OHbaby! Forums : Don’t hog the confession thread https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 20:48:44 +0000 Wed, 23 Jun 2010 10:11:17 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=34208 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I didn&#039;t post about what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073771&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073771 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 10:11am

I didn't post about what I do to brag, because I generally like to keep those kinds of things on the down low, holwever, it was in response to THIS post below, I wanted to show that I'm really not that bad, actually kind and caring, just blunt!!


Originally posted by Renee & Lauren Renee & Lauren wrote:

I agree with things that the first person posted. The way you worded things was a bit off and I don't know you from a bar of soap but how you worded things has got me thinking of what kind of person you really are.
]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 10:11:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073771&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073771 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : ETA what I originally wrote came...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073766&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073766 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 10:08am

ETA what I originally wrote came out totally wrong lol

I'm so impressed that you do a million more things than me and still don't want a medal! I want a medal and a chef for a week and a pamper package wouldn't go astray hey its my bday this week so feel free to all chip in

Edited by Babe]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 10:08:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073766&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073766 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : AandCsmum wrote: Babe wrote: ...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073765&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073765 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 10:07am

Originally posted by AandCsmum AandCsmum wrote:

Originally posted by Babe Babe wrote:


probably once a fortnight I wish I could be transported to an alternate universe where the house was immaculate, I had a 5 star chef, the kids appeared clean and quiet when I wanted to see them then were whisked away when they played up (and I had Heidi Klums body ).


Ahhh You DO have Heidi Klum's body & what's the fun in kids that are clean & tidy


LOL well that was unexpected but much appreciated ]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 10:07:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073765&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073765 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Great post fats, you&#039;re clearly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073578&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073578 Author: clover
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 7:56am

Great post fats, you're clearly a fantastic woman, just a little blunt with it ]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 07:56:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073578&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073578 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : ...thats not to say I don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073517&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073517 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 12:15am

...thats not to say I don't think you aren't awesome Annie, what you do is inspiring . ]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:15:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073517&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073517 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Lies shaz. ,lies , you told me...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073512&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073512 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 12:09am

Lies shaz. ,lies , you told me on the phone tonight that its been your life long DREAM to be the pink one of the "mighty Morphin power rangers"]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:09:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073512&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073512 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : fattartsrock wrote: And to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073511&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073511 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 34208
Posted: 23 June 2010 at 12:01am

Originally posted by fattartsrock fattartsrock wrote:



And to the person who questioned what kind of person I "really" am...

I do counselling. I take meals and baking to mums who are stressed out, broke or just tired. I listen to them and offer practical advice and help.I give food to people out of my own freezer and garden, I give food from these places also to our local food kitchen, I help within various programmes that help at risk mums and families. Once both children are at school I will take up an active role in hospice. We have just applied to take in foster children. Thats what kind of person I am.



Annie, I am in awe of you. I always thought you were pretty fantastic before. But after reading this post, I think I want to BE you.

You rock!!]]> Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:01:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073511&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073511 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Was going to ask a question but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073500&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073500 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 11:32pm

Was going to ask a question but contradicted myself so gave up ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:32:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073500&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073500 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Babe wrote: probably once...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073490&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073490 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 11:09pm

Originally posted by Babe Babe wrote:


probably once a fortnight I wish I could be transported to an alternate universe where the house was immaculate, I had a 5 star chef, the kids appeared clean and quiet when I wanted to see them then were whisked away when they played up (and I had Heidi Klums body ).


Ahhh You DO have Heidi Klum's body & what's the fun in kids that are clean & tidy

I love the days that I get told I'm a mean mum or I hate you cause I know I'm doing a great job & am not a pushover ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:09:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073490&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073490 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : ooops shame on my undies for not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073484&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073484 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 11:01pm

ooops shame on my undies for not taking this thread seriously.... but i am already a fats fan! but i didnt know about ALLLL the stuff you do, i feel slightly inadequate myself now! Might just have to make you that medal!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:01:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073484&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073484 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : arohanui wrote: joshierocks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073404&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073404 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 9:59pm

Originally posted by arohanui arohanui wrote:

Originally posted by joshierocks joshierocks wrote:



I've been a member of this forum for almost 5 years, and I guess I was lucky in that there were only about 20 'hardcore' members back then, and we were able to discuss things without hurt feelings.



