https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 10 Apr 2026 21:08:29 +0000 Wed, 26 Oct 2011 20:06:30 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35565 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1401908&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1401908 Author: PorterLou
Subject: 35565
Posted: 26 October 2011 at 8:06pm

Seriously, did you know that to make a baby you actually have to have sex. And did you know that to do that you have to look and me and talk to me and put your arms around me. I am not the virgin mary, we aren't going to have the immaculate conception. If you don't really want to do it then I'm going back on the pill so I don't look like a disgusting crater face.]]> Wed, 26 Oct 2011 20:06:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1401908&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1401908 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1399401&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1399401 Author: frangipanigirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 17 October 2011 at 6:54pm

Monkeys i can relate to how you are feeling very well! i have just found out that my 2nd sister is now UTD! so i have 2 sisters and a close cousin now all UTD and i dont know how im going to manage to carry on with this crap we are getting! Im expecting AF to arrive today or tomorrow as I have cramps!

When will it finally be my turn! Right off to have a cry before DH comes home and one of my sisters wants to skype! Great just what i feel like doing!
]]> Mon, 17 Oct 2011 18:54:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1399401&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1399401 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395813&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395813 Author: monkeys
Subject: 35565
Posted: 06 October 2011 at 11:14am

GGGRRRRHHHH... decide that October is the month - AF is due and keeps teasing me with very light spotting in the morning then nothing....COME ON ALREADY WE WANNA GET BACK TO MAKIN BABIES!!!]]> Thu, 06 Oct 2011 11:14:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395813&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395813 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395375&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395375 Author: Tiff8ny
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 October 2011 at 12:51pm

monkeys. Soooo know that feeling babe! It will be you soon xo

GG hope your doing ok, I really feel for you sweets as it seems like you already have enough on your plate with your lovely girl. ]]> Wed, 05 Oct 2011 12:51:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395375&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395375 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395274&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395274 Author: _Lou_
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 October 2011 at 8:26am

Monkeys that is rough!!!!! Hugs babe x]]> Wed, 05 Oct 2011 08:26:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395274&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395274 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395261&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395261 Author: monkeys
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 October 2011 at 7:48am

OK World...I try and put on a brave face when our friends announce they are pregnant, but when we already have 2 sets of friends pregnant, is it really fair that I find out 3 yes 3 more are all pregnant in ONE NIGHT!!!

Enough already! ]]> Wed, 05 Oct 2011 07:48:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1395261&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1395261 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1392848&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1392848 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 35565
Posted: 27 September 2011 at 9:46pm

there isnt really much to compare with the ache of wanting a babe in your belly is there, cmon my little one you must be out there somewhere....]]> Tue, 27 Sep 2011 21:46:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1392848&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1392848 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1392792&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1392792 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 27 September 2011 at 8:18pm

I hope my tragic sob story hasn't put you all off venting. LOL though reading my vents might make you all feel a little better. ( I hope so)

:-) Erin]]> Tue, 27 Sep 2011 20:18:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1392792&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1392792 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1391703&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1391703 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 25 September 2011 at 9:19am

Thanks Ginger, thank goodness for this forum, I was having a really rough day. My little girl is now 20 months, and still unable too even roll, I just so desperately want to experience the joy of a little one who will grow up, not just grow.
It helps me to vent sometimes....I'm thrilled for all the girls with bfp's    but its our turn Ginger.
It must be so hard for you to watch your friends pregnancy:-( I'm so sorry. MC's are such a sorrow, the worst thing is people forget and expect you to be fine so quickly. How are you doing? For me having Ava is a little like wearing a billboard that tells the world all about the biggest hurt in my life, some people pretend they don't see it, others see it but nothing else....]]> Sun, 25 Sep 2011 09:19:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1391703&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1391703 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1391608&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1391608 Author: MissGinger
Subject: 35565
Posted: 24 September 2011 at 6:59pm

Gosh Georgiegirl, you really have had such a rough road! I don't even know what to say

Life can be incredibly trying for some of us, and I know how frustrating it is to hear about other people's pregnancies when there are people like us desperate for babies and not getting them!! I have a friend who I would have been due with, instead I get another miscarriage, a real doozy this time too, rushed to hospital and lost so much blood I could barely stand for a week. And so I get more pity and awkwardness from friends (who mean well...)

I don't know about you but I have days when I want to never speak to my friends having babies ever again But then I get over it and realise that we all have our own journeys and mine is making me stronger. I look forward to the latter, and I hope you do to

HUGE hugs sister. You will get there!]]> Sat, 24 Sep 2011 18:59:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1391608&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1391608 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1391352&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1391352 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 23 September 2011 at 6:53pm



Why is this happening to me???? Isn't it enough that my first baby is severely handicapped?????? After all we have gone through, don't I deserve a baby???? I just feel so low. I'm surrounded by pregnancy announcements right now, and although I am happy for my friends... I just want to scream IT'S NOT FAIR!!!!!!!

We have spent nearly $4k already and still no baby.

My heart is broken. I feel like I'm running out of time... will my only experience of being a Mum is being a caregiver to my beautiful girl, who doesn't even recognise me.....

Hows that for a vent! I just had to get it out... or explode...

]]> Fri, 23 Sep 2011 18:53:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1391352&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1391352 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386387&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386387 Author: Beachoholic
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 September 2011 at 7:04pm

MASSIVE GROUP HUGS TO YOU LOVELY LADIES!!!!

I know what you mean Rach, I have such bad PMS and cramps... and obviously my previous solution (the pill) isn't possible. F!

GRR SO ANNOYED we have to miss out on TTC this month because my LAP was delayed...

AND just as I am writing this, I got a phone call to say that my office was broken into over the weekend. Nothing stolen by the sounds of it but creepy!!!

STOP with the sh*t already!]]> Sun, 11 Sep 2011 19:04:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386387&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386387 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386308&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386308 Author: RachFizz
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 September 2011 at 2:23pm

LB & GG]]> Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:23:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386308&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386308 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386304&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386304 Author: _Lou_
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 September 2011 at 2:08pm

Oh girls, big squishy hugs to you both GG and LB

GG, men aye. Maybe give him some time and see if you can coax him into it tonight? Have you been able to talk to him and see if there is anything else behind it? If he's anything like my DH, there is usually something behind it. I hope you get things sorted babe and feel better soon.

