https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 05 May 2026 16:37:55 +0000 Mon, 15 Aug 2011 21:58:42 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40121 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1376413&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1376413 Author: Sporty1977
Subject: 40121
Posted: 15 August 2011 at 9:58pm

totally agree - thanks
]]> Mon, 15 Aug 2011 21:58:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1376413&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1376413 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1375774&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1375774 Author: MrsEmma
Subject: 40121
Posted: 14 August 2011 at 4:59am

Sporty1977 I don't have much advice but you are not alone!

DD is great at self settling and sleeping until I put her down at the 4/5pm time where she will only ever cat nap which is really hard when I am organising DS and as they are not quite 15 months apart, that time of the evening can be extremely difficult, especially when DH is away for work. She is also a 3-hourly feeder, like clockwork - on time every time :-)

DS also likes his routine of bath at night so if DD is unsettled I either put her in the manduca while I do dinner, bath etc or put her in her bouncer and bring her into each room with me and she's usually fine so long as she's able to see us.

I guess the main way I 'cope' with it when I'm alone is just do what makes her happy, if she just will not sleep then I get her up, if she is hungry (which usually she isn't) I feed her, if she just wants to be up and joining in the chatter at dinner time and the giggles and splashes in the bathroom with DS and I (which us usually the case as she will just sit there with a big smile on her face when she's with us) then that's what I do to make her happy. It was hard for me to get out of the 'but she should be...' or 'but she needs to be...' mentality, as I'm a planner/routine person by nature but I had to just relax and go with it as you are doing

All the best!

Edited by MrsEmma]]> Sun, 14 Aug 2011 04:59:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1375774&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1375774 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1375640&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1375640 Author: Sporty1977
Subject: 40121
Posted: 13 August 2011 at 3:19pm

thanks ladies, I have just taken a chill pill and go with the flow. Sometimes dd has to cry a little while I settle ds then I go back to dd. Would like to keep ds routine as similiar as it has been as possible and is works well for him. dd is 5 weeks next week and things are falling into place more daily. thanks
]]> Sat, 13 Aug 2011 15:19:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1375640&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1375640 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1374761&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1374761 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 40121
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 2:35pm

My son was 20 months when my daughter was born,and thats what I did (Bizzy's suggestion)just changed a few things to make life easier for myself.
Sometimes a bit of grizzling from one or the other,or both...or from me ,was unavoidable.
I do agree that she is too young to expect to self settle,shes only a month old,still getting used to the big wide world,she'll get there in the end,these early days the change their patterns like Auckland changes its weather ]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 14:35:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1374761&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1374761 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1374697&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1374697 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 40121
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 1:20pm

maybe change the older ones routine for a bit till baby settles back down. Make morning time bath time, and that way you wont have to hurry to get back to a screaming baby and you both might enjoy it more... Or maybe you could try putting the baby in the bath too and see if a warm bath helps settle for a while.]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 13:20:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1374697&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1374697 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1374663&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1374663 Author: buzylizy
Subject: 40121
Posted: 11 August 2011 at 12:21pm

They take some time when they are this small to get into the night time routine. My son did the same for a month or two. Figure out what makes her settle and do that. My son was keen on soft music and his dummy. Worked a charm. And when it was time to give up both it was only 2 nights of crazy. Be kind to yourself and baby and read the books and take what works and discard what doesn't. Don't let anyone tell you do this or don't do that. Find what works for you, the time goes by so quickly and when baby is 2 you won't even remember it. ]]> Thu, 11 Aug 2011 12:21:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1374663&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1374663 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373146&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373146 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 8:08pm

I had a baby that was exactly the same, evenings were a nightmare. Mostly I'd just feed her up till she crashed out!I would definitely get some kind of baby carrier put her in so you can manage your toddler and get them to bed. Oddly DD was a very noisy baby too and went into her own room at 2 weeks so we could get some sleep.

She grew out of it though and now at 2 goes to bed like a dream at 7pm and normally sleeps 12 hours.