Have you guys ever had hurt feelings? I got hurt feelings.



LOL

Annie sometimes I dont agree with what you say/think, but you are an awesome lady and have really helped me in the past, so I have nothing bad to say about you! ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 21:59:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073404&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073404 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Mum2Mac wrote:I feel like yelling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073353&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073353 Author: caraMel
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 9:25pm

Originally posted by Mum2Mac Mum2Mac wrote:

I feel like yelling "Right on!" at FTR's last post.


Likes.

Also, thanks Kelly! You made me LOL annnnnd I'm quite enjoying having that song stuck in my head now ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 21:25:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073353&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073353 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I feel like yelling &#034;Right...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073335&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073335 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 9:11pm

I feel like yelling "Right on!" at FTR's last post. ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 21:11:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073335&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073335 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : fattartsrock wrote: And Mel,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073274&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073274 Author: .Mel
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 8:44pm

Originally posted by fattartsrock fattartsrock wrote:


And Mel, HELL YES TO BON JOVI!!!!!!!! Did you even need to ask???!!!!! Thats my boyfriend!!!!


Yeah I had to ask...

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 20:44:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073274&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073274 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : And Kelly, yes, I am ok, i am...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073248&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073248 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 8:30pm

And Kelly, yes, I am ok, i am ok, I am ok, kelly

And Mel, HELL YES TO BON JOVI!!!!!!!! Did you even need to ask???!!!!! Thats my boyfriend!!!!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 20:30:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073248&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073248 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Lol Emz, thanks, thats awesome!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073242&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073242 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 8:28pm

Lol Emz, thanks, thats awesome!

We do see more eye to eye now we had that blow out, I think, and I think its because we both say it as we see it, so therefore have come up "against" each other more. (although I am a little more blunt than you, lol)

I was thinking about *that* argument today and thinking along the same lines. I often find that in real life, people are most sensitive over things they haven't made their own peace with IYGWIM and same is true online - possible more becasue they come online to find friendship/fellowship in similar problems.

And its true, I have been rude and should have perhaps self censored, however, thats" just not the way I roll" lol.

I think I felt inscensed by the "minimising SAHM" comment as I don't believe that by saying I think being a SAHM mum is not that hard minimises what SAHM's do. I was simply stating that I actually don't think its that hard. Thats in ME personally dosen't find it that hard. That's not to say I have never found it hard, becasue I have, that I don't have bad days (like today was a sh*tter and by the time 6.15 rolled around I was so glad to be rid of them!) Or that I am perfect or better than anyone or anything like that, I simply said that i don't think it's that hard, and I'm not sure how that statement minimises what SAHM do. And we could debate it till the cows come home and still not agree.
I have been both a working mum and a SAHM.
I have never used a dayare centre ever
I have fought with depression my entire adult life and still battle with it occasionally
some days I really dislike being a parent full stop
I juggle numerous volunteer works as well as 2 part time/casual jobs, owning a business (with my DH) and being mum.
And I don't think I am better than anybody else, nor do I want a medal for doing what I have CHOSEN to do, which is to be a parent, one who stays home, sacrifices goodness knows what as well as running a bloody tidy house, healthy meals and happy husband. I CHOOSE to do this. thsi is my job and it is as easy or hard as I make it.

And, just to be a completely rude,i don't think that a bunch of PM's agreeing with your viewpoint makes you right or the winner, because there is no winner here, and nor should there be

And to the person who questioned what kind of person I "really" am...

I do counselling. I take meals and baking to mums who are stressed out, broke or just tired. I listen to them and offer practical advice and help.I give food to people out of my own freezer and garden, I give food from these places also to our local food kitchen, I help within various programmes that help at risk mums and families. Once both children are at school I will take up an active role in hospice. We have just applied to take in foster children. Thats what kind of person I am.

I am also blunt. I do not sugar coat. I am not a yes man. And I am good at what I do.
Do I want a medal? NO, however, I don't appreciate a slur on my character because I choose to be honest.

Thank you all for being honest with me.

Edited by fattartsrock]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 20:28:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073242&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073242 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : If she&#039;d just said that she...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073241&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073241 Author: anon
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 8:28pm

If she'd just said that she didn't find it hard, it would be fine... but she said she got annoyed when people groaned about being a SAHM being hard work and then described how easy the job was. Argh - I said I wasn't going to say anymore....

