https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 13:39:07 +0000 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 23:17:41 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42808 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42808&PID=5820277&title=preemie-bubbahs#5820277 Author: kelzie_rose
Subject: 42808
Posted: 29 November 2012 at 11:17pm

Oh honey :( my bubs was born not breathing, and my poor hubby watching her get oxygen and heart compressions. At three weeks old, she had surgery to remove a mass from her bowel. I felt so strongly for months that I had done really wrong by her. I felt like I hadn't made he right at all. But over time, I feel better now. Do talk to someone if you feel sad. Mothers Helpers are really good to talk to. Take care x]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2012 23:17:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42808&PID=5820277&title=preemie-bubbahs#5820277 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42808&PID=5819887&title=preemie-bubbahs#5819887 Author: Guest_47701
Subject: 42808
Posted: 26 November 2012 at 11:51am

ok, so I had my second baby 5 weeks early. I had developed pre-eclampsic toxemia. she was born by emergancy c-section after starting an induction to which my baby totaly freaked out, so wouldnt have coped with birth.

here's my issue, all though she's fine and i know having her born early was the best thing for both of us health wise, i still feel like i failed her, and i've failed at being a mum. Everything was fine in my first pregnancy so everything should have been fine in my second. She spent the first four weeks of her life in the hospital, in nicu and then scbu care.

i feel like i was robbed of m pregnancy and proper bonding time. I love her so much but ijust dont seem to be able to get past the feeling that i failed her as a mum before she was even born.

anyone else feel this way?]]> Mon, 26 Nov 2012 11:51:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42808&PID=5819887&title=preemie-bubbahs#5819887