Am full expecting number two to do the same thing as well, will be surprised if they settle.]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 20:08:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373146&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373146 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373141&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373141 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 8:05pm

I had a baby that was exactly the same, evenings were a nightmare. Mostly I'd just feed her up till she crashed out!I would definitely get some kind of baby carrier put her in so you can manage your toddler and get them to bed. Oddly DD was a very noisy baby too and went into her own room at 2 weeks so we could get some sleep.

She grew out of it though and now at 2 goes to bed like a dream at 7pm and normally sleeps 12 hours.

Am full expecting number two to do the same thing as well, will be surprised if they settle.]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 20:05:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373141&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373141 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373139&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373139 Author: millymollymandy
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 8:04pm

I had a baby that was exactly the same, evenings were a nightmare. Mostly I'd just feed her up till she crashed out!I would definitely get some kind of baby carrier put her in so you can manage your toddler and get them to bed. Oddly DD was a very noisy baby too and went into her own room at 2 weeks so we could get some sleep.

She grew out of it though and now at 2 goes to bed like a dream at 7pm and normally sleeps 12 hours.

Am full expecting number two to do the same thing as well, will be surprised if they settle.]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 20:04:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373139&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373139 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373079&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373079 Author: Plushie
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 6:50pm

Must be tricky managing two like that at the same time, obviously i have no idea what thats like so my advice is a bit lame, but i'd second the suggestion of a moby wrap - you can breastfeed easily in them, so you could feed DD while dealing with DS and dinner etc. ]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 18:50:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1373079&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1373079 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372966&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372966 Author: SpecialK
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 3:41pm

I found a bottle of EBM/formula in the afternoon did wonders for getting bub to go through the afternoon and early evening drama free while you sort the toddler out. The only tricky part is finding the time to express.]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 15:41:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372966&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372966 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372716&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372716 Author: Sporty1977
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 9:12am

my DS is 19 months and have self settled on and off, but only now he goes down everytime every sleep - if I need I have to shut the door, he cries for a few seconds then will hop into bed and sleep/rest. But with 2 under 1 1/2 I can rock/feed them both to sleep!! DD seems to be ok 90% of the time self settling at day sleeps just that grumpy grizzly stage at night, which would be fine if I had no other kid!!! ;-)
]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 09:12:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372716&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372716 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372699&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372699 Author: clover
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 8:37am

My baby was the same, cried all evening from about 4pm and would only ever feed to sleep.

You'll be happy to know that he now is a happy wee guy (most of the time) and goes down to bed awake between 6.30 & 7 without a sound.

I've never left him to cry (but understand with another child you have no choice sometimes) and it didn't create any problems here, he still self settles ok. In saying that I can only put him down for the evening awake, during the day I have to feed him to sleep.]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 08:37:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372699&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372699 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372680&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372680 Author: Sporty1977
Subject: 40121
Posted: 08 August 2011 at 7:49am

thanks for everything. I have been doing this - as you say above, but my hubby works nights so Im home alone plus have a 19 month old.....so I do get dinner ready early, but when I bath, feed and put the 19 month old to sleep I have to let the newborn grizzle...
oh and a noisey baby at night - wow my DS was silent but my DD sleeps so grunty, snuffly, noisey - sound like Anna Kournikova playing tennis...Im going to have to sleep with her in the spare room so my hubby can get some sleep, she is too young I feel to put in a room on her own
]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2011 07:49:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372680&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372680 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372409&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372409 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 40121
Posted: 07 August 2011 at 12:22pm

Babies cluster feed in the evenings, get dinner prepared as early as possibly, then get DH to cook it when he gets home while you sit on the couch & cuddle & feed your baby. It's their way of boosting your milk supply in time for growth spurts etc.

funnily just found a link that says the same thing Cluster feeding]]> Sun, 07 Aug 2011 12:22:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372409&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372409 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372386&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372386 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 40121
Posted: 07 August 2011 at 10:37am

Give her as much cuddles and help to settle as you can if its too much get your partner to help.]]> Sun, 07 Aug 2011 10:37:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372386&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372386 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372380&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372380 Author: Danda08
Subject: 40121
Posted: 07 August 2011 at 10:19am

Agree with all the others. Late afternoons/evenings can be tough with the grizzling and cluster feeding.

