OHbaby! Forums : Am I Mad? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 04 Aug 2026 11:42:48 +0000 Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:28:31 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=30288 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : im guessing she doesnt have kids...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860871&title=am-i-mad#860871 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 30288
Posted: 04 December 2009 at 3:28pm

im guessing she doesnt have kids yet herself??? or she would understand!

keep on doing it....just dont do it as an obssession and youre ok!

I also had a hope chest from when young! and bought a coupole of things when we deicded to ttc....why not! ]]> Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:28:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860871&title=am-i-mad#860871 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Kel I have a &#034;nest&#034;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860818&title=am-i-mad#860818 Author: IVFGirl1111
Subject: 30288
Posted: 04 December 2009 at 2:53pm

Kel I have a "nest" of baby stuff too!

DH buys stuff for it as well when he sees something cool on sale or whatever!

It has really come in handy over the last couple of years because when we need a present for someone we go to our stash! Haha.

Maybe shes jealous and wishes she could afford to do that - who knows, but I certainly wouldnt let it bother you! Although I know if it was me I would have let it get to me too.

Ps/ Good luck with FT!]]> Fri, 04 Dec 2009 14:53:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860818&title=am-i-mad#860818 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : What a hurtful thing for her to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860806&title=am-i-mad#860806 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 30288
Posted: 04 December 2009 at 2:41pm

What a hurtful thing for her to say!

I think you are being sensible.

We did similar - we began buying when we started TTC not knowing it would take us two years. The month before we were due to begin IVF we discovered we were pregnant.

Treasure the things you've bought - you are putting love and care into them and intentions have influence ]]> Fri, 04 Dec 2009 14:41:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860806&title=am-i-mad#860806 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I&#039;ve heard of unmarried /unpartnered...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860670&title=am-i-mad#860670 Author: Blankney94
Subject: 30288
Posted: 04 December 2009 at 12:39pm

I've heard of unmarried /unpartnered friends putting away things for their future babies (and I mean really future!) - so no not a silly thing to do at all.  Just ignore your friend's hurtful comments, and spend your money how you see fit.

One day you will be able to tell your little bundle of joy how you saved up lots of toys and clothes in excited preparation for his/her future arrival. 

]]> Fri, 04 Dec 2009 12:39:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860670&title=am-i-mad#860670 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : that is such a great idea! to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860607&title=am-i-mad#860607 Author: BaAsKa
Subject: 30288
Posted: 04 December 2009 at 11:56am

that is such a great idea! to buy things ahead of time!! you are very wise...and your friend is very mean and tackless!!

i collected alot of things while we were TTC#2 - we already had one child but didnt keep any of his stuff and it took 2 yrs to concieve #2 so #2 ended up with a great stash of nice things ]]> Fri, 04 Dec 2009 11:56:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=860607&title=am-i-mad#860607 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I think it was a nasty thing to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859353&title=am-i-mad#859353 Author: Bexee
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 10:51am

I think it was a nasty thing to say - her heart may have been in the right place with worry about you and it upseting you but still.

I bought bits and bobs before we started trying. We'd always planned for kids in the future, and were faced with the possibility of having trouble, so ppl thought I was mad but still.

When we did get pregnant I was terrified to buy anything for the first three months but I had a great stash of stuff. Admittedly some of the outfits were the wrong season or what have you but it was great. We didn't have to buy a lot of stuff when we were down to one income and I haven't bought a packet of nappies yet and DS is 16 weeks old!

As long as it isn't upseting you go for it! ]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 10:51:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859353&title=am-i-mad#859353 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I started collecting the odd thing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859188&title=am-i-mad#859188 Author: clover
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 9:02am

I started collecting the odd thing that was on sale and a bargain as well. I think it is pretty sensible really and she's just a cow. In saying that, I've never told anyone except DH because I thought they would react in a similar way.]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 09:02:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859188&title=am-i-mad#859188 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Some people don&#039;t engage...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859159&title=am-i-mad#859159 Author: Gardengirl
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 8:38am

Some people don't engage their brain and when they open their mouths all manner of ridiculous stuff comes out.

I think it makes perfect sense and I wish I'd been able to do the same thing (but I was in the terrified-it-would-jinx-me camp).

Good luck with your IVF journey, I hope it's a short and sweet one.]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:38:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859159&title=am-i-mad#859159 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I think she is just being a cow...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859157&title=am-i-mad#859157 Author: noodle
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 8:37am

I think she is just being a cow aswell! I think its a good idea collecting stuff while you have the money.
Not saying that you are going to be anything like me but once I was pregnant i couldn't bring myself to buy anything for R until after our anatomy scan, not because I wanted to see what colour i needed to buy because we didn't find out his flavour, but just because after so long TTC and all the dissapointments I had guarded myself a bit in letting myself believe we were actually going to have a baby (I was super excited but just protecting myself a bit I suppose....hard to explain...), so I was pleased I had bought things before we were pregnant because those things were for any baby not the one I was growing if that makes sense

good luck for you IVF chick, I'll keep my fingers crossed tight for a first time BFP for you!! ]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:37:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859157&title=am-i-mad#859157 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Thanks for the reassurance ladies. I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859125&title=am-i-mad#859125 Author: Parki
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 8:07am

Thanks for the reassurance ladies.

