OHbaby! Forums : Hardest Transition https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 19:53:49 +0000 Wed, 03 Feb 2010 13:52:51 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=31341 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 7! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922697&title=hardest-transition#922697 Author: Joscia
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 1:52pm

7! ]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 13:52:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922697&title=hardest-transition#922697 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I found 0 to 1 fine in some ways....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922641&title=hardest-transition#922641 Author: FionaS
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 1:17pm

I found 0 to 1 fine in some ways. I didn't notice the big change in lifestyle at all BUT she was such a tricky and unsettled baby that it was the hardest year of my life. 1 to 2 has been fine in many ways. I found having a newborn really easy second time around but am finding it harder now that both need more play-type attention but are at totally different levels.

Most people I speak to seem to say 1 to 2 is the hardest as both are young and the younger they are the harder it is. I'm sure it depends on the family but that is the most common thing I hear. My neighbour has 7 and she said 1 to 2 was the hardest and each one has been easier to adjust to since.]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 13:17:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922641&title=hardest-transition#922641 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : Febgirl wrote:When you have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922506&title=hardest-transition#922506 Author: mumtooboys
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 11:54am

Originally posted by Febgirl Febgirl wrote:

When you have your second baby the sleep deprivation isn't as much a shock to the system as you've already gone through it with your first so know what you're in for!


I'll agree with that. LOL I actually found DS2 to be our 'better' sleeper, even though he slept less. The other thing I have personally found is that I don't sweat the small stuff and instead of wanting to do everything 'by the book' I am more inclined to do what needs doing/what works and not worry so much about the 'what ifs'.]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 11:54:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922506&title=hardest-transition#922506 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 0-1 here, so far 1-2 has been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922453&title=hardest-transition#922453 Author: Febgirl
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 11:06am

0-1 here, so far 1-2 has been so much easier than I was anticipating. When you have your second baby the sleep deprivation isn't as much a shock to the system as you've already gone through it with your first so know what you're in for! ]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 11:06:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922453&title=hardest-transition#922453 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : minik8e wrote:0 to 2 I had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922398&title=hardest-transition#922398 Author: Joscia
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 10:22am

Originally posted by minik8e minik8e wrote:

0 to 2 I had no idea what to do with one baby, let alone two at the same time!! I imagine one baby will seem easy next time


Funny you should say this Kate - my friend has twin boys who are nearly 2, AND another 6 month old boy.

She went out for coffee the other day because she had some time off from the kids, and turned up with her youngest because he 'doesn't count', as he's so easy in comparison!

Can't really comment on the original question as we've only got DS so I have nothing to compare it to, but I initially found the transition from 0-1 to be one of the most grueling things I've ever done - enough to swear off having any more EVER. But now, as is always the case, we're thinking about #2 Though no time soon. ]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 10:22:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922398&title=hardest-transition#922398 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I find going from 0-1 the hardest,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922383&title=hardest-transition#922383 Author: mumtooboys
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 10:12am

I find going from 0-1 the hardest, 1-2 was easy. LOL

We are debating a 3rd, I am keen, DP isn't.

Now maybe I found it easier because in many ways I only have 1 the majority of the time during the week because of the age gap. DS1 was really great and very understanding of the fact that the baby took priority and has always been keen to help. Because of how we choose to parent I think that has helped ease the transition from 1-2 as well because I can still spend time dealing with DS1's needs while still being able to tend to DS2's needs as well. Now they are both older they have to take turns about who has to wait when they both want something at the same time; but I am great at juggling anyway.    ]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 10:12:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922383&title=hardest-transition#922383 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : nzpiper wrote:0-1 felt hard....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922377&title=hardest-transition#922377 Author: xLUCKYx
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 10:07am

Originally posted by nzpiper nzpiper wrote:

0-1 felt hard. 1-2 was hard at the start but now just feels normal. When you have 2 you do think 1 is easy though. And I do admit to looking at my friends who only have one and think "wow, imagine the time you could spend, and the tantrums and behaviour you could avoid"


I second this :)

I obviously can't talk from experience but I imagine when having a third, the other 2 will already be used to sharing your time whereas when number 2 came along number 1 had to learn about sharing Mummy's time so it was a harder transition in the beginning. ]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 10:07:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922377&title=hardest-transition#922377 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I&#039;ve heard that 1-2 is the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922353&title=hardest-transition#922353 Author: Emmecat
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 9:48am

I've heard that 1-2 is the most tricky transition....bugger lol  I can't comment cos we only have one at the mo but am TTC number two.

However, from a Step-Mama point of view, 2 is MUCH easier than 3, 4 is easier than 3 and 5 is pretty full on but yeah after 4 you stop counting and just leave them to it lol

It seems to be that odd number of 3 that is hard as potential always for someone to be left out...I'm one of 3 and it was definately that way growing up (for my brother lol).

]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 09:48:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922353&title=hardest-transition#922353 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I found going from 2 to 3 the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922266&title=hardest-transition#922266 Author: .Mel
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 8:15am

I found going from 2 to 3 the hardest... probably because I'd had a few years without sleepless nights, bottles and nappies.

It was also hard for me because he came early and he was so much smaller than the other two and BFing was a real chore and I really struggled with not being able to do what I'd done with the other two, of course it didnt' help that I had no support from my MW or plunket etc.. (thats a whole different story).

