https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 29 Apr 2026 08:01:26 +0000 Wed, 22 Dec 2010 12:29:35 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37177 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225731&title=worried#1225731 Author: Stephi
Subject: 37177
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 12:29pm

IsaacsMum wrote: Glad to hear you're feeling better. I was so worried all through my 1st pregnancy. I'm still worried though this one (just that type of person) but it's easier this time. You should be up for a 16wk visit with you MW soon? You'll get to hear the heart beat - which is lovely - and you should hear kicks too. I had a MW visit on Monday and when she had the doppler on I was hearing kicks I couldn't feel - a bit odd to experience but nice to know there were more kicks than I could feel IYKWIM

I think being a mum you were destined to worry lol im trying not to, gotta stay positive for this little bubs! :D

Yep I have my midwife appointment on the 30th of Dec :) Cant wait to hear the heartbeat again. Heard it a month ago at my first midwife appointment. I think I have been feeling bubs move especially when im lying down and relaxing at night. Kinda feels like my tummy is flipping on the inside but not extreme, but just noticeable :D

Also heard the kicks at the midwife last time! was sooo cute haha. sounded like a little wooshing sound. I said to the MW "whats that!?" and shes like "that is your baby moving" hehe aww I was like omg soo cute :)

Edited by StephiG]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 12:29:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225731&title=worried#1225731 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225329&title=worried#1225329 Author: mummymonster
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 8:50pm

Glad to hear you're feeling better. I was so worried all through my 1st pregnancy. I'm still worried though this one (just that type of person) but it's easier this time.
You should be up for a 16wk visit with you MW soon?
You'll get to hear the heart beat - which is lovely - and you should hear kicks too.
I had a MW visit on Monday and when she had the doppler on I was hearing kicks I couldn't feel - a bit odd to experience but nice to know there were more kicks than I could feel IYKWIM]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 20:50:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225329&title=worried#1225329 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225204&title=worried#1225204 Author: Aroha11
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 5:17pm

glad all is ok!! ]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 17:17:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225204&title=worried#1225204 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225086&title=worried#1225086 Author: Lillybetts
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 2:03pm

Glad to hear you're feeling better. I had the same experience at 20 weeks. So I rung my MW and went in and heard the heartbeat. I think it's easy to expect the worse. It's hard not to worry sometimes.]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 14:03:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1225086&title=worried#1225086 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224971&title=worried#1224971 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 11:46am

Glad to hear that Steph. I "try" to tell myself there is no point worrying because there is nothing you can do. But that is easier said than done. Basically I mean, if you cant change it, why waste time worrying. Just assume its going well and enjoy it. ]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 11:46:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224971&title=worried#1224971 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224955&title=worried#1224955 Author: Nutella
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 11:22am

Yay glad you are feeling better. Def worth ringing your midwife if you are feeling worried, just to get reassurance if nothing else.]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 11:22:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224955&title=worried#1224955 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224774&title=worried#1224774 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 12:43am

that is great StephG]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 00:43:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224774&title=worried#1224774 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224769&title=worried#1224769 Author: Stephi
Subject: 37177
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 12:15am

Nutella wrote: I hope you have rung your midwife and are feeling much better today.

Hi guys :D Just managed to get on here even though its really late! Cant sleep :(

rung the midwife today and had a good chat on the phone. She made me feel so much better about what happened and that I have nothing to worry about and that its very rare to have a miscarriage this late on with no pain and blood because the baby is much bigger. I didnt go in to hear bubs heartbeat (felt bad to ask as i rung her while she was busy) but i feel so much better from just talking to her!]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 00:15:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224769&title=worried#1224769 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224761&title=worried#1224761 Author: ....
Subject: 37177
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 10:40pm

It sounds like you and I are in the same boat, I'm 14 weeks on Friday, and I'm yet to have a scan, or hear heartbeat.
I worry every other day , feel silly buying clothes, toys, because with my luck (and I've miscarried before) there's going to me no heartbeat when I have my scan (Wednesday.) so you're not the only person feeling this way, I promise you.

