https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 16:48:40 +0000 Thu, 30 Jun 2011 21:04:32 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=39512 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1356005&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1356005 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 39512
Posted: 30 June 2011 at 9:04pm

for me I have an underlying anxiety disorder so the anxiety behind having to say it to a stranger is hard]]> Thu, 30 Jun 2011 21:04:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1356005&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1356005 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1345174&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1345174 Author: girly_girl
Subject: 39512
Posted: 12 June 2011 at 5:20pm

For me, it was acknowledging that things were getting much, much worse and it wasn't normal. It took a major breakdown (and me wanting to leave DH) for me to realise that something was up. Once I acknowledged it I could do something about it - I was just really scared of being labelled and not being good enough.]]> Sun, 12 Jun 2011 17:20:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1345174&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1345174 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1344855&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1344855 Author: Chickoin
Subject: 39512
Posted: 11 June 2011 at 11:24pm

I have been lucky not to suffer from PND but have had a few friends who have. For some of them it was like they needed their partner's support and encouragement to talk to someone about it.
For one mum she was too scared to see her GP because the main symptom (can't think of the right word) was that she felt like hurting her baby so she thought that by going to her GP the first thing that would happen was that her baby would be taken away.]]> Sat, 11 Jun 2011 23:24:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1344855&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1344855 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1344496&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1344496 Author: KitKat
Subject: 39512
Posted: 11 June 2011 at 2:10pm

It surprises me how many people seem to suggest its normal to feel so low with a newborn (or in general really PND or otherwise)... it is to a point postnatally with hormones etc, but when its worse than that, and prolonged... what then.

Like 1st time preggies- I kept saying to myself I 'Should' feel better etc.

I needed someone to say-
"you need help, you are obviously suffering PND life can be better for you" "You dont need to feel like this everyday"

1st Time Prggies- glad things are on the up ]]> Sat, 11 Jun 2011 14:10:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1344496&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1344496 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1344073&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1344073 Author: 1st_Time_Preggies
Subject: 39512
Posted: 10 June 2011 at 6:44pm

For me it was hard to admit that I wasn't coping. I kept thinking I "should" be okay, that I "should" be happy, etc etc and everyone told me it was normal to feel a bit of anxiety. But crying every day three months in and wishing he wasn't born, well that just isn't normal. It was actually seeing another gp (not my own) who I cried in front of, that finally pushed me to get help. I went on medication (very reluctantly) and life turned around slowly but surely!]]> Fri, 10 Jun 2011 18:44:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1344073&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1344073 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1343985&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1343985 Author: nathansmummy
Subject: 39512
Posted: 10 June 2011 at 4:12pm

Thanks Kitkat.

I wonder what would be helpful for a mum to hear so that she can push through that and get the treatment she needs?]]> Fri, 10 Jun 2011 16:12:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1343985&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1343985 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1343936&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1343936 Author: KitKat
Subject: 39512
Posted: 10 June 2011 at 3:19pm

I realised when I counted the 'good' days, and the bad days, I only had about 4 over 2 years that I could remember. And I couldnt remember a day I hadnt cried for some reason or another.
I was reminded by someone that pregnancy is a huge hormonal change for your body, and some find it easier than others. and that sometimes it needs help recalibrating (so to speak) afterwards.... Ie- my body wasnt going to fix itself...It was struggling... like having diabetes, you need insulin, depression- you need help to rebalance the hormones. It doesnt have to be forever necesarily....

I was actually terrified of taking medication. I was prescribed Citalopram... and it sat on the bench for 3 days before I had the guts to take it. I was afraid it would make me crazy, or worse... When it comes to the mind, its a scary realm of unknown. I was scared.
BUT- after talking through the fear- I took it, and by day 2 was my old self again... well, almost. And after the yawning and the jaw clenching wore off (side effects) I wished Id started 2 years ago.

I know everyones story is different, this is a bit of mine.


I guess the simple answer to your question for me- was fear. The cloud is so thick, you struggle to see through it. You just go into 'try to cope day to day' mode.
]]> Fri, 10 Jun 2011 15:19:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1343936&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1343936 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1343844&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1343844 Author: nathansmummy
Subject: 39512
Posted: 10 June 2011 at 1:48pm

Hi again - I hope you don't mind me asknig these questions. It's really helpful to me because I am obviously helping women with PND and apart from haivng it myself it's helpful to know how best I can help and to understand as best as I can.

Anyway, something I have struck is the reluctance mothers have to going to their doctor. I was the same - it took me nine months to go and in the end it was a counsellor that convinced me.

Why do you think mothers have that reluctance? For me it was admitting that I had PND but also I think I wanted to be able to cope and it was hard to admit I was not coping - I wanted to be like "other mums". I felt shame and guilt. That's how one mother described it to me. What are your thoughts? I am trying to help one mother at the moment who just will not go to the GP! It's so frustrating and I'm not sure if there's anything else I can really do until she's ready to.]]> Fri, 10 Jun 2011 13:48:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39512&PID=1343844&title=what-stops-you-getting-help#1343844