I used to put my girls in a vibrating rocker and sit them by a window, that often kept them calm for a decent period of time.
And I highly recommend a Moby wrap, that way you can be hands free to get on with some dinner etc.

It can be quite frustrating but make the most of this time, it goes so fast and soon you'll wish your wee terror would just snuggle into you ]]> Sun, 07 Aug 2011 10:19:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372380&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372380 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372360&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372360 Author: Hopes
Subject: 40121
Posted: 07 August 2011 at 9:16am

Jacob was like that too. It seems to be really common for little babies to want to stay up late and be grumpy while they're at it. Jacob just slowly grew out of it, and now goes to bed at a very respectable 7pm (and has for a long time). ]]> Sun, 07 Aug 2011 09:16:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372360&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372359&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372359 Author: Plushie
Subject: 40121
Posted: 07 August 2011 at 9:06am

Agree with all the above. Could be having a growth spurt, too, they have a few in the early days. DS always did his growth spurt feeding in the evening + night, he was always too busy during the day even at that young age. There is also a thing called 'evening colic' which you might want to check out. I wouldnt be leaving her to cry so young, she'll probably just get more and more upset and be harder to settle in the long run.]]> Sun, 07 Aug 2011 09:06:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372359&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372359 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372321&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372321 Author: CJsays
Subject: 40121
Posted: 06 August 2011 at 10:21pm

i agree with the others, give her a cuddle n a feed, i found that E would want to feed 3x between 5pm and 8pm at that age, sometimes more. they definitely grow out of it, very frustrating at the time though. E was also in a routine of feed every 4 hours etc from coming out of the neonatal unit, but that went out the window a few weeks after when she hit the evening terrors! personally i never left E to cry at 1 month, i only found her cries started to get more recognisable after 6 weeks, but every baby is different. even when i knew it was a grizzle i would rarely leave her for more than 5 mins till she was older. they change so much, go with the flow, cuddle her and give her food as needed and she will change again as needed, great you know she can do a 5hour stint though, it will happen again! could also be a wee growth spurt?]]> Sat, 06 Aug 2011 22:21:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372321&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372321 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372281&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372281 Author: mothermercury
Subject: 40121
Posted: 06 August 2011 at 8:47pm

I would not leave her to cry, especially not so young. I would go and pick her up and give her whatever she needs at this age. Unfortunately evening can be a grizzly time for a lot of babies and it's something they grow out of over time. Although I think sometimes you can never find a reason - it's just something that happens with little babies. It won't last forever!

Can you wear her in a wrap or push her around in the pram? Those both used to work for us (sometimes!) in getting baby to calm down.

]]> Sat, 06 Aug 2011 20:47:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372281&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372281 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372278&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372278 Author: Nothing
Subject: 40121
Posted: 06 August 2011 at 8:43pm

Its normal for young babies to be unsettled in the evening. She is too young to expect her to self settle all the time. Forget the books and go with your instincts. Go pick her up give her a cuddle and offer her the boob. ]]> Sat, 06 Aug 2011 20:43:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372278&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372278 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372271&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372271 Author: Sporty1977
Subject: 40121
Posted: 06 August 2011 at 8:36pm

My DD is 1 month on monday and has been a star till this week. She regularly does 3 hour breast feeds through the day, but snacks from about 5pm onwards. She self settles 99% of the time through the day. She was doing 5 hours at night sleeping folowed by 3 hours, however she is now 3 hours all the time day and night, thi sI can handle, however when I put her to bed at night - same routine, same bed, same location etc at night she just wont self settle. Yest I had a grizzly baby from 6-11pm..... I have just left her to cry now, but what I hear is a continuous high pitch cry, not a sstart stop cry. I thought a start stop cry was the one to leave and a continuous scream was not to be ignored (some book I read said that!), she has clean nappy etc..... any ideas why/what this is? ]]> Sat, 06 Aug 2011 20:36:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40121&PID=1372271&title=evening-unsettled-baby#1372271