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OHbaby! Forums : Would your partner cope? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 22:29:39 +0000 Wed, 22 Dec 2010 23:53:54 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37174 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yes, my DP is a SAHD and I work...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1226259&title=would-your-partner-cope#1226259 Author: bext1
Subject: 37174
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 11:53pm

Yes, my DP is a SAHD and I work full time. He is wonderful with the boys, and has far more patience than me! I couldn't wait to get back to work!! ]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 23:53:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1226259&title=would-your-partner-cope#1226259 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Woohoo Ginger! awesome news chick!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225351&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225351 Author: noodle
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Posted: 21 December 2010 at 9:16pm

Woohoo Ginger! awesome news chick! Huge Congrats!

DH has told me he wouldn't cope lol. He is an amazing hand's on dad and I think he would muddle through if he had to....I just dont know how much of the house work would get done lol But I know DS would be well looked after and worn out

Edited by noodle]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 21:16:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225351&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225351 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : My DH is an AMAZING Dad. Has always...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225261&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225261 Author: lisa85
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 7:21pm

My DH is an AMAZING Dad. Has always been very hands on but I'm not sure how well he would cope doing it full time. Still I guess you never know. We as Mothers just get thrown in the deep end with no experiance and we cope ok so who's to say he wouldn't. Maybe I just handle tantrums better because I have a better off switch from being with them 24/7 for the last 3 years lol.

My sister stayed home with her twin boys for the first 6 months then they switched and her DH stayed home for 6 months before they both went back and hired a fulltime Nanny. He was great but he struggled a bit. It is harder for men. At least we fit into coffee groups easier. It would be hard for most men to enjoy an all women coffee group lol.]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 19:21:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225261&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225261 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yep I think the housework thing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225246&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225246 Author: nicandtyler
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 6:57pm

Yep I think the housework thing would've been the hardest, Tyler's dad seems to think it's all fun and games cos he's worked really weird hours ever since T was born, longest he's been with T by himself has been about 4 hours, he seems to think that its not actually a job im doing staying at home and raising a child *sigh*]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 18:57:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225246&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225246 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Wow, that's awesome Ginger! Mine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225242&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225242 Author: emz
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 6:52pm

Wow, that's awesome Ginger!

Mine would if he had to, but we wouldn't do it by choice because his standards of cleanliness etc are lower than mine so while he would be fine with the kid aspect, he wouldn't do the rest.

When he's in the country we pretty much share the duties anyway as we both work the same amount.]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 18:52:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225242&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225242 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Thanks everyone I'm slowly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225223&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225223 Author: ginger
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:53pm

Thanks everyone

I'm slowly getting my head around it!

]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 17:53:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225223&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225223 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : oh and another CONGRATS GINGER!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225216&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225216 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:41pm

oh and another CONGRATS GINGER!!!

]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 17:41:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225216&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225216 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : no way would he cope!! He has...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225215&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225215 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:40pm

no way would he cope!! He has only ever looked after the kids by himself when I was in hospital last year, and that was with his mum and my sister helping him out, he had never even bathed them!

]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 17:40:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225215&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225215 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Congratulations ginger!!! My...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225079&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225079 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 37174
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 1:58pm

Congratulations ginger!!!

My DH would absolutely cope. I went away for a weekend in September and DS and him had a ball. He would find two kids a bit of a shock just now I think, but D is still pretty little! We have talked about coming home and DH being a SAHD for a couple of years while I study/go back to work but TBH I can't see him giving up the income. There's no way I could ever get close to what he's making!]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 13:58:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1225079&title=would-your-partner-cope#1225079 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : I would love to think that DH...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224646&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224646 Author: Flossie
Subject: 37174
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:27pm

I would love to think that DH would not cope, as it is so much harder than it sounds or looks but he can and is actually going to be a SAHD next year when I return to work full time, so at least he will know first hand how difficult it can be and its not all about going out for lunch/coffee!

]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 20:27:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224646&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224646 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : If he just had the kids he would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224374&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224374 Author: MamaMore
Subject: 37174
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 2:33pm

If he just had the kids he would be fine. But if he had to do everything that I do (running a business from home, keeping up with housework, and doing my typing job) I don't think he'd cope.

