One thing about giving birth at 30 weeks is that all of that goes out the window.

It is good to think about what are your essentials and ideals, but don't forget that there are two of you in the birthing process and sometimes bubs has a very big say in what is going to happen.

MW's have to ask cause the government REQUIRES them to.

My MW always laughs and says "don't get your hopes up. Nobody faxes your birth plan to baby before they come so chances are they'll just do what they want"

And they do tend to ask you what you want to do and check with you during the process. It's easy to write one thing out but at the time I might throw all that out the window. It's imperative (oh, big word!) that you have faith in your MW and that they will communicate with you.

I actually think I'll end up yelling at DP to turn off the music that I have requested. LOL.

Just make sure you leave things pretty open. Like you'll notice with mine, it's all written out with my preference first, but also states that I'm willing to accept otherwise if it is in the best interests of me and bub.

I figure that way I can't be disappointed. We can try our best to do what I want, but I will know that if I don't get what I want, it's because it was the best option we had at the time for the sake of baby and me and not because somebody else barged in with their own opinions or practices.