LB, argh cr*p. Big fat cr*p. Please know that you didn't do anything to deserve this at all, for some unknown reason this is something some of us have to go through and for others its as easy as anything. I guess its like all things in life, some people struggle with things others don't. I know that doesn't make it feel any better, but don't blame yourself. This will happen for you, I know that's so hard to keep remembering when each month it doesn't work out. Just take care of you and treat yourself to something nice. Hugs babe x]]> Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:08:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386304&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386304 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386301&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386301 Author: babycrazy
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 September 2011 at 2:01pm

Hugs LB. I totally understand how you feel as hearing that those close to us are UTD is always hard.

GG - I get what you mean about venting on here. My man was the same this time around. All week I put myself out there for some lovin' and all week...he's too tired. We did luckily manage some the morning following my ov pain but that was it for the week and NOW he decides he's keen...I'm like 3 days too late buddy (with gritted teeth). Ruddy MEN!!!!]]> Sun, 11 Sep 2011 14:01:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386301&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386301 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386297&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386297 Author: LadyBee
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 September 2011 at 1:44pm

Hugs GG suxs when the other half doesnt come to the party on the most important day its so fustraiting !!



*SIGH* - my sister is pregnant... I knew this day will come just wasnt quite expecting from her so soon. She has been on the pill and I dont know if it was planned (doubt it was cause her partner was quite suprised himself) but she decided she wanted another and BAM shes UTD... my other sister is over the moon because she is going to start trying in Oct and cant wait for them to be preggas together. Me - I dont know how feel. Im so happy for her I really am but Im just so pissed off! WHY THE BLOODY HELL CANT IT BE ME
Why is it that everything I do to try and get UTD something comes in the way, its like the universe is trying to stop me!
Why me, why cant I have a baby, what did I do to deserve this torture?
Im trying so hard to be happy, Im trying to be positive and trying to gain some of my confidence back but I just keep getting knocked down and let down month after month!
Why is this so easy for some and so hideously hard for others?
Why, Why, Why? This sucks, I totally hate it!




Edited by LadyBee]]> Sun, 11 Sep 2011 13:44:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386297&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386297 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386224&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386224 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 September 2011 at 8:38am

RF.... That ache is so real. You are lucky you have time... I'm very jealous... but pain is pain and sadness is sadness regardless of your age or situation.

AFM I'm so pissed off this morning, It's the big O day today.... and instead of BDing, DH doesn't feel like it! GRRRRRR I'm so angry! Yesterday instead of taking it easy like I pleaded him to do... he did a huge workout at the gym... then spent all avo mowing the lawns. Stayed up really late watching TV. Then last night DD was really unsettled and woke us lots! And he blames her! for not being in the Mood!:-( I could just bawl. DH says he is committed to trying to concieve but just doesn't get it! I've showed him charts on the reproductive cycle... so that he understands the importance of Ovulation day.... I just don't get it... he is happy to spend money on IUI and IVF if needed (that we don't have) but he won't prioritise having SEX on Ovulation day!!!!!! GRRRRRR pulling my hair out!

HOW IS THAT FOR A VENT!!!!!!!

I just had to vent on here otherwise I just know I am going to say something to DH that I will seriously regret. ]]> Sun, 11 Sep 2011 08:38:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386224&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386224 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386198&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386198 Author: RachFizz
Subject: 35565
Posted: 10 September 2011 at 11:48pm

Man PMS is the pits! I don't really mind waiting to get pg, some people having been trying for so much longer than me, but I just want to get through this stage and on to dealing with the pregnancy! I've always had horrible PMS, that's why I originally went on the pill in my teens. Planning to talk to DH tonight about everything- he had been a bit unsure in the last couple weeks so if he's not keen to try anymore I may go back on the pill. I was so lucky to not have ANY side effects.. I know I would feel a whole lot better, but I don't think I will ever move on from wanting a baby. I feel so torn. Going to inhale a block of chocolate now.

ETA: I know I'm young and have plenty of time, that doesn't make this ache go away.

Edited by RachFizz]]> Sat, 10 Sep 2011 23:48:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1386198&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1386198 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383746&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383746 Author: white_rabbit
Subject: 35565
Posted: 04 September 2011 at 7:54am

I'm in limbo right now - 3 days past AF due date and getting BFN HPT's.


I think I'll be seeing my doc this week to get us to the gyno. After a year and a half of trying for #2 naturally I think it's about time!

At least I have a beautiful little girl, some don't even have that and have to go through this horrendous process, and that's what keeps me going. Knowing that while all this is seriously frustrating and disheartening there are so, so many others out there who would be more than happy to be in my shoes.

That's my reality check when I start feeling sorry for myself.]]> Sun, 04 Sep 2011 07:54:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383746&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383746 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383592&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383592 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 03 September 2011 at 2:22pm

Sounds promising Sonnycraig! It helps alot to have a plan! I hope the wonder drug does the trick for you!
]]> Sat, 03 Sep 2011 14:22:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383592&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383592 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383500&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383500 Author: sonnycraig
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 10:17pm

Thank you for that Georgiegirl, this place helps so much! specially living away from home and family/friends :)

On another note I have finally been referred to a gynae to get clomid! hope that helps me, also going to get partner tested, at least the ball is rolling which is something I'm glad is happening :)]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 22:17:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383500&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383500 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383447&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383447 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 8:34pm

Sonnycraig.... Hugs. That sounds so hard.
I'm glad you can vent on here.... Vent away! Sometimes it helps.

]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 20:34:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383447&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383447 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383258&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383258 Author: sonnycraig
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 September 2011 at 12:02pm

Waaa! I have been 'told' by my brothers partner that I will have nothing to do with the child (she hasn't announced publically yet), I reacted badly (Not to her but to my brother on the phone and I have been TTC myself for the last 13months) but then me and her got along somewhat.

However, then when I talked to my brother about the subject of a brothers name (passed on years ago). Me and her ended up talking, she said if they want to use 'that' name they will. My brother and I had discussed it was something we (me and him) needed to talk about and what his thoughts were on the name and I told my brother how I felt and had wanted that name for years! I had even thought of what I would name children when I have them, including 'that' name.

She got highly defensive and I just said it was a discussion me and my brother were having (and not a 'will you use that name with this child') about 'that' name.

