OHbaby! Forums : Ungratefully wife https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 01 May 2026 02:05:44 +0000 Fri, 21 May 2010 13:32:36 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=33537 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Yes thats true... the only time...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036675&title=ungratefully-wife#1036675 Author: Snappy
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 1:32pm

Yes thats true... the only time its a hassle is when Im sick, or I have to go out... it means fishnchips or toasties
]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 13:32:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036675&title=ungratefully-wife#1036675 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Not cooking is sometimes a good...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036628&title=ungratefully-wife#1036628 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 1:18pm

Not cooking is sometimes a good thing ... SD isnt the greatest cook (and he has tried on numerous occasions), sometimes I pity Isabelle when I see what he has given her for dinner. ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 13:18:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036628&title=ungratefully-wife#1036628 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : We have a deal at our place too,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036507&title=ungratefully-wife#1036507 Author: Snappy
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 12:26pm

We have a deal at our place too, DH does the dishes and folds the washing... he will quite often dry it/hang it out as well.
He also gets Janaya's stuff ready for school, will vacuum and make lunches if I haven't done them already.

I do a load of washing every day, vacuum (yes, sometimes vacuuming is done twice a day in our house) will mop floors, clean the bathroom and cook dinner.. bath the kids and put them to bed.

He'll mow the lawns and I'll weed the garden with the kids.

The ONLY thing is that he doesn;'t cook ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 12:26:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036507&title=ungratefully-wife#1036507 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Sheza wrote: kebakat wrote:Little...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036354&title=ungratefully-wife#1036354 Author: kebakat
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:55am

Originally posted by Sheza Sheza wrote:

Originally posted by kebakat kebakat wrote:

Little things annoy me but I try not to get wound up about it (slightly harder with hormone lol). Like hes complaining he is running out of clothes... well do a load of washing idiot! lol


omg my DH is the same "I have no shorts left" "I have no socks", so I say, well then put some washing on!! "nah" FINE, go to work naked then!


lmao I'm sorry but I'm so glad its not just me.

I've told DH countless times that if he wants washing done during the week he should put his clothes in the washing basket each day. And that if he puts a weeks worth in the washing basket on the weekend in one go I won't do it. Hes started collecting his washing on the weekend again and wonders why he hasn't got any clean clothes but doesnt wanna put a load on for himself and then go put it in the drier. Men are silly creatures sometimes.]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:55:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036354&title=ungratefully-wife#1036354 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : kebakat wrote:Little things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036323&title=ungratefully-wife#1036323 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:40am

Originally posted by kebakat kebakat wrote:

Little things annoy me but I try not to get wound up about it (slightly harder with hormone lol). Like hes complaining he is running out of clothes... well do a load of washing idiot! lol


omg my DH is the same "I have no shorts left" "I have no socks", so I say, well then put some washing on!! "nah" FINE, go to work naked then!]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:40:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036323&title=ungratefully-wife#1036323 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Thats why I didn&#039;t like that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036308&title=ungratefully-wife#1036308 Author: kebakat
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:32am

Thats why I didn't like that deal at all. Doing everything by yourself on the inside takes quite a bit of effort. Whereas doing the lawns and gardens and outdoors stuff doesn't take long at all really. Plus I just hate housework! lol]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:32:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036308&title=ungratefully-wife#1036308 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : kebakat wrote: lilfatty wrote: ...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036297&title=ungratefully-wife#1036297 Author: heaf3
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:27am

Originally posted by kebakat kebakat wrote:

Originally posted by lilfatty lilfatty wrote:

Originally posted by Little_Red Little_Red wrote:

Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments.


I think that only works if the other person actually does their chores.    


Same. When I first moved in with DH he told me that one of his older friends and his wife had this deal where he looked after the outside of the house, and she looked after the inside.



we have that sorta deal, DH does the lawns and outside stuff and i cook, clean and do washing. DH is supposed to help me though especially cleaning up dishes after i cook, but he doesnt. and then gets pissy at me if he has no clothes or somethings a mess. im not a fricken maid, he could help! especially because my jobs take hours, every day, his take maybe 3 hours a week/fortnight. but every time i have a go at him for it he says well this was the agreement we had! grrr

and it takes him forever to do anything i ask him (like hanging his towel up after his shower...) gah why cant males come with a fast forward button (and an off button!!)]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:27:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036297&title=ungratefully-wife#1036297 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : I think you do need to pick your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036284&title=ungratefully-wife#1036284 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:22am

I think you do need to pick your battles, Dh refuses to do the grocery shopping without me, he can't manage by himself.  Its something we just do.