Dying to test him and have a long weekend away

]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 14:33:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224374&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224374 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : My DH could cope, but I don't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224137&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224137 Author: naysgirl
Subject: 37174
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 9:47am

My DH could cope, but I don't think much housework would get done. But looking after DS, he would be fine with it. He's a great father and really supportive of me, (probably has more patience than I do).
I think he would get bored been at home though, as much as he moans about going to work some mornings, I think he would a go a bit stir crazy been home all the time.]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 09:47:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224137&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224137 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : OMG HUGE congrats Ginger!!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224074&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224074 Author: SquishysMum
Subject: 37174
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:06am

OMG HUGE congrats Ginger!!!!! That's AWESOME news! ]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 08:06:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224074&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224074 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yey!!!! Congrats ginger!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224071&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224071 Author: queenbean
Subject: 37174
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:02am

Yey!!!! Congrats ginger!!!

]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 08:02:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224071&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224071 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : BeLoved wrote:Oh congrats Ginger!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224070&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224070 Author: ginger
Subject: 37174
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 8:00am

BeLoved wrote:

Oh congrats Ginger! But do you mean due August 2011

Baby brain anyone ...?

or maybe it's the ongoing denial. The first POAS I did, I put in the pee-cup upside down and was wiping my brow in relief that I was in the clear until I realised that there were NO lines and the arrow for the test bit was pointing in the wrong direction

Sorry, OT again ... back to it

]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 08:00:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224070&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224070 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : My DP would/can cope. I went...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224014&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224014 Author: escadachic
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 10:34pm

My DP would/can cope. I went to Nelson for 3 days last month and left our baby at home with him, so I know he can cope. He's pretty good. Though sometimes he makes me feel like I should be doing the majority of things because he works full time. I just remind him, I look after her all those hours he's working and have no break, except if she has a sleep. He cook dinner nearly all the time too. Though my jobs are dishes and washing, so that's a pretty good deal.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 22:34:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224014&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224014 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : my dp would cope. dd is nearly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224006&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224006 Author: blossombaby
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 10:17pm

my dp would cope. dd is nearly 4 months old and i leaver her with him so about 10hours a week when i go 2 work!
he does amazling well, hes says he love sthe time with just them two and i love knowing hes enjoying it!!! hes more then happy to change nappys!, sing songs, read her book rock her to sleep etc. he also know hows to make a bottle if shes drunk all the ebm ive left him. makes me feel so lucky to have him!!
most nights he does the wraping and into bed of her while i do the dishes etc!

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 22:17:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1224006&title=would-your-partner-cope#1224006 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : ginger!!!!! SO stoked for you!!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223986&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223986 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 9:39pm

ginger!!!!!

SO stoked for you!!!!!]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 21:39:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223986&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223986 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Oh congrats Ginger! But do you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223944&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223944 Author: BeLoved
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:38pm

Oh congrats Ginger! But do you mean due August 2011

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:38:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223944&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223944 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : totally OT but omg at your new...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223942&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223942 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:36pm

totally OT but omg at your new siggy ginger!!! Massive congrats!!]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:36:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223942&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223942 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : DH would be away sailing - he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223922&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223922 Author: ginger
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:18pm

DH would be away sailing - he works 2-3 days on and 2-3 days off and usually takes over for the days that he's home (I work at home, so I get on with work in that time) and he does absolutely fine and loves it. We'll see how he goes come August when he's flying solo for a few days though

he's already stated for the record that the housework 'may' take a hit

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:18:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223922&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223922 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : nzlisajo wrote:nope, no way....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223839&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223839 Author: mrsturtle
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 5:47pm

nzlisajo wrote:

nope, no way. DF never changes Isla's nappy cause he thinks cloth nappies are gross. I was changing a pooey nappy earlier and he walked out of the room gagging and pulled the neck of his t-shirt up over his face cause he didn't like the smell lol.

Sounds exactly like my dh!

