OHbaby! Forums : Single Parents UNITE! https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 16 Apr 2026 07:17:25 +0000 Wed, 11 Jul 2012 21:21:11 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=34860 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : By the way - I&#039;m not sure...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5805531&title=single-parents-unite#5805531 Author: mummyslittlewhirlwind
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Posted: 11 July 2012 at 9:21pm

By the way - I'm not sure if it would be in the budget for most?? But there is a Singles Charity Ball coming up that I'm going along to supporting a charity as the name suggests called "Mothers Helpers". If you are interested, you'd have to be in quick - only a few more days to buy tickets. It's on Saturday 21st July in Ponsonby and 200 singles going!!]]> Wed, 11 Jul 2012 21:21:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5805531&title=single-parents-unite#5805531 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Oh and I&#039;ve been a single...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5805411&title=single-parents-unite#5805411 Author: mummyslittlewhirlwind
Subject: 34860
Posted: 10 July 2012 at 11:49pm

Oh and I've been a single mum for 2yrs now and yes there are Single Groups around:

On Facebook: Single Latte and "NZ Single Parents"
Auckland: Auckland Single Parents Trust
Nationwide: Birthright NZ

Hope that helps!]]> Tue, 10 Jul 2012 23:49:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5805411&title=single-parents-unite#5805411 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hey everyone I just wanted to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5805410&title=single-parents-unite#5805410 Author: mummyslittlewhirlwind
Subject: 34860
Posted: 10 July 2012 at 11:48pm

Hey everyone

I just wanted to share my Blog as a single mum recovering from separation following a marriage and my journey as it unfolds. If you're interested, it's here:
Blog

It's a follow on from my first Blog called 54firstdates.

Thanks ]]> Tue, 10 Jul 2012 23:48:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5805410&title=single-parents-unite#5805410 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hannahemily, have you thought...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5793014&title=single-parents-unite#5793014 Author: Kiwilaw Cheryl
Subject: 34860
Posted: 14 April 2012 at 10:07pm

Hannahemily, have you thought about using the free counselling available through the Family Court? - especially if your baby's daddy could be persuaded to go too - maybe you could help him understand that your baby needs him to be daddy.... The Family Court pays for up to 6 sessions. The actual counselling is done by private providers who send their bill to the Court. No other information goes to the Court, other than who attended counselling on what dates, and whether agreement was reached. The other thing that may possibly help is the "Parenting Through Separation" courses and literature available through the Family Court - there's some good stuff that tries to explain to separated parents how to treat each other so that their child is okay even though they are not living together. ]]> Sat, 14 Apr 2012 22:07:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5793014&title=single-parents-unite#5793014 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hannahemily, families come in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5784134&title=single-parents-unite#5784134 Author: cheekymouse
Subject: 34860
Posted: 29 February 2012 at 7:34pm

Hannahemily, families come in all shapes and sizes. My ex left us when DS was 3 months old. I wanted the family unit and everything, but the best thing for us was to be separate, myself and my son who is now about 20months are so much happier. DS still sees his father every 2nd weekend overnight.

I am now 27, went back to work when DS was 5 months old so I could do my best to provide the best life I could for DS. He doesn't know any different, and yup I still have weeks that are utter crap where I think about what could have been, but now over a year on and with a partner ( we dont live together) who treats me and DS with love, respect and understanding I can wholeheartedly say that not being part of the family unit that I had dreamed of was the best for DS and me!

Yup, my life has changed and it may not have gone on the path that I wanted, but we are still chugging along and making a new path and new plans. You are still young and have plenty to look forward to. It's always hard to start with but in the end things will fall into place.

Sorry for the ramble, just thought I would share my story with u and let you know that it will get better.]]> Wed, 29 Feb 2012 19:34:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5784134&title=single-parents-unite#5784134 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : in Point Chev ! I had a complete...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5784067&title=single-parents-unite#5784067 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 29 February 2012 at 3:08pm

in Point Chev ! I had a complete melt down lastnight! had kept it together thus far, but my baby's daddy is being such a bas*ard to me... :-( I so dotn deserve this..I know that our relastionship will never work, and I have now come to the relisation that being a family wont work.. because hes too much off a controlling,jelous Arse.
I guess its hard tho , like razzmatazz said everyone everywhere I go is like a happy couple,all the groups that I go to thw mothers are married and seem to have these successful carrers behind them, and Im 25 a single mother .. living at home with my parents and still trying to figure out what I want to do..I just feel so useless and guess I want that so much for my son to have a loving mother and father unit,as thats what I didnt have in my life.... I dont regret having ryder one little bit, but I want the best for him and Im so scared that Im letting him down by not having that family unit ]]> Wed, 29 Feb 2012 15:08:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5784067&title=single-parents-unite#5784067 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : where a bouts in auckland are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5784017&title=single-parents-unite#5784017 Author: NewPhoenix
Subject: 34860
Posted: 29 February 2012 at 12:11pm

where a bouts in auckland are you hannahemily?]]> Wed, 29 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5784017&title=single-parents-unite#5784017 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : oh and Im angelique ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5783939&title=single-parents-unite#5783939 Author: razzmatazz
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 February 2012 at 11:21pm

oh and Im angelique ]]> Tue, 28 Feb 2012 23:21:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5783939&title=single-parents-unite#5783939 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : argh just realised how slack...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5783938&title=single-parents-unite#5783938 Author: razzmatazz
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 February 2012 at 11:17pm

argh just realised how slack I am . Hello again , yay there is lots of us, sometimes it feels like everyone else is happily coupled haha
I've just got back from visiting family in chch for 2 weeks. Gotta say I'm glad to be home    how is everyone else ??]]> Tue, 28 Feb 2012 23:17:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5783938&title=single-parents-unite#5783938 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hi EVERYONE !!!!! I havnt been...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5783580&title=single-parents-unite#5783580 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 27 February 2012 at 6:46pm

Hi EVERYONE !!!!!

I havnt been on here for so long ! been so busy with my wee boy who is 13 weeks now ! :-) is anyone in auckland and know of any single parents groups?? I have been to a few "coffee groups" and I cant help but feel very left out ! everyone is married and heres little old me,a single mother at 25.... it would be great to connect with some like minded people who have similar issues face to face! this form is a great place to chat though ]]> Mon, 27 Feb 2012 18:46:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=5783580&title=single-parents-unite#5783580 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hi All! Hope you don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1428378&title=single-parents-unite#1428378 Author: mummymax
Subject: 34860
Posted: 04 February 2012 at 9:45pm

Hi All!
Hope you don't mind if I jump in too!
I'm 31 with 2 daughters, 6yrs and 14 months....My husband and I split 16 months ago, and I am counting the days until I can file for divorce! I am in Christchurch.]]> Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:45:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1428378&title=single-parents-unite#1428378 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Thanks Shelt:)Hi Free2BeMe...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427918&title=single-parents-unite#1427918 Author: KirstyO
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 February 2012 at 9:04pm

Thanks Shelt:)

Hi Free2BeMe - wow, 3 boys huh?  That must be a real handful for you!  I can barely cope with 2!  How do you do it?

