OHbaby! Forums : Newly Single and Pregnant https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 15:28:05 +0000 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 16:12:52 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=36812 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Hi there, I am so glad this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=5820232&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#5820232 Author: farmgal72
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 November 2012 at 4:12pm

Hi there,
 
I am so glad this group started and send hugs to you allHeart.
I left my hubby when I was about 8 weeks pregnant due to his emotional and verbal abuse....which got worse after I found out I was pregnant.
I am currently living with my Mother and are 4 months along now.
I am on the sickness benefit which my midwife put me on as soon as we seperated as I also had to deal with extreme vomiting/nausea then had bit of a breakdown through all the stress and now have depression, which the sicknes benefit covers also.
I am getting stronger each day and are looking for my own place which WINZ will pay for.....just to let you know in case anyone is in the same situation.
Hubby is in therapy for anger and other issues and we had one session together yesterday which I cried all the way through.
He wants to be a part of the baby's life and get back together but I am happier on my own currently....and healthier for baby I feel.
Hope you all are coping ok.....
 
]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2012 16:12:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=5820232&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#5820232 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Thanks ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393622&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393622 Author: Babe
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 9:19pm

Thanks ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 21:19:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393622&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393622 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Yay - congrats Babe ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393595&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393595 Author: HuntersMama
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 8:33pm

Yay - congrats Babe ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 20:33:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393595&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393595 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Bowie wrote:Play NAKED - love...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393577&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393577 Author: Babe
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 7:58pm

Originally posted by Bowie Bowie wrote:

Play NAKED - love it!! Congrats babe :) Had heard through the OB grapevine but was waiting for the public ticker announcement lol.

Lol yeah I was nervous (still am) and wanted to pretend for abit but I had a scan this week and baby is still kicking and all the parentals know now so I figured I'd see how it looked on my normal handle

ETA Thanks chick

Originally posted by Bowie Bowie wrote:

Yeah - not a bad idea. Its awkward though - half of what we know is how to get stuff from winz and that sounds so dole-bludgery in a bad way to some.

It could just be titled Entitlements and you could just list what they are with links. Parenting is hard enough without being single and broke! And I don't mind slapping people into line for you if they're rude

Edited by Babe]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 19:58:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393577&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393577 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Here&#039;s the link to the IRD...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393557&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393557 Author: Shelt
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 7:16pm

Here's the link to the IRD website for it Parental tax credit]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 19:16:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393557&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393557 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Mintyfresh wrote:If you are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393556&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393556 Author: Shelt
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 7:15pm

Originally posted by Mintyfresh Mintyfresh wrote:

If you are not working you can also apply for a grant which is the (almost) equivalent of the 14 weeks paid parental leave. I found out about it on the ird website.


I assume you are talking about the parental tax credit? You can only get it if during the eight weeks after the child's birth, you and/or your partner did not receive any of the following:

•an income-tested benefit from the Department of Work and Income
•New Zealand Superannuation or veteran's pension
•a student allowance
•weekly accident compensation (for more than three months).


But you have till your baby is 3 months old to apply for it. Not sure what your circumstances are Bec but if you're not on the benefit you could still apply for it?]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 19:15:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393556&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393556 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Play NAKED - love it!! Congrats...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393535&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393535 Author: Plushie
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 6:11pm

Play NAKED - love it!! Congrats babe :) Had heard through the OB grapevine but was waiting for the public ticker announcement lol.

Yeah - not a bad idea. Its awkward though - half of what we know is how to get stuff from winz and that sounds so dole-bludgery in a bad way to some. ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 18:11:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393535&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393535 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Maybe you guys should start a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393389&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393389 Author: Babe
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 12:20pm

Maybe you guys should start a thread about whats available as a single parent or a single pregnant almost-parent? Ask admin to sticky it so other people don't miss out on what you know?]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 12:20:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393389&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393389 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : It&#039;s too late for me, but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393351&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393351 Author: ....
Subject: 36812
Posted: 29 September 2011 at 10:43am

It's too late for me, but on the family court website I found out that I could claim to get half of the set-up costs from his father.]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 10:43:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393351&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393351 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Hi Bec! My partner left me at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393249&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393249 Author: aers270191
Subject: 36812
Posted: 28 September 2011 at 9:49pm

Hi Bec! My partner left me at 16/17 weeks and Im still pregnant and relocating from chch to Auckland before baby gets here. Unfortunately except child support when baby gets here they dont have to do diddly squat. My babies Dad and I are finally on talking terms almost 2 months later, and although Ill be in a different city he wants to be involved too. I would say just ask if you need help financially with baby gear, if he still wants to be involved Im sure it wont be an issue for him]]> Wed, 28 Sep 2011 21:49:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1393249&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1393249 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Darn, wish I knew about that a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1392519&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1392519 Author: ....
Subject: 36812
Posted: 27 September 2011 at 10:37am