Edited by newlywed]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 20:28:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073241&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073241 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Well... haven&#039;t read it all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073162&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073162 Author: emz
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 7:47pm

Well... haven't read it all but here goes

You usually irritate the cra*p out of me Annie, but recently I'm thinking more and more along your lines it seems, as I'm agreeing with you a lot more.

You're just so damn blunt that it can be misconstrued - it depends on what you choose to interpret from it I think. I don't think being a SAHM in general is hard, so I was able to read your posts without feeling attacked. Others who are on the defence may though.

Who taught me to think like that? YOU DID! When we were having a BF/FF debate and you said that FF may already be sensitive because of having/choosing to FF, and that the pro-BF comments were not a dig. Maybe some people need to apply the same logic now ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 19:47:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073162&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073162 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : lol, Kellys right, I didnt say...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073152&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073152 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 7:41pm

lol, Kellys right, I didnt say you had to be good... just sing your heart out... and if we all sound like shyte, then even better, makes us human

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 19:41:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073152&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073152 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Crap now I feel like I have to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073093&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073093 Author: Nutella
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 6:52pm

Crap now I feel like I have to post when I only looked in the thread to see who was hogging the confession thread lol...]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 18:52:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073093&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073093 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Sounds good BK and Deb, noone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073075&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073075 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 6:42pm

Sounds good BK

and Deb, noone said you had to sing well

now look , im hogging the don't hog thread , sorry Fats ! ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 18:42:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073075&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073075 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : bugger, that rules me out of that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073059&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073059 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 6:30pm

bugger, that rules me out of that clique then - i dont sing! and i was going to volunteer my new house as a meeting house for the clique! *sulks*]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 18:30:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073059&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073059 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Oooh yes Kelly, you and I shall...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073040&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073040 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 6:22pm

Oooh yes Kelly, you and I shall set up a clique for anyone to join while we have our secret coffee session tomorrow (11am at MB as per usual??)... and singing is a prerequisite for joining!!!



And Arohanui, I that song, cracks me up every time!!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 18:22:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073040&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073040 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : i confess kelly that i didnt mind...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073011&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073011 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 5:58pm

i confess kelly that i didnt mind that song at all !!

ah shoot - wrong thread! LOL!

very well sung i must say!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 17:58:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1073011&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1073011 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Annie Are You OK? So, Annie Are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072948&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072948 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 5:20pm

Annie Are You OK?
So, Annie Are You OK
Are You OK, Annie
Annie Are You OK?
So, Annie Are You OK
Are You OK, Annie
Annie Are You OK?
So, Annie Are You OK?
Are You OK, Annie?
Annie Are You OK?
So, Annie Are You Ok, Are You Ok, Annie?

(Annie Are You OK?)
(Will You Tell Us That You're OK?)
(There's A Sign In The Window)
(That He Struck You - A Crescendo Annie)
(He Came Into Your Apartment)
(He Left The Bloodstains On The Carpet)
(Then You Ran Into The Bedroom)
(You Were Struck Down)
(It Was Your Doom)


haha! Im not sure why im in this thread , cos I don't have a problem with anyone on here , particularly Fats and im sorry if anyone feels left out , I will always try and include people , and If im having a discussion with someone on here , and you have some views you would like to share, feel free to do so, I might not always agree , but I will happily read them , I like it when new people post cos despite having long time friends on here, I like getting to know the new members as well and they become friends .

Oh , yeah , and I also put that song cos I knew how much Bizzy LOVES it , when I sing

But im sorry Deb , I just couldn't resist

...you know you love me , ex oh ex oh , "Gossip girl " ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 17:20:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072948&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072948 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Babykatnz wrote: no idea what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072934&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072934 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 5:11pm

Originally posted by Babykatnz Babykatnz wrote:


no idea what the PMs are about though... guess I'm not part of that clique But I DO know Kelly... so does that mean I'm part of HER clique??


Yes ,yes it does, coffee tomorrow so we can discuss all the loons on here ?

Kidding guys , totes mcgotes kidding, you know I love you all ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 17:11:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072934&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072934 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Bizzy wrote:she said bum bums!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072931&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072931 Author: .Mel
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 5:07pm

Originally posted by Bizzy Bizzy wrote:

she said bum bums!!!! ummmmm!!!!!