]]> Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:04:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427918&title=single-parents-unite#1427918 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hi Rachmatazz, KirstyO and Free2BeMe....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427879&title=single-parents-unite#1427879 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 February 2012 at 7:10pm

Hi Rachmatazz, KirstyO and Free2BeMe. I look forward to hearing more from you

I've been hanging around here for a while I'm 29 and my DD is 3. I split with her dad when she was 11 months old.]]> Thu, 02 Feb 2012 19:10:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427879&title=single-parents-unite#1427879 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hi I&#039;m Ang, single mum to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427651&title=single-parents-unite#1427651 Author: Free2BeMe
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 February 2012 at 9:31am

Hi I'm Ang, single mum to 3 boys, who are 8, 6 and 3.

I've been single about 2.5 years now, the boys dad still lives in Aust, (I'm a kiwi and brought the boys home after the split) so they see him only every few months...

I'm in Whangarei.]]> Thu, 02 Feb 2012 09:31:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427651&title=single-parents-unite#1427651 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hi Razzmatazz:)I&#039;m just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427569&title=single-parents-unite#1427569 Author: KirstyO
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 February 2012 at 10:30pm

Hi Razzmatazz:)

I'm just new here myself - welcome!  It's so awesome to have a place like this where single parents can join together and share stuff:)

Hope to get to know you better.

I'm also in my early thirties, with 2 kiddies, 3 years & 5 months.  Been single for almost a year now.  Im in the sunny BOP.

]]> Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:30:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427569&title=single-parents-unite#1427569 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : hello everyone :) yay for a single...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427562&title=single-parents-unite#1427562 Author: razzmatazz
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 February 2012 at 10:21pm

hello everyone :)
yay for a single parents group !
I'll catch up on posts but firstly hi ! I'm 31, and have 3 kids, 12, 9 and 4. I've been single parent for 2 years now and for a year also a few years back. Living just out of wellington, away from family etc (moved from chch in march)
Just wanted to introduce myself etc ]]> Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:21:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1427562&title=single-parents-unite#1427562 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I work 30 hrs/wk at the moment,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1425301&title=single-parents-unite#1425301 Author: minik8e
Subject: 34860
Posted: 24 January 2012 at 10:01pm

I work 30 hrs/wk at the moment, although I have just got myself a new job which will be 8.30-5 Mon-Fri and I start next week. I was on the DPB for the first year after we separated - worked part-time and got a DPB topup.]]> Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:01:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1425301&title=single-parents-unite#1425301 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I work, and have done since DD...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1425278&title=single-parents-unite#1425278 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 24 January 2012 at 8:51pm

I work, and have done since DD was 4.5months old. I work between 27.5hrs - 30hrs a week in the summer and about 32/33hrs a week in the winter. I tried working some of my hours from home when DD was younger. It worked really well when she was little and had two sleeps a day. It was harder when she went down to one sleep coz it wasn't enough time to get stuff done, and when she cut out her day sleep completely it fell apart. I ended up doing most of the work at night which made me tired and cranky and when she was sick her sleep went AWOL and I just couldn't get a consistent go at getting the work done. I just do my hours in the office now, its easier that way.]]> Tue, 24 Jan 2012 20:51:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1425278&title=single-parents-unite#1425278 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : A quick question - Do many...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1424790&title=single-parents-unite#1424790 Author: KirstyO
Subject: 34860
Posted: 23 January 2012 at 11:12am

A quick question - Do many of you guys work?  Fulltime/parttime?  Work from home?  Are you on DPB?

 

]]> Mon, 23 Jan 2012 11:12:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1424790&title=single-parents-unite#1424790 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Ahh ... My son turned 3 last...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1424789&title=single-parents-unite#1424789 Author: KirstyO
Subject: 34860
Posted: 23 January 2012 at 11:10am

Ahh ... My son turned 3 last week so I've been able to increase his hours at preschool a bit Hooray!!  Now I can spend a bit of one-on-one time with my 5 month old.  Going to make myself a nice cup of tea now ... luxury, haha!]]> Mon, 23 Jan 2012 11:10:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1424789&title=single-parents-unite#1424789 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I think she may just enjoy having...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1422717&title=single-parents-unite#1422717 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 14 January 2012 at 7:54am

I think she may just enjoy having her mama to herself. No work no daycare she prop thinks she is in heaven, that and kids love attention the more the get the more they want ]]> Sat, 14 Jan 2012 07:54:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1422717&title=single-parents-unite#1422717 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Yeah I can imagine its difficult...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1422630&title=single-parents-unite#1422630 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 13 January 2012 at 7:52pm

Yeah I can imagine its difficult with a baby as well KirstyO. I had some sucess this week with making sure I spent quite a bit of one on one time with her, playing with her for a good period of time on an activity and then leaving her to it for increasing periods of time. That and taking her to the park and for lots of walks to wear her out! I think (I hope) its just a stage. She's back to daycare on Monday so it will be interesting to see what she's like next week.

Hope everyone else is going well.]]> Fri, 13 Jan 2012 19:52:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1422630&title=single-parents-unite#1422630 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Shelt wrote:I feel bad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1421095&title=single-parents-unite#1421095 Author: KirstyO
Subject: 34860
Posted: 08 January 2012 at 8:20pm

Originally posted by Shelt Shelt wrote:

I feel bad because she just wants to play with me all the time but I would like to do a few things for myself and I'm finding it tough to balance housework, chores (cooking dinner etc), playing with her and having a few minutes for myself. Not sure why because its just been the two of us for a looong time now but seems like she is just so much more demanding than she used to be. She wants me to watch her do puzzles that she can do perfectly well by herself, and be part of her elaborate role play games etc. I find myself getting short tempered because I am trying to get stuff done and she is constantly demanding my attention.

Anyway, enough moaning How did everyone's Christmas go in the end?

Hi Shelt:)

How old is your daughter?  I think I understand your dilemma with her, I'm finding things very similar with JD (my almost-3-year-old).  He just won't play on his own!  Its driving me nuts!  He won't play outside unless I go with him and watch, and he constantly wants me to play with him.  I don't know how to persuade him to just play with his toys on his own for a while.  Gets really frustrating with a baby, and housework is simply not getting done until late at night. 

Have you tried anything specific with your daughter to try to get her entertaining herself for a while?

Edit: Ah I just noticed from your ticker that she is 3 ... maybe its their age?



Edited by KirstyO]]> Sun, 08 Jan 2012 20:20:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1421095&title=single-parents-unite#1421095 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Congrats Hannahemily - hope things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1421088&title=single-parents-unite#1421088 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 08 January 2012 at 7:51pm

Congrats Hannahemily - hope things are going well for you.

