We decided we wanted out kids about 2 - 2.5 yrs apart (ok - I decided more than dh, but he went along with it).  My main reasoning was that most of my friends with more than one had that kind of age gap, and my sister and I did as well and we get on great.

However life had other plans, and we are still trying for number two 18 months later! lol.

Although it's upsetting that #2 isn't so easy to come by as #1 was, I am quite happy that the gap will be larger now.  Bethany is slow on toilet training, and I really want one out of nappies before another comes along - the cost would be difficult - although not impossible of course.  Also, with being that bit older, bethany will have more of an understanding of whats going on - that she will have to share Mum and Dad.  I still expect there to be issues, but she will have the ability to understnad better. Bethany will be at least 3.5, more likely older than that whenever (if ever?) #2 comes along.

I don't want too big a gap though - I am 30 and don't want to be having babies for too much longer.  I don't want to be an older Mum with teenagers in my late 50s.  But again - thats a personal choice.  Theres nothing wrong with being an older Mum, it's jsut not for me.  The way we are going, we will most definitely be stopping at 2 kiddos.  It's jsut taking too long.  I don't even imagine how long it would take to concieve a 3rd!  haha.