]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 17:07:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072931&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072931 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : she said bum bums!!!! ummmmm!!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072916&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072916 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 5:00pm

she said bum bums!!!! ummmmm!!!!! ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 17:00:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072916&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072916 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I just think everyone needs to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072840&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072840 Author: .Mel
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 4:18pm

I just think everyone needs to put their big girl knickers on and just move on to something else like the fact that if you can't settle these little snitches I'll get the damn phone books out and beat your bum bums!

Annie, I just want to know if you are going to Bon Jovi or not? Dumb question??

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:18:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072840&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072840 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : newlywed wrote:I spoke up because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072833&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072833 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 4:14pm

Originally posted by newlywed newlywed wrote:

I spoke up because of how you might have made others feel inadequate, fattarts, and it turns out a few found it either offensive or they felt inadequate. I have to say that even though I'm used to standing up for what I believe in, I'm not used to this level of backlash and I also feel gutted for having had so many people get on my case for merely disagreeing.

I usually stand up for things when I feel people are being unkind - because kindness is something I value highly. And I don't like it when people are ignored or left out either. I will defend people even when they don't really need it.

I am usually respectful unless I feel attacked and then I can get pretty angry and say things I regret. But I will always apologize if someone speaks to me about it and I see that I was wrong.

I am astonished at the level of response this has all got to - to me it is completely out of hand. I cannot believe an entire thread has been devoted to this! I don't want to take part in this anymore. To me it is really petty and it is bringing out the cattiness in all of us.

Anyone who has PMd me I don't know well at all so there is no clique there... but I think it is helpful for people to be aware that there are quite a number of people who feel ignored, excluded and left out of conversations in the threads and that's not a very nice feeling - much nicer to welcome people as best you can. That doesn't require a whole lot of effort in my opinion.

I just can't bear to be a part of this whole thing so will leave you all to it! As Heidi has said elsewhere, tihs is bringing out the worst in all of us! Think claws need to be retracted and we just need to get on with other topics.


There is a heated topic thread on one thing or another floating around OB pretty regularly. If you are unfortunate enough to get caught up in one without meaning too it can suck (I generally wade in quite happily with my 2c worth ) but another topic will come up soon enough to distract the hordes (see? that right there may divert someone can't think why but y'never know ). Anyway catch a hug coz I worry that you're feeling upset!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:14:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072833&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072833 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : newlywed wrote:just need to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072818&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072818 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 4:09pm

Originally posted by newlywed newlywed wrote:

just need to get on with other topics.


yes, like my thread about my house!!!!!

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:09:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072818&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072818 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : LOL primo Liz! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072814&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072814 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 4:07pm

LOL primo Liz!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:07:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072814&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072814 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I spoke up because of how you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072810&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072810 Author: anon
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 4:05pm

I spoke up because of how you might have made others feel inadequate, fattarts, and it turns out a few found it either offensive or they felt inadequate. I have to say that even though I'm used to standing up for what I believe in, I'm not used to this level of backlash and I also feel gutted for having had so many people get on my case for merely disagreeing.

I usually stand up for things when I feel people are being unkind - because kindness is something I value highly. And I don't like it when people are ignored or left out either. I will defend people even when they don't really need it.

I am usually respectful unless I feel attacked and then I can get pretty angry and say things I regret. But I will always apologize if someone speaks to me about it and I see that I was wrong.

I am astonished at the level of response this has all got to - to me it is completely out of hand. I cannot believe an entire thread has been devoted to this! I don't want to take part in this anymore. To me it is really petty and it is bringing out the cattiness in all of us.

Anyone who has PMd me I don't know well at all so there is no clique there... but I think it is helpful for people to be aware that there are quite a number of people who feel ignored, excluded and left out of conversations in the threads and that's not a very nice feeling - much nicer to welcome people as best you can. That doesn't require a whole lot of effort in my opinion.

I just can't bear to be a part of this whole thing so will leave you all to it! As Heidi has said elsewhere, tihs is bringing out the worst in all of us! Think claws need to be retracted and we just need to get on with other topics.