Welcome KirstyO

How is everyone else doing at the moment? Its been a bit quiet in here. G and I are ok. I am on holiday still (been on holiday for 2 weeks, got another week to go) and I am finding it a bit tough to be honest. She's generally been pretty good but we were supposed to go camping and couldn't go (big storm) and there has been soooo much rain, it just feels like its been the two of us stuck inside for days on end. We have been out seeing people and doing a few things but I think the rain just makes it seem like those visits are few and far between! I feel bad because she just wants to play with me all the time but I would like to do a few things for myself and I'm finding it tough to balance housework, chores (cooking dinner etc), playing with her and having a few minutes for myself. Not sure why because its just been the two of us for a looong time now but seems like she is just so much more demanding than she used to be. She wants me to watch her do puzzles that she can do perfectly well by herself, and be part of her elaborate role play games etc. I find myself getting short tempered because I am trying to get stuff done and she is constantly demanding my attention.

Anyway, enough moaning How did everyone's Christmas go in the end?]]> Sun, 08 Jan 2012 19:51:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1421088&title=single-parents-unite#1421088 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hi everyone, mind if I join...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1420522&title=single-parents-unite#1420522 Author: KirstyO
Subject: 34860
Posted: 05 January 2012 at 11:28pm

Hi everyone, mind if I join in?  I'm a single mummy to 2 gorgeous boys - and while I love them to bits its pretty rough sometimes:)

Congrats, Hannahemily, hope all is going well for you?

 

]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2012 23:28:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1420522&title=single-parents-unite#1420522 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : All good here Hannahemily, god...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1419710&title=single-parents-unite#1419710 Author: mizpix
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 January 2012 at 11:45pm

All good here Hannahemily, god youre going to build up some muscles lugging that big boy around! Just enjoying a couple of days of not working, back to it on Wednesday tho. I get the feeling it's going to be a full on year!]]> Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:45:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1419710&title=single-parents-unite#1419710 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : thanks mizpix yes hes a big boy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1419629&title=single-parents-unite#1419629 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 January 2012 at 7:11pm

thanks mizpix yes hes a big boy 6.3 kgs now and 5 weeks ! Im still recovering from the birth ! how are you doing??]]> Mon, 02 Jan 2012 19:11:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1419629&title=single-parents-unite#1419629 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Great news Hannahemily, man what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1418407&title=single-parents-unite#1418407 Author: mizpix
Subject: 34860
Posted: 26 December 2011 at 9:27pm

Great news Hannahemily, man what a whopper! I bet everything will work out fine,even the father stuff! Congrats!]]> Mon, 26 Dec 2011 21:27:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1418407&title=single-parents-unite#1418407 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hey guys how are you all ?? Merry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1418327&title=single-parents-unite#1418327 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 25 December 2011 at 1:59pm

Hey guys how are you all ?? Merry xmas I hope you all are having a great day .. My son Ryder was born on the 24th of November 10 Pounds 8 ! He is amazing! all the anxiety and stress that I was feeling ha all faded into the back ground..He just melts my heart..Still have to deal with the father issues,but one day at a time..]]> Sun, 25 Dec 2011 13:59:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1418327&title=single-parents-unite#1418327 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Well I was wrong...DS dad turned...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1418326&title=single-parents-unite#1418326 Author: mizpix
Subject: 34860
Posted: 25 December 2011 at 1:27pm

Well I was wrong...DS dad turned up for an hour yesterday morning. Gave him a present more suited to a 7 to 10 year old. Sat on the couch for an hour, watched TV dozed, barely interacted with his son then left... phew thats over with for another year]]> Sun, 25 Dec 2011 13:27:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1418326&title=single-parents-unite#1418326 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : congrats?! on the divorce shelt...great...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411923&title=single-parents-unite#1411923 Author: mizpix
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 November 2011 at 9:33pm

congrats?! on the divorce shelt...great timing.
Glad your happy minik8 nice to hear a happy ending!
Same old same old here... working lots, back to full time now and finding it very tiring. Only got the stats off over xmas, may go to my parents if I can be bothered driving 4 hours...we will see otherwise will just be a quiet day with A and me. Dont imagine we will hear from his dad it's nearly a year since he last saw him and about 6 months since the last phone call.
Not a big xmas fan anyway so will be glad when it's all over and done with]]> Mon, 28 Nov 2011 21:33:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411923&title=single-parents-unite#1411923 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Yay for being happy minik8te...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411864&title=single-parents-unite#1411864 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 November 2011 at 8:00pm

Yay for being happy minik8te

Things are same old same old here. I am still having issues with DD's dad constantly undermining me and making me the bad guy and she is playing up quite a lot, telling me Daddy lets her do this and that (most of which is true). I am trying hard not to let it get to me and most of the time I suceed, its just been in the last week or so its been annoying me again.

I am not sure what we are doing for Christmas. DD's birthday is next week and her Dad doesn't like to talk about Xmas till after it.....which usually means I tell him what's going to happen and he has to put up with it coz I've made plans already by then. I am taking her to Christmas lunch with my family so I will probably tell him he can have her in the afternoon like we did last year and the year before. I figure if it really mattered to him he would actually discuss it with me like an adult a bit earlier. Last year I gave up and waited for him to ask me about it and he didn't bother till 5pm on Christmas Eve!

I applied for my divorce last week - it takes effect a month and a day from the date of filing of the papers which just so happens to be Christmas Day The order won't be sealed till the 4th of January though coz that's when the court reopens. Can't believe its been more than 2 years since we split up.]]> Mon, 28 Nov 2011 20:00:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411864&title=single-parents-unite#1411864 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : We will just do the normal thing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411801&title=single-parents-unite#1411801 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 November 2011 at 5:50pm

We will just do the normal thing of heading out to my familys farm for the day. I think DD's dad will be up at some point and he is welcome to attend however he might decide not too. DD hasnt seen him since sept when we went and stayed, he keeps moaning to me on the phone about how he misses her, not my problem if you move 1000km away for work! If he does come up it will be fab cause he can have the fun job of getting DD to bed at night and I can go out for a change!!!! Yippee!!!]]> Mon, 28 Nov 2011 17:50:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411801&title=single-parents-unite#1411801 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Good to hear things are going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411765&title=single-parents-unite#1411765 Author: cheekymouse
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 November 2011 at 4:31pm

Good to hear things are going well!

We are doing well here, just cruising along,

DS goes to his dads for 1 or 2 nights every second weekend now.

I have him for xmas day then he goes to his dad's from 26th - 29/30th.

Not much planned for christmas, i have 2 weeks off work, same with DP so we may go somewhere when i don't have DS for the week.

Xmas day will probably be spent with My parents in morning then DP in the afternoon, nothing to exciting this year.]]> Mon, 28 Nov 2011 16:31:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411765&title=single-parents-unite#1411765 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : same old here we are have xmas...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411572&title=single-parents-unite#1411572 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 28 November 2011 at 7:23am

same old here we are have xmas with my mum fam which should be fun no man but happy with that for now
]]> Mon, 28 Nov 2011 07:23:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411572&title=single-parents-unite#1411572 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Wow, so quiet in here!! How is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411559&title=single-parents-unite#1411559 Author: minik8e
Subject: 34860
Posted: 27 November 2011 at 10:00pm

Wow, so quiet in here!!

