https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 06 May 2026 20:52:07 +0000 Sat, 30 Dec 2006 14:50:20 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=5017 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97177&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97177 Author: busymum
Subject: 5017
Posted: 30 December 2006 at 2:50pm

At her age you'll want a very simple reward system. Go to bed without fuss tonight, you get something special at breakfast time. Or something like that. Stickers go a long way with that age ]]> Sat, 30 Dec 2006 14:50:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97177&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97177 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97174&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97174 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 5017
Posted: 30 December 2006 at 1:39pm

Well she won!! I was so worried about her throwing up again last night I laid on the floor in her room and read until she went to sleep what a soft touch I am. I should know better after having the boys.

My mother suggested i just let her do it and throw up then change her without talking and leave the room but it seems so harsh or am I just a big softie. I think I go easier on her as she is my last baby (not really a baby anymore) as we aren't having any more.

I might try the reward system and see if that works anything is better than laying on her floor for an hour waiting for her to fall asleep.]]> Sat, 30 Dec 2006 13:39:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97174&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97174 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97121&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97121 Author: kezplanet
Subject: 5017
Posted: 30 December 2006 at 1:42am

Bad mum - oooooh yes, just like me and anyone else here who puts up their hand, aahhh do I see a wave starting   OK all jokes aside, this is just what my girl did at this age, but she soon got out of the daytime sleep!! Did it herself, I would love it if she still had a nap but then we would be in the same boat as you. I agree that you need some help with the night time bit but I'm not any help there as Ashlyn still has a bottle before bed and 9/10 falls asleep while drinking or very soon after. I can only suggest maybe trying a reward system for her going to bed calmly, a trip to the local park or a special sticker, maybe if you get a few stickers in a row she can choose something special to do with you alone? not sure but I wish you all the luck and let us know how you go!! And I understand the "scream my head off!" we get that in our house esp when tired or hungry]]> Sat, 30 Dec 2006 01:42:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97121&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97121 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97097&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97097 Author: busymum
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 9:42pm

Boys are the easiest in this home so far... ]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 21:42:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97097&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97097 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97060&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97060 Author: james
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 6:24pm

i still have the same prob sooo no boys are,nt any easyer so if you are a bad mum then so am i

Edited by james]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 18:24:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97060&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97060 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97018&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97018 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 4:32pm

She goes down at 11-00am usually everyday unless we are out. The little madam goes down perfectly every morning without any hassles at all. The sad thing is bombshell I would probably enjoy waking her up being the sadistic person I am at the moment (she says as she thinks of all the broken nights sleep she has had with this particular little angel)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who needs a break. Kids who would have them!! ]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 16:32:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=97018&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#97018 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96996&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96996 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 3:07pm

the sleep is still common at that age but what time are you doing it? if it is for two whole hours i would try putting her down around 1pm or otherwise put her down no later than 3pm for a one hour nap - you will need to wake her..sorry! I nannied for loads of kids napping around this age and found the above worked best for the kids to then sleep later on in the night - whether she will adhere to that or not who knows?

what about doing something soothing before you put her to bed too? try a nice bath or lying in bed to read - is she too hyped at night to sleep?

bad mothers - well there are a few of u asking that today - and no i dont see any of you to be bad mothers...not at all!!!]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 15:07:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96996&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96996 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96990&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96990 Author: busymum
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 2:48pm

My 3yo is still having a 2 hour nap every day, and then sleeps 7pm to 6am on top of that. Apparently it's fairly common to still be sleeping that much at this age (I thought it was a bit much so asked around).

I think it's good for kids and mums to have the time out during the day. If she's not that tired in the daytime, put her in her room with a pile of books (say 4) or something like that, so she still gets some quiet time and you get a rest too. You could cut her nap down to an hour if you want her to go to bed earlier at night.

I'm not sure how to, but I think you need to crack down on the night bed-time behaviour. It's hard to put them down earlier when it's so sunny at that time, but you won't want her getting into the habit of manipulating you like that because she'll keep it up for the next year!]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 14:48:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96990&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96990 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96986&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96986 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 2:42pm

ahhhh i was always told boys were easier than girls...so far in this house that's true!!!

you definately are not being a bad mother vick!!! i'm sure we mothers all understand the NEED for a couple of hours quiet time to ourselves during the day!

jack is still having a sleep during the day too and he's older than abby. sometimes he just plays in his room for that time but i need some time away from him or i'll go completely insane!

well, that's not really much help with night times, i'm sorry. just know that your not being a bad mother and most of us are in the same situation during the day. hang in there, hopefully it's just a stage she's going through ]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 14:42:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96986&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96986 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96981&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96981 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 5017
Posted: 29 December 2006 at 2:22pm

Am I a bad mother, Abby isn't going to sleep on her own at the moment she makes herself throw up until I go in and sit with her. We don't put her down until after 8-00 as she has a two hour sleep during the day. The bad mother part is I know I should cut down her sleep or cut it out altogether and she may settle easier but to be honest I enjoy the peace and quiet to much.

When schools in it's the only time I get to myself without any interruptions and she is so full on at the moment that I need the rest from her. Then I feel guilty but she is seriously like having three children her age running around and she's going through a really grumpy demanding I want now or I'll scream my freakin head off stage. She is driving me insane I thought girls were supposed to be easier than boys man did I get jibbed!!!

So what's the verdict am I a bad mother???]]> Fri, 29 Dec 2006 14:22:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5017&PID=96981&title=am-i-a-bad-mother#96981