https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 01:43:26 +0000 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 20:32:33 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42213 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802653&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802653 Author: Dophy
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 8:32pm

haha yeah JadeC it can be real cute sometimes so kinda hops/jumps along on her bum too.]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 20:32:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802653&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802653 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802650&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802650 Author: JadeC
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 7:57pm

Dophy - totally off topic, but bum-shuffling is SO cute! I knew a little girl who bum shuffled, and it was hilarious watching her approach the stairs, put her legs up and then think "now what?"!!]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 19:57:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802650&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802650 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802642&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802642 Author: Dophy
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 7:07pm

as the others have said this is only the start of all that 'advice' of usually well meaning people but it can be so frustrating. When I was pregnant I used to hate random people grabbing at my stomach and coming really close into me (and usually they had really bad breath! haha). I used to also hate it when people would say things like 'you lifes over now!" really?! it seems my life really begun when my daughter was born.
Now my daughter is 16 months and she bum shuffles (doesn't crawl but its kinda cute) and I had people tell me different things like her brain wont be able to develop properly etc etc if she doesn't crawl which thank goodness found out was a load of crap.
Theres only one way to stop the 'advice' from getting to you is only really listen to advice from people you trust like plunket, mum, dr etc. Plus you'll find once baby arrives you'll suddenly acquire the mothers instinct. Best of luck with the pregnancy and enjoy :)]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 19:07:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802642&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802642 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802639&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802639 Author: SeasideMama
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 6:45pm

hehe, you made me snort Maya.

Hope the pregnancy goes well Kit kat...sometimes it seems like there is a real infantilizing of women going on in the pregnancy information provided (oh the irony). But as everyone has said above, it's only the beginning! Books like The NZ Pregnancy Book were pretty good at just presenting the info and not trying to second guess your experience/feelings   ]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 18:45:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802639&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802639 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802638&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802638 Author: Maya
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 6:34pm

Lol I got a Huggies weekly pregnancy update at about week 30 that said something along the lines of 'you're really starting to feel pregnant now'. Umm yeah, coz I only just noticed the giant bump *rolls eyes*]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 18:34:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802638&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802638 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802627&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802627 Author: crafty1
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 4:08pm

congrats kit kat on your pregnancy.

tbh this is just the start of it, people will always have an opinion on your pregnancy, your breastfeeding or lack of, your labour, how you dress your baby, what you name your baby, how you cut their hair, what type of pram you need, where baby sleeps, how baby sleeps, what baby eats, farts, poos, burps, spews.... you get the point. sigh.

I really don't think you can get away from it, people just tell you their opinion on these things. I try and think that they are well meaning and smile and nod. if i think they are full of sh*t or offensive then i'll prob bite back a bit at times (this is often in relation to how well my sleep/coffee needs are being met).

good luck with this aspect of the journey of parenthood! ]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 16:08:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802627&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802627 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802603&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802603 Author: AzzaNZ
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 10:51am

P.s Just wait until baby arrives and you realise no one told you you'd still have all the babyweight but now with the added joys of being leaky and that people's unsolicited advice only gets more intrusive when it involves a baby/child]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 10:51:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802603&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802603 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802602&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802602 Author: AzzaNZ
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 10:49am

Kit kat I think you'll continue to be disapointed with any forum/book/magazine you come across.

They're all anecdotal (even a lot of the midwifery/obstetrics textbooks contain anecdotes).

I think forums at least have women at all ends of the scale with many different experiences.

This is YOUR body and YOUR pregnancy and you'll have a very different experience to everyone else around you.

Hope its a happy, healthy one!]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 10:49:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802602&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802602 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802600&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802600 Author: kit kat
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Posted: 16 June 2012 at 10:43am

I'm expecting my first baby at over 40, started doing some online reading and i am SO OVER IT. Some pet peeves: 1) Being told really encouraging things like "you probably wont put on any weight in the first trimester" and "by week 19 you may have a wee baby bump and need to wear maternity clothes" - try 10 kilograms put on in the first trimester and maternity clothes at week 11. way to make me feel normal. 2) being told how i feel such as "you will be excited and anticipating your little bundle" and "you will feel fabulous now that the first trimester is over" - last time I checked only I knew how I feel. 3) the anthropomorphising of the fetus - no, baby is not kicking mummy to get attention, or thinking about his next meal, or anything that only a post-partum human can do, think, or feel! So, sorry if this post is a downer, or seems angry. I am just annoyed with being pushed into a mold and constantly "informed" of my reality instead of being presented with information and options. I hope that this chances as we move forward and for now I'm going to stick to those forums where I have found good solid information and stop reading about how abnormal I am.]]> Sat, 16 Jun 2012 10:43:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42213&PID=5802600&title=a-rant-about-advice#5802600