https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 17 May 2026 21:25:09 +0000 Thu, 23 Jun 2011 15:29:32 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=39634 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1351888&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1351888 Author: fletch
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Posted: 23 June 2011 at 3:29pm

I have taken note of names, books and about to read the article - I suppose it is just starting an idea and giving it a go - maybe she is just not a sleeper!!

Thanks heaps for your ideas!
]]> Thu, 23 Jun 2011 15:29:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1351888&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1351888 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1351267&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1351267 Author: 09_mrs
Subject: 39634
Posted: 22 June 2011 at 4:27pm

Thanks for that link princesspumpkin, that article is a good read :)]]> Wed, 22 Jun 2011 16:27:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1351267&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1351267 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350985&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350985 Author: princesspumpkin
Subject: 39634
Posted: 22 June 2011 at 7:54am

Get the Elizabeth Pantley No Cry Sleep Solution & have a read. Five months is still very little - personally I've never used CIO & never will, and I have a two year old who is a fantastic sleeper...they do get there eventually.

Have a read of this article too, it gives you a great perspective on babies & sleep

linky

]]> Wed, 22 Jun 2011 07:54:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350985&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350985 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350900&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350900 Author: JoJames
Subject: 39634
Posted: 21 June 2011 at 9:13pm

My first was very similar, a right mission to get to sleep, he did settle eventually, one thing we found helped we having comforters, specifically a soft toy and one of those light up seahorses that played music.
Also putting him on his side and patting until he settles then leaving, if he cries leaving him for a few minutes then going in and doing it again. You will find something that works for you and they do settle down heaps after 6months.]]> Tue, 21 Jun 2011 21:13:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350900&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350900 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350877&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350877 Author: Danda08
Subject: 39634
Posted: 21 June 2011 at 8:29pm

We also did verbal reassurance when my girls were 5.5 months. It worked really well, quickly & effectively. The key is to be consistent.

Check out the Sleepstore website & facebook page. There is loads of info and support.]]> Tue, 21 Jun 2011 20:29:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350877&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350877 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350408&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350408 Author: KatzWtgn
Subject: 39634
Posted: 20 June 2011 at 11:54pm

Hey there -- this comment might not be that useful for you -- but just another point of view for you to consider (and I really wanted to let you know that you're not doing anything wrong if your baby doesn't self settle).

My baby was a great sleeper up to about 4 months, and then started doing just what you describe. Even with feeding to sleep, he would wake up as soon as I put him down in his cot.

Neither I or DH could bring ourselves to do CIO, so we brought DS into bed with us -- and frankly, this has been great. He still doesn't self-settle, but pretty much "self-helps" (I barely wake when he feeds at night) -- so we have all got sleep ever since.
]]> Mon, 20 Jun 2011 23:54:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350408&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350408 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350346&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350346 Author: reeces_mum
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Posted: 20 June 2011 at 9:19pm

I had the book "Sleep right, sleep tight" - OMG what a bible. I started the settling techniques from birth, but it also gives great solutions for sorting problems later. Great thing this book had was a 24 hour record (a little grid for each day of the week, in hour boxes, which I photocopied) so you can shade when baby is sleeping, when she has a feed, wet nap, dirty nap, bath etc. It is a great visual way to see patterns emerging. It can make you confident that your baby is ready for sleep time - cos they dont understand that they're tired. Good luck!]]> Mon, 20 Jun 2011 21:19:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350346&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350346 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350128&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350128 Author: E&L+1
Subject: 39634
Posted: 20 June 2011 at 3:36pm

I tried verbal reassurance for 6 weeks with no success, the no cry sleep solution for about 3 months with limited success as well as a few others that I can't remember the names of.

I was finally successful by using CIO at about 14/15 months after reading 'the sleep book'. Prior to this we had at least 1-2 wake ups per night. Next baby I'll try the gentle techniques again first but will use CIO much younger if we have the same sort of settling issues.]]> Mon, 20 Jun 2011 15:36:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350128&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350128 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350071&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350071 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 39634
Posted: 20 June 2011 at 2:31pm

Personally I don't like CC/CIO, tried it with Ben and hated it. Self settling is a skill that kids need to learn just like talking, walking etc etc. To be able to go to sleep you need to be able to relax and kids don't necessarily know how to do that and need to be taught - plus crying just winds them up rather than relaxes them. Personally I prefer Elizabeth pantley and Pinky McKay's methods.
It is a bit hard to know what to suggest without knowing your routine. If for instance you feed her to sleep then I would start by stopping that. Elizabeth Pantley has a gentle removal method or you could try substituting with a dummy altho you will have to get rid of that at some stage later on.
After stopping the feeding to sleep you could try reducing the rocking.
Not sure if this is a help as it may not match what you are doing now.

Good luck

Edited by Linzy]]> Mon, 20 Jun 2011 14:31:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1350071&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1350071 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1349908&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1349908 Author: Hopes
Subject: 39634
Posted: 20 June 2011 at 12:18pm

Well, my opinion isn't popular or fun, but as I see it the only way she's going to learn to settle herself is to cry a bit first. She's not used to doing it that way, and it's all a bit strange and unusual, and she'll take a while to get used to it. In the meantime, she'll let you know it's strange and unusual and she's not happy! I do the verbal reassurance thing - to be frank, I don't think Jacob notices any difference between me popping in every so often to reassure him I'm there and I love him and me being totally out of the picture, but it makes me feel a bit better about listening to him. When he has a change (like when I took his dummy away, or when I had to stop wrapping him because it got dangerous) he'll usually have one nightmare day (perhaps a two-hour cry ), and then a couple of days that are slightly worse than usual, then he's fine.

In saying that, if you can't stand to let Gemma cry, I wouldn't stress too much about rocking her to sleep. She'll grow out of it one day. It really comes down to what you cant stand more - having to keep rocking her, or having a bit of a battle to stop. ]]> Mon, 20 Jun 2011 12:18:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1349908&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1349908 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39634&PID=1349892&title=sleeping-and-self-settling#1349892 Author: fletch
Subject: 39634
Posted: 20 June 2011 at 11:56am

So what is the best way to teach your baby to self settle??

My little one is 5 months and and still needs help to sleep (rocking feeding singing etc)

I have read many ways to overcome this but have no idea where to begin. As soon as I put her in her sleeping bag the screaming begins until she throws up. I have tried the shunting (baby whisper) verbal reassurance, letting her cry - but she hell screams.

I would love some other ideas, modifications or advice.

I feel at my wits end!

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