My mum has told me to back off and stop talking to her after she said I will not have anything to do with him or her, I barely get to see my brother as it is (whole other chapter). Just makes it difficult when my mother was the one to say talk to him about it and now oh well you won't have anything to do with it so sad move along. She talks to brothers g.fs family ALOT!, considers her and her family apart of this family ten times more than the 4yrs I have been with my partner and engaged to!. Family Matters and TTC and finding out your brother is having one before you, it does not mix!

]]> Fri, 02 Sep 2011 12:02:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1383258&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1383258 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382984&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382984 Author: Laurz_20
Subject: 35565
Posted: 01 September 2011 at 6:32pm

Really hope we are in the same due date thread again soon Kazza I dont feel like I can wait much longer im a really impatient person though 14 months was a nightmare for me. Good luck for this month:)]]> Thu, 01 Sep 2011 18:32:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382984&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382984 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382474&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382474 Author: Luckymama23
Subject: 35565
Posted: 31 August 2011 at 6:03pm

Love that quote about mourning the loss of another hope, that puts it perfectly!
Laurz I have had 2 natural m/c 2 d&c and have been told wait for at least 1 normal period to allow your body to recover, but whenever you feel ready- Both physically & emotionally -look forward to hearing good news from you soon (P.S sorry to thread-jack ]]> Wed, 31 Aug 2011 18:03:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382474&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382474 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382444&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382444 Author: astral_monkey
Subject: 35565
Posted: 31 August 2011 at 4:35pm

I hate this stupid TTC bull! Another month gone with no bfp, and no hope.

I hate my stupid job! I'm so over it, I need to get the hell out of here. I stayed because I was supposed to be UTD by now or on maternity leave. It's been over 2.5 years for f's sake! I should not still be here!!!

I hate that my stupid friend bailed on me for my hockey fundraiser tomorrow night because she's "sick". That girl thinks every case of the sniffles puts her on the verge of hospitalisation. Maybe I should send my DH around to her house, he's got a bad fever, shaking really badly, and throwing up. He's spent the last two days in bed. My friend's had 3 days off work and has used the time to plan her wedding, promote her new business and basically stuff about on twitter and facebook.

Grrr. In such a foul mood, and can't even have a whinge to DH cause he's too sick. ]]> Wed, 31 Aug 2011 16:35:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382444&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382444 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382126&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382126 Author: Laurz_20
Subject: 35565
Posted: 31 August 2011 at 7:32am

Sorry to hear AF arrived Georgiegirl:(
I love your quote to "mourn the loss of another hope" so true I never thought of it like that but it sums up the way I felt after every time an unwanted AF arrived.

I know a couple of ladies here have had M/C's so I was wondering if any of you had medical management? If you did do you know when you can start to TTC again? Pm me please if you dont feel comfortable posting in the forum.                                                        

Ugh did it again!

Edited by Laurz_20]]> Wed, 31 Aug 2011 07:32:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382126&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382126 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382083&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382083 Author: Beachoholic
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 August 2011 at 9:06pm

GG - really sorry to hear about your AF arriving. I totally agree with the others - don't feel pressured to feel happy - you will feel better in your own time!

Laurz, GRRR... I get so f*d off with FB sometimes too - it can be so in yer face and unpredictable sometimes!! But then again, can't not use it to socialise.
]]> Tue, 30 Aug 2011 21:06:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382083&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382083 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382028&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382028 Author: Atiamuri
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 August 2011 at 7:47pm

I agree - you need time to be sad, angry, blame other things or people! It is all part of the healing process. What you don't need is to be cheered up and cajoled into feeling better. It just delays the process. Do what you feel like you need to at the time.
So many hopes and dreams... one day.]]> Tue, 30 Aug 2011 19:47:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382028&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382028 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382019&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382019 Author: Hails1
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 August 2011 at 7:43pm

Aggh I'll join in the FB love/hate bandwagon! The other thing that is really difficult to hear is people complaining on FB about their pregnancies when all I can think is I wish that was me.

Georgiegirl good on you for being able to say to your friend that you need space to 'mourn the loss of another hope' because that is exactly what it is. I work at Starship Hospital with parents everyday and I always encourage them to have time when it all gets too much just to cry or get angry without the judgement or 'sympathy eyes' of others. ]]> Tue, 30 Aug 2011 19:43:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1382019&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1382019 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1381994&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1381994 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 August 2011 at 7:15pm

Laurz... that just SUX. It is definately not fair! I know what you mean about FB! At AF arrived... I was so so hopeful that I would be UTD this month as we did IUI...My best friend... just doesn't get it! She called me and spent the whole time trying to cheer me up. In the end.. I just said I'm sure I'll be ok tomorrow but today I don't want to be cheered up, I want to mourn the loss of another hope.... sometimes I just need to take time out to be sad.... I'll cry all day. Then move on. Somehow it helps. ]]> Tue, 30 Aug 2011 19:15:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1381994&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1381994 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1381991&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1381991 Author: Luckymama23
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 August 2011 at 7:09pm

Laurz_20 wrote: I have to say F$%K i hate facebook. Literally a friend everyday in the last week has announced their pregnancy. This weekend it should have been me announcing to my family that we are 14 weeks as they r coming down to stay but no of course nothing goes to plan. Im not sure I want to go through another 14 months of trying its not fair! Edited because I added my sig which still has that im 14 weeks and cant bring myself to remove it permanently.

Oh Laurz, so sad to read your post
Totally know how you feel, have had 3 collegues announcing their pregnancies since my m/c -stoked for them, but still completely gutted for myself ]]> Tue, 30 Aug 2011 19:09:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1381991&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1381991 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1381847&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1381847 Author: Laurz_20
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 August 2011 at 2:19pm

I have to say F$%K i hate facebook.
Literally a friend everyday in the last week has announced their pregnancy.
This weekend it should have been me announcing to my family that we are 14 weeks as they r coming down to stay but no of course nothing goes to plan. Im not sure I want to go through another 14 months of trying its not fair!

Edited because I added my sig which still has that im 14 weeks and cant bring myself to remove it permanently.

Edited by Laurz_20]]> Tue, 30 Aug 2011 14:19:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1381847&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1381847 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1376281&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1376281 Author: MaeBeeBaby
Subject: 35565
Posted: 15 August 2011 at 2:43pm

nannikin wrote: feeling a little left out. MIL & FIL never come to visit any more, we have always got on well - but now they have a grandchild seems DH & i don't count for much. maybe i'm just being my normal oversensitive self but it still grates a little more than it should bah, family politics... Edited to make sense!