Edited by newlywed]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:05:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072810&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072810 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Yeah!!! I love it LOL. Nice...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072808&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072808 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 4:04pm

Yeah!!! I love it LOL.

Nice one Liz ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:04:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072808&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072808 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : joshierocks wrote: I&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072785&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072785 Author: arohanui
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 3:52pm

Originally posted by joshierocks joshierocks wrote:



I've been a member of this forum for almost 5 years, and I guess I was lucky in that there were only about 20 'hardcore' members back then, and we were able to discuss things without hurt feelings.



Have you guys ever had hurt feelings? I got hurt feelings.



Edited by arohanui]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:52:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072785&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072785 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : joshierocks wrote: if you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072774&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072774 Author: heaf3
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 3:46pm

Originally posted by joshierocks joshierocks wrote:


if you have a problem with something then discuss it with the person directly.



i agree, perhaps instead of PMing behind someones back maybe PM the person you have a problem with in the first place so the forum doesnt get so heated.....

and yeah FTR says things as she sees it, nothing wrong with being honest.

i dont like some of the comments on here (forum in general) from different people but im not going to get all bent out of shape about it. everyone has the right to voice their opinion, its just a shame it has to end up like this.

aside from that i really cant comment as im not a mum yet so have no experience on either side of the fence and am no "expert".]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:46:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072774&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072774 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : LOL I was frantically searching...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072750&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072750 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 3:34pm

LOL I was frantically searching for the 'like' button before it clicked that I was back on OB....]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:34:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072750&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072750 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Personally I&#039;m not happy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072749&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072749 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 3:34pm

Personally I'm not happy that FT started a whole thread just for people to have a go at her

I agree with pretty much everything you said hun. A lot of people on here whinge and complain about their lot in life, but when someone stands up and says something about that fact they get slated for it. And not even to their face - a whole pile of backstabbing PM's amongst the ones who felt slighted.

Parenting is HARD. However you choose to do it, its hard.

This forum is meant to be for support, advice, and hopefully, a bit of healthy debate. There is nothing wrong with people disagreeing, nor is there anything wrong with pointing out to people that there are ways to counter the parts we find hard. Its difficult though, as we all know, writing things down comes with the added frustration of not being able to hear the tone with which the posts are being made.

I've been a member of this forum for almost 5 years, and I guess I was lucky in that there were only about 20 'hardcore' members back then, and we were able to discuss things without hurt feelings. Its great there are so many more on here now, but I reckon we just need to cut each other some slack and if you have a problem with something then discuss it with the person directly.

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:34:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072749&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072749 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I just think FTR calls a spade...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072739&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072739 Author: RinTinTin
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 3:31pm

I just think FTR calls a spade a spade, simple as that.
No beating around the bush, no fluffy talk, she just lays it out there. She's aware and prepared for the fact that she may offend some people, but she doesn't apologise for her views or try to pretty it over for anyone.

I like that in a person. You know exactly where you stand with them and if you don't like it then either walk away or stand and fight.

FTR is my kind of person.]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:31:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072739&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072739 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I agree with things that the first...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072710&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072710 Author: Renee & Lauren
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 3:17pm

I agree with things that the first person posted. The way you worded things was a bit off and I don't know you from a bar of soap but how you worded things has got me thinking of what kind of person you really are.]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:17:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072710&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072710 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Just have to say I&#039;m glad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072665&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072665 Author: arohanui
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 2:54pm

Just have to say I'm glad that people are actually saying what they think instead of just pming!!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:54:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072665&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072665 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : You know all parenting has its...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072546&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072546 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 2:10pm

You know all parenting has its challenges and difficulties, at times it can be pretty hard and other times its a complete and utter joy.

Doesn't matter if your a SAHM or going to work, which was the only point I was trying to make.

