OHbaby! Forums : Gah- I’ve had enough! https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 06:24:36 +0000 Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:50:47 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=30059 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Go on the Sleep store website...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=848544&title=gah-ive-had-enough#848544 Author: noisybaby
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Posted: 23 November 2009 at 1:50pm

Go on the Sleep store website it has heaps of tips on how to get baby to sleep better. ]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:50:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=848544&title=gah-ive-had-enough#848544 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : You are NOT a bad mother!!!!! I&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=848450&title=gah-ive-had-enough#848450 Author: kiwisj
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Posted: 23 November 2009 at 12:58pm

You are NOT a bad mother!!!!!

I've been lucky with C, he has been a reasonably good sleeper during the day despite reflux, but we have had periods where I've spent the day on the couch rocking/feeding him to sleep or he's spent all his naps in the capsule or Ergo!

Just wanted to say two things - one is do what you can to get her to sleep during the day. I used to put C in the Ergo and go to the mall and walk and walk and walk some afternoons!! I found the days that C wouldn't sleep much easier if we got out of the house.

Second, my friend's wee boy only had one nap a day for most of his first year. He was an early crawler/mover and was just way too nosey to want to sleep So you're not alone and your baby isn't the only one in the world who doesn't want naps in the day.

]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2009 12:58:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=848450&title=gah-ive-had-enough#848450 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : My DS was exactly the same from...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=848364&title=gah-ive-had-enough#848364 Author: becky
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Posted: 23 November 2009 at 11:54am

My DS was exactly the same from day 1 he refused to sleep during the day unless he fell asleep on me. In the beginning I just let him sleep on me then transferred him to a tri-pillow, where he would sleep. Once he got to about 4-5months old I started patting him to sleep in his bed he would cry for ages but I just stayed patting him and he would go off to sleep.

Once he got to about 7-8months he started to resist that and went back to falling asleep for all sleeps on the boob, and started waking 3-4 times during the night, so I used a sleep program to get him to settle in his bed by himself, it was one that allowed him to go down awake and then I would leave him if he cried I would return to comfort him every 10mins. It worked so well and since then he pretty much sleeps through the night no probs at all and he goes down for his day sleeps no probs at all.

It does get better just takes time, and I know its hard with the cleaning and meals, I just let DP know how hard it was and we just share the cleaning and meals. Babies are a full on job esp when they wont sleep!!!]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2009 11:54:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=848364&title=gah-ive-had-enough#848364 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : I just read more of the other...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847505&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847505 Author: Raspberryjam
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Posted: 22 November 2009 at 11:40am

I just read more of the other posts and maybe a nice week away for just you and your baby would be good.

I found the hardest thing for me was just having the confidence to follow my instincts was hard, and only possible in a supportive environment, with the occasional pat on the back from my girls dad.

Im not going to pass judgement on your DF but thats pretty low, can you mum help you out?]]> Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:40:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847505&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847505 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : I hear ya! I had to get DH to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847498&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847498 Author: Raspberryjam
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Posted: 22 November 2009 at 11:33am

I hear ya! I had to get DH to take our wee one for 3 days and train her to sleep, I was so emotional and exhausted by then, i just needed someone else to do it. Maybe your hubby or a sister or Mum could do this for you.

I bought a baby sleep dvd and it really helped me to not feel bad about putting my cherub down and letting her cry to teach her to settle herself.

Where are you Katep?]]> Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:33:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847498&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847498 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Depending on where you are Mothercraft...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847439&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847439 Author: RoSee
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Posted: 22 November 2009 at 10:22am

Depending on where you are Mothercraft is also a wonderful option. I have heard so many fantastic stories from people who have taken their bubs there

http://www.waikatodhb.govt.nz/page/pageid/2145840353 Sorry I don't know how to add links!!

I too believe it is important for babies to sleep during the day, as sleeping is when they do most of their growing. However I know of a couple of people who's kids have stayed up all day since they were babies... and that's just the way they were

Good luck chick!! ]]> Sun, 22 Nov 2009 10:22:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847439&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847439 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Same here. Mika used to be a terrible...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847298&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847298 Author: Ella1
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 10:59pm

Same here. Mika used to be a terrible daysleeper. I was lucky if I got 2 x45minute sleeps out of her. Often I didn't even get that. Although from 3 months on she slept very well at night.
Then from 6 months onwards, her daysleeps started to improve and since she was 8 months, she often does at least one 1.5 hr sleep a day and a 45 minute nap, and sometimes two 1.5 hrs naps.
Unfortunately she has turned into the worst night sleeper. (Now I would happily change those good naps for a good night sleep )]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:59:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847298&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847298 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : I totally understand where you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847221&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847221 Author: Flutterby
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 8:58pm

I totally understand where you are coming from.