He cleans the shower  which is great, and helps out with the cleaning etc he does his own washing.  Dishes is a bone of contention in our house as he only does them when they've piled up and then complains there is so much to do.

Dh cooking involves buying takeaways. I guess I've gotten used to the way our distribution of chores works and get on with it - if DH moans about the mess I tell him to clean it up.

]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:22:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036284&title=ungratefully-wife#1036284 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : lilfatty wrote: Little_Red...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036271&title=ungratefully-wife#1036271 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:18am

Originally posted by lilfatty lilfatty wrote:

Originally posted by Little_Red Little_Red wrote:

Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments.


I think that only works if the other person actually does their chores.    SD has stuff that really is "his job" but I give up waiting for it to be done and end up doing it myself.


Seriously? That sucks! Maybe my DH is just scared of me It is different for us anyway because we don't have kids and both work full-time so it is only fair to share all of the household chores. This will probably all change drastically when we have a baby.]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:18:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036271&title=ungratefully-wife#1036271 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : lilfatty wrote: Little_Red...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036256&title=ungratefully-wife#1036256 Author: kebakat
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:14am

Originally posted by lilfatty lilfatty wrote:

Originally posted by Little_Red Little_Red wrote:

Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments.


I think that only works if the other person actually does their chores.    SD has stuff that really is "his job" but I give up waiting for it to be done and end up doing it myself.


Same. When I first moved in with DH he told me that one of his older friends and his wife had this deal where he looked after the outside of the house, and she looked after the inside. DH thought this was a brilliant idea and wanted to do it but I'm like nah lol.

We have to wallpaper our living room. Its the one room that is DH's job which he has known about for months. I don't wallpaper but DH does and does a good job of it. Hes meant to be starting tomorrow yet he hasn't even put any size on the walls yet so I highly doubt that its gonna get done tomorrow. Nevermind that we are trying to get our house ready asap to put on the market *rolls eyes*]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:14:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036256&title=ungratefully-wife#1036256 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Little_Red wrote:Is it not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036240&title=ungratefully-wife#1036240 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:07am

Originally posted by Little_Red Little_Red wrote:

Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments.


I think that only works if the other person actually does their chores.    SD has stuff that really is "his job" but I give up waiting for it to be done and end up doing it myself. ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 10:07:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036240&title=ungratefully-wife#1036240 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Is it not possible to separate...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036220&title=ungratefully-wife#1036220 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 9:58am

Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments. ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 09:58:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036220&title=ungratefully-wife#1036220 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Little things annoy me but I try...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036208&title=ungratefully-wife#1036208 Author: kebakat
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 9:53am

Little things annoy me but I try not to get wound up about it (slightly harder with hormone lol). Like hes complaining he is running out of clothes... well do a load of washing idiot! lol]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 09:53:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036208&title=ungratefully-wife#1036208 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Same! My DP is wonderful pretty...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036123&title=ungratefully-wife#1036123 Author: High9
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 9:15am

Same! My DP is wonderful pretty much all the time, but little things pis$ me off!

We're like Huntersmama (Emma), DP is great with Lily, works hard during the day, but comes home and 'relaxes'. He won't change a nappy unless I ask, even if he hears her fill her pants! ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 09:15:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036123&title=ungratefully-wife#1036123 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : I wish DP would do some of that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036115&title=ungratefully-wife#1036115 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 9:13am

I wish DP would do some of that stuff. He does the outside stuff but has to be asked to do inside stuff and even then he procrastinates (sp?) for so long that I end up doing it anyway.]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 09:13:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1036115&title=ungratefully-wife#1036115 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : kebakat wrote: thesaff wrote:Haha,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035980&title=ungratefully-wife#1035980 Author: minik8e
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 7:31am

Originally posted by kebakat kebakat wrote:

Originally posted by thesaff thesaff wrote:

Haha, I understand that feeling completely. My boyfriend does everything I ask of him without delay or complaint....BUT it drives me insane that nothing gets done unless I ask him. The other night he asked "do you want me to...." and it got me really angry. Do it because it NEEDS doing, not just because I want you to dammit!

I do mega appreciate his help, but a little initiative would be nice.


Snap!