I dont think he would cope, when i was in hospital for a few nights at the start of the year and E was 14months she stayed at grandmas cause he thought that was a better idea, he is fantastic for an hour or 2 but not much longer before i get a phone call. ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 17:47:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223839&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223839 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : yep I wish I could do it forever,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223821&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223821 Author: nicandtyler
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 5:10pm

yep I wish I could do it forever, but sadly gotta go back to uni

, im still hoping on winning the lotto tho

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 17:10:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223821&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223821 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Hahaha after this weekend my answer...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223787&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223787 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 4:24pm

Hahaha after this weekend my answer is NO.

DD is definitely coming up to terrible twos. Tantrums, grumpy, talking back. Always expects her own way etc.

This weekend DP finally realizes how hard it is being at home. He would be able to do it for a week maybe but not full time.

But i would never give up my job as SAHM, i love it

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 16:24:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223787&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223787 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : haha The Kelly I'm with you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223761&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223761 Author: SophieD
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 3:48pm

haha The Kelly I'm with you on the "DH could absolutly look after DD, but he would never get the chance cos I love it!

He could totally do everything I do, except for the BF obviously and quite often does when I am sleeping or have gone out

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 15:48:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223761&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223761 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Hmm, let me see. This morning...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223750&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223750 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 3:36pm

Hmm, let me see.
This morning my DH told me to sleep in, like he does every single weekend morning, infact when I protested he told me to be quiet,go to sleep and shut the door.
When I arose, he had fed the kids both their breakfast and lunch (yeah,was a long sleep in) put on the washing , put away some washing , vaccummed and done the dishes.
This is not unusual for him, he does this sort of thing all the time, will come home from work, sit me down on the couch with Friends on TV and make dinner.
He could totally cope,hes fantatstic..I have no worries about him being alone with the kids while Im in hospital after having baby ...and in the past hes slept in Ty's room so he can get up to him while giving me a full night sleep

However, I don't want him to be a SAHD, he earns the most and I like being a SAHM ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 15:36:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223750&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223750 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yes he would, he would have to....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223747&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223747 Author: jazzy
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 3:30pm

Yes he would, he would have to. I think now the kids are older he enjoys them more & they are not so needy with me for simple day to day stuff.

I went back to work on the weekends after having a baby & he had to do everything so in the end he had a 5yr old a toddler & baby to feed & look after. Somedays I came home to a roast dinner & some days the washing was out. I only cared that the kids were ok & everyone survived, lol.

I can go out & he looks after the kids without any problems, but I have had to step back & not be so controlling. I found it hard as when they are babies you need to do everything for them & found it hard to stop & to let others do it also.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 15:30:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223747&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223747 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Absolutely, DH would love to be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223708&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223708 Author: MrsEmma
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 2:09pm

Absolutely, DH would love to be a SAHD and at one stage we seriously talked about him staying at home and me going back to work but he got a new job which he really loved so decided I would stay home.

He loves being with DS, though I don't know how he would cope at home 24/7 with the battles, tears and tantrums on bad days but he would give it a great go and I'm sure he would do really well.

As for the domestic side of things, he loves doing washing and vacuuming and is a dab hand in the kitchen and really enjoys cooking. I'm so fortunate he loves it so much, he does a lot on the weekends even though he doesn't have to.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 14:09:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223708&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223708 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : We share a lot of the care. DH...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223669&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223669 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 1:00pm

We share a lot of the care. DH works shifts and I work part time study part time so we work things around so that we could minimise on having them in in home care. He does a really great job. I think the only place he would fall down is if he did it full time he wouldn't want to go to coffee groups, music groups etc.
I said he could stay home with this one and i would go fulltime but he still reckons he can't produce milk, I'm pretty sure I could get some drugs off the net that would make him but he wasn't keen on that idea.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 13:00:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223669&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223669 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : He would cope fine but would get...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223651&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223651 Author: BeLoved
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 12:15pm

He would cope fine but would get bored I think.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 12:15:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223651&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223651 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : no ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223642&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223642 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 11:56am

no]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 11:56:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223642&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223642 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yes absolutely he could. I think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223616&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223616 Author: babylove
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 11:06am

Yes absolutely he could.