Up until a few weeks ago Cody was only having 45min naps during the day from about 2 mths old. Some days he would have 3-4 of these and others just one . I often just curled up in bed with him and let him feed to sleep and either snoozed as well or carefully got out of bed. Also if I needed to get something down (still do it actually) and he wasn't going to sleep then I would just let him play in his cot for awhile. Sometimes it felt like all I did in the afternoons was trying to get him to sleep.

Once he turned 7 mths he started have 2-3 hr naps during the day. Which may be because he is going to playgroup once a week and DPs sisters a few mornings a week, so is getting worn out. Also he is busy figuring out how to crawl and is getting around a lot more on his tummy which would also be wearing him out.   Oh and he is eating a heap of solids.

So it will get better I promise. Shame on your DF saying that. How about he look after bubs for a day and see how he does.

]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:58:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847221&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847221 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Have you got a rocker? put her...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847159&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847159 Author: AandCsmum
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 8:00pm

Have you got a rocker? put her in that for her sleep, rocker her to sleep & when she starts stirring up the rocking again. That might get her through a couple of sleep cycles. Will give you a chance to sit down too.

Also like HippyMama says trying wearing her.]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:00:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847159&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847159 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : It does get better! Natalie wasn&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847125&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847125 Author: blondy
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 7:11pm

It does get better! Natalie wasn't nearly as able to stay up for long - she would be up for 60-90mins at that age, but then would only sleep for 30-45 mins. Sometimes it would take me 45mins just to get her to sleep, and then she'd be up again in half an hour

I do think you need some help (perhaps from plunket) in trying to get her to settle without being on someone, or by feeding to sleep - that way you might be able to try to re-settle when she wakes after one sleep cycle. It can be a pain - even now sometimes Natalie wakes after 45mins, but often if I go in and pat her bum/back for a few minutes, that's enough to send her back to sleep for another hour or so.

Alternatively, what about a sling/baby carrier/wrap? That way you can still do stuff while she's sleeping on you? (although I know it doesn't really constitute a 'break'!)

Natalie also used to have one of her day sleeps in the car while we were out doing stuff, so for me that was one less sleep I had to worry about.

One thing to remember is that although she might be happy being up for 8 hours, sleep is really important for growth - hopefully she's putting on weight ok? The more naps she has, the more she will want to nap, so you do start getting some reward for all your efforts.

Sorry, this is a bit rambly but overall, I would say - yes, go to plunket for help (although take their advice with a grain of salt!), and it honestly it will get better!

Also, visit the sleepstore website - they have heaps of good articles on age-relevant sleep info. ]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:11:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847125&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847125 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : I know this will sound like my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847120&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847120 Author: HippyMama
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 7:03pm

I know this will sound like my fix-it for everything, but have you tried carrying her in any kind of sling? For a six week stretch it was the only place my girl would sleep during the day full stop.

I agree with the "this too shall pass" mantra... they are only so little for so long, and these days of little sleep will eventually be a distant memory.]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:03:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847120&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847120 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : bexandantz wrote:Hey Kate!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847119&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847119 Author: freckle
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 7:03pm

Originally posted by bexandantz bexandantz wrote:

Hey Kate!! Sorry Im not gunna be able to offer any help at all but just wanted to offer you a big hug hun... oh and a kick in the nuts to DF for daring to call you a bad mother. You are not a bad mother so don't ever let anyone call you one!!! Lotsa hugs hun!


well said Bex

I just wanted to add my sister's baby who I mentioned in my earlier post also had reflux and once treated was a much better sleeper ...]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:03:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847119&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847119 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Hey Kate!! Sorry Im not gunna...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847116&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847116 Author: Lexidore
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 7:00pm

Hey Kate!! Sorry Im not gunna be able to offer any help at all but just wanted to offer you a big hug hun... oh and a kick in the nuts to DF for daring to call you a bad mother. You are not a bad mother so don't ever let anyone call you one!!! Lotsa hugs hun!]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:00:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847116&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847116 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : know how you feel DS1 was the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847111&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847111 Author: LJsmum
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 6:53pm

know how you feel DS1 was the same drove me nuts, i went to a plunket family centre and they helped heaps.He never slept during the day from birth at 5 weeks got help and it's was hard on and off but he did it. He learnt how to sleep in his bed and not on the boob!