Awww this unfortunately DOES happen. I just think of it as a little bit of peace and quiet for a while . My Mum finally has her first grandchild and at least it has taken the pressure off us for the first time in... well FOREVER! In fact I think she has given up now so that is quite good for us as she's not phoning every month to see if I am UTD or not.]]> Mon, 15 Aug 2011 14:43:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1376281&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1376281 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1376280&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1376280 Author: MaeBeeBaby
Subject: 35565
Posted: 15 August 2011 at 2:41pm

Decided not to have a rant

Edited by MaeBeeBaby]]> Mon, 15 Aug 2011 14:41:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1376280&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1376280 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1375950&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1375950 Author: nannikin
Subject: 35565
Posted: 14 August 2011 at 5:03pm

feeling a little left out. MIL & FIL never come to visit any more, we have always got on well - but now they have a grandchild seems DH & i don't count for much. maybe i'm just being my normal oversensitive self but it still grates a little more than it should bah, family politics...



Edited to make sense!

Edited by nannikin]]> Sun, 14 Aug 2011 17:03:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1375950&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1375950 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1375761&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1375761 Author: babycrazy
Subject: 35565
Posted: 13 August 2011 at 10:42pm

Argh what will it take to get you to time it right? What do I have to do? You want to know why I'm not pregnant yet you won't put a bit of extra effort in to even try.
RUDDY MEN!!!!]]> Sat, 13 Aug 2011 22:42:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1375761&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1375761 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1375440&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1375440 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 12 August 2011 at 8:12pm

W.R... I had that same think a couple of months ago... I think it might have been a chemical? AF is always on time for me.. and well it was an entire week early. Then it came at the normal time as well... grrrr so I had 2 weeks of bleeding... Grrrrr.

NEC... HUGS.. sorry. people just don't know what to say huh...? why do they always say the wrong thing? Thinking of you... and I hope you get an extra sticky bean soon.

Hun, tee hee hee I love your ticker! it gives me hope! 5 weeks already! YAY!!!!!!!!]]> Fri, 12 Aug 2011 20:12:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1375440&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1375440 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374926&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374926 Author: white_rabbit
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 6:13pm

NEC - Oh Lordy. WTF?! Has anyone given that woman a reality check yet?

Rachfizz - Don't ya hate stupid cycles? Mine was always clockwork, 28 days. Then, not this month but last I started getting bleeding about a week early and got excited thinking it might've been implantation bleeding. Nup. Just my body f**king with my head!]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 18:13:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374926&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374926 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374802&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374802 Author: RachFizz
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 3:06pm

Cycle is all up the whop!!!!!!!!!

At least I have ovulated at some point- but I just wish AF would show instead of all these cramps and then nothing!!! Temp dropping and BFN so it must be just round the corner, stop toying with my mind stupid bee-atch


NEC really sorry to hear bout ur phonecall what a freakin clueless woman!

Edited for grammar

Edited by RachFizz]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 15:06:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374802&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374802 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374630&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374630 Author: Hun
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 11:33am

oh man NEC - don't even know what to say other than huge hugs luv. Why is it sooo easy for the people who don't seem to deserve it?]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 11:33:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374630&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374630 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374605&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374605 Author: notenufchaos
Subject: 35565
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 11:10am

seriously you ring me up ask me how the TTC thing is going then as soon as i say its taking longer this time you immediately ramble on to me about being pregnant with TWINS to an 18 YEAR OLD your 32 years old you already have four children FFS grow up ]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 11:10:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1374605&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1374605 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1373860&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1373860 Author: white_rabbit
Subject: 35565
Posted: 09 August 2011 at 10:32pm

Oh thanks for clearing that up! :D Unfortunately the TTCers most hated Aunt paid us a visit this weekend. I had almost convinced myslef I was pregnant (had weird tingly boobs, which I never get as PMS so thought it had to be pregnancy) nup, no dice.

So I'm headed to a website my cousin introduced me too which has a BUCKETLOAD of ovulation testing apparatus, and even a home sperm count/motility test. Imagine that, home testing the swimmers! Who'd a thunk it?

Anyone else having better luck?]]> Tue, 09 Aug 2011 22:32:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1373860&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1373860 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1372552&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1372552 Author: RachFizz
Subject: 35565
Posted: 07 August 2011 at 6:10pm

How are things going White Rabbit? Hope AF (Aunt Flo ) has stayed away ]]> Sun, 07 Aug 2011 18:10:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1372552&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1372552 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1370845&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1370845 Author: white_rabbit
Subject: 35565
Posted: 03 August 2011 at 11:14am

Hey guys, thought I'd best introduce myself. I used to post here when I was pregnant with my first in 2008. Now my beautiful girl will be three in a couple of weeks and we STILL haven't gotten UTD with number 2. We've been actively trying for a year, and half heartedly trying for about 4 months before that. We had a HUGE family trip to the Gold Coast planned for last August so we started trying in about April of last year, but then backed off for the sake of me not having morning sickness in Oz. We needn't have worried about any of that!

My cousin is also trying and having a hard time of it, she had a miscarriage Dec last year after trying for a year, and we vent together about all the people who only need be sneezed on to get pregnant (my SIL is on of those people) and then bitch and moan about their kids or flat out don't look after them at all. Also found out last weekend that two of my besties are trying as well, one of whom got pregnant in her first month of trying last time around and the other is having trouble getting knocked up with Number 1.

So I have a good support group of RL venters, but it's nice to be a bit anonymous and vent here about people none of you know!

Currently awaiting AF (don't know what the letters stand for anymore, but I know it's your period!) but am mentally willing my boobs to start aching as they did first time around. In fact, they were the giveaway. But I discouraged myself from thinking too positively and tried telling myself it was just PMS. But I felt different. Now, every month I will my period away, but to no avail. Hoping this week will be different, but I'm a realist.

I don't know if it's more frustrating TTC with no kids or knowing that you CAN get pregnant, but for some reason or another it's not happening. What is frustrating is that DP won't give up HIS smoking/drinking but I haven't had a serious drink for a long while, and am taking supplements for Africa. I got so frustrated one day that I said if it hasn't happened by the end of this year I'm out. No more trying. It's sucked the fun out of sex and is too disappointing.

