Bubie, right up until I was 18 weeks preggy I was so determinded that I'd be having a girl. To the point where I would actually cry at the thought of having a boy because I thought "how could I possibly love a boy cause I want a girl". I felt like such a horrible person.

Then at 18 weeks I had the most vivid dream that I gave birth to the most perfect little boy. I woke up crying cause I was so overwhelmed by the dream.

2 weeks later, we discovered we are in fact having a wee boy and I tell you what, I haven't looked back...not once. In fact, I can't even imagine having a girl now.

It is ok to feel disappointed and grieve a little for that want of the other sex. But you will come to terms with it and you will love your wee man soooooo insanely much that you will look back and wonder how you were ever upset about it in the first place.

I think there is always a certain sense of loss at the baby that never was, the daughter that's now going to be your son or a son who is now a daughter I think its normal and doesn't make you a bad mom, and I'm sure the feeling wont last long when you realise you are going to have a wonderful son.