I'm no longer with my BabyDaddy, and I thought that was going to ruin everything at the beginning, as I wanted my baby to have mummy and daddy together like I did, and I want everything to be perfect and 'traditional' for him/her.
I've learned over the past few weeks that it is possible to be great friends with an ex, we hang out a lot and shop for baby together, and every few days I get a text telling me I'm going to be a wonderful mummy, or that he's glad we've kept the wee thing.
So it is possible for you and your former significant other to feel like a true family with your new child, it may take some work at the beginning if you are arguing etc, but it is possible, and it's a wonderful feeling when it works.]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 22:40:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224761&title=worried#1224761 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224609&title=worried#1224609 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 37177
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 7:32pm

I hope it went well StephG.]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 19:32:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224609&title=worried#1224609 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224543&title=worried#1224543 Author: Aroha11
Subject: 37177
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 5:49pm

StephG hope things are all ok and you got to hear a heartbeat today... ]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 17:49:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224543&title=worried#1224543 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224528&title=worried#1224528 Author: Nutella
Subject: 37177
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 5:27pm

I hope you have rung your midwife and are feeling much better today. ]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 17:27:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1224528&title=worried#1224528 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223946&title=worried#1223946 Author: Plushie
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:42pm

Im really sorry to hear that - me and my ex split when i was about 12 weeks. If you want you can send me a message to talk I know it sucks major right now but it gets better. Promise! ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:42:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223946&title=worried#1223946 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223924&title=worried#1223924 Author: meganflett
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:20pm

StephiG - I have worries like this all the time but I think its because its my first pregnancy and my weight is such a big issue for me every little thing worries me. Definatly ring the midwife if it will make you feel better but i've read what the experienced ladies have said and it makes sense.

And you'll be a wonderful mum without your SO, i know it musn't be easy but if it causes you less frustration to be away from that it has to be good for the baby
]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:20:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223924&title=worried#1223924 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223917&title=worried#1223917 Author: Stephi
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 8:14pm

Thanks so much for the advice ladies! I will cal lthe midwife tomorrow.

What makes matters worse is that my and my SO have called it quits. My heart is broken because I wanted this baby to have a daddy who cared about its mummy and about her/him but its not that way. I wanna talk to the midwife about this too. I dont want any of this to hurt my little baby :(]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:14:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223917&title=worried#1223917 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223888&title=worried#1223888 Author: Plushie
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 7:22pm

Just give her a call and say "Hi, can i make a time to see you today please - i'm worried because ..... or i don't feel good because .... and i would appreciate it if you could check me over and reassure me"

I felt like a total nutjob, and burst into tears when the heartbeat came through but no doubt midwifes see this all the time, mine certainly didnt blink an eye. Yours will be the same!



]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 19:22:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223888&title=worried#1223888 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223832&title=worried#1223832 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 5:25pm

Like the others have said, it all sounds normal. Generally when your panic hits a peak, you will start feeling kicks or something and realise your panic was over nothing.

Also, to put your mind at ease, most of what I have heard is that when people lose a baby, a cruel thing is they STILL feel pregnant, so not feeling pregnant is not a bad sign.

Ring your midwife. I'd start with "I feel silly ringing you but I am really worried". I remember ringing my MW with my first at about 18weeks when I got spotting. I was away at a conference so knewI wouldnt be able to get a scan and I was convinced it was all bad. The back up MW rang me straight away and calmed me down.....he is now 3 ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 17:25:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223832&title=worried#1223832 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223831&title=worried#1223831 Author: mummymonster
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 5:25pm

I got lots more stretchy pains with #1, but good idea to go over it with you MW.
]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 17:25:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223831&title=worried#1223831 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223819&title=worried#1223819 Author: Stephi
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 5:06pm

amme_eilyk wrote: have you had any bleeding, if you have I would be much more concerned. I also had that freak out. Just tell your midwife what you have told us, they are used to it.

Nope no bleeding at all. A bit of mild cramping and pulling though but I have been told thats normal.

The other day though I had this huge sharp stabbing pain in my upper stomach like the left side of my abdomen where and I freaked out about that. I have no idea what it was but there was no blood or anyting like that and I only lasted for about 10 seconds then went away but it was very painful. I want to talk to her about that also because I think I have been worried since that day. I just dont want anything to be wrong :(]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 17:06:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223819&title=worried#1223819 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223816&title=worried#1223816 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 4:58pm

have you had any bleeding, if you have I would be much more concerned. I also had that freak out. Just tell your midwife what you have told us, they are used to it.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 16:58:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223816&title=worried#1223816 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223810&title=worried#1223810 Author: Stephi
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 4:50pm

_SMS_ wrote: I would ring your MW. Im sure everything is ok but you need to put your mind at rest. When is your next MW appointment??