How is everyone going? Have the issues for people settled down?? What are you planning for Christmas?

Things are going awesome for me. New job, my man lives with us now and the girls adore him, and I'm happy I have the girls on Christmas Day until just after lunch, and then they go to their dad's until around 4th Jan - longest I will have ever been away from them, and part of me is dreading it, and part of me is looking forward to it. I have a break from work over Christmas/New Year so we are going to go away for a few days and relax. ]]> Sun, 27 Nov 2011 22:00:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1411559&title=single-parents-unite#1411559 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Things are just trucking along...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1398210&title=single-parents-unite#1398210 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 34860
Posted: 13 October 2011 at 1:15pm

Things are just trucking along as usual for me. DS is a bit of a handful most of the time. Though from talking to other people it seems he is just being a typical 2 1/2 yr old. Love the mornings that he is at kindy and I can get thing done without him grizzling at me.

DD is a little minx when it comes to daytime sleeps. I am lucky if I can get her to have one short nap a day. She will have a long afternoon one if I let her sleep in my bed with me. She also keeps getting colds (think it may have something to do with our place being made from concrete blocks). And she currently has a random rash on her thigh, it looks like a nappy rash but she doesn't have it anywhere else.

Their father was supppose to have DS during the holidays but he couldn't afford to come up and get him. He was hoping that I would meet him half way and he would give me petrol vouchers. I told him that I would still have to fill up to get down there and that would leave no money for groceries for the week. Surely if he could get me petrol vouchers then he should be able to afford to come get DS.
He then he told me that he was worried that the kids would forget him and that the best he could do was to come up at Christmas. I wonder if he realises that DD is only 7mths old and that she doesn't even know him yet.
Hope he hasn't forgotten that I want to have DS with me on Christmas morning.

Hanna have you tried Rescue Remedy? It may help to calm you down a bit so that you can eat better. You really need to keep your strength up for when baby arrives. And don't worry about the labour, just let your body do what it is suppose to and remind yourself that the sooner baby arrives the sooner the pain will go:) I did that for DD and my labour was so so much better then it was with DS, with him I fought the pain which made it so much longer (didn't help that I was in a small country hospital and the only pain relief they had was gas), it is so much more comforting to be in a big city hospital. And yes you will be able to enjoy your new baby. I believe that you can do anything you set your mind to. So gather all those bad thoughts of yours and lock them away in a box in your head until the time comes to open it up again. ]]> Thu, 13 Oct 2011 13:15:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1398210&title=single-parents-unite#1398210 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : hey guys me again ! hahaha venting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1398030&title=single-parents-unite#1398030 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 12 October 2011 at 9:43pm

hey guys me again ! hahaha venting away...anyway Im having my baby in 6 weeks,but I'm so nervous about it and am actually this big ball of nerves and anxiety.I feel so anxious that Im literally not eating much at all at the moment,maybe a bowl of cereal a day and a cracker if I cans stomach it.I really don't want to continue this way as when I go into labor Ill probably be so stressed out that it definatley wont be in my favor !& not eating much is a worry as I need to feed this baby ! you guys prob think im a big drama queen, i hope I dont come across that way - but I guess my real worry is the father dilemma will I actually be able to enjoy my new baby or will it constantly be in the back of my mind who the father could be? I really don't want to be like this ... but I start to obsess over thoughts going around in my mind and its not good !]]> Wed, 12 Oct 2011 21:43:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1398030&title=single-parents-unite#1398030 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : KAC09 wrote:My ex is still...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1397966&title=single-parents-unite#1397966 Author: Babe
Subject: 34860
Posted: 12 October 2011 at 7:25pm

Originally posted by KAC09 KAC09 wrote:

My ex is still a dick, but he has "turned over a new leaf" so instead of agreeing with anything I said in the mediation, instead he has "suggested" everything I suggested so I have to agree with him... wtf?!? What ever so far im "winning". I said that loosely so thats good, but its still crazy as I know his "new leaf" is stupid. He has turned over these leaves before and funnily enough it doesn't last. Oh well take advantage of it whilst I can I guess.


Hahahahaha my ex did EXACTLY the same thing ]]> Wed, 12 Oct 2011 19:25:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1397966&title=single-parents-unite#1397966 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : My ex is still a dick, but he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1397608&title=single-parents-unite#1397608 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 11 October 2011 at 9:05pm

My ex is still a dick, but he has "turned over a new leaf" so instead of agreeing with anything I said in the mediation, instead he has "suggested" everything I suggested so I have to agree with him... wtf?!? What ever so far im "winning". I said that loosely so thats good, but its still crazy as I know his "new leaf" is stupid. He has turned over these leaves before and funnily enough it doesn't last. Oh well take advantage of it whilst I can I guess.]]> Tue, 11 Oct 2011 21:05:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1397608&title=single-parents-unite#1397608 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Thought I would bump this up to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1397503&title=single-parents-unite#1397503 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 11 October 2011 at 5:31pm

Thought I would bump this up to see how you other ladies are getting on these days?

DD and I have our own place now and so far its going great, its so nice to have our own space to blob out in! ]]> Tue, 11 Oct 2011 17:31:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1397503&title=single-parents-unite#1397503 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : @HannahEmily The courts can order...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389144&title=single-parents-unite#1389144 Author: ....
Subject: 34860
Posted: 18 September 2011 at 5:12pm

@HannahEmily The courts can order a DNA test if the supposed father applies to have it done and the mother is not willing to consent.]]> Sun, 18 Sep 2011 17:12:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389144&title=single-parents-unite#1389144 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : If its via the Internet whom would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389111&title=single-parents-unite#1389111 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 18 September 2011 at 1:01pm

If its via the Internet whom would prove that you don't? But we had the mothers consent. ]]> Sun, 18 Sep 2011 13:01:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389111&title=single-parents-unite#1389111 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Do you need to have the mothers...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389099&title=single-parents-unite#1389099 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 18 September 2011 at 11:56am

Do you need to have the mothers consent in order to get the DNA test ??]]> Sun, 18 Sep 2011 11:56:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389099&title=single-parents-unite#1389099 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : My ex&#039;s kids one was $500...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389035&title=single-parents-unite#1389035 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 17 September 2011 at 10:34pm

My ex's kids one was $500 over the net then another $100 and something to get results due to the fact she stuffed around about doing it. Which btw I payed for the whole thing, grrrr.]]> Sat, 17 Sep 2011 22:34:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389035&title=single-parents-unite#1389035 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I paid around $300 for one on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389020&title=single-parents-unite#1389020 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: 34860
Posted: 17 September 2011 at 9:41pm

I paid around $300 for one on the internet, they sent out the stuff, did swabs, sent back and got the results pretty quickly ]]> Sat, 17 Sep 2011 21:41:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1389020&title=single-parents-unite#1389020 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : We had ours done though the court...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388975&title=single-parents-unite#1388975 Author: fallen
Subject: 34860
Posted: 17 September 2011 at 7:45pm