He slept during the day finally! and it was great. He's now 2.8 yrs and sleeps 3 hrs in the day and sleeps 10 -11 hrs at night. There is hope!
Explain to your DF that children need to learn how to sleep and it's our job to teach them good habits.
Good luck, hang in there ]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:53:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847111&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847111 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Can you leave baby with your DF...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847110&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847110 Author: littleLittle
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 6:53pm

Can you leave baby with your DF for a day so that he can experience a full day with a 4 month old that doesn't sleep along with a list of chores that need to be done? He might change his mind about seeking help through plunket if he has to experience it for himself after one day!

I don't really have any advice to help you with the sleeping but agree that whatever you decide to try you do need to stick with it for a while and grrrrrrrrrr to your DF for calling you a bad mother because you gave something a try!    Definitely not what a new mum needs to hear. Particularly when it sounds like you need to have a bit of a break as well.

Good luck and I hope someone has some useful advice for you!    ]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:53:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847110&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847110 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : I guess I am curious about the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847109&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847109 Author: SarahJane
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 6:53pm

I guess I am curious about the reflux connection, as reflux babies tend to be hopeless sleepers, snackers and hard to be in a routine. How far did you go for treating the reflux? Babies that don't sleep during the day often sleep a good stretch at night as they are exhausted.

Oh and as to the next five years, 'this too shall pass'. One thing I can guarantee is that the issues that you have now will be replaced with something completely different, probably next by month.

As to you needing a break, does bubs sleep in the car or buggy? Do you both get out of the house, and visting other like-minded souls. I found that when it was all turning to custard was the one time I *really* needed to get me and DS out of the house for our own sanity.

]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:53:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847109&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847109 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Do you have a plunket family centre?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847108&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847108 Author: freckle
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 6:52pm

Do you have a plunket family centre? my sister's baby was the same she hardly slept at all and she went to the family centre for a day and they helped her with getting baby into a routine...they were brilliant!
]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:52:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847108&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847108 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : Well,I think its better for their...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847100&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847100 Author: caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 6:40pm

Well,I think its better for their sakes as well as yours for them to have a sleep , so personally I think if you can find some way that makes her , the better for both of you ....
Sometimes she may be tired but tired signs can be hard to distinguish from hungry signs sometimes, some tired signs may include staring into space, getting grouchy ,etc etc.
When you put her down does her cry sound like its going to trail off ? or does it continue and get louder and louder ?
Babies have 2 sleep cycles, the light cycle, during which they can cry , wake , look around etc, and the deep sleep where they just, well, sleep , a lot of parents pick them up when they wake and cry during the light cycle , making it harder for them to get back to sleep .
As far as your fiance goes, Id ask him what his suggestions are, since your the one thats home with her , perhaps he could give you a suggestion of what to do , and if hes not willing to think of any , I would do what ever method works for YOU , since you are the one with her most, also , remember that any method takes a few tries to work , so once you make your mind up what one you want to do , stick to it for at least a week.
Babies may look like they are coping on limited sleep , but their body clocks aren't like ours , besides, when they have a sleep , its a good chance for you to have a break , something I think is really important, even if its just half an hour to watch tv and have time to yourself .

Edited by caitlynsmygirl]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:40:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847100&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847100 <![CDATA[Gah- I’ve had enough! : So I am over by baby not sleeping...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847091&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847091 Author: Katep
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Posted: 21 November 2009 at 6:22pm

So I am over by baby not sleeping in the day. She is 4 months and today she slept on DF for 45 minutes this morning and fell asleep on my boob in bed for 30 minutes this afternoon. This is a normal day....actually it was quite a good one.

There is nothing wrong with her (she had some reflux, but that kind of dissapeared a week ago). I tried to let her CIO today but DF accused me of being a bad mother...so I guess that is off the cards now. I mentioned that I should go back to plunket to get help again and he packed a sh!t as 'she's not unhappy thou' (he doesnt spend all day with her and expect to clean cook and have sanilty time too).

She has been like this consistently since 8 weeks. She sleeps 10 hours at night.

I mention to pleople that she happily stays up for 8 hours- and they give me looks of disgust, like I am doing something wrong.

So, basically I am asking if there is anyone else out there that has a baby that simply does not sleep during the day? Do I fight it...or do I get over it and accept that for the next 5 years I have no break?]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:22:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30059&PID=847091&title=gah-ive-had-enough#847091