https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 16 May 2026 11:43:57 +0000 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 01:43:32 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=41359 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=5890649&title=please-help-need#5890649 Author: stacy196225
Subject: 41359
Posted: 05 November 2015 at 1:43am

If you really love the lingerie. Then as a woman I would like to suggest you one online store which is Spicyligerie.com, there are so many plus size outfits plus other lingerie also and many women related undergarments and clothes. So you should visit there once I think.]]> Thu, 05 Nov 2015 01:43:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=5890649&title=please-help-need#5890649 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424566&title=please-help-need#1424566 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 41359
Posted: 22 January 2012 at 9:53am

Sex? Whats that? :P
I'm getting you there totally! Its been well over 2 months for us LOL! ]]> Sun, 22 Jan 2012 09:53:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424566&title=please-help-need#1424566 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424431&title=please-help-need#1424431 Author: millemama
Subject: 41359
Posted: 21 January 2012 at 11:22am

Would you believe a lady I know (in her 60's) put me onto the Twilight books, thought they were just for teenagers, but bugger the teenagers, once I started reading them couldn't put them down, and the sexual tension flying around, especially in the first book, certainly got me in the mood. lol. And the bonus was I actually enjoyed the storyline too, surprising considering there was no sex until the 3rd book I think. And I'm in my 40's!! ]]> Sat, 21 Jan 2012 11:22:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424431&title=please-help-need#1424431 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424334&title=please-help-need#1424334 Author: Candkids
Subject: 41359
Posted: 20 January 2012 at 6:27pm

millemama wrote: Well I guess the question is.. what gets you going, or did before bubs came along. Sometimes all that's needed is a little spice, but something yr comfortable with, including but not limited to sexy lingerie, a night away, a sensual massage from DH, racy book to read, or sexual movie to watch. GL

Lol we went through this problem too i was always tired or couldnt be bothered, and a friends mum whos a relationship councelor said " mills & boon books will be your savour"
LOL i thought she was a tad crazy and had never read them before, so i bought some and they were great, i wouldnt say they were a savour but they did help get us back on track ]]> Fri, 20 Jan 2012 18:27:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424334&title=please-help-need#1424334 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424303&title=please-help-need#1424303 Author: pea-in-a-pod
Subject: 41359
Posted: 20 January 2012 at 3:47pm



That sounds nice, I think it is probably time we have a date night, we haven't ever been without baby yet and she isn't a easy one.I have almost forgotton what to do if a baby isn't involved. Also what are those drops if you don't mind me asking?[/QUOTE]

The Homeopathic drops i use are by Weleda & are called "avena comp - relaxing drops" some chemist stock them but Health 2000 always has them available or can get them for you on request! hows your little one been today? Paige has just been a bomb from the time she woke this morning, only had two 40 mins sleeps today, SO not enough for someone her size. tonight she is staying with DH parents as we DH & i have to be up and off early tomorrow for a seminar & cant take her with us. it will be the first time apart like that. im going armed with my breast pump!! im going to make the most of a babyless night & enjoy hubby while ive got him all to myself!!! ]]> Fri, 20 Jan 2012 15:47:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424303&title=please-help-need#1424303 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424262&title=please-help-need#1424262 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 41359
Posted: 20 January 2012 at 1:58pm

MrsH wrote: Yeah, sometimes it's just a matter of getting back on the.... er... horse. DH and I go through... ah... dry spells and then once we've done it, we say to each other "That was great and I don't know why we don't do it more often". ('scuse all the puns)

Ditto MrsH.

Schedule it (dont tell DH). ]]> Fri, 20 Jan 2012 13:58:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424262&title=please-help-need#1424262 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424052&title=please-help-need#1424052 Author: crafty1
Subject: 41359
Posted: 19 January 2012 at 8:00pm

I also found with both my boys that my libido was reduced heaps after birth for about 8 months. I usually am always in the mood but just really couldn't be arsed for ages. Occasionally we would if we'd had a few drinks etc, but it just wasn't the same for ages.

Things do get back to normal but it is important to keep some intimacy, hold hands, cuddle, kiss etc even if sex is off the menu. ]]> Thu, 19 Jan 2012 20:00:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1424052&title=please-help-need#1424052 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423619&title=please-help-need#1423619 Author: MrsH
Subject: 41359
Posted: 18 January 2012 at 9:20am

Yeah, sometimes it's just a matter of getting back on the.... er... horse.

DH and I go through... ah... dry spells and then once we've done it, we say to each other "That was great and I don't know why we don't do it more often".

('scuse all the puns)

]]> Wed, 18 Jan 2012 09:20:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423619&title=please-help-need#1423619 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423601&title=please-help-need#1423601 Author: emz
Subject: 41359
Posted: 18 January 2012 at 8:36am

I read that the more you have it, the more you want it.