We had ours done though the court proceedings. It was a little over $1000. As I was on DPB at the time I recieved legal aid which paid for my half of the cost.]]> Sat, 17 Sep 2011 19:45:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388975&title=single-parents-unite#1388975 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : You can get them cheaper if you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388760&title=single-parents-unite#1388760 Author: ....
Subject: 34860
Posted: 16 September 2011 at 8:43pm

You can get them cheaper if you hunt around, but only for personal use, the courts won't accept them.]]> Fri, 16 Sep 2011 20:43:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388760&title=single-parents-unite#1388760 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : It used to be $1,125, shared 50/50...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388667&title=single-parents-unite#1388667 Author: minik8e
Subject: 34860
Posted: 16 September 2011 at 5:07pm

It used to be $1,125, shared 50/50 in most cases.]]> Fri, 16 Sep 2011 17:07:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388667&title=single-parents-unite#1388667 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I forgot to ask for those who...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388560&title=single-parents-unite#1388560 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 16 September 2011 at 2:01pm

I forgot to ask for those who have had a DNA test done, how much does it cost?? ]]> Fri, 16 Sep 2011 14:01:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388560&title=single-parents-unite#1388560 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Thanks guys so much for the advice...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388555&title=single-parents-unite#1388555 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 16 September 2011 at 1:55pm

Thanks guys so much for the advice and support.It really is a horrible situation to be in and I am so thankful to be pregnant,but this situation is just making me feel so anxious and I feel plagued by depression :-( Only 10 weeks to go and my son will be here, as everyone keeps saying when hes here everything will make sense and the anxiety will ease , despite who the father is...but I just wish I could relax a little. ]]> Fri, 16 Sep 2011 13:55:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1388555&title=single-parents-unite#1388555 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : On that note. my sons older brother...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385427&title=single-parents-unite#1385427 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 08 September 2011 at 12:09pm

On that note. my sons older brother (half brother not mine). was a kid in that situation the mother did not know who the father is the 2 fathers look very different and they were trying to figure out whom he most looks like before the dna test was done oddly enough he looks most like me then any of the 2 fathers or his actual mother. Which was quite amusing. My son and his brother look a lot a like. Both just like me! Crazy!]]> Thu, 08 Sep 2011 12:09:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385427&title=single-parents-unite#1385427 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : There is only one possible father...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385333&title=single-parents-unite#1385333 Author: Plushie
Subject: 34860
Posted: 08 September 2011 at 8:49am

There is only one possible father to DS but he looks insanely like another candidate. To the point that people who know everyone involved can't help but commenting 'wow, he looks so much like xxxx'! all the time. Also i got so huge so fast there was a lot of talk about me being much further ahead then i was telling people i was to cover up the truth (xxxx is a married man, which i didnt know when i was seeing him!!). Lucky DS wasnt born preemie or i would have had a lot of questions to answer. As it was he was 2 weeks overdue so was born the 2nd Feb and the other 'potential father' left NZ on the 24 Feb the year before so unless its the worlds longest gestation...anyway the point is i'm not in that situation but i got a taste of it what its like so you are one tough lady for going through it but like the rest said don't worry about it, concentrate on your pregnancy and get a DNA asap afer your child is born. Then everyone knows for sure where they stand. IMO its best to do DNA even if one of the exs decides he wants to stand up and be dad or if the baby looks like one of them. ]]> Thu, 08 Sep 2011 08:49:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385333&title=single-parents-unite#1385333 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : What a horrible position to be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385289&title=single-parents-unite#1385289 Author: minik8e
Subject: 34860
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 11:36pm

What a horrible position to be in I hope you manage to figure it out somehow.

There are decent guys around. I've had 2 boyfs since I split up with my husband (you're welcome to him Trudie, though I wouldn't recommend him). The first was a lovely guy, but just not for me - talking marriage, kids etc after 3 months and I wasn't ready. The guy I am seeing now, he is amazing. He met the girls on Monday night while we were in Auckland on our way home (we've just been to Aussie for 2 weeks) and still accepts me and the girls even though they were in the FOULEST mood (long days of travelling, no sleep - we had just flown back from Sydney). He still thinks they are cute, and he took the time to see the cheeky glint in their eyes. He is in Akld for 4 weeks for work at the moment, so when he gets back he will be spending a lot of time with them so that they get used to him. I spend most time with him on the weekends, which of course is when the girls are with their dad. We have talked about living together - it hasn't been long but it feels so freaking right, but we'll see what happens.

Happy belated birthday Julz!!!!! I think my birthday will be similar (mine is on Friday) although my bestie got me (well, won off the radio LOL) tickets to Shihad, and I know N has got me something "small and practical". It bites not being acknowledged. My parents are still in Aussie and don't come back till Sunday so yeah.

I start a new job tomorrow (9am-3.30pm Mon-Fri) so the girls start fulltime daycare Not looking forward to it at all.]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 23:36:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385289&title=single-parents-unite#1385289 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : All that will matter in the long...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385282&title=single-parents-unite#1385282 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: 34860
Posted: 07 September 2011 at 10:21pm

All that will matter in the long term is your love for your child, regardless of who the father is. Knowing which one is the father will take a weight off your mind, and probably one of theirs but theres no rush to get it done, enjoy the first few months

I had two friends help make my child and did a dna when she was about 3 months older, I knew which one was the father because she looked like him but it put the other at ease

Its a complicated situation for you but you a new baby on the way and you will be an awesome mother, no matter what the conception issues are ]]> Wed, 07 Sep 2011 22:21:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1385282&title=single-parents-unite#1385282 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Hey Guest, sounds like you dropped...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1384433&title=single-parents-unite#1384433 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 7:50pm

Hey Guest, sounds like you dropped yourself between a rock & a hard place. Good luck, no matter what dealing with an ex is a difficult experience, but 2 exs, that makes it twice as bad. Just enjoy your pregnancy and try not to worry about it until ya bubs is a month old. Just enjoy the time without them in the picture, before having to go down the dna side of things. ]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 19:50:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1384433&title=single-parents-unite#1384433 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : p. s HORRIBLE SPELLING WROTE THAT...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1384363&title=single-parents-unite#1384363 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 5:26pm

p. s HORRIBLE SPELLING WROTE THAT VERY QUICKLYY!!! while being distracted!]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 17:26:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1384363&title=single-parents-unite#1384363 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : hi guys Im new here but just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1384362&title=single-parents-unite#1384362 Author: Hannahemily
Subject: 34860
Posted: 05 September 2011 at 5:26pm

hi guys Im new here but just thought I would post up my story, its nice to get it out - Its so nice to find this group and no im not alone , I know that theres so many "solo mums " out there but its so easy to feel isolated particulary when none of my friends are in the same situation.

