Even if you don't have a name you're both sure of before she's born, Frantic - there's nothing wrong with choosing a name afterwards!  Plenty of babies are names a few days later (and at least that way if you'd be one to want to keep the name a secret until it's a done deal, there's noooo chance of accidentally blabbing it beforehand!  he he).

We found the baby name book and online lists useless for us, and ended up just chucking names out there every now and then.  Funny thing is we started with all the names from family members that we could think of, before finding out that neither of us actually wanted to use a family name unless it was one that we loved as a name already!  In the end, there was only one first name that DH and I agreed on for a girl (never got that far with a boy's name), and the middle name is an old family one that we'd both agreed on ages ago (it goes through the generations plenty so I'd say we're not the only ones in the family to think like that), and hearing how it fitted with the first name, it all just fell into place.  We still chuck random names at each-other but never agree on them and come back to the one we've chosen.  I hadn't realised how popular the name was, so did try to find another one, but it just didn't work!!!  She's known as that name in my mind already so I think that's why. 

We didn't know what we were having with Andrew, I had an idea he was a boy but wasn't certain. We waited until he was out till we even started looking at names. I had a couple in mind but DH didn't like them. So we got out the baby name book started at "A" and called him the names in order till we got to Andrew and it suited him. Imagine if we had to do the whole book!!! His middle name is John same as my dad's middle name. DH's father packed a little hissy as the first born male is spose to get "Barnabas" as the middle name. Our come back, it's a family name that goes with his brother and he is the one to pass it on. My feeling with family names are great if they are normal names (like the William thing - nice simple name) but I ain't giving my child a wack name just because its a family name and I stuck to it. The first thing my family in Oz said when they were told his name - "After a great leauge player Andrew Johns". We didn't even think of that.

I had my girl name stolen by a friend of mine so i'm keeping tight on any names we decide for this one if we can find out what flavour it is.