https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 06 May 2026 00:31:36 +0000 Sun, 27 Jan 2013 10:30:11 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42832 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5825123&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5825123 Author: TeacherLady
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Posted: 27 January 2013 at 10:30am

Oh eassa! I am glad you have a great counsellor to help you

After Fergus' birth I really had to talk about it with my MW, DH, a close friend- to help me mentally through what had happened.

Your DH sounds really supportive.
Lots of good suggestions on here- I don't have any others really...
Just wanted to tell you (like everyone else has) that PTSD IS real.

Hope things are going okay for you

Edited by TeacherLady - 27 January 2013 at 10:30am]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2013 10:30:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5825123&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5825123 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5825042&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5825042 Author: Kristina103761
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Posted: 25 January 2013 at 11:15pm

Gosh and after your miscarriages, you poor things x

Glad it all worked out in the end but one thing I do know about PTSD is that it gets worse the longer you leave it to get help. So get help as soon as possible from a therapist. I recommend "Mothers Helpers" for PND.

Take care...]]> Fri, 25 Jan 2013 23:15:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5825042&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5825042 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5825041&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5825041 Author: kelzie_rose
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Posted: 25 January 2013 at 10:57pm

Hey all,

I have not been diagnosed with PTSD but I think I might have it - along with PND. I also believe my husband has PTSD from the day our girl was born. He can barely talk about it.

E was born not breathing, needing oxygen and heart compressions, and he heard someone say that she was dead. She was an elective c/s as she was breech so we were expecting a straight-forward experience but it was anything but.]]> Fri, 25 Jan 2013 22:57:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5825041&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5825041 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5824365&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5824365 Author: alirose
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Posted: 20 January 2013 at 6:16pm

PTSD is SO real ! birth and the birthing experience are such big meaningful milestones in a woman's life and leave such an imprint... I appreciated seeing an tapping/ EFT practitioner- I found it better than counselling as you don't have to talk & relive everything unless you want to, and its just quicker.... It helped to take away the emotional charge. Check around as some counsellors are probably trained in this these days too... ]]> Sun, 20 Jan 2013 18:16:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5824365&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5824365 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5824155&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5824155 Author: Kristina103761
Subject: 42832
Posted: 17 January 2013 at 11:06pm

This is a really useful website full of information:

TABS

and there's also this



Facebook Group

but maybe it'd be worth setting up your own Facebook group specifically for mums in New Zealand???]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 23:06:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5824155&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5824155 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5822840&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5822840 Author: eassa
Subject: 42832
Posted: 04 January 2013 at 11:12am

I would strongly recommend seeing a counsellor. You may even want to meet a couple of different ones to find someone who is right for you. Your feelings are not going to go away on their own and from my own personal experience only get bigger with out professional help. You want to be excited about TTC not terrified. You need to be kind to yourself, put yourself first and take care of your emotional self. There is no perfect time to conceive it happens when it happens. When you do you become pregnant, you will want to experience all the joy, excitement and anticipation you felt with your first. Therefore it is important to work through any past tramas, anxieties and depressions before conceiving. Otherwise you may find your pregnancy would be one of worry, fear, anxiety, depression etc.

My son is 1 in two weeks and when I was pregnant I thought i would be trying to conceive again after his first birthday. With counselling I have been able to accept that I need to take care of myself before trying for another baby. My hubby really wants another baby but he accepts that it may take me along time, if ever, for me to want to try another baby. He would rather have a happy healthy wife than the big family we had planned for. Sometimes we need to grieve for the life we imagen we would have before we can appreciate the life we do have.

I really hope this helps you and doesn't sound like I am a know it all. Happy to talk more if you like. ]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 11:12:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5822840&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5822840 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5822835&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5822835 Author: ALittleLoopy
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Posted: 04 January 2013 at 9:54am

I'm thinking about seeing a counsellor cz I am looking at ttcing #2 ad it terrifies me...I ad hyperemesis with my first and a traumtic birth an post natal care/depression also....would you recommend I do?
We are supposed to try now its 2013 but I can't bring myself to do it we've tried to start trying a few times but I just sabbotage it.]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 09:54:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5822835&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5822835 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5820831&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5820831 Author: Aroha11
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Posted: 05 December 2012 at 2:46pm

Hi Eassa

I had PTSD and have since come across a couple of other mums who have had the same.

PM me if you want - I know it is hard, I was really lucky to have a wonderful doctor (who happens to be a mum of 3) and got me sorted right away.

I found a couple of websites in america but not much here most of the help is related to PND, but in saying that the support groups for PND would be worthwhile talking to as well, as sometimes all you need is a hug or someone to listen.

]]> Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:46:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5820831&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5820831 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5820751&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5820751 Author: eassa
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Posted: 04 December 2012 at 8:08pm

Hi I am looking to talk to Kiwi mums who have experience birth trauma and like me are trying to actively manage PTSD.

After a horrible birth and shocking treatment by medical professionals I was diagnosed with PTSD in April. I have been seeing an excellent counsellor who is helping me identify my feelings and separate the 'events' from who I truly am. I have good days and bad days and I know I won't be like this forever. One of the hardest parts is the treatment I have received from people who don't believe PTSD is real. Their 'get over statements' are unhelpful. I also have not been able to find a support group.

Anyone else out there is similar circumstances?]]> Tue, 04 Dec 2012 20:08:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42832&PID=5820751&title=birth-trama-ptsd#5820751