I am due to have my son in November,throughout my whole pregnancy Ive found it to be very stressful and upsetting at times. I had a miscarrige in December,when I was with my ex which was a planned pregnancy - i was absolutley over the moon! When I found out about the miscarrige I was absolutley devestated... Feeling very depressed and vunerable I got it in my head that I would never be able to concieve again ! (Some how thinking that having 2 abortions year earlier was my Karma) I got very drunk one night and had a one night stand with my ex (before him)( as to why? I kick myself everyday)(unprotected sex - because I thought that there was no way I was going to get pregnant again) Note - that both of these guys are f**kING LOSERS! anyway Bam ,Poisitve pregnancy test.. there was no way In hell I was going to get rid of it... So I told recent ex that I was pregnant - but there's a twist to the story...as I had slept with both guys in a 2 week time frame there was no way to tell which one is the father?? so Im living with this veryday which is so horrific and horrible at times,and I so wish I never got into this situation - when I told recent ex that I wasnt sure who the father was & that it was out of him and 'another guy" he threatned to burn down my parents house and kill me..amongst other things...

Anyway the thought of having to do a DNA test after my babys born is so horrible, and when I think about it I just get so anxious.. Despite who the "fathers" may be I dont want them in my life, my son can make that descion when hes older, Its just such a hard situation Ive spent so many nights crying my eyes out

Ive got a fabulous support system and everyone says once the baby is born it will all make sense and none of this will even matter - but It will long term?! I cant help but do my own head in! :-(

Edited by Guest_56291]]> Mon, 05 Sep 2011 17:26:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1384362&title=single-parents-unite#1384362 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : goo bowie u never know ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383652&title=single-parents-unite#1383652 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 03 September 2011 at 6:59pm

goo bowie u never know
]]> Sat, 03 Sep 2011 18:59:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383652&title=single-parents-unite#1383652 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : @Bowie Double Date with me! Joe...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383603&title=single-parents-unite#1383603 Author: ....
Subject: 34860
Posted: 03 September 2011 at 3:16pm

@Bowie Double Date with me! Joe has a brother :D]]> Sat, 03 Sep 2011 15:16:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383603&title=single-parents-unite#1383603 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : aww bowie i dont think the guy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383565&title=single-parents-unite#1383565 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 03 September 2011 at 12:51pm

aww bowie i dont think the guy will be too worried
]]> Sat, 03 Sep 2011 12:51:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383565&title=single-parents-unite#1383565 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : ^ LOL bowie ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383473&title=single-parents-unite#1383473 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 9:20pm

^ LOL bowie ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 21:20:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383473&title=single-parents-unite#1383473 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Happy Belated Birthday Julz! You...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383410&title=single-parents-unite#1383410 Author: Plushie
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 6:55pm

Happy Belated Birthday Julz! You shoulda said something, we would have had an entire thread filled with pictures of sexy naked men or something to celebrate. <3 <3

I've been single since 8 weeks pregnant and like PillowFight no dates, no mention of dates, no men...no one worth it or interesting enough! Plus i can't imagine it in my head - i dont like the idea of strange men meeting DS on the first date but he'd have to come along no where else for him to go, then he'd want feeding so i'd casually breastfeed in front of him on the first date? Way to remind him i have a child and my boobs are no longer firm and pert ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 18:55:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383410&title=single-parents-unite#1383410 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : happy bday julz hope bubs was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383303&title=single-parents-unite#1383303 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 2:05pm

happy bday julz hope bubs was a dream for ya ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 14:05:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383303&title=single-parents-unite#1383303 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Pillow_Fight wrote:I&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383273&title=single-parents-unite#1383273 Author: mizpix
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 12:38pm

Originally posted by Pillow_Fight Pillow_Fight wrote:

I've been single since about 6wks pregnant lol haven't even been on a date. Or even had any interest. There is no one to date. No fair *stamps feet* lol
I want another effing baby damn it. I need a husband.


LOL truds. Me too. Just I'm first in line as I havent got time on my side! Got a couple of dates from NZD coming off in the next week or two, so fingers crossed!]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 12:38:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383273&title=single-parents-unite#1383273 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Oh and Happy Birthday Julz, you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383201&title=single-parents-unite#1383201 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 10:13am

Oh and Happy Birthday Julz, you should have told us sooner so we could have made your day with lots of warm fuzzies ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 10:13:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383201&title=single-parents-unite#1383201 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I have a husband, you can have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383190&title=single-parents-unite#1383190 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 9:55am

I have a husband, you can have him. Warn you though hes an alcholic loser and has many other charming atributes... oh I wish I could yell at my former self so I had a frickin clue how much of an idiot I was.

I have been single since 12 weeks pregnant. Although we broke up a few times between 6-12 weeks pregnant. So im close.]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 09:55:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383190&title=single-parents-unite#1383190 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I&#039;ve been single since about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383168&title=single-parents-unite#1383168 Author: Whateversville
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 9:00am

I've been single since about 6wks pregnant lol haven't even been on a date. Or even had any interest. There is no one to date. No fair *stamps feet* lol
I want another effing baby damn it. I need a husband.]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 09:00:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383168&title=single-parents-unite#1383168 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : there may be a drought but the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383151&title=single-parents-unite#1383151 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 8:34am

there may be a drought but the ones i meet are all only after one thing geta bit tring after awhile ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 08:34:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383151&title=single-parents-unite#1383151 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : There is a man drought in nz,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383146&title=single-parents-unite#1383146 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 8:13am

There is a man drought in nz, 50,000 more girls than guys ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 08:13:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383146&title=single-parents-unite#1383146 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : lol i have been single since i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383136&title=single-parents-unite#1383136 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 7:42am

lol i have been single since i was 2 weeks preggy with james lol beat that lol ]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 07:42:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383136&title=single-parents-unite#1383136 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Where do you all find these guys?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383121&title=single-parents-unite#1383121 Author: KAC09
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 11:33pm

Where do you all find these guys? I am so over being single. Its been 2yrs. ]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 23:33:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383121&title=single-parents-unite#1383121 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I have a nice, normal guy! Kind...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383112&title=single-parents-unite#1383112 Author: ....
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 10:23pm

I have a nice, normal guy!
Kind of.
My ex (not Bentley's dad) who is now my bestbest friend used the L word, but the only thing about me that has changed since we broke up is that I have a Bentley now, so I know he loves B, not me :P

I'm looking for a house at the moment and when I find one he wants to move into the spare room and have turns taking care of Bentley. Kind of nice, and I'd love it, if I knew that he's always be around.
It's a huge commitment to make when my boy is so young and doesn't really know who his parents are yet, and his Father has already left him, I don't want to put B through that when he is old enough to realize what is going on.

ETA: Happy Birthday Julz!