A woman on Oprah (lol) vowed to herself, to improve her relationship, to have sex every day for a month. Both her and her husband said, while they don't do it everyday still, it's quite often and their libidos have both increased. It does work ]]> Wed, 18 Jan 2012 08:36:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423601&title=please-help-need#1423601 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423557&title=please-help-need#1423557 Author: mrsmum
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 10:01pm

pea-in-a-pod wrote: mrs mum i had the same experience after i had my DD, DD is 5 months old & is a terrible sleeper & so times between DH and myself are few and far between & when we do have time i could never be bothered. we had a day out at the beach just us two, & found some homeopathic drops to help DD settle and sleep. it all has helped so much we are so much better & back together again if you know what i mean. new babies & being tired do drag on relationships more than i realised and it wasnt until the last couple of weeks of getting more sleep and having time with DH that you realise how much you miss each other. how old is your baby? things will get better even tho at the moment its hard to see how it could. relax & enjoy the times you do have together & perhaps ask a friend if they could look after baby for an hour or so so you could have a few minutes peace to do nothing but enjoy each other. all the best

That sounds nice, I think it is probably time we have a date night, we haven't ever been without baby yet and she isn't a easy one.I have almost forgotton what to do if a baby isn't involved. Also what are those drops if you don't mind me asking?]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 22:01:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423557&title=please-help-need#1423557 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423554&title=please-help-need#1423554 Author: mrsmum
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 9:56pm

catisla wrote: If your daughter is 3 weeks old, then 3 times is pretty good going. If your daughter is 18, then maybe you have a problem Seriously - (and assuming your daughter is still a baby) i think the thing is to grab the opportunity while you can - I'm betting that by the time you get to bed, both you and your DH are exhausted and only want to sleep. Early morning is a good opportunity time - a quicky won't take too much time (or effort!) and I find that once you get going on these things - the more you do it the more you want (if you see what i mean) According to our antenatal class teacher - the average amount of times in the first year after having a baby is six!

Well that does make me feel better, she is just 6 months - not quite 18!]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:56:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423554&title=please-help-need#1423554 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423549&title=please-help-need#1423549 Author: snugglebug
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 9:40pm

I totally get what you mean, and I was on antidepressants too which basically kill any sex drive completely. My DH has a pretty big sex drive at times lol and so I couldn't keep him going without for long, so I agreed that every few days we would do something intimate even if it wasn't the full hog so to speak, hehe. It's really hard when you're so tired and can't be bothered, but I think it's important to try, and go to bed early on the night that you're going to try, maybe give eachother a massage first or something to set the mood as relaxing, and just see it as important for your relationship to at least try, even if you don't feel like it. And hopefully in time it will improve as things get easier with the baby. I think it's important to make an effort to keep your relationship going strong as well as just being parents but I know how hard that is too ]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:40:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423549&title=please-help-need#1423549 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423543&title=please-help-need#1423543 Author: clover
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 9:20pm

Oooh, what homeopathic drops do you have to help her settle pea in a pod?

can't help on the sex front, we are MUCH worse than you sadly....]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:20:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423543&title=please-help-need#1423543 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423517&title=please-help-need#1423517 Author: pea-in-a-pod
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 8:21pm

mrs mum i had the same experience after i had my DD, DD is 5 months old & is a terrible sleeper & so times between DH and myself are few and far between & when we do have time i could never be bothered. we had a day out at the beach just us two, & found some homeopathic drops to help DD settle and sleep. it all has helped so much we are so much better & back together again if you know what i mean. new babies & being tired do drag on relationships more than i realised and it wasnt until the last couple of weeks of getting more sleep and having time with DH that you realise how much you miss each other. how old is your baby? things will get better even tho at the moment its hard to see how it could. relax & enjoy the times you do have together & perhaps ask a friend if they could look after baby for an hour or so so you could have a few minutes peace to do nothing but enjoy each other. all the best ]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 20:21:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423517&title=please-help-need#1423517 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423515&title=please-help-need#1423515 Author: catisla
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 8:19pm

If your daughter is 3 weeks old, then 3 times is pretty good going. If your daughter is 18, then maybe you have a problem

Seriously - (and assuming your daughter is still a baby) i think the thing is to grab the opportunity while you can - I'm betting that by the time you get to bed, both you and your DH are exhausted and only want to sleep. Early morning is a good opportunity time - a quicky won't take too much time (or effort!) and I find that once you get going on these things - the more you do it the more you want (if you see what i mean)

According to our antenatal class teacher - the average amount of times in the first year after having a baby is six!]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 20:19:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423515&title=please-help-need#1423515 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423473&title=please-help-need#1423473 Author: jazzy
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 5:54pm

How old is your baby?

I agree with millemama.

]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:54:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423473&title=please-help-need#1423473 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423467&title=please-help-need#1423467 Author: millemama
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 5:38pm

Well I guess the question is.. what gets you going, or did before bubs came along. Sometimes all that's needed is a little spice, but something yr comfortable with, including but not limited to sexy lingerie, a night away, a sensual massage from DH, racy book to read, or sexual movie to watch. GL ]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:38:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423467&title=please-help-need#1423467 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423459&title=please-help-need#1423459 Author: mrsmum
Subject: 41359
Posted: 17 January 2012 at 5:14pm

This is one of those things I can't talk about to anyone which is why I have come on to this forum.

Since our daughter was born we have only had sex three times, I find it so hard to get into the mood and am just too tired/can't be bothered. It is really starting to make a impact on our relationship so I was wondering if anyone else has had this happen and how I can enjoy it again?]]> Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:14:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41359&PID=1423459&title=please-help-need#1423459