https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 00:53:58 +0000 Wed, 19 Jul 2006 13:45:07 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=3165 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59928&title=help-need-advise#59928 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 19 July 2006 at 1:45pm

Hmmm, just tried to PM you but apparently I just PM'ed myself... PM is private message.]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2006 13:45:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59928&title=help-need-advise#59928 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59857&title=help-need-advise#59857 Author: my2angels
Subject: 3165
Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:26am

i went back to work 12 hours a week and love it most of the time and kobe loves preschool. there is always going to be something to feel guilty about so just do what will mke you happy]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2006 11:26:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59857&title=help-need-advise#59857 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59808&title=help-need-advise#59808 Author: newmum
Subject: 3165
Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:02am

ummm, maybe one of you should change it???? ]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2006 10:02:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59808&title=help-need-advise#59808 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59798&title=help-need-advise#59798 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:48am

Hi their twin, what does PM mean? This is really weird as I have my own login and password? Thanks for advice.]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2006 09:48:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59798&title=help-need-advise#59798 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59752&title=help-need-advise#59752 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:14am

Ooooooo... that is so weird!! You are still me!! What happens if you try to PM someone?

But back to the original question: I think it is definitely a personal choice, but don't feel like you should stay at home cause that is what nice mummys do. I went back to uni when Quinn was 16 months, I dreaded putting him into daycare and then felt HORRID cause i loved having time without him. Putting him into care will not damage him for the future, he will still grow into a functioning member of society (despite what my partners mother thinks). Good luck!]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2006 09:14:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59752&title=help-need-advise#59752 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59727&title=help-need-advise#59727 Author: newmum
Subject: 3165
Posted: 19 July 2006 at 7:48am

LOLOL, Holy moly, that would be weird!!!!! ]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2006 07:48:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59727&title=help-need-advise#59727 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59704&title=help-need-advise#59704 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3165
Posted: 18 July 2006 at 9:25pm

oooh, that would be spooky! ]]> Tue, 18 Jul 2006 21:25:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59704&title=help-need-advise#59704 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59693&title=help-need-advise#59693 Author: linda
Subject: 3165
Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:45pm

Maybe you both have the same password along with the same name? ]]> Tue, 18 Jul 2006 20:45:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59693&title=help-need-advise#59693 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59685&title=help-need-advise#59685 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:12pm

Ahh I see what you mean. Sorry I'm using my sign in and own password. Not sure what I'm doing wrong here?]]> Tue, 18 Jul 2006 20:12:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59685&title=help-need-advise#59685 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59683&title=help-need-advise#59683 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:07pm

Hi guys thanks for all your replys. Not sure what has happened Yes my name is Anna and I'm def no lurker!! Must be some mistake with the log ins???
This was my first message-mmnn def weird!!]]> Tue, 18 Jul 2006 20:07:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59683&title=help-need-advise#59683 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59553&title=help-need-advise#59553 Author: mrs frantic
Subject: 3165
Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:50pm

huh? how could that happen? Thats scarey!]]> Tue, 18 Jul 2006 14:50:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59553&title=help-need-advise#59553 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59378&title=help-need-advise#59378 Author: newmum
Subject: 3165
Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:15am

Oh crap.... not another one ]]> Tue, 18 Jul 2006 08:15:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59378&title=help-need-advise#59378 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59355&title=help-need-advise#59355 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:57pm

Yeah, I thought that was so weird too. I was thinking you'd lost the plot with all the preggo hormones ]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 21:57:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59355&title=help-need-advise#59355 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59340&title=help-need-advise#59340 Author: my2angels
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:10pm

very strange, hope its not another lurker!]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 21:10:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59340&title=help-need-advise#59340 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59314&title=help-need-advise#59314 Author: Maya
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 8:15pm

Will check it out for you...]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 20:15:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59314&title=help-need-advise#59314 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59232&title=help-need-advise#59232 Author: caraMel
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 4:21pm

That is so weird and wrong!
I was reading it going 'What, that's not Anna?!']]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 16:21:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59232&title=help-need-advise#59232 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59218&title=help-need-advise#59218 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:53pm

I thought that was weird, cause I saw the pic of Quinn, but the info made no sense.....hmmm]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 15:53:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59218&title=help-need-advise#59218 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59216&title=help-need-advise#59216 Author: AlyAyde
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:49pm

ohhhh spooky.........]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 15:49:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59216&title=help-need-advise#59216 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59214&title=help-need-advise#59214 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:44pm

Hey ... I am really confused? Who wrote this? Cause it has come up under my sign in?

And it wasn't me?!?
]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 15:44:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59214&title=help-need-advise#59214 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59205&title=help-need-advise#59205 Author: nicolaann
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:25pm

I work part time, which being a chef is all night work, so Alex stays home and has some daddy time while I work. That works out really well for us (although in the last week he has started to realise mummy isn't home and is being naughty for daddy!) I wouldn't like to work full time, I think I would miss Alex too much, and would hate to miss out on all those special first moments. But lots of people have no choice and have to work full time, and they manage fine. It is a personal decision. I agree listen to your heart!!]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 15:25:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59205&title=help-need-advise#59205 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59185&title=help-need-advise#59185 Author: newmum
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 2:34pm

Listen to your heart!! ]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 14:34:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59185&title=help-need-advise#59185 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59184&title=help-need-advise#59184 Author: emeldee
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 2:34pm

It's a really personal and tough decision to make. With my first kiddie, I went back to work because I had to (only parent etc) and it worked well for me. I had great daycare support and it was a way for Sean to interact with other kiddies and to be honest, I needed the grown up stimuli of work (or more importantly, the people at work).
However with Andrew, I have decided to stay at home and be the full-time at home parent caregiver. It's been tough and sometimes a little isolating, but I've loved almost every day of it. I have a wonderfully supportive husband and we are making do, sacrificing things like savings plans and overseas holidays, but having a wonderful time with the kids. In the end, the decision is going to be all yours...just remember, whatever choice you make, it's not necessarily final. There is a bouyant labour market and you should be able to find part-time work if you need/want to and on the other hand, just because you go back, doesn't mean you have to stay there indefinitely.
Good luck either way. ]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 14:34:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59184&title=help-need-advise#59184 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59175&title=help-need-advise#59175 Author: Anna
Subject: 3165
Posted: 17 July 2006 at 2:18pm

Hi everyone I'm new to all this but I really need some help. My baby is 10 mths old and I'm really undecided whether to go back to work or not. I love my p/t job but I also love looking after my son. I have a year off and are due back soon. I can cope without the extra money I can budget well although extra money would be welcomme.My husband has started up his building business so am learning how to do the books(very boring!!)Any advise???!!! ]]> Mon, 17 Jul 2006 14:18:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3165&PID=59175&title=help-need-advise#59175