53:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753786&title=so-what-do-you-call#753786 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753775&title=so-what-do-you-call#753775 Author: pepsi
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 7:48pm

A mum. ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:48:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753775&title=so-what-do-you-call#753775 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753751&title=so-what-do-you-call#753751 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 7:27pm

I agree with Flissty.

]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:27:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753751&title=so-what-do-you-call#753751 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753747&title=so-what-do-you-call#753747 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 7:24pm

I am really against labels cos I think it can feed into the whole BF vs FF (and what about the EBM mums).

BUT, if I was to put a label to it, it would be ...

something along the lines of "a mum who does the absolute best that they can for their baby".

ETA it can also feed into the whole BF/FF/EBM/unable to BF and reliant of donated EBM .....

Edited by Flissty]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:24:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753747&title=so-what-do-you-call#753747 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753675&title=so-what-do-you-call#753675 Author: jazzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 5:57pm

no it does not.

I fully BF but had to do bottle top up when needed as my first did not put on enough weight.

I AM NOT FOR OR AGAINST BREAST-FEEDING OR BOTTLE-FEEDING.
]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 17:57:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753675&title=so-what-do-you-call#753675 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753660&title=so-what-do-you-call#753660 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 5:49pm

jazzy wrote: A smart woman

ah but that implies your not if you do either of the other full time! ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 17:49:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753660&title=so-what-do-you-call#753660 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753654&title=so-what-do-you-call#753654 Author: jazzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 5:40pm

A smart woman ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 17:40:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753654&title=so-what-do-you-call#753654 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753634&title=so-what-do-you-call#753634 Author: sarahm
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 5:16pm

I do both and I call myself.........a bloody good mummy!! ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 17:16:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753634&title=so-what-do-you-call#753634 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753577&title=so-what-do-you-call#753577 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 4:18pm

A flactovist :)

]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 16:18:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753577&title=so-what-do-you-call#753577 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753533&title=so-what-do-you-call#753533 Author: lizzle
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 3:57pm

gee Annie, you're being a bit nazish about being a nazi...

mwahahaha]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 15:57:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753533&title=so-what-do-you-call#753533 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753497&title=so-what-do-you-call#753497 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 3:34pm

No one cares Biz, cos if you breastfeed regardless of said bottles you are still percieved to be a BF nazi. In all the many debates that have been on here about BF, no matter how many bloody times I mention that I bottle (formula) and breast fed #1, I am still a nazi.

Oh and thats tounge in cheek, the nazi bit. ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 15:34:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753497&title=so-what-do-you-call#753497 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753475&title=so-what-do-you-call#753475 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 28258
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 3:16pm

...a mother who both breast and formula feeds her babies?

was wondering about the perceived ff v bf mums division.... hhhmmmmm (insert pondering emoticon here) ]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 15:16:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28258&PID=753475&title=so-what-do-you-call#753475