Holy crap, sorry for the novel!]]> Wed, 03 Aug 2011 11:14:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1370845&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1370845 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1369200&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1369200 Author: Beachoholic
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 July 2011 at 9:31am

Sorry to hear about your DF Patientlywaiting - such a hard journey and can affect both of us in different ways ay. My DH just makes jokes about what we are not missing out on (sleep deprivation, crying etc)... which only really helps temporarily.

Sonnycraig - boo for your situation - double-hard when it's your family - hugs!

Grr - my rant for the day - I'm not loving when people who aren't TTC/people who get preggers easily giving you advice like "just don't think about it". If only it was that easy. Sigh.

]]> Sat, 30 Jul 2011 09:31:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1369200&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1369200 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1368184&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1368184 Author: Atiamuri
Subject: 35565
Posted: 27 July 2011 at 7:41pm

It really is heartbraking seeing the boys upset about it... and we think we drive ourselves crazy thinking about it. I don't think we give them enough credit sometimes... in some ways I think it affects them more... pride and manlihood and all that... Hugs all!
]]> Wed, 27 Jul 2011 19:41:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1368184&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1368184 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1368030&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1368030 Author: Patientlywaiting
Subject: 35565
Posted: 27 July 2011 at 2:11pm

Oh Sonny craig i feel for you!

We've been trying for 9 months and i have neices who are telling me they are UTD and then Friends from school telling me yay it's our second we are so happy! And i am so happy for them do not get me wrong but every time i hear it something in me breaks a bit more!

DF got really upset and cried because it just seems like it's going to happen for us. And boy did that hurt seeing my tough man cry.]]> Wed, 27 Jul 2011 14:11:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1368030&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1368030 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1367969&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1367969 Author: sonnycraig
Subject: 35565
Posted: 27 July 2011 at 12:20pm

Just got told by my younger brother that him and his g.f are UTD! congrats to him but me and her haven't gotten a long for some time now and I pretty much never see him since he has been with her. Me and the other half have been TTC a year now after implanon removal. My mother & step father denied when 'she' told them when I asked twice if she was (my mother had been talking to 'her' via facebook and 'she' told my mother that she was first pregnant via facebook) but me and my mum got into an arguement because why didn't he tell me till last & all the secrecy, she did the 'I'm his mother of course he's going to tell me before you'. I have no problems there except it was 'her' that told my mother! I am having such a 'waa waa' day :(]]> Wed, 27 Jul 2011 12:20:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1367969&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1367969 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1353257&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1353257 Author: babycrazy
Subject: 35565
Posted: 26 June 2011 at 4:33pm

Yep she is a keeper alright!]]> Sun, 26 Jun 2011 16:33:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1353257&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1353257 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1353249&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1353249 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 26 June 2011 at 4:17pm

Babycrazy... what a lovely considerate friend! She is a keeper! I know how you feel. From a coffee group of 15, now 6 of the girls are on to number 2. It hurts so much, we have been trying so long now and have now had help the past 3 months as still nothing.
I'm glad there is a forum where we can just be real.

Orca, I'm glad you are feeling better! We all have good and bad days. HUGS
]]> Sun, 26 Jun 2011 16:17:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1353249&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1353249 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1352680&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1352680 Author: babycrazy
Subject: 35565
Posted: 24 June 2011 at 9:09pm

Usual story bestie rings to tell me shes UTD with number 2. The lovely thing rang because she cares so much and was worried about my reaction. I absolutely LOVE her for it.
I'm not gutted she's pregnant I'm gutted I'm NOT. I'm gutted she gets to have her second child before I even get one and that we aren't sharing the experience of having babies together.
TTC is not freaking fair...when do I get my break?]]> Fri, 24 Jun 2011 21:09:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1352680&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1352680 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351704&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351704 Author: Orca1
Subject: 35565
Posted: 23 June 2011 at 11:17am

Thanks Didi. Its good having somewhere to vent and I am happy to say I am having a better day today and not feeling as down as I was.   Also made an appointment to go back to our specialist and have been doing a lot of research so have some ideas we want to put to him.    
]]> Thu, 23 Jun 2011 11:17:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351704&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351704 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351703&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351703 Author: CarleyRose
Subject: 35565
Posted: 23 June 2011 at 11:08am

Awww GG, huge hugs! ]]> Thu, 23 Jun 2011 11:08:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351703&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351703 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351136&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351136 Author: didi99
Subject: 35565
Posted: 22 June 2011 at 12:45pm

Orca I am so sorry to see you have had MC # 4, all I can say is I completely understand how you feel life really is just not fair sometimes and some people have no idea. I guess all we can do is take things one day at a time and try not to get overwelmed by it all, well thats what I'm trying for at the moment anyway, easier said than done some days though hey.]]> Wed, 22 Jun 2011 12:45:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351136&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351136 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351095&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351095 Author: Orca1
Subject: 35565
Posted: 22 June 2011 at 11:23am

Feeling very sorry for myself at the moment! Had #4 m/c this month at 10 weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks and stupidly relaxing and thinking our luck had finally changed. Found out a friend that was still in talks with her DH about trying for 3# is UTD on second attempt!!! Fell out with friends after some really insensitive comments made when we told them I had m/c. How much more crap is going to be thrown our way??]]> Wed, 22 Jun 2011 11:23:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1351095&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1351095 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1347296&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1347296 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 6:08pm

Sag, Sorry to hear that... This TTC business SUX!
Emmap.... grrrr I know what you mean, I feel like I'm surrounded by people falling pregnant so easily. One friend had a whoop pregnant. Another UTD first month of trying! I'm happy for them but so low about me. :-(

We had a chemical this month... :-( just feeling sorry for myself.
]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 18:08:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1347296&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1347296 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1347283&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1347283 Author: Sag76
Subject: 35565
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 5:50pm

Doc in late March - let's send you to fertility specialist
Me (late MArch) - OK
Me (mid June) - not heard anything - what's happening
Doc (mid June) - oh...sorry they said in April that you are not a priority - come back in a year...

FFS! Surely they could have told me that in April!!!

