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Posted: 16 May 2012 at 6:09pm

Thanks pepi, I hope you will one day write a poem about your newborn child ]]> Wed, 16 May 2012 18:09:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797989&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797989 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797807&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797807 Author: kiwikiwi
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Posted: 15 May 2012 at 8:39pm

Thanks Pepi-bebe for sharing these poems with us. They are amazing :)]]> Tue, 15 May 2012 20:39:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797807&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797807 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797340&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797340 Author: Pepi-bebe
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Posted: 12 May 2012 at 6:53pm

:Gift for our family:


Today
Was meant to be the day
I'd waited for
For years

I would truly become a mother
D would be given the gift of a child of her own, linked to her through blood
My parents would finally become grandparents
My brother become an uncle, his future child receive an older cousin
My uncles, Great Uncles
And my baby obsessed Nana
Would graduate, (to her relief),
To being a Great Grandmother

One small beloved child
Had the capacity to make all of this happen
Their arrival would reverberate through our family order
To make generations
Change position

To gift to me
My ultimate dream
Of being a mother

To bond me to my wife
Forevermore
With tighter bonds than any marriage could ever construct

But alas
Today this will not happen
Nor did it already happen
And it will not happen in a weeks time either

Instead
My brother and his wife's precious child
Due to be born in the next week
Will be the key in the lock
To shift all of our positions
To elevate us to new places of responsibility
To open out hearts to new levels of love

And for this great loss of mine
and this great gain of ours
I will cry heartily
And then I will be grateful.


Edited by Pepi-bebe]]> Sat, 12 May 2012 18:53:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797340&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797340 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797337&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797337 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 42032
Posted: 12 May 2012 at 6:40pm

:On your birth day:

To our precious first baby
On the occasion
Of your imagined birth day

I have so many if only's
But instead I will gift you wishes
Like you, they are real even if intangible

I wish that you are at peace

I wish that you know how much your mamas love you
And think of you everyday

I wish that you were able to feel our love when you were inside me (from the very first moment of conception)

I wish that your journey was just as long as it was always meant to be
And that I did nothing to shorten it

I wish that you are happy where you are and are together with our other pepi

I wish that you know how our whole family has grieved for you
And will today, knowing this is the day that we were expecting to meet you

I wish that when I think of you, you can sense it

I wish that you are warm, and safe and know how I wish I could've properly held you

I wish that you will always, always know that we love and miss you.


Dream of us often and remember our love for you.
Moe moe ra toku pepi.]]> Sat, 12 May 2012 18:40:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797337&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797337 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797336&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797336 Author: Pepi-bebe
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Posted: 12 May 2012 at 6:39pm

:Mis Carriage:


I bled and you slipped out of me
Suddenly
Too easily
You left me bereft, in shock, numb

Next time round
I took even more care
But that time my dead baby didn't slip out of me
That one nearly had to be ripped from my womb

But the needles and helpful poisons I took
Helped her along
And the pain of my cervix dilating
Late that night / early that morning
Whilst ironically, I used my hypnobirthing breathing techniques
Allowed me to feel that the pain of this baby leaving
Was more proper, more fitting


I mis carried you both
They say
Was I that inept and uncaring?

Was I that unprepared
I who had carefully
Researched
Detoxed
Accupunctured
Exercised
Charted
Monitored
Read and read and read

Does my body not come equipped with that innate knowledge
Of how to do this thing
That all women
No matter how unprepared
Unwilling
Or unintelligent
Can do so well

How did I mis carry
Our precious babies?

They say they'll investigate when I've had my third loss
f**k that
I'll find my own answers.

]]> Sat, 12 May 2012 18:39:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797336&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797336 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797335&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797335 Author: Pepi-bebe
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Posted: 12 May 2012 at 6:38pm

:Smitten:

We were smitten

With the thought of you
The dreams of all you would be
The dreams of all we would be, to you

I was smitten

With the exquisiteness of knowing you were growing inside of me
Inside of me
Finally

We were enamoured

With the easily imagined images
We conjured of you
All wild snarls of hair
Burnished skin
Big eyes
Strong legs
Sassy ass
Attitude.in.spades

But suddenly we were smote
Struck down mid dream

You were gone
Before we even had you


And I am still here,
Wondering what happened

Smitten then smote
I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy
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Subject: 42032
Posted: 12 May 2012 at 6:36pm

:Due date lament:

My first baby, my second baby, our babies
I grieve for you so
By sunlight
By moonlight
By the lonely light of my phone
I sit late
Exhausted but unable to allow myself to succumb to the sweet release of sleep
Searching online for something, anything

That will help make sense of this
Such heaviness and aching for you both
With all my body and soul
I miss you.]]> Sat, 12 May 2012 18:36:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797334&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797334 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42032&PID=5797333&title=writing-about-miscarriage#5797333 Author: Pepi-bebe
Subject: 42032
Posted: 12 May 2012 at 6:35pm

Hi there,
I've been doing a lot of reading of blogs about women coping with miscarriage, and was really moved by some of the writing, poems etc that I found online.
Thursday 10th May was the due date of our first baby, so I was searching for a particular poem that had struck a chord with me, but couldn't find it.
So I started to write a poem of my own, which turned into another and another. I ended up with 5 of them. Charting a journey through the night for me, charting the pain of my partner aand I, and tying to find some healing for us and our family.
In case they help you at all - and just because I want to share them as a way of honouring our losses, I'm going to post them on here. Perhaps if you have something to share, be it a line of a song, or something you've read or written.
I found hearing my thoughts echoed by others was soothing and has helped me through this so far...
Please feel free to contribute or comment on mine.
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