Snap too!! Except he doesn't do it without delay/complaint. ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 07:31:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035980&title=ungratefully-wife#1035980 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : thesaff wrote:Haha, I understand...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035976&title=ungratefully-wife#1035976 Author: kebakat
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 7:23am

Originally posted by thesaff thesaff wrote:

Haha, I understand that feeling completely. My boyfriend does everything I ask of him without delay or complaint....BUT it drives me insane that nothing gets done unless I ask him. The other night he asked "do you want me to...." and it got me really angry. Do it because it NEEDS doing, not just because I want you to dammit!

I do mega appreciate his help, but a little initiative would be nice.


Snap!]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 07:23:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035976&title=ungratefully-wife#1035976 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Lucky! My DH is great with DS...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035969&title=ungratefully-wife#1035969 Author: HuntersMama
Subject: 33537
Posted: 21 May 2010 at 7:16am

Lucky! My DH is great with DS and works pretty hard during the day, but when he is home he 'relaxes'!!

Never has cooked dinner once, not that I mind that but doing washing once in a while wouldnt hurt him. He does do a big clean once a month, but likes to shove things in cupboards rather than put them away. ]]> Fri, 21 May 2010 07:16:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035969&title=ungratefully-wife#1035969 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : OMG can we swap pleeeease - mine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035850&title=ungratefully-wife#1035850 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 33537
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 9:45pm

OMG can we swap pleeeease - mine is great with our girl, and he vaccums -and when you ask he will even take out the rubbish - but thats all

And well he is really hot and makes lots of money - so i guess I just persevere ]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 21:45:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035850&title=ungratefully-wife#1035850 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Haha, I understand that feeling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035814&title=ungratefully-wife#1035814 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 33537
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 9:28pm

Haha, I understand that feeling completely. My boyfriend does everything I ask of him without delay or complaint....BUT it drives me insane that nothing gets done unless I ask him. The other night he asked "do you want me to...." and it got me really angry. Do it because it NEEDS doing, not just because I want you to dammit!

I do mega appreciate his help, but a little initiative would be nice.]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 21:28:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035814&title=ungratefully-wife#1035814 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : My DH is wonderful is so many...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035807&title=ungratefully-wife#1035807 Author: LouD
Subject: 33537
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 9:22pm

My DH is wonderful is so many areas as well, but lately ive been finding that i can never buy the RIGHT thing when shopping and he too doesnt make that much of an effort with shopping list unless i pin him down to help me

Case in point, i got him a choc lamington for after dinner from shopping and he goes "didnt they have a raspberry ones"?? and its those sort of comments ive been getting making me feel that hes totally ungrateful for what i DO buy

So i hear ya]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 21:22:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035807&title=ungratefully-wife#1035807 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : Have you actually sat down with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035788&title=ungratefully-wife#1035788 Author: .Mel
Subject: 33537
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 9:07pm

Have you actually sat down with him and gone over this with him?

Don't sweat the small stuff.... Communication is the key!!!!

Don't make me get the phone books out ]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 21:07:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035788&title=ungratefully-wife#1035788 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : I don&#039;t know the answer sorry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035775&title=ungratefully-wife#1035775 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 33537
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 9:03pm

I don't know the answer sorry but you are not alone! My DH is great, doesn't do much housework but spends all weekend building our extension, he is always busy. But it gets right up my nose that he doesn't even see that the lawns need mowing, laughed when I said I would do them, in the end Dad did them for me today!]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 21:03:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035775&title=ungratefully-wife#1035775 <![CDATA[Ungratefully wife : DH is wonderful. He is just great...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035765&title=ungratefully-wife#1035765 Author: mummymonster
Subject: 33537
Posted: 20 May 2010 at 8:58pm

DH is wonderful. He is just great with DS. He does more of the night waking stuff than me. Changes stinky nappies. Washes dishes. Vacuums. Cleans toilets. Cooks about 1/3 the dinners. And loads more.

He however does not have a blinking clue what food is in the kitchen. Can't put a thing on the shopping list. I don't even think he could write a shopping list because that would mean knowing that you need to have food in the cupboard/fridge to make dinner. Like I said he cooks - there's about a few meals he cooks, and if I say "you're on dinner tonight" he'll cook it (and it's yummy) but I need to make sure the right vege/meat is available.

How ungrateful does that sound? He does loads of stuff, why does it irk me so much that he hasn't figured out where food comes from.]]> Thu, 20 May 2010 20:58:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=33537&PID=1035765&title=ungratefully-wife#1035765