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:10:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072546&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072546 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Meh .. im used to people making...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072472&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072472 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:48pm

Meh .. im used to people making veiled attacks about me in the vent thread, cryptic thread and any other thread they can think of ... you just get used to it Annie

I haven't been into the thread in question much, but It still utterly astounds me that people get so het up about someones elses opinion ... if staying at home is as hard as they make out to be, there shouldn't be loads of people on this forum discussing the topic, they should be slaving away doing mothering stuff. ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:48:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072472&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072472 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I dont get involved in this stuff...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072470&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072470 Author: IVFGirl1111
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:48pm

I dont get involved in this stuff - but while Im here I'll say - Why keep all this going after it had settled down?!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:48:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072470&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072470 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Meh... i think everyones entitled...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072449&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072449 Author: julz85
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:40pm

Meh... i think everyones entitled to their own opinions and its all got a bit out of hand,

heres mine- being a SAHM may be alot harder for one person than the other due to alot of reasons , support from partner (emotional and physcial) , the childs behaviour (some children are alot easier than others) , age of children  (newborns are not easy, i dont care what people say ), size of house (i know this sounds silly but i got sooooo much more stressed when i was at home all day with Amelia in a very small confined one bedroom house, its alot easier having more room and in a proper house ), help of family and friends , and alot of other reasons . Just because one person may have it quite easy does not mean everyone has it exactly the same , every family is different and until you have lived in that families shoes then i dont think anyone really knows if its easy or not .

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:40:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072449&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072449 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Fattrarts - Yeah I did think you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072428&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072428 Author: BeLoved
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:32pm

Fattrarts - Yeah I did think you were being harsh to NW and yeah I did PM her to say not to take any notice and get too caught up in any of it, and I am not afraid to say that publicly either.

I have been around these forums for over 2 years and it has never been my aim to fit in or not. I myself have been ridiculed, ignored and disagreed with in the past and present on here. It bothered me in the beginning but I could care less now, I just like to have a place to come too to ask advice when there is something in regards to parenting or my DD that I need some outside input on.

I think the clique thing comes from the fact that being ignored and generally made to feel on the outer is normal behaviour exhibited by a clique and that does happen on here.

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:32:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072428&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072428 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : me too... ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072427&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072427 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:31pm

me too...]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:31:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072427&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072427 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : caliandjack wrote:Ha ha 176...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072422&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072422 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:29pm

Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:

Ha ha 176 views and only 12 posts.   

I admit I am some of those views cos when someone posts something I want to see what they have written after me.

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:29:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072422&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072422 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Ha ha 176 views and only 12 posts....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072415&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072415 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:28pm

Ha ha 176 views and only 12 posts.   

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:28:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072415&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072415 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I don&#039;t think your rude at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072409&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072409 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:27pm

I don't think your rude at all.  

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:27:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072409&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072409 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : rude rude rude rude!!!! oh and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072396&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072396 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 1:22pm

rude rude rude rude!!!! oh and fat too!!!

tart!!!!!!




]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 13:22:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072396&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072396 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : clover wrote:I don&#039;t think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072313&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072313 Author: kebakat
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:42pm

Originally posted by clover clover wrote:

I don't think your opinion was wrong, but I do think you were very harsh in the way you communicated it. You and newlywed are at very different stages in your SAHM "career" and perhaps is why you can't understand each others feelings on the matter. Unfortunately you were on completely oposing sides of the fence and were never going to agree but I do think that both of you came across as fairly rude in some of your posts.


I think this sums up what I was thinking too.

Some days I find it easy others I find it very difficult and can not wait to be asleep!]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:42:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072313&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072313 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I&#039;ve been a SAHM with my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072312&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072312 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:41pm

I've been a SAHM with my first baby, then a working mum with one preschooler, and now I am a SAHM to a schoolboy and baby/toddler and I cant really pick which of the latter 2 is the hardest...

I have skim read a lot of to-ing and fro-ing with the posts aimed at each other and I dont see what the arguing is about... We are all entitled to our own opinions, its a shame we cant all voice them in a way that wont be seen as 'attacking' but thats the downside to having such an open forum such as this... noone knows what tone it was 'said' in, so it is percieved exactly as we read it...

All that aside... its a shame that the original idea of the thread has gotten off track again, so well done Fattartsrock for taking the initiative to remove the debate from what was supposed to be a tongue in cheek thread

no idea what the PMs are about though... guess I'm not part of that clique But I DO know Kelly... so does that mean I'm part of HER clique?? ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:41:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072312&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072312 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : freckle wrote:Babe I hear what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072301&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072301 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:37pm

Originally posted by freckle freckle wrote:

Babe I hear what your saying and it works the other way too... when I hear people say how hard it is, when I find it easy I think maybe I'm not doing enough... but really we all have different personalities, different life experiences with which we compare our current situations and different kids so what one person finds hard another may not... that's life I guess


Haha I totally get your point!! As things get easier (which they are!) I have days where everything flows so great and I'm so happy then I wonder what I've missed that I should be worrying over ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:37:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072301&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072301 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I don&#039;t think your opinion...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072287&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072287 Author: clover
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:30pm

I don't think your opinion was wrong, but I do think you were very harsh in the way you communicated it. You and newlywed are at very different stages in your SAHM "career" and perhaps is why you can't understand each others feelings on the matter. Unfortunately you were on completely oposing sides of the fence and were never going to agree but I do think that both of you came across as fairly rude in some of your posts.