]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 17:50:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1347283&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1347283 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1346378&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1346378 Author: CarleyRose
Subject: 35565
Posted: 14 June 2011 at 1:12pm

TTC Sux! I'm totally over it, why can't i just get UTD! Totally pisses me off when i see people with children who get pregnant first pop! Why couldn't that be me! ]]> Tue, 14 Jun 2011 13:12:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1346378&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1346378 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1333921&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1333921 Author: Staffylicious
Subject: 35565
Posted: 25 May 2011 at 9:01pm


Ergh why wont my body do what i want it too ]]> Wed, 25 May 2011 21:01:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1333921&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1333921 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1320901&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1320901 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 08 May 2011 at 7:50am

KcM, So sorry to hear that, it seriously SUX. I feel the same when I go out and see seriously rough looking Mums dragging a pile of dirty unloved looking kids around.
DH and I only took 3 months of trying to fall with DD, (who is severely handicapped) and now we have been trying for 9 mths for number 2. All I want is a typical child who will smile at me and recognise me, and do all those little things others take for granted like sitting and holding toys, learning to catch a ball with Dad etc
Everyone seems to have kids so easily and just look at us. I wanted a baby, I just wasn't anticipating DD staying a baby forever.
This TWW is really doing my head in... I just feel like crying all the time. I'm petrified about how I'm going to cope with effectively 2 babies, one being the size of a 2 year old.]]> Sun, 08 May 2011 07:50:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1320901&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1320901 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1317296&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1317296 Author: Atiamuri
Subject: 35565
Posted: 03 May 2011 at 10:41am

KcM... that really wasn't fair of your aunt to say that. Man it sucks when people just don't understand. ]]> Tue, 03 May 2011 10:41:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1317296&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1317296 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1317237&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1317237 Author: KcP
Subject: 35565
Posted: 03 May 2011 at 9:33am

Aw, atiamuri *hugs* its not fair
I have a 19 year old cousin who's jst had a baby. I ended up calling my aunt and saying i was having a rough time and didnt want to go to the baby shower and was told to get over myself..

I have another 16 year old cousin that pregnant too andimlike "huh"? What about ME???

Its now 4 years this month since I went off the pill, 3 years when I realised something wasnt going right and got the PCOS Dx.. And i have famly that just 'whoops, im pregnant' all around me..

ITS NOT FAIR ]]> Tue, 03 May 2011 09:33:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1317237&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1317237 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1317194&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1317194 Author: Atiamuri
Subject: 35565
Posted: 03 May 2011 at 8:48am

So I've had one friend who has been amazing through all my crap in the last 12 months. I get a phonecall last night from her she says, well I'm pregnant. I'm really gutted for you but am stoked. I'm so pleased that she told me on the phone, but seriously, just finished breastfeeding, hasn't had a period yet and ON THE PILL! That just isn't fair...
Don't get me wrong, I'm stoked for her and hubby, but WHY CAN"T IT BE EASY LIKE THAT FOR US!!
So she has a scan yesterday, sees a heartbeat and she's 8 weeks just like that.
That is all I want...a scan with a heartbeat... too much to ask maybe??
]]> Tue, 03 May 2011 08:48:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1317194&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1317194 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316940&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316940 Author: _Lou_
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 May 2011 at 6:52pm

Hugs girls, its just not fair at all ]]> Mon, 02 May 2011 18:52:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316940&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316940 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316681&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316681 Author: KarenMae
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 May 2011 at 1:10pm

Is it too much to ask to expect a baby when you get a BFP?????

Staring down the barrel at another loss ]]> Mon, 02 May 2011 13:10:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316681&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316681 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316641&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316641 Author: astral_monkey
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 May 2011 at 12:26pm

Grrr, mc/chemical pregnancy last week, and I come into work this morning to find a pic of a colleagues new baby in the mail, then another colleague comes in to my office to show off pics of her wee one too.

]]> Mon, 02 May 2011 12:26:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316641&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316641 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316577&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316577 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 May 2011 at 10:42am

Thanks GG, it's hard when I said to myself on Mothers Day last year that I would have a baby or be pregnant next Mothers Day and it hasn't happened, especially when I should be around 6 months along right now.
I'm dreading Sunday.]]> Mon, 02 May 2011 10:42:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316577&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316577 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316562&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316562 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 May 2011 at 10:20am

LR...I hope you feel the opposite next year.
]]> Mon, 02 May 2011 10:20:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316562&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316562 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316527&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316527 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 35565
Posted: 02 May 2011 at 9:44am

The thought of Mothers Day coming up really depresses me ]]> Mon, 02 May 2011 09:44:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1316527&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1316527 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1311061&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1311061 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 22 April 2011 at 7:49am

Caronz.... That is just hideous for you! Talk about unfair.

Sending you extra baby dust for this month, it sounds like you deserve that extra dose.
]]> Fri, 22 Apr 2011 07:49:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1311061&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1311061 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1310766&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1310766 Author: Caronz
Subject: 35565
Posted: 21 April 2011 at 3:46pm

So happy for my friend but since we were due a day apart and had a mc a day apart would it not be too much to expect mother nature to alow us to have babies sort of close together!!! she is miles ahead of me and I am still no where! Im ment to be having a baby next month not still trying to get preg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ]]> Thu, 21 Apr 2011 15:46:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1310766&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1310766 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1310099&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1310099 Author: _Lou_
Subject: 35565
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 4:48pm

It does suck arse girls just not fair at all x]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 16:48:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1310099&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1310099 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309868&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309868 Author: LadyBee
Subject: 35565
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 12:26pm

Booboo wrote: So over it, 3.5 years TTC sucks arse. Why us I don't get it.

Yep I ask myself this all the time....Why me???

TTC Totally sucks arse

's babe ]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 12:26:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309868&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309868 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309732&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309732 Author: IVFGirl1111
Subject: 35565
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 9:34am

So over it, 3.5 years TTC sucks arse. Why us I don't get it.

So over it lately it's finally "gotten" to me. Hmph.]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 09:34:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309732&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309732 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309658&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309658 Author: Brunettie86
Subject: 35565
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 8:38am

Come on DH can you at least make some time to think about our life outside of the bloody farm. The the vitamins and don't complain about it. ]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 08:38:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309658&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309658 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309615&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309615 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 8:00am

FX'd for you this month still Hun. I hope that we will both having a little Jan bub though my chances are pretty slim as DH has a business trip and is away the 2 days before my likely O day! So Feb is more likely.

I've just been on the Baby for you site and bought Preseed and Menevit for DH, if he is going to be away... he can at least be taking vits!
]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 08:00:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1309615&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1309615 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1308981&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1308981 Author: Hun
Subject: 35565
Posted: 19 April 2011 at 10:02am

thanks babycrazy, i'll give baby4you a go!