I do understand the comments about 'jinxing' things or setting myself up to get hurt etc but its not like I am buying all this stuff expecting to get pregnant straight away when we begin IVF. Im more than realistic about our chnaces & I realise we may not get pregnant first or even second time. But I also know that we will have a baby at some stage, somehow, so it all helps, and hey by the time that happens I may have a whole room full of stuff & a very well dressed baby! ha ha

Also, I don't buy big things like strollers, cots etc, I'll save that for the 9 months I actually am pregnant!

Thanks again, I feel less 'stupid' now! ]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:07:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859125&title=am-i-mad#859125 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Not nuts at all - very sensible....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859123&title=am-i-mad#859123 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 8:05am

Not nuts at all - very sensible.
I hope and pray that the ivf works for you, but if it didn't who said you wouldn't potentially adopt? I'm not saying you would, just that there are other ways to get a baby.

Worst case senario - Meet my friend, trademe!

Planning in advance to provide your child is an incredibly grown up , sensible, and mature thing to do.

I hope it all works out for you xox]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:05:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859123&title=am-i-mad#859123 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Surely what you choose to spend...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859116&title=am-i-mad#859116 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 8:00am

Surely what you choose to spend your money on is your business and no one elses.

I've got loads of baby stuff too and no baby either, some people can be insensitive. ]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:00:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859116&title=am-i-mad#859116 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : What a cow! I have baby stuff...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859063&title=am-i-mad#859063 Author: Hopes
Subject: 30288
Posted: 03 December 2009 at 7:08am

What a cow! I have baby stuff collected, and I'm in a similar boat. I don't see a problem with it, I reckon everyone should do what works for them, and let others do the same. I don't blame you for hanging up!! ]]> Thu, 03 Dec 2009 07:08:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859063&title=am-i-mad#859063 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : when i was younger i had the most...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859002&title=am-i-mad#859002 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 10:29pm

when i was younger i had the most gorgeous hand knitted baby outfits in my glory box - or hope chest as some call them - they sat there for years and i eventually gave them away to friends who did have babies... anyway it was years later that i finally got my baby!

so its not mad to buy when you arent even pregnant... however not everyone can understand that and even tho saying its stupid isnt nice and is probably a stupid thing in itself, i can kind of get how someone might say it if they thought a friend was potentially setting themselves up to get hurt.]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:29:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=859002&title=am-i-mad#859002 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I don&#039;t see what her problem...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858990&title=am-i-mad#858990 Author: Paws
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 10:16pm

I don't see what her problem is, my DH and I did the same thing for a year before we conceived our first child and for similar reasons. So long as it doesn't upset you seeing the things then there's no issue.]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:16:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858990&title=am-i-mad#858990 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Pooh to her I say! Good on you,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858985&title=am-i-mad#858985 Author: Nutella
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 10:12pm

Pooh to her I say! Good on you, it makes a lot of sense to be buying the things now that you will need in the future. I started buying stuff ages ago like probably two years ago, no wait even longer since I hadn't even met DH hahaha! I knew I was gonna have kids one day (tho it took 18 months to get pregnant).

ETA Good luck with the IVF in April

Edited by NatsCats]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:12:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858985&title=am-i-mad#858985 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I think that&#039;s an awesome...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858965&title=am-i-mad#858965 Author: bext1
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 9:55pm

I think that's an awesome Idea! Go YOU!!

Sounds like your friend is just plain jealous. Does she have kids?

At the end of the day, your lovely baby will have some cool stuff!! ]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:55:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858965&title=am-i-mad#858965 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : My friend is not pregnant and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858933&title=am-i-mad#858933 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 9:35pm

My friend is not pregnant and her partner doesn't want kids for another two years , she loves babies and can't wait to be a mum and has a glory box full of baby clothes, blankets etc etc AND recently purchased (on special , but still) a Quinny Buzz stroller, and capsule and something else but I forgot what it was .
Some may say shes mad, but hey , its her money , and there are worse things she could be spending it on, and if it makes her feel like shes closer to her dream , why the hell not ?

Same goes for you , ignore comments like that, I think there is nothing wrong with it , nor do I think you are mad ! I do think that was an insensitive thing for her to say , and I think you should ignore any comments like that .
Enjoy your shopping , and all the best as you embark on your IVF journey ]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:35:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858933&title=am-i-mad#858933 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I say go for it. I bought stuff...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858895&title=am-i-mad#858895 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 9:06pm

I say go for it. I bought stuff before I got pregnant. Got a great cot at a great price - never regretted it.