Now that he's older I'm finding it alot easier, he's such a socialable guy and loves his big bro and sis, and they are the same towards him, which is very rewarding.]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 08:15:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922266&title=hardest-transition#922266 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : jaycee wrote:I love that none...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922252&title=hardest-transition#922252 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 8:04am

Originally posted by jaycee jaycee wrote:

I love that none of the Mums with 3+ kids have answered this question yet - they must be too busy

Great question though. I imagine that it is the logistics that change with 3+ (that whole 'more kids than hands' thing!)

eta - typo


i have 3 but not +

someone else was right tho about the newborn with other kids, that is hard. you dont have the time to devote to just sit there cuddling and fussing over your baby cause there are others needs to be met as well. The biggest adjustment is from 0 to 1 (or in some cases 2 or more)... but you dont realise how cruisy one is until you have 2! (well some people cause i always thought 1 was easy and wonder why i thought 2 would be just as easy!)

Edited by Bizzy]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 08:04:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922252&title=hardest-transition#922252 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 0-1 for me, 1-2 was challenging...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922251&title=hardest-transition#922251 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 8:04am

0-1 for me, 1-2 was challenging but we have settled into our own rhythm quite well and it hasn't been nearly as bad as I feared.]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 08:04:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922251&title=hardest-transition#922251 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 0-1 was a big transition for me...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922247&title=hardest-transition#922247 Author: Cassie
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 8:01am

0-1 was a big transition for me because she was 1yr old when she came into my full time family. 1-2 wasn't that difficult, but possibly because Ivy was a little bit older. 2-3 I worry about, and have heard that it's the hardest transition. Have also been told that 4 is way easier to handle (no-one is ever left out, where as with 3, that is often the case), and not a huge shift at all from 3. ]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 08:01:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922247&title=hardest-transition#922247 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I love that none of the Mums with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922240&title=hardest-transition#922240 Author: jaycee
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 7:50am

I love that none of the Mums with 3+ kids have answered this question yet - they must be too busy

Great question though. I imagine that it is the logistics that change with 3+ (that whole 'more kids than hands' thing!)

eta - typo

Edited by jaycee]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 07:50:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922240&title=hardest-transition#922240 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 0-1 felt hard. 1-2 was hard at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922233&title=hardest-transition#922233 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 31341
Posted: 03 February 2010 at 7:37am

0-1 felt hard. 1-2 was hard at the start but now just feels normal. When you have 2 you do think 1 is easy though. And I do admit to looking at my friends who only have one and think "wow, imagine the time you could spend, and the tantrums and behaviour you could avoid"]]> Wed, 03 Feb 2010 07:37:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922233&title=hardest-transition#922233 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 0-1 at first was very daunting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922166&title=hardest-transition#922166 Author: mamanee
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 11:03pm

0-1 at first was very daunting and at the time I reckoned it was pretty hard, but looking back and with the knowledge and experience I have gained since then, I realise that 1-2 is SO much harder!     I've only recently had #2, but so far it's been pretty full on as S doesn't sleep during the day anymore, J doesn't settle until well after 11PM each night and still wakes twice, and I am hating this hot, stuffy, muggy weather.    Takes time to adjust, but we're getting there!]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 23:03:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922166&title=hardest-transition#922166 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 0 to 2 I had no idea what to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922121&title=hardest-transition#922121 Author: minik8e
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 10:32pm

0 to 2 I had no idea what to do with one baby, let alone two at the same time!! I imagine one baby will seem easy next time, even if it does take us to 3 kids....well, I hope that's the case anyway!!]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:32:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922121&title=hardest-transition#922121 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : 5 & 6! Pass. That is a lot of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922078&title=hardest-transition#922078 Author: FionaS
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 10:07pm

5 & 6! Pass. That is a lot of kids ]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:07:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922078&title=hardest-transition#922078 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I can&#039;t speak from personal...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922070&title=hardest-transition#922070 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 10:03pm

I can't speak from personal experience but my mum and I were talking about this awhile ago and she said 2 is harder than 1, 3 is harder than 2, 4 is harder than 3 but by the time 5 & 6 come along it's no harder because you can only be busy for 24 hours per day.

I guess it's different for each family and each baby but it doesn't get easier when you add a newborn (jmo)

]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:03:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922070&title=hardest-transition#922070 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : having three young kids is hard....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922040&title=hardest-transition#922040 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 9:48pm

having three young kids is hard. they all have such different needs and you have to slot them in with each other. for instance i have one at school, one at kindy and the other one at home with me. Neither of the boys have been at the same stage before, and at one point i had one in morning kindy and one in afternoons. when they are all older it may be different except if they all want to do different sports or other activities.]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:48:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922040&title=hardest-transition#922040 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : I&#039;ve heard the same Emz hence...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922038&title=hardest-transition#922038 Author: FionaS
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 9:47pm

I've heard the same Emz hence the question ]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:47:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922038&title=hardest-transition#922038 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : Well I only have two but will...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922025&title=hardest-transition#922025 Author: emz
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 9:43pm

Well I only have two but will answer anyway...

Obviously to the first child as it was a major lifestyle change! But I have heard that going from 1 to 2 is harder than 2 to 3 and so on.

Anyone care to agree/disagree or explain that?]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:43:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922025&title=hardest-transition#922025 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : Great question! (obviously I can&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922005&title=hardest-transition#922005 Author: surfergirl
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 9:33pm

Great question! (obviously I can't answer...)]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:33:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=922005&title=hardest-transition#922005 <![CDATA[Hardest Transition : To those of you with mulitple...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=921997&title=hardest-transition#921997 Author: FionaS
Subject: 31341
Posted: 02 February 2010 at 9:29pm

To those of you with mulitple kids - which transition did you find the most difficult to adjust to?

0 to 1 child
1 to 2 children
2 to 3 children
3 +

Interested to hear different thoughts and experiences.

]]> Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:29:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31341&PID=921997&title=hardest-transition#921997