Big hugs georgiegirl - looks like we both failed this time :(

hate hate hate being so out of control about when this is going to happen. aaaaaaaaaargh.]]> Tue, 19 Apr 2011 10:02:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1308981&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1308981 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1308971&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1308971 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 19 April 2011 at 9:57am

Heart broken....failed another month.]]> Tue, 19 Apr 2011 09:57:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1308971&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1308971 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307926&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307926 Author: babycrazy
Subject: 35565
Posted: 17 April 2011 at 4:46pm

Hun - try baby4you website for cheaper preg tests. They also sell opks and all manner of other fertility related things.

Hugs to everyone who needs one!

I have no vent really just that 18mths is long enough thank you very much and I would appreciate it mother nature would stop playing games and get me pregnant. ]]> Sun, 17 Apr 2011 16:46:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307926&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307926 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307838&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307838 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 17 April 2011 at 2:29pm

Halted... so sorry! Its so hard isn't it! I feel the same... its okay to be sad.
I find that curling up with a favourite movie and chocolate really helps!

]]> Sun, 17 Apr 2011 14:29:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307838&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307838 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307791&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307791 Author: _H_
Subject: 35565
Posted: 17 April 2011 at 12:46pm

I feel so down today! Actually i have been down all week, everytime i see a young child I cry inside. Just when I think Im fine about how things are going this happens ]]> Sun, 17 Apr 2011 12:46:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307791&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307791 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307236&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307236 Author: Hun
Subject: 35565
Posted: 15 April 2011 at 9:33pm

Hey Georgiegirl

Totally know what you mean - we're not telling anyone either and its so hard keeping everything inside when its such a huge deal to me and such a big focus but i can't talk about it to anyone! We haven't been trying for that long, only since the beginning of the year, but I want it so bad and i am so worried that I won't get pregnant or that it will take ages. Its scary cos its something that i can't really control, and i don't like the feeling of not being in control.

I'm testing in 4 days and it feels like forever away! Went and bought some tests today, does anyone know where you can get them any cheaper than the supermarket - paid $10 for two tests, this is going to get expensive if it doesn't happen soon!

Good luck for wednesday! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you and looking out for good news!]]> Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:33:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1307236&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1307236 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1306445&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1306445 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 35565
Posted: 14 April 2011 at 5:53pm

Grrrrrrrrr I'm in the TWW and have another 5 days to go till Testing! and I'm SICK of waiting and I'm sick of having my heart broken every month! No matter how I try to remain detached, I seem to fall madly in love with the little bean that I imagine is in there!!!!!

I HATE the TWW! and I Hate feeling like a total LOSER every month that AF arrives....I really hate that there is really no one to talk to about it as I don't want everyone knowing! We are women for goodness sake we need to rant!!!!!! So to whoever started this forum! A BIG THANK YOU FROM ME!

Phew.... that feels better... I really needed that rant!]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2011 17:53:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1306445&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1306445 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1305102&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1305102 Author: RedHeadDuck
Subject: 35565
Posted: 12 April 2011 at 9:53pm

curlysue wrote: I feel your pain Annashev, im in Invercargill too, I go privately to Erica Hunter who performed my lap surgery in February, to be honest I dont find her overly great we have been ttc #2 for 19months, I have been seeing her since August 2010, she doesnt seem to see any urgency at all and I guess in a way there kinda isnt, im 32 but I wanted a small age gap between my children, obviously not an option now. If I can help with anything feel free to pm me.

We are also Invercargill. Although we didn't need help with TTC. Erica Hunter was one of the obs while I was in hospital having our first.... Talk about less than impressed with her She actually ended up delivering him and I don't think she even waited in the room until his feet were out
From what I've heard she isn't very highly thought of....

Edited by MooCow]]> Tue, 12 Apr 2011 21:53:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1305102&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1305102 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1303308&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1303308 Author: Caronz
Subject: 35565
Posted: 10 April 2011 at 1:59pm

ITS NOT BLOODY FAIR!!!!!!
Why cant I get things I want some times, another baby before I turn 40 wasnt too much to ask was it? Really? Its not like we havent spent enough time and money trying to make it happen. This is sooooo unfair I hate it and everything that it is doing to my life!!! I wish there was a way to not let this consume me, but it does and i hate it. Full of anger and hate and it sucks :(]]> Sun, 10 Apr 2011 13:59:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1303308&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1303308 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1302483&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1302483 Author: LadyBee
Subject: 35565
Posted: 08 April 2011 at 1:55pm

KM HUGE HUGE Hugs]]> Fri, 08 Apr 2011 13:55:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1302483&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1302483 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1302292&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1302292 Author: KarenMae
Subject: 35565
Posted: 08 April 2011 at 9:55am

So I did the unthinkable... and managed to cry in the middle of work, in front of my male boss... yay.

Luckily work knows my struggles and knows about my two miscarriages, but geez - how embarrasing...

Day starts off with fight with the hubby, then get to work early and check facebook and my friend announces she is 8 weeks pregnant to her boyfriend... of 8 weeks...

And then I cry, and then I get caught crying... wonderful...

And then hubby sends me a lovely email saying sorry... and then I cry... and then I get caught crying.. again...

And then hubby finally recongnises that I am still grieving for my lost pregnancies (his stance till now is that I need to get over it) and suggests that I get couselling, and he will come and be supportive etc... and then I cry... again... and then I get caught crying.... again...

And it's my birthday on Wed and I'll be 34, so only another year before my chances are quite low... awesome...

So am sad and depressed and angry all rolled into one...

Life sux

Vent over ]]> Fri, 08 Apr 2011 09:55:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1302292&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1302292 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1301022&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1301022 Author: curlysue
Subject: 35565
Posted: 06 April 2011 at 5:34pm

ARRRGGGGGGHHHH god damn you f$@KN cramps and backache, I thought you were going to stay away this month but no you turned up with avengence without out any warning, from this I would say the evil witch will be here in the next couple of days oh F$@KN JOY

]]> Wed, 06 Apr 2011 17:34:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1301022&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1301022 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1301020&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1301020 Author: curlysue
Subject: 35565
Posted: 06 April 2011 at 5:31pm