My next midwife appointment is on the 30th of Dec. It seems like so far away and I keep telling myself to just wait. Its just over a week away but I dont know if I can wait that long. Im just freaking out

I think I will ring my midwife. I feel stupid though cause I dont know what to say. What exactly do I say?]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 16:50:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223810&title=worried#1223810 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223738&title=worried#1223738 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 3:18pm

I had the same feeling at 17 weeks hun, even made DH come to the midwife with me because I was so convinced something was wrong... she was fine
But definately get someone to listen for you, its such a horrible feeling, have my fingers crossed for you hun x]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 15:18:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223738&title=worried#1223738 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223672&title=worried#1223672 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 1:06pm

Yeah i would ring too, or even your gp, they can use a doppler and put your mind at ease in seconds. Once you start worrying it's hard to stop. But like everyone else I dont' think it sounds like anything is wrong. The second trimester is normally when you feel best so often means you don't feel pregnant at all.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 13:06:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223672&title=worried#1223672 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223632&title=worried#1223632 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 11:33am

I would ring your MW. Im sure everything is ok but you need to put your mind at rest. When is your next MW appointment??

]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 11:33:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223632&title=worried#1223632 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223627&title=worried#1223627 Author: High9
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 11:20am

I had the same feelings, once MS wore off it was so hard not to worry that something was wrong!

I ended up with gallstones so got a few extra scans in before 20 week one, but I also had an anterior placenta and didn't feel kicks until 22-23 weeks!

If you are worried, then ring your mw and she will be able to help you. ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 11:20:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223627&title=worried#1223627 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223626&title=worried#1223626 Author: mummymonster
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 11:17am

I'm 20wks. I've had 3 scans, the latest just 2 days ago. I worry all the time it's going to go bad.
I have felt kicks, but not often and don't think I've felt any today.
I've said to DH before, I couldn't feel less pregnant.
I'm overweight and it's a bit debatable whether I've got a baby bump or not. DH thinks my already big tum has changed shape, but that's about it.
So yes, to worry, very normal.
To lose a baby after 1st trimester is over, with no bleeding, no other indications that anythings wrong, not so normal. (that's what I tell myself, and my way of saying don't worry so much).
bowie's right talk to your LMC, that's what they're there for, don't forget the 'C' means Care. Previously I've also been told that if I'm that worried and out of town I could rock up to the midwives at the hospital, they are also there to care for pregnant mum-to-bes.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 11:17:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223626&title=worried#1223626 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223609&title=worried#1223609 Author: Plushie
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 10:54am

I would suggest you ring your midwife ASAP and ask to see her - she can listen for babys heartbeat and reassure you within minutes. I don't say this because i think something is wrong - because everything you said sounds really normal - but just because i did the exact same thing and nothing will calm you down as much as hearing that heartbeat will.

For me, once the morning sickness eased up and i got well into the second trimester (like you are now) i got really energetic again and aside from the belly didnt feel pregnant at all. I had the same freak outs at least twice - especially because i have an anterior placenta as well and didnt feel movements until 20 odd weeks. Twice i rang my midwife in tears convinced i'd lost the baby and both times she had me in her rooms within half an hour reassuring me with the heartbeat.

Also, if i remember right you were worried about antenatel depression as well - it won't hurt to have these concerns noted by your LMC in case thats an indication of you struggling as well.]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 10:54:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223609&title=worried#1223609 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223578&title=worried#1223578 Author: Stephi
Subject: 37177
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 10:03am

Hey everyone

I am 16 weeks pregnant on this coming Tuesday and im really scared that I have lost this baby :( I just dont feel pregnant (even though my nipples are still tender) and my tummy was hard in certain spots and now isnt :( Are these fears normal or does it sound like something is up? Im really worried and know I could not deal with this if something happened to my baby :(]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 10:03:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37177&PID=1223578&title=worried#1223578