Edited by BecBarrer]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 22:23:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383112&title=single-parents-unite#1383112 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Aww julz that sucks - about your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383110&title=single-parents-unite#1383110 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 10:08pm

Aww julz that sucks - about your ex and about your birthday

I had the worst date ever on Tuesday night.Well the date itself wasn't too bad, it was the constant text messages before and afterwards asking me for coffee, weekend trips, meals, movies etc that I couldnt deal with. Why do I attract needy guys? Neediness freaks me out and all I want to do is run a mile in the opposite direction. Where are all the nice normal guys.....? ]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 22:08:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383110&title=single-parents-unite#1383110 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : oh and it was my birthday on saturday...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383097&title=single-parents-unite#1383097 Author: julz85
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 9:33pm

oh and it was my birthday on saturday and i didnt get anything from anyone :( nobody even bought me something from amelia . my mum just told me i didnt have to pay back the $50 i had borrwed few weeks to pay towards  power bill. sh*ttiest time for a birthday!!!!]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 21:33:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383097&title=single-parents-unite#1383097 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : thanks ladies , ahhh well ex and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383094&title=single-parents-unite#1383094 Author: julz85
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 9:31pm

thanks ladies , ahhh well ex and i been broken up about 2 1/2mths ago now , its been a very up and down time , one min he wants me back the next he doesnt , we tried again and it took one day!!!!! the very next day i broke it off and kicked him out , all my anger came out bigtime and i let him know exactly how i feel. that was 2 weeks ago and i had only seen him a couple of times since then and i missed him so much ,and i really am still inlove with him, yesterday i wrote him a letter (i have never ever done that to a man before, its not my style lol) i just needed to get everything out , told him i still loved him and basically that letter was my heart , i gave it to him last night when i saw him after work as he was looking after amelia for me . he didnt say anything about it all day today and i asked him to tell me once and for-all that it was over i told him i couldnt deal with the "i dont know " answers and i need to know , he simply said " im sorry" so yea its been a bad day , he told me my letter was nice ???? nice!!!! it was my heart and soul and it was nice ?????, he then said he used the wrong words. so yea know its over once and forall!!!! funny thing was 5min after it all happened the guy i had been on a few dates with txted me asking to go out on saturday haha i hadnt heard from him in a while, perfect timing!!!!

I fee the worst for the kids , (his girl and my girl) i love his girl and i really miss her , amelia misses them both like crazy , i saw his wee girl yesterday and she gave me the biggest hug and said she missed me .

 



Edited by julz85]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 21:31:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383094&title=single-parents-unite#1383094 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Tyler & I are moving too Tylers...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383080&title=single-parents-unite#1383080 Author: Whateversville
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 9:03pm

Tyler & I are moving too
Tylers dad & gf are looking after him on sat while I move. Will be the 2nd time he's had him alone. And t is very clingy and mummy's boy at the mo after being sick!

Hope your ok julz! xx]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 21:03:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383080&title=single-parents-unite#1383080 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Bowie, yeah for getting your own...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383050&title=single-parents-unite#1383050 Author: choco69
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 8:19pm

Bowie, yeah for getting your own place for you and Max - very exciting!!!!

Julz, hope all is okay, and feel free to let it all out!]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 20:19:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1383050&title=single-parents-unite#1383050 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Whats going on in your life Julz?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382978&title=single-parents-unite#1382978 Author: Plushie
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 6:22pm

Whats going on in your life Julz? Make you feel better to have a big bitch? Hope Amelia is well though :/. Me and Maxy are moving to our own place tomorrow/sat. Pretty exciting. Thats about it really.]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 18:22:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382978&title=single-parents-unite#1382978 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Shelt I had the same thing a few...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382785&title=single-parents-unite#1382785 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 11:22am

Shelt I had the same thing a few weeks ago. Luckly it happened in the weekend so was able to give mum a call first thing in the morning and she came round and looked after the kids while I spent the day in bed. Was a bit dissapointed that the one day I get to stay in bed I couldn't sleep because I was just so overtired from being up all night and feeling like crap. And then the next day was DS first morning at kindy and mums partner took him and picked him up for me. It's great having them near by. Wouldn't have that sort of support if I was still living with ex.]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 11:22:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382785&title=single-parents-unite#1382785 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : We are away on holiday at DD&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382767&title=single-parents-unite#1382767 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 11:06am

We are away on holiday at DD's dads place. So far things are going okay, DD is loving spending time with him and he is too. We are not getting along so well, lots of petty little fights, not so sure if we will ever get back together ]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 11:06:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382767&title=single-parents-unite#1382767 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : hey ladies how are you all ? i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382726&title=single-parents-unite#1382726 Author: julz85
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 10:01am

hey ladies how are you all ?

i havent posted much lately , my life is like an epsiode of shortland street at the moment lol.

 

]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 10:01:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1382726&title=single-parents-unite#1382726 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Lurker in It&#039;s not unusual...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370954&title=single-parents-unite#1370954 Author: HoneybunsMa
Subject: 34860
Posted: 03 August 2011 at 1:50pm

Lurker in

It's not unusual to worry about what will happen if you get hurt. I worry and I have a partner! He works nights so for some reason I couldn't get to DD at night then no one would know until he got home in the morning and as at night you don't commonly text or call people it wouldn't be until he got home for sure that any one would notice.

Also taking children out, we took her to a funeral at 2days old and then home to my parents then we pretty much were there everyday after that for a week. So boo to people that judge

lurker out]]> Wed, 03 Aug 2011 13:50:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370954&title=single-parents-unite#1370954 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Sorry I came gatecrashing in without...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370659&title=single-parents-unite#1370659 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 August 2011 at 8:34pm

Sorry I came gatecrashing in without an intro, Im a single mum with a 9 month old daughter, I used a friend as a donor cos I was getting old ]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 20:34:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370659&title=single-parents-unite#1370659 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Flutterby, you should do a Will...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370656&title=single-parents-unite#1370656 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 August 2011 at 8:32pm

Flutterby, you should do a Will naming guardians for your child, then at least what you want is in writing

I use to worry about what might happen, running round the corner to get a nappy, Id fall etc and who would notice, not the neighbours, friends would notice I wasnt on fb and not answering texts but how long before they would come calling? Anyway decided not to stress myself out with it all, I have faith that nothing major will happen FX]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 20:32:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370656&title=single-parents-unite#1370656 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I like in this senario we are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370645&title=single-parents-unite#1370645 Author: Plushie
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 August 2011 at 7:45pm

I like in this senario we are all knocked out unconcious for a long period of time, so seriously injured yet we are more concerned about our poor bubbas crying! Sheesh Shelt that sounds miserable. Thank goodness for good flatmates!]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 19:45:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370645&title=single-parents-unite#1370645 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Yeah I&#039;ve thought about that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370631&title=single-parents-unite#1370631 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 August 2011 at 7:20pm

Yeah I've thought about that too. Thankfully I have a flatmate so it would only be till she got home from work and found me...though I have had problems with DD wandering in the past and I wouldn't put it past her to wander off down the road if I knocked myself out

I had a stomach bug last week and my flatmate was my saving grace. She took DD to daycare for me and got me some electrolyte fluids, and then went back and picked her up. I dont know how I would have got her there otherwise but i couldn't have dealt with her all day while I was throwing up ]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 19:20:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370631&title=single-parents-unite#1370631 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Oh man i&#039;ve had that thought...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370519&title=single-parents-unite#1370519 Author: Plushie
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 August 2011 at 3:13pm