I feel your pain Annashev, im in Invercargill too, I go privately to Erica Hunter who performed my lap surgery in February, to be honest I dont find her overly great we have been ttc #2 for 19months, I have been seeing her since August 2010, she doesnt seem to see any urgency at all and I guess in a way there kinda isnt, im 32 but I wanted a small age gap between my children, obviously not an option now. If I can help with anything feel free to pm me.]]> Wed, 06 Apr 2011 17:31:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1301020&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1301020 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1300520&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1300520 Author: AnnaShev
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 April 2011 at 9:38pm

am in invercargill have put in all the details in other thread]]> Tue, 05 Apr 2011 21:38:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1300520&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1300520 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1300436&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1300436 Author: Hopes
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 April 2011 at 8:31pm

Just jumping between boards, sorry AnnaShev, but where in the country are you? You can self-refer to somewhere like Fertility Associates, and they'll be able to help with fertility stuff. You'll have to pay (I think it's about $90?) but if you can manage to do that you'll get an appointment a lot faster ]]> Tue, 05 Apr 2011 20:31:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1300436&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1300436 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1300428&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1300428 Author: AnnaShev
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 April 2011 at 8:26pm

GAH our hospital system sucks!!!!!!!!
have been trying for a year and went nd got checked out and referred to the specialist.
Anyway got a letter from the hospital to say they got my referal and because of my age im low priority and have to wait 6 months plus to see a specialist GAH!!!!!!
not that huge I know but it annoys me]]> Tue, 05 Apr 2011 20:26:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1300428&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1300428 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1299975&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1299975 Author: astral_monkey
Subject: 35565
Posted: 05 April 2011 at 11:55am

AAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

I'm just sort of at a loss. I don't know how to feel. Are things working properly or not? Should I be happy with the progress we've made? Should I be in tears constantly because it hasn't happened yet? Are all the things I'm doing going to work this month? Am I doing enough? When is it our turn? What do we do if it doesn't happen for us this month? Or next month? Or the month after that?

Why am I letting this rule my life?

Two and a half years is a long time. ]]> Tue, 05 Apr 2011 11:55:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1299975&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1299975 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1296305&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1296305 Author: nannikin
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 March 2011 at 10:04pm

KarenMae wrote: And yet another work mate announcing their pregnancy... Yay

i don't really know what to say cos i'm not anywhere near that point yet, but hugs! sometimes it does seem that they're all around you though huh]]> Wed, 30 Mar 2011 22:04:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1296305&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1296305 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1296303&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1296303 Author: nannikin
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 March 2011 at 10:02pm

Mucky_Tiger wrote: you gotta do what you gotta do. the heart gets what the heart wants. im getting pissed off at DP for telling me were not having kids till I graduate, but if we had a baby now it would be born before my classes go back and old enough to go to daycare by July. but nope I have to wait because he 'is enjoying not being tied down' he honestly just doesnt understand how much I want to be TTC like yesterday...were looking at buying a new house (but friends/flatmate dont know yet) and im looking at schools in the area and how child friendly the house is, and he cant understand why and says it doesnt matter we dont have kids" FFS can i not plan for the future. im seriously considering getting my IUD removed (and maybe swapping to a Jadelle implant)as every 2-3weeks I get horrid cramps where even codeine wont dull them and it feels like my IUD is going to pop out each side of my uterus (apparently normal) but I so hate it. EVERYONE at work can tell if its 'my time' as im living on drugs and hugging my wheatbag to death while curled up and stopping every 5min to huddle and swear a bit. Oops that was a long vent

vent away that really sux! sometimes i don't think they really they really click as to how much the baby thing colours our perceptions of everything... i'm such an egg, i've already been looking at my work clothes thinking which ones will help hide a belly lol jumping the gun much??

i think if you get cramps like that so often surely it's worth time/money to change to something else esp if codeine etc isn't killing the pain for you :S not cool!]]> Wed, 30 Mar 2011 22:02:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1296303&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1296303 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1295946&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1295946 Author: KarenMae
Subject: 35565
Posted: 30 March 2011 at 2:34pm

And yet another work mate announcing their pregnancy...

Yay ]]> Wed, 30 Mar 2011 14:34:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1295946&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1295946 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1294703&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1294703 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 35565
Posted: 28 March 2011 at 8:09pm

nannikin wrote: ooops on second thoughts, this looks like a venting thread about TTC!! sorry gals! in that case - damn indecisiveness!! i really want a bub but know in my heart of hearts i should probably wait to TTC until the end of the year stoopid life not falling into place the way i think it should!!!

you gotta do what you gotta do. the heart gets what the heart wants.
im getting pissed off at DP for telling me were not having kids till I graduate, but if we had a baby now it would be born before my classes go back and old enough to go to daycare by July. but nope I have to wait because he 'is enjoying not being tied down'
he honestly just doesnt understand how much I want to be TTC like yesterday...were looking at buying a new house (but friends/flatmate dont know yet) and im looking at schools in the area and how child friendly the house is, and he cant understand why and says it doesnt matter we dont have kids" FFS can i not plan for the future.
im seriously considering getting my IUD removed (and maybe swapping to a Jadelle implant)as every 2-3weeks I get horrid cramps where even codeine wont dull them and it feels like my IUD is going to pop out each side of my uterus (apparently normal) but I so hate it. EVERYONE at work can tell if its 'my time' as im living on drugs and hugging my wheatbag to death while curled up and stopping every 5min to huddle and swear a bit.

Oops that was a long vent]]> Mon, 28 Mar 2011 20:09:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1294703&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1294703 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1294469&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1294469 Author: Brunettie86
Subject: 35565
Posted: 28 March 2011 at 3:35pm

Don't need DH to say oh well you got sick so that counts this month out - like it is my fault I got a cold and really it probably didn't have any effect on TTC at all. This is the day before AF is due when I am all emotional already that I could feel cramps and by telling him I was after support not blame. Then to top it off he said we might need to stop trying because we might not have as much money as we expected because he is moving jobs. We are up to cycle 5 now and we have been talking about this for a year - you can't change your mind! As we are finding out it doesn't "just happen" for a lot of people and this could be a long ride - so don't say that and then dare talk about flat screen tvs or you won't have any useful testicles.]]> Mon, 28 Mar 2011 15:35:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1294469&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1294469 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1293148&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1293148 Author: Orca1
Subject: 35565
Posted: 26 March 2011 at 12:09pm

Every month I think I am UTD only to be bitterly disappointed when AF arrives. I am over AF signs being so like pregnancy signs. I know a lot of it is probably in my head because I want it so much but am really over it!!!!]]> Sat, 26 Mar 2011 12:09:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35565&PID=1293148&title=venting-place-for-ttcrs#1293148