https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 06 May 2026 17:13:24 +0000 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 20:48:46 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42530 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5814364&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5814364 Author: KateMcGrath
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Posted: 23 September 2012 at 8:48pm

So progress report.
Now nearly 8 weeks old & little madam is amazing!! It started with me realizing that she was crying as hard in my arms as in the bassinette ie she was just plain tired!
So I started putting her down awake but going in as soon as the grizzling started turning to actual crying. I then start rocking her while standing over her in her bassinette so she knew I was there & then continuing the rocking while I moved into the corner of her sight. Then rocked her into sleep. Repeat until she really sleep!!
It works for day & evening settling. HOORAY!! It did take a little persistence but no more than it was taking to get her to sleep in my arms & she now doesn't have to deal with my picking her up/putting her down as I now have a consistent method I am sticking to.
I do pick her up to reassure her if she is getting worked up but put her down as soon as she has calmed down as she knows her bed is safe and cosy too.]]> Sun, 23 Sep 2012 20:48:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5814364&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5814364 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5813438&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5813438 Author: KateMcGrath
Subject: 42530
Posted: 13 September 2012 at 1:12pm

Hi all,

Thanks for the feedback. I know that this is a common issue so I appreciate all your ideas.

I suppose I am in the same boat as pretty much every newborn's mother, we would like them to sleep and we don't like hearing them cry - goes against our maternal instinct!!

I have not yet managed to sort out the day sleeping but will get there eventually I am sure.

In the meantime, if anyone knows THE ANSWER to the foolproof plan, i would appreciate it. I am thinking a fairy godmother with a magic wand. LOL! ]]> Thu, 13 Sep 2012 13:12:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5813438&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5813438 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5813142&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5813142 Author: sarah_#1
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Posted: 10 September 2012 at 9:20pm

Our bub was a month prem, and at 6 weeks our plunket nurse told us we could leave him to cry a little in his bassinet before going in to settle him again - 1 minute per week of age. And just repeating this until he went to sleep. Was hard on us not going in there for 6 minutes!! Until then we had basically been taking shifts in the lazy boy holding him, as he would wake as soon as we put him down. It was exhausting. It worked for us and now at 11 weeks old I put him down tonight and he went straight off after a small 1 minute grizzle.

Might not work for you as all babies are different, but after a few days we got the knack and he started to understand what was going on. And best of all some normality returned to our house.]]> Mon, 10 Sep 2012 21:20:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5813142&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5813142 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812638&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812638 Author: Hopes
Subject: 42530
Posted: 07 September 2012 at 7:44am

Initially I fed my little girl to sleep then put her down (I still was at five weeks, that's for sure!) When I decided she was growing up a little and it was time to gently break that habit, I put her in the bassinette and rocked her to sleep, which she transitioned to very well. Once she was well used to settling in her basinette, I eased back on the rocking, which took longer, but she now settles herself fine.

I'd say not to stress too much. Your baby is still very little, there's plenty of time yet. Personally, I'd try to focus on getting her down once asleep, since that will make your life easier with a toddler and hosuework to do, but I'd probably be trying putting her down when she'd just gone to sleep, warming the basinette with a wheatbag or something and perhaps jiggling it a bit to settle her once you put her down.]]> Fri, 07 Sep 2012 07:44:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812638&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812638 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812522&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812522 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: 42530
Posted: 06 September 2012 at 10:54am

Ok just my opinion so feel free to ignore but I think at 5 weeks its far too early to be trying to get set routines and baby to learn to self settle, seems a little crazy to me to sit for an hour with the baby and then move her.

Id be looking at patting and shushing in her bed rather than the couch, cos then she'll learn to self settle in the bed with help at first, babies tend to sleep in cycles of 45 minutes and sometimes need a little more help to settle for another cycle. Googling baby whisperer techniques with give you some idea.

I believe in the 4th trimester and babies need to be with their mummies lots and if feeding to sleep works, great, but I would transfer soon as they fall asleep and maybe keep your hands on baby for a little while til they fully settle. A baby being held for an hour in the warm arms of mum and then transfered to a colder bed would make them wake and cry cos suddenly they arent in mums arms, if you transfer when they have just fallen asleep, they are more aware of the bed and happy to settle.

Of course it doesnt always work and takes some practise and time but surely it has to be better than an hour or more on the couch and would give you more time with your toddler.

I just go with the flow of the baby by reading his signs and hopefully getting them right 80% of the time ]]> Thu, 06 Sep 2012 10:54:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812522&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812522 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812411&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812411 Author: ScaredyKat
Subject: 42530
Posted: 05 September 2012 at 3:54pm

No advice here, im in exactly the same boat! However i dont always get 3 hours btw feeds :-) And i often rock to sleep, and she sleeps on me lots! I hope one day to get her into her bed for decent naps so i can spend some time with my toddler. And also get more than 2 hours sleep at night! :-)]]> Wed, 05 Sep 2012 15:54:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812411&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812411 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812344&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812344 Author: KateMcGrath
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Posted: 05 September 2012 at 10:39am

My five week old, breast-fed baby feeds three hourly & sleeps like a trooper. EXCEPT after her awake time. After a crazy night of trying to settle her I am asking for HELP & ADVICE so I can be a great mum to baby & her 2.5yo sister.
I have been following Dorothy Waide's advice on establishing a routine & teaching her to self settle but I am having trouble making it work! 
I put her down awake & when she cries, pick her up & sit quietly til she has been sleeping for about an hour. I then put her back in her own bed. Most of the time she wakes up within 5 minutes & we are back to square one. I often end up feeding her again & sometimes she'll settle then but sometimes she won't. As you can imagine this is deeply frustrating, especially when our toddler is waiting for me to get off the couch & spend some time with her. I also often end up with baby in a front pack in an attempt to achieve SOMETHING in my day. 
So any ideas about maintaining consistency would be appreciated.]]> Wed, 05 Sep 2012 10:39:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42530&PID=5812344&title=help-wanted-for-routines-settling#5812344