That was a pretty insensitive thing to say.]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:06:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858895&title=am-i-mad#858895 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : OMG I would have lost the plot...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858836&title=am-i-mad#858836 Author: FreeSpirit
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:45pm

OMG I would have lost the plot at her - hanging up on her would be the smallest offence. She should never have said those things - would you say to a newly pregnant friend not to buy things in case you miscarry? Bah!

I think you're brilliant and doing the right thing preparing for the time when you will have a child. I wish more people had the smarts and resources to start buying while in the planning stage. 9 months is a short space of time to cram all the shopping in, and man is it expensive!

I wish you all the best of luck on your journey to parenthood. ]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:45:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858836&title=am-i-mad#858836 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Not mad at all, very sensible...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858819&title=am-i-mad#858819 Author: emz
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:36pm

Not mad at all, very sensible is what I'd call it If I had my time again, I'd do just that.

And like you said, you're going to have a baby at some stage, it's not like it's never going to happen despite what you have to do to get there, so I say splurge while you can and scrimp later

Good luck with the IVF too, FX it happens quickly.]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:36:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858819&title=am-i-mad#858819 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : Gah .. I think most of my friends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858784&title=am-i-mad#858784 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:22pm

Gah .. I think most of my friends are idiots for spending their money on sh*te like cigarettes and alcohol .. and people think im strange for my penchant for shoes and baby carriers

It's your money, if you want to spend it on baby clothes who is she to say its a waste ]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:22:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858784&title=am-i-mad#858784 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : What a cow! If you&#039;re mad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858780&title=am-i-mad#858780 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:19pm

What a cow!

If you're mad then I am too I had a double wardrobe full of baby stuff before DH and I even talked about starting to TTC (my sis was giving it away) we knew kids were somewhere in the future and this stuff was free (and some of the clothes and toys were things I'd given my niece and nephew back when I had a larger income and little responsibility).

Other people collect all sorts of crazy useless things, at least your collection is full of good quality items that you will use.

Good luck with your IVF.

]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:19:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858780&title=am-i-mad#858780 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : She sounds like a bi-arch! You...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858765&title=am-i-mad#858765 Author: Katep
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:07pm

She sounds like a bi-arch! You can spend your money how you please and no one needs to be called 'stupid' when it comes to wanting a baby.

Goodluck with IVF.]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:07:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858765&title=am-i-mad#858765 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : just as long as its not upsetting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858764&title=am-i-mad#858764 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:07pm

just as long as its not upsetting you seeing all the stuff and not having the baby...YET

My SIL did this too and I must admit, I did worry that things werent going to happen as easily as she hoped. I know I was terrified of "jinxing" myself...but thats me...I worry for the sake of worrying...that sounds madder

Good luck for the IVF ]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:07:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858764&title=am-i-mad#858764 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : I think if it makes you happy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858760&title=am-i-mad#858760 Author: WRXnKids
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:05pm

I think if it makes you happy then there is nothing wrong with it! I think it was a bit rude on your friends part even if she didnt agree with what you are doing she could have been more sensitive about it]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:05:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858760&title=am-i-mad#858760 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : What a mean thing to say! I think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858755&title=am-i-mad#858755 Author: Maya
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 8:03pm

What a mean thing to say! I think your approach sounds quite sensible to me.]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:03:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858755&title=am-i-mad#858755 <![CDATA[Am I Mad? : While I sometimes would anwser...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858749&title=am-i-mad#858749 Author: Parki
Subject: 30288
Posted: 02 December 2009 at 7:59pm

While I sometimes would anwser HECK YES to my thread title I'm sure in this case I'm not...

I just got off the phone to a friend and she really p*ssed me off & I ended up abruptly ending the convo & hanging up & now I'm sitting here fuming!

I would just like to know your opinion on the situation...

DH & I have been TTC for around 3 years and recently found out we would require IVF which is due to start in April.

For the last year or so I have been buying baby things & adding them to my little 'nest' as DH calls it.

My reasoning is as follows:
We are young & have a hefty mortgage so while we are both earning good money & two wages it makes perfect sense to me to buy the things we won't be able to afford when we are on one wage. We are also about to buy a business so money is going to be tight next year. I usually buy things such as merino & organic clothing, wraps, blankets etc. Basically more the more expensive things that I can afford to buy now but know will be harder when we are down to one income.
I buy neutral colours in different sizes & never spend excessive amounts, I usually buy things on special etc. I have a huge box full of brand new gorgeous stuff which I love adding to(& occasionally use for presents)..... So I just mentioned to a friend that something had arrived by courier and she told me that was 'stupid & wasting my money & should just wait like everyone else!'. It really hurt my feelings!

I guess in a way it gives me something exciting to do while we wait for our IVF to start. I don't see how it is stupid, it seems quite a good idea to me & it means I can give my baby all the things I prefer to without the stress of money?

While I know our IVF might not work first time etc, we will have a baby at some stage so its always going to be used.

Am I being stupid & 'wasting my money' as I was just told?

Sorry for the novel but I'm still fuming.

]]> Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:59:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30288&PID=858749&title=am-i-mad#858749