I think he has more patience than i do lol. but i cant see the kids walking all over him.

we are planning on roll reversal in a few yrs just wanting to complete our family 1st and get some of them into school 1st. I will be going to do full time study. and once im in work I will be the bread winner, and ill be working on call 24/7. and for me it is important that one parent is always there for the kids when they get home. to go to the school performances and sporting events video cam in hand.

Dh is home right now with 4 kids and he copes just find. not a lot gets done but doesnt really get done for me either lol.

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 11:06:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223616&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223616 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yup, I think my hubby would be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223563&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223563 Author: BugTeeny
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 9:20am

Yup, I think my hubby would be great at it if he had to. In fact, he mentioned doing it before #1 was born, but he's in the thick off his beloved career and I was desperate to get out of mine (and the breastfeeding aspect was a bit of an obstacle!)

He had a bit of a rude shock this week though.
After weeks of me saying how tired I was and how I'd love a day in bed - I got it, thanks to a horrid tummy bug.
DH had to take the day off work on Thursday as I couldn't get out of bed. He did a fantastic job of looking after the kids - bringing #2 in to me every few hours for a feed. But by 5pm he was asleep on the couch

However, if it was his full-time job he'd rock it

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 09:20:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223563&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223563 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : My partner is the stay at home...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223558&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223558 Author: kellie
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 9:00am

My partner is the stay at home parent while I work as he is on ACC

He does a pretty good job

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 09:00:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223558&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223558 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : My DH could cope. He has on several...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223552&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223552 Author: kiwi2
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:37am

My DH could cope. He has on several occasions when I have left and gone away. He is really good with the kids. Would they be as wonderful and well balanced as they are with me in charge - of course not.

lol no seriously he would do a great job but we are happy the way things are. ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 08:37:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223552&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223552 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : tishy wrote: Bizzy wrote:my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223548&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223548 Author: EmDee
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:32am

tishy wrote:

Bizzy wrote:

my husband could do it. i find it a bit weird that some wont dont do it. right from the start we have shared in all the baby stuff - except feeding cause hubby doesnt make milk - and i have always felt confident that my husband could look after the kids if something happened to me. sure he might not put the right stuffing in a cloth nappy, or do things exactly as i do or make lunch the same way but he knows how to look after his kids.

Same here

Ditto! He may not have quite as much patience as me (not having to be with them 24/7), but he would get there pretty quickly.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 08:32:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223548&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223548 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : DH would be fine. Obviously he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223546&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223546 Author: Hopes
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:20am

DH would be fine. Obviously he can't do the milk thing, and he has had less practise than me so his nappies are a bit looser, but after a few days he'd be as good as me. However, I don't think he'd enjoy it as much. He's pretty good at acknowledging what a demanding job it is, I think he's rather glad I'm the one doing it (and I'm not complaining about that either).]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 08:20:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223546&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223546 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : My husband would do a far better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223541&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223541 Author: Angs1982
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:13am

My husband would do a far better job than me. I didn't actually enjoy the SAHM job much. I wasn't very good at it. DH would love to be able to do it. ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 08:13:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223541&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223541 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : aww some of you sound like you've...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223534&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223534 Author: nicandtyler
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:00am

aww some of you sound like you've got very supportive partners/husbands/fiancees, lucky you! My ex has had the odd day with T after he's had boob and everything like that, but its never for long, and he's watched him for me a few times when i've gone out at night, but T's been asleep! He has little to no patience so when he would get home from work they would have their playtime and a bath but as soon as T would get grizzly then that was it!

And don't even get me started on the newborn days lol!]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 08:00:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223534&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223534 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Ha, We are planning this for a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223533&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223533 Author: Kalimirella
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 7:57am

Ha, We are planning this for a few years time when both babies are over 1 and not being BF as much anymore.

I think he will do great with the housework, but the children may drive him crazy for the first little while, as at the moment he just gives her to me when the going gets tough!

