OHbaby! Forums : Feelings https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 19:03:57 +0000 Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:22:29 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=29893 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Feelings : Thank you girls :):) , this has...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=839308&title=feelings#839308 Author: Bubie
Subject: 29893
Posted: 15 November 2009 at 7:22pm

Thank you girls :):) , this has helped alot and made me not think im a total nutta :D thank you soooo much :):)]]> Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:22:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=839308&title=feelings#839308 <![CDATA[Feelings : Hi Bubie, I didn&#039;t feel...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838862&title=feelings#838862 Author: babybaby
Subject: 29893
Posted: 15 November 2009 at 10:59am

Hi Bubie,

I didn't feel any bonding with it either when I was 18 weeks pregnant. However, now I feel a lot more for the baby. I constantly search on internet and read magazines about the babies. Even start buying things for him. Try to grab a bargain.

So don't worry. I think that you will feel more for the baby with the time being. ]]> Sun, 15 Nov 2009 10:59:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838862&title=feelings#838862 <![CDATA[Feelings : I was the same. Because of the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838643&title=feelings#838643 Author: emz
Subject: 29893
Posted: 14 November 2009 at 9:38pm

I was the same. Because of the type of person I am, I find it completely nuts to read or sing to your bump I would rub my tummy (sometimes, only in preg #2 when I had a bump) and say 'hi baby' and DH would make strange noises to make the baby move, but that's it.

I never really hade a huge connection with either baby in utero, but love them to bits now

I think some people are different, and most people aren't like that I've found (being completely in love with the bump and treating it like its an already-born baby).]]> Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:38:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838643&title=feelings#838643 <![CDATA[Feelings : Oh you poor thing, you must be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838519&title=feelings#838519 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 29893
Posted: 14 November 2009 at 8:01pm

Oh you poor thing, you must be feeling pretty terrible.
Dont worry, this happens to LOTS of people! I didnt talk to my tummy or anything when I was pregnant the first time - he was an accident and I didnt really want him, DH and I had only been together for 6 months and whoops! It took me a looooong time to accept the fact that there was a baby coming and even when he was born I was very bla about it. It took a good month for me to actually bond properly with him and now I wouldnt be without him!
This time around was sort of the same and I'm not worried because I know things will change when it arrives. Good luck to you! Talk to people about it lots, read up on OhBaby heaps and you'll get there - this bunch of crazy ladies was the best support team and source of advice for everything I needed :D ]]> Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:01:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838519&title=feelings#838519 <![CDATA[Feelings : And also, keep in mind tha some...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838299&title=feelings#838299 Author: X
Subject: 29893
Posted: 14 November 2009 at 3:29pm

And also, keep in mind tha some women don't even bond with their babies at the birth-it can take longer than that. When my son was born I immediately felt a great responsibility towards him & obviously I would never let anything happen to him, but it probably took me about 6 weeks to actually fall in love with him. I was worried because I didn't feel this immediate bond & immense love for him, but then I spoke to a lot of other mums who had the same experience. Some mums fall in love with their babies the moment they find out they are pregnant, some at the first scan, some at the birth, but for some it takes longer. You didn't fall in love with your partner at first sight, so why should it be that way with your baby?
After that first 6 weeks though I fell absolutely head over heels inlove with him & now I could never imagine being away from him.
So don't worry-it'll come. Give it time.]]> Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:29:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838299&title=feelings#838299 <![CDATA[Feelings : I hardly ever read to my tummy,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838287&title=feelings#838287 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 29893
Posted: 14 November 2009 at 3:02pm

I hardly ever read to my tummy, or talked to it lol

With my son I was really into my pregnancy I loved it and felt a bond right before he was born, but with my daughter, I just couldnt get excited about the whole being pregnant thing, and I hated my bump (not her, just the bump lol) but as soon as they handed her to be after she was born, I was in tears because it was instant love ]]> Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:02:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838287&title=feelings#838287 <![CDATA[Feelings : With my second , I forgot half...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838280&title=feelings#838280 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 29893
Posted: 14 November 2009 at 2:51pm

With my second , I forgot half the time that I was pregnant, the only time i would "talk " to my stomach with him , was when I was in the bath , but as soon as he was born , I felt the same as I had when my girl was born .

Good luck for your scan ! its very exciting finding out the sex, can we start taking bets? I say its a girl ]]> Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:51:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=838280&title=feelings#838280 <![CDATA[Feelings : Bubie - firstly I think what and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837633&title=feelings#837633 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 7:40pm

Bubie - firstly I think what and how you are feeling is perfectly normal.