Oh man i've had that thought too - what if i fall over while outside getting firewood and knock myself out on the concrete - Max could be screaming for HOURS before anyone found us and the thought could make me cry, honestly. Its too sad. ]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 15:13:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370519&title=single-parents-unite#1370519 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I have been worried about sort...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370505&title=single-parents-unite#1370505 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 34860
Posted: 02 August 2011 at 2:48pm

I have been worried about sort of thing as well Shelt. I'm mainly scared of what would happen if for some reason I was knocked out or got really sick and couldn't get to the phone, or even out of bed or worse. (touchwood that never happens) I guess that is one advantage to sharing a bedroom wall with my neighbours, they at least would hear R crying and should eventually wonder what was going on. Also what would happend to them if I wasn't around anymore. I don't want them to live with their dad, I want them to be in the city were there are more opportunities for them.]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 14:48:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370505&title=single-parents-unite#1370505 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : The meet went okay, although he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370089&title=single-parents-unite#1370089 Author: ....
Subject: 34860
Posted: 01 August 2011 at 3:44pm

The meet went okay, although he didn't say when/if he'd be back.]]> Mon, 01 Aug 2011 15:44:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1370089&title=single-parents-unite#1370089 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Yeah I know what you mean Bowie....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369444&title=single-parents-unite#1369444 Author: Shelt
Subject: 34860
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 9:41pm

Yeah I know what you mean Bowie. I had a nightmare the other night about breaking my leg (probably coz one of my single mum friends did a while back). How would I get DD to daycare, or get to work or get up and down my stairs or help her on and off the toilet....hard not to think about isn't it. Thats part of the reason I talked to my sister about guardianship and got my will done a few weeks ago. I am worried about what will happen to DD if I die. Her father is a pathetically useless parent....]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 21:41:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369444&title=single-parents-unite#1369444 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : *Lurker* re taking your babies...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369405&title=single-parents-unite#1369405 Author: High9
Subject: 34860
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 7:55pm

*Lurker* re taking your babies out... I took DD out for the first time when we got discharged so 2 days old... We went home for 30 mins to drop bags off then went to MILs work to show her off and get the rest of the baby things we needed! ]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 19:55:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369405&title=single-parents-unite#1369405 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Flutterby wrote:It really annoys...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369351&title=single-parents-unite#1369351 Author: Nothing
Subject: 34860
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 4:38pm

Originally posted by Flutterby Flutterby wrote:

It really annoys me when I see babies in a heap of warm clothes in summer when there parents are in shorts and singlets, or parents in warm clothes on a cold day and babies and kids in shorts and top and bare feet.


I know! I always see mums out pushing their prams in the freezing cold wind with bubs just sitting there, no blanket, no wind cover, no HAT even!!!! Once one kid had no socks or shoes Then the mum is all rugged up warm. Makes me want to call child sevices to report their sh*tty parenting]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 16:38:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369351&title=single-parents-unite#1369351 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I also took Rose out at 3 days...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369313&title=single-parents-unite#1369313 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 34860
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 2:33pm

I also took Rose out at 3 days old to see her nan nan and then almost every day after that. And everytime I got asked by some stranger how old she was and always got 'the look' after I told them. And I have had a few comments from strangers saying that she must be cold because all they can see is the cotton layer she has on top, they don't see the million and one layers of merino and wool that she has on underneath.

It really annoys me when I see babies in a heap of warm clothes in summer when there parents are in shorts and singlets, or parents in warm clothes on a cold day and babies and kids in shorts and top and bare feet.

]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 14:33:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369313&title=single-parents-unite#1369313 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Becbeer that sounds horrable big...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369269&title=single-parents-unite#1369269 Author: james
Subject: 34860
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 12:56pm

Becbeer that sounds horrable big hugs to you
man i ahve anuff of inmature men i give up
]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 12:56:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369269&title=single-parents-unite#1369269 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Ooh is this the first time they&#039;ll...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369238&title=single-parents-unite#1369238 Author: Plushie
Subject: 34860
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 11:07am

Ooh is this the first time they'll 'meet'?

I forgot i went to the store on the way home from hospital with DS, needed all sorts of crap to steralise the pump i wasnt expecting to need. I was paranoid as, ready to beat of any old woman wanting to peer into the capsule and breath their nasty germs on his face. Then no one looked at him and i was mad that no one stopped to tell me how cute my baby was. Can't win!

You know what really grinds my gears?? I can't do anything fun (fun for me being caving or abseiling or horse-riding or the like) as i'm paranoid i'll get hurt. If i break a leg or an arm i'd have a hard time, but god forbid i was more hurt and had to be in hospital...well, there is no one to take care of DS and no one else has never fed/changed/bathed/dressed/put him down or gotten him up in his life so can't imagine that change would go down well. So i am becoming more and more paranoid and careful and...boring!]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 11:07:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369238&title=single-parents-unite#1369238 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Our first stop on the way home...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369114&title=single-parents-unite#1369114 Author: ....
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Posted: 29 July 2011 at 10:41pm

Our first stop on the way home was the Warehouse to print photos any buy pants that buckle.

Bentley's father text today to see if he could come over tomorrow with his daughter to both meet the boy, wish us luck that it goes well.]]> Fri, 29 Jul 2011 22:41:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369114&title=single-parents-unite#1369114 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : I took DS out when he was 4 days...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369104&title=single-parents-unite#1369104 Author: AngieBabe
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Posted: 29 July 2011 at 10:08pm

I took DS out when he was 4 days old - up to the little local mall to grab a few groceries and have a coffee. He was bundled up warm and cosy in his capsule and I wanted to make sure I could do it while Mum was still around as 'back stop'. It wasn't a long trip out but it was a trip out and nothing untoward happened, so do what feels right for you and your situation.]]> Fri, 29 Jul 2011 22:08:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369104&title=single-parents-unite#1369104 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : We took the girls out for the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369100&title=single-parents-unite#1369100 Author: minik8e
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Posted: 29 July 2011 at 9:54pm

We took the girls out for the first time when they were 4.5 weeks old - only cos that's when they were discharged from the NNU. First stop after hospital was the supermarket LOL ]]> Fri, 29 Jul 2011 21:54:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369100&title=single-parents-unite#1369100 <![CDATA[Single Parents UNITE! : Lurking Bec, as far as Im concerned...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369098&title=single-parents-unite#1369098 Author: LateStarterLorna
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Posted: 29 July 2011 at 9:49pm

Lurking

Bec, as far as Im concerned you, if you can take your newborn 4 HOUR old baby from the hospital to the birthing unit, then taking the baby out when YOU feel like it is no major, as long as they are warm and safe, dont worry what 'everyone' else is doing

Im in a few coffee groups and aside from csection ladies, most were out and about fairly early on, being a single mum living alone, I needed to get out and talk to grown ups and drink coffee and eat cake of course ]]> Fri, 29 Jul 2011 21:49:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=34860&PID=1369098&title=single-parents-unite#1369098