But they will be older and he will be able to have fun with them :D]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 07:57:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223533&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223533 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yep for sure! If he didnt earn...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223513&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223513 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 12:41am

Yep for sure! If he didnt earn more money than me he'd probably be the stay at home parent. Or at least after I finished breastfeeding that is

He'd do things slightly different to me but we have the same end result

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 00:41:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223513&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223513 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yes, my DH is wonderful -- he...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223510&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223510 Author: KatzWtgn
Subject: 37174
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 12:12am

Yes, my DH is wonderful -- he works from home 3 days a week and looks after DS while I work on those days. And he used to be a chef so he even cooks way better than I do!

(I'm very spoilt and I know it

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 00:12:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223510&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223510 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Lol! BK! Sounds like DP dressing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223504&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223504 Author: High9
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 11:17pm

Lol! BK! Sounds like DP dressing Lily too! ]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:17:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223504&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223504 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : I dont know if my DH could do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223501&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223501 Author: Happy lady
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 11:15pm

I dont know if my DH could do it.... I love being a SAHM.... and have asked him before and he thinks he would rather be able to get up and go to work each morning..... although in his defence he is VERY domestic, so if push came to shove, he would most likely be fantastic!!!]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:15:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223501&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223501 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Bizzy wrote:my husband could...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223492&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223492 Author: tishy
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 11:05pm

Same here]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:05:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223492&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223492 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yep, absolutely. He is so good...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223489&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223489 Author: pekay
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 11:02pm

Yep, absolutely. He is so good at everything when it comes to our kids and the household. He is the one that keeps me in line,

]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:02:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223489&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223489 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : If it was something that had to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223482&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223482 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:57pm

If it was something that had to happen, he'd cope quite well (prob not so much with my oldest, but hell, even I cant cope with him some days!) but I'd still get a lot of phonecalls

If I'm home hes always asking for me to help him with things i can and have easily managed to do solo, I always laugh and ask him how he's going to manage while I'm in hospital in March!!

His nappy count is prob same as mine as he does most of them on weekends and evenings, he dresses her in all sorts of wierd combos (those who know me well, know that I like her clothes to 'match

) and makes a hell of a mess while feeding her, but shes happy when hes around, and ends up fed, clean(ish) and dry... so thats a good enough job in itself.

I dont think he woudl cope doing it f/time though... he would get bored and grumpy, and want his 'old' life back too soon.

My ex was absolutely useless... 2 weekends was all he ever had to cope with without me while we were together, and both times he went straight to his mum or sister to take B cos he didnt know what to do!]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:57:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223482&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223482 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : NOOOO! Well at least not full...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223481&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223481 Author: High9
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:54pm

NOOOO! Well at least not full time. The most he seems to be able to handle is about an hour at a time rofl!

Nappies, he literally vomits if it's anything other than pee! And even then he puts them on so loose that she leaks and requires several outfit changes!

He can get her off to sleep, fine I guess... A bit of crying is usually involved!

But I don't think he'd be able to manage full time. He will be looking after her for 3 weeks next year while I go back to study, I start before him and he will be studying too. Will be interesting to see how they get on! ]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:54:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223481&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223481 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yep, am sure DH would love it,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223474&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223474 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:45pm

Yep, am sure DH would love it, he's a better cook than I am as well, the only downfall might be that he doesn't clean out the dirty nappies but I think if he was home all the time he would.

BUT in saying that if I go away for the day on the weekend he doesn't do jack around the house which kinda peeves me]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:45:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223474&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223474 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : my husband could do it. i find...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223464&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223464 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:24pm

my husband could do it. i find it a bit weird that some wont dont do it. right from the start we have shared in all the baby stuff - except feeding cause hubby doesnt make milk - and i have always felt confident that my husband could look after the kids if something happened to me. sure he might not put the right stuffing in a cloth nappy, or do things exactly as i do or make lunch the same way but he knows how to look after his kids.]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:24:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223464&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223464 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : i think my DP could (not that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223463&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223463 Author: _H_
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:20pm

i think my DP could (not that we have kids yet) but i dont think he could do it to my liking- only because im OCD about somethings and like them done my way

]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:20:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223463&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223463 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Linzy wrote:Definately not,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223454&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223454 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:05pm