Anyway, nothing at all against you personally and I've no "side" to take but I can see why some people may have taken some of what you wrote personally.]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:30:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072287&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072287 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Babe I hear what your saying and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072286&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072286 Author: freckle
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:29pm

Babe I hear what your saying and it works the other way too... when I hear people say how hard it is, when I find it easy I think maybe I'm not doing enough... but really we all have different personalities, different life experiences with which we compare our current situations and different kids so what one person finds hard another may not... that's life I guess ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:29:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072286&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072286 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : I have no probs whatsoever with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072277&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072277 Author: Babe
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:24pm

I have no probs whatsoever with you Annie, I think you're fantastic!

I do find it difficult when others (anybody, certainly not just you) say being a SAHM is easy and so on because I then start wondering what I'm doing to make things so hard if its not supposed to be coz I don't always find easy (make sense?). I'm constantly second-guessing myself as a mum and the first two years parenting Jake were hideous for me. I did have alot of other stuff going on but I feel like I've somehow failed my kids because it hasn't been a breeze.

I yell and cry, I don't get the housework done to my satisfaction alot of the time, I get frustrated by the sometimes constant interruptions, I get confused by all the different advice, the lack of language skills drives me nuts on occasion, having to get down and play 2yo games bores me senseless some days, I worry constantly that I'm not providing enough love, stimulation, patience and learning, and probably once a fortnight I wish I could be transported to an alternate universe where the house was immaculate, I had a 5 star chef, the kids appeared clean and quiet when I wanted to see them then were whisked away when they played up (and I had Heidi Klums body ).

I love being a SAHM and I adore my kids but parenting for me is NOT just easy and reading that it apparently should be is quite gutting when I'm struggling to figure this whole parenting thing out. In saying that I can see that it'll be easier when they get abit older and also easier the more I have coz I'll have abit more experience behind me IYKWIM ]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:24:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072277&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072277 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Annie, you are a rude cow!!! JK,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072273&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072273 Author: caraMel
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:22pm

Annie, you are a rude cow!!!
JK, I think you're awesome
I esp like your taste in music.]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:22:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072273&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072273 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : It&#039;s 43 now! I confess...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072268&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072268 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:19pm

It's 43 now!

I confess I had to go into the confessions thread to get why you'd started this. The PMing.....duh

I'm inclined to agree with FT so this isn't the thread for me, basically I agree as for the 2 years before I had C, I didn't have a lunch break cause I was running A between caregiver & kindy cause stupid caregiver didn't have a car! So yep being at home for me is far easier on me than the constant running around, plus workload I HAD to get done.]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:19:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072268&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072268 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : Haha 21 views and no one has said...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072224&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072224 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 12:00pm

Haha 21 views and no one has said anything.

I don't want to pick a fight Annie, cos I love you to pieces BUT...

You say being a SAHM is easy, I remember when we were both SAHM's with newborns and active 2 and 3 year olds and it was hard work and wasn't easy. Maybe the wording could have been better on both sides (I didn't bother to read the posts but I kinda know what you are talking about). Being a SAHM with newborns and toddlers is hardwork but once they get older it is a lot easier.

Don't bag me cos I am the first to say something cos I still love you.

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 12:00:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072224&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072224 <![CDATA[Don’t hog the confession thread : With your veiled but un named...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072198&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072198 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 34208
Posted: 22 June 2010 at 11:49am

With your veiled but un named posts about how rude I am.

Have the balls to say it to my face!!!! Here is a thread all of its own, and when I come back later this arvo, I expect to see it full!

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2010 11:49:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34208&PID=1072198&title=dont-hog-the-confession-thread#1072198