OHbaby! Forums : Worry about baby being normal https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 08:04:51 +0000 Sat, 07 Nov 2009 10:14:13 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=29723 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Helen if the stress is getting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=829361&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#829361 Author: RinTinTin
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:14am

Helen if the stress is getting too much and you can't shut it off, it may be worth considering talking to a Maternal Mental Health Counsellor.
Don't let the name fool you though, you don't have to have a "mental condition" to recieve their help. They are just so great as someone to talk to, give you skills to perhaps turn your brain off and help put your mind at ease.

 

Ask you MW about how to contact them if you are interested. I personally have found them invaluable.

 

They put me on Omega 3 Fish Oil capsules (perfectly safe and even advantageous for pregnancy) and within a week I found my mind to be more at rest, clearer and I was able to think straight about things that had just been a jumbled mess before. Things have only gotten better for me.



Edited by AmStaff]]> Sat, 07 Nov 2009 10:14:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=829361&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#829361 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Helen80 wrote:true - but I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=829124&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#829124 Author: MrsH
Subject: 29723
Posted: 06 November 2009 at 10:18pm

Originally posted by Helen80 Helen80 wrote:

true - but I don't want to be irresponsible tho.


That's true but I guess just filter which information you take on board and concentrate on the things you can control rather that the things you can't.

]]> Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:18:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=829124&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#829124 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Well - this sounds like me 7 months...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=829007&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#829007 Author: Muz
Subject: 29723
Posted: 06 November 2009 at 8:39pm

Well - this sounds like me 7 months ago!! Our 3rd was a wee surprise, so no folic acid and I had had a few wines before finding out - I stressed myself out totally about any little thing, and was paranoid that something would be wrong with the baby, and to be honest I forgot to relax and enjoy the pregnancy! Things have been rocky but not because of anything I had done, and Dani is a delightful wee bub. I think you will be relieved when bubby is out - but there will always be something to worry about!!!!
]]> Fri, 06 Nov 2009 20:39:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=829007&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#829007 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : true - but I don&#039;t want to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=828869&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#828869 Author: Helen80
Subject: 29723
Posted: 06 November 2009 at 6:16pm

true - but I don't want to be irresponsible tho.]]> Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:16:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=828869&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#828869 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Stop reading - Too much information...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=828745&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#828745 Author: MrsH
Subject: 29723
Posted: 06 November 2009 at 4:24pm

Stop reading - Too much information can make you paranoid too - Ignorance sometimes is bliss.]]> Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:24:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=828745&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#828745 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Thanks for the reply and hug....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=828661&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#828661 Author: Helen80
Subject: 29723
Posted: 06 November 2009 at 3:21pm

Thanks for the reply and hug. Im in my 20's too and no family history of anything either. So my fears have no real basis for being there. Just dumb hormones and emotions. I just need to keep thinking 'happy thoughts'. The idea of holding my new precious baby is sooo exciting and my other kids are excited too - so I need to hold on to those feelings and try and ignore the others. I hear Rescue Remedy spray works quite well. Every time I see a disabled person or downs syndrome child it sends me into a panic which is dumb. You never really know what will happen. A lady I know has just found out that her 5month old has epilepsy which is sad. Just seem to be surrounded by things that bring fear.]]> Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:21:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=828661&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#828661 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : I&#039;m only on my second so...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=827727&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#827727 Author: Babe
Subject: 29723
Posted: 05 November 2009 at 8:30pm

I'm only on my second so haven't run into 3rd time paranoia (heard about it alot though!!!) but wanted to send you a hug!
I think theres always a concern about having a healthy baby, I know its always in the back of my mind niggling away to the point I've gotten panicky sick over it (ridiculous coz I'm in my 20s with no scary family history) but having such a strong worry about it all the time must be horrible so hope the next few weeks fly by and perfect #3 arrives to put your mind at ease x]]> Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:30:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=827727&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#827727 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Thanks heaps. I had been thinking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=825876&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#825876 Author: Helen80
Subject: 29723
Posted: 04 November 2009 at 2:31pm

Thanks heaps. I had been thinking "i have one of each and they are perfect - why risk having an abnormal baby when I have 2 great ones already' my hubby says 'we can have 3 perfect kids now' he is such an optimist! there is a lady at my sons school who is preg with her 3rd - she also has a boy and a girl - she has found out that #3 is downs syndrome and has a hole in his heart. Sometimes I try and think that if something was wrong it would've showed up by now. But then you never really know until you have it. The idea of having a perfect new baby is so exciting yet I can't seem to fully enjoy that as the fear of something being wrong still hangs around.]]> Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:31:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=825876&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#825876 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Helen I am in a very similar boat...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=825859&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#825859 Author: rachndean
Subject: 29723
Posted: 04 November 2009 at 2:14pm

Helen I am in a very similar boat to you, this is also my 3rd and I am so incredibly paranoid!!! I have found that talking to my midwife about EVERYTHING really helps, she is very good at putting my mind at ease. Maybe you could try talking to yours, or see if she can recommend someone for you to talk to? I find that when I am worrying about a particular thing, once I talk to her about it I feel alot better (until I move onto the next thing to worry about!). I think DH finds it helpful aswell, as he doesnt want me to worry, but doesnt really know how to put my mind at ease.

But at the end of the day, in a few weeks time you are going to be holding your brand new perfect little bundle, and all worries will fly out the window (along with your dignity hehehe)

Good luck, and take care. And feel free to PM me if you want to talk to someone not involved ]]> Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:14:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=825859&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#825859 <![CDATA[Worry about baby being normal : Im preg with #3. i have 2 perfect...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29723&PID=825685&title=worry-about-baby-being-normal#825685 Author: Helen80
Subject: 29723
Posted: 04 November 2009 at 11:18am

Im preg with #3. i have 2 perfect healthy normal kids. this pregnancy I have been super worried about something being wrong with the baby. Ive been super scared about what I eat and what cleaners etc I use. I have still used cleaners etc but then been worried afterwards if the room was ventolated enough for example. it has become silly. Im 33.5 weeks and all scans etc have shown that baby is normal and healthy.

How do I not worry or stress about things so much?

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