Linzy wrote:

Definately not, he doesn't have the paitence to put up with the constant questions and the grizzling and moaning. Don't get me wrong, he is a great Dad but even he says he could not do my job

Ditto!!!]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:05:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223454&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223454 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : If it was a case of me not being...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223453&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223453 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:00pm

If it was a case of me not being around he would cope but if it was a simple choice of role reversal he wouldnt do it... His words not mine.]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:00:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223453&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223453 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yep, no worries DP is great...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223448&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223448 Author: Delli
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:51pm

Yep, no worries

DP is great with Jude in all aspects - food/mealtimes, nappies, cleaning up, bedtime, coping with whining and crying etc.

A friend asked how DP was at changing nappies last week - I gave them a blank look as I was trying to figure out what they meant! Realised they wanted to know whether he did it or not and I laughed and laughed. When we are both home - we both do the chores, dirty nappy changing and all.

TBH - he would probably be much better than me at household chores and cooking (well.... if I'm being really honest there is no probably.... he would just be much better than me) . Before we shifted jobs he used to do pretty much all the cooking (now his hours have changed significantly and he doesn't get in until later and we like to sit down to breakfast and dinner together - I do the porridge and dinner.....90% of the time....)

Main reason why it's not him at home and me at work is because of the boobs - and the whole pregnancy thing. As much as I joked to him during pregnancy and after labour last time - "It's your turn to do this next time!" Unfortunately biology hasn't made this possible!

Darn.....

Our goal is to get a job where we can both work and parent roughly the same amount (we are dairy farmers).

DP is bloody awesome.

Edited by Delli]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:51:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223448&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223448 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : nope, no way. DF never changes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223442&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223442 Author: Richie
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:40pm

nope, no way. DF never changes Isla's nappy cause he thinks cloth nappies are gross. I was changing a pooey nappy earlier and he walked out of the room gagging and pulled the neck of his t-shirt up over his face cause he didn't like the smell lol.
He too hands her to me if she is upset/grizzly cause 'I know best' (damn straight I do! lol)
I do practically everything for her, feed her, bath her, put her to bed etc. He is the 'fun parent' and plays games with her but that's bout it lol.
Will be a shock to his system when I return to work part time in Jan cause I will be working Saturday mornings so he will be having 5hrs of daddy/daughter time! The longest he would have ever been alone with her! I'm predicting a phone call from him every 5mins asking what to do lol]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:40:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223442&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223442 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Definately not, he doesn't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223428&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223428 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:18pm

Definately not, he doesn't have the paitence to put up with the constant questions and the grizzling and moaning. Don't get me wrong, he is a great Dad but even he says he could not do my job]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:18:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223428&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223428 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Aw AzzaNZ that's awesome!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223423&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223423 Author: nicandtyler
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:15pm

Aw AzzaNZ that's awesome! Where do I find a nice guy that would do that haha]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:15:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223423&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223423 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : Yep. DH was a stay at home dad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223419&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223419 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:11pm

Yep. DH was a stay at home dad for a year with our daughter.

He was really great at it!

The only thing he didn't do was cook dinner but he looked after her, cleaned the house, did all the washing & ironing etc.

It would be awesome if I earned enough for him to keep doing it but we really needed the second salary

]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:11:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223419&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223419 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : ABSOLUTELY NOT! Kidding. That...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223415&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223415 Author: mothermercury
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:04pm

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Kidding.

That sounds mean, but he's only ever changed one nappy (with help) and just gives Chloe back to me when she gets grumpy. Ha, I'm sure he'd manage in the end, but he'd be pretty frazzled.]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:04:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223415&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223415 <![CDATA[Would your partner cope? : If you had to switch roles and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223408&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223408 Author: nicandtyler
Subject: 37174
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 8:52pm

If you had to switch roles and your partner had to be a full time stay at home mum while you went off to work? (ok so im stealing this idea from elsewhere lol

) but I snorted into my drink thinking hahah hell no! ]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 20:52:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37174&PID=1223408&title=would-your-partner-cope#1223408