Secondly, take heart that once you know the sex, the baby does tend to be a more real being to you. Rather than referring to baby as "it", baby becomes "him" or "her" and that in itself goes a huge way towards bonding.

And I tell you what else, once you really feel full on wiggles and kicks, you bond a lot easier too. Well I did anyway.

 

And yes, you will love baby when they arrive, no matter how you might feel now.

]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:40:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837633&title=feelings#837633 <![CDATA[Feelings : I wouldn&#039;t worry I think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837411&title=feelings#837411 Author: first
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 4:13pm

I wouldn't worry I think what you are feeling is what a lot of mums feel. Its not at all easy being pregnant and really it can feel strange and weird.
I know I thought the whole process was quite gross really while I was pregnant but after he was here for a week I couldn't have been closer to my little boy. So just relax and go with the flow I'm sure you'll bond and make your baby a lovely mum.]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:13:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837411&title=feelings#837411 <![CDATA[Feelings : I didn&#039;t bond with this little...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837256&title=feelings#837256 Author: MamaT
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 2:12pm

I didn't bond with this little guy until a few weeks after the anatomy scan. I loved the thought of having a baby and was so happy to be pregnant but I think I always had the "what if" scenario playing in the back of my mind, worried that something would could wrong.

Now though, I am so in love with the little man growing in side me.

]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:12:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837256&title=feelings#837256 <![CDATA[Feelings : yeah i didn&#039;t do any of the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837164&title=feelings#837164 Author: gypsynita
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 1:04pm

yeah i didn't do any of the reading/singing etc with DS either, and felt really stupid the few times i did try it!! even though you can feel the baby i remember it still feeling quite surreal until quite late in the piece, after i'd seen him on a couple of scans (the 3D one was awesome) and was getting really big kicks. don't stress hun, it'll happen ]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:04:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837164&title=feelings#837164 <![CDATA[Feelings : I sung and talked when I was preg...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837110&title=feelings#837110 Author: Babe
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 12:23pm

I sung and talked when I was preg with Jake mainly coz we were stuck in hospital alot and I was so dreadfully lonely but I haven't been able to do it with this one. I'm happy I'm having him but I just want him out! I refer to him as Ty/Tyler which is the name we picked out but I'm not feeling particularly connected.
Doesn't make a difference at the end though hun don't feel bad coz baby is getting all the nourishment and nurture it needs right now and when they arrive you'll be able to sing, read, etc all you like and thats when it really matters.]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 12:23:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837110&title=feelings#837110 <![CDATA[Feelings : I can&#039;t really help because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837066&title=feelings#837066 Author: shadowfeet
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 11:44am

I can't really help because I feel the same. It's still 'the kid' or 'her' and we're on the final countdown. I did feel a bit closer after we found out what she was though, but still haven't been able to call her properly by any of the names we've come up with.

I don't think it matters if you read to them or not while they're in there. They still hear your voice as you go about your day, and at this point in your pregnancy I think they're only just beginning to hear that.

]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:44:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837066&title=feelings#837066 <![CDATA[Feelings : Just because you don&#039;t read...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837063&title=feelings#837063 Author: kebakat
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 11:43am

Just because you don't read or sing to your tummy that doesn't mean you aren't bonding. I certainly never did any of that and I think DH would look at me as though I needed to be committed to a psych ward if I did because of the type of people we are lol. I still bonded. Plus once you see them in the scan it makes it easier to bond and as it gets closer to having bubs.]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:43:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837063&title=feelings#837063 <![CDATA[Feelings : Hi Everyone Well this is a tricky...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837053&title=feelings#837053 Author: Bubie
Subject: 29893
Posted: 13 November 2009 at 11:37am

Hi Everyone

Well this is a tricky sort of question to ask. Im 18 weeks pregnant this Sunday and have been feeling baby fluttering since i was 15 weeks 4 Days, Im only 18 years old and me and my partner have a good relationship and have been together for awhile. Hes really excited about this baby and so am i . I love going out and buying some baby things every now and again and also feeling the baby flutter. We get to find out bubs sex this Thursday but for some reason, even tho i know there is a baby inside me and i can feel it move, i still cant feel that bond with it while it's inside me, i know it will be different when bubs is born around 16th April, but i feel really stink that i cant feel that great bond with bubs, i cant bring myself to read to my tummy or sing or any bonding things like that. Is this normal , and how do i overcome it ? I feel really bad for feeling like this, We already have some names picked and im really excited to be a mummy but just cant seem to bond with the baby atm ...]]> Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:37:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29893&PID=837053&title=feelings#837053