Darn, wish I knew about that a couple months ago!]]> Tue, 27 Sep 2011 10:37:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1392519&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1392519 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : If you are not working you can...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1392489&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1392489 Author: Mintyfresh
Subject: 36812
Posted: 27 September 2011 at 9:30am

If you are not working you can also apply for a grant which is the (almost) equivalent of the 14 weeks paid parental leave. I found out about it on the ird website.]]> Tue, 27 Sep 2011 09:30:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1392489&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1392489 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Oooh good point Flutterby, i think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205995&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205995 Author: Plushie
Subject: 36812
Posted: 23 November 2010 at 9:36am

Oooh good point Flutterby, i think someone said in the Winz post a few down that Winz will give you a 1000 one off payment to help setting up - investigate that for sure. If you're not working you can go on sickness benefit from either 28 or 29 weeks. Your midwife will give you a form.]]> Tue, 23 Nov 2010 09:36:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205995&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205995 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Hugs Bec. My partner of 3 years...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205987&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205987 Author: Flutterby
Subject: 36812
Posted: 23 November 2010 at 9:29am

Hugs Bec.

My partner of 3 years also decided that he didn't want to be together when I was 8wks preg. His argument was that we are different people with nothing in common. Though in my view he just wasn't ready to deal with all the responsiblities that being a farther has and didn't want to give up his single life.    

So DS and I moved in mums in Auckland in August and up until now DS has been going to his dads one weekend a month. (he lives 5hrs away). I have finally put my foot down this week and told him that I çán't justify spending the money on two tanks of petrol to drop DS at our halfway meeting point. Am hoping that makes him realise that he needs to help me out more finacially.

Sorry for my ramble, just wanted you to know my background.

In my view he should help out with supporting his child if he can. Setting up for a baby can cost a bit. You will also be able to get Working for Families once bubs is here and they give you a bit extra for the first 6 wks to help with costs. You will be able to apply for child support once bubs is here as well.

Hope I was able to answer some of your questions.]]> Tue, 23 Nov 2010 09:29:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205987&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205987 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Hi I was about 10 weeks pregnant...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205986&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205986 Author: Plushie
Subject: 36812
Posted: 23 November 2010 at 9:29am

Hi

I was about 10 weeks pregnant when i split with my ex too. It was really rocky for us until a few weeks ago - sounds like you are keeping things friendly?

As a result i've purchased 99% of what bubs needs. He transfered me 1k earlier on in my pregnancy which helped but in the end basically only covered travel to appointments so i still maintain he hasnt brought a single thing for baby.

If he intends on being in babys life i would imagine he has a joint responsibility to purchasing things baby needs. Also do you intend on splitting care from a young age - if your child will live part time at both houses he might like to purchase his own cot, carseat, high-chair etc.

Perhaps you could sit down together and write a list of the basic things you will need - cot, carseat, changetable (if you want one), x amount of singlets x amount of pants and then go together to a place like farmers (during a sale, of course!) with your list, get all the items and simply split halfway when it gets to the checkout. That would seem to be the simplest way but may not work out the cheapest as you can get a lot of stuff through trademe or from web sites that are cheaper.

As for things that bubs will need constantly once born (nappies, bigger clothes, formula if you FF) then it comes out of child support.

btw - i see you're in Timaru - i am as well - so let me know if you need anything ]]> Tue, 23 Nov 2010 09:29:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205986&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205986 <![CDATA[Newly Single and Pregnant : Hello all. I have very recently...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205881&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205881 Author: ....
Subject: 36812
Posted: 22 November 2010 at 11:29pm

Hello all.

I have very recently split up with my partner, and I am 10 weeks pregnant.

He intends to be part of the baby's life, which I have no problems about, although he can be a little unreliable (but I suppose it is better to have a dad that is an hour late than none at all.)

What I would like to know is if he has any responsibility when it comes to helping purchase items for the (especially newborn) baby, such as clothing, nappies, etc. or if it is going to be left to me?

We have jointly bought a pram and a few items of clothes.

I am very lucky in having my mother insist I live with her until at least after the baby is born, but I don't want to be a financial burden on her when it comes to getting everything sorted to the wee one.

Cheers x]]> Mon, 22 Nov 2010 23:29:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36812&PID=1205881&title=newly-single-and-pregnant#1205881