OHbaby! Forums : what are you doing? (ranty) https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 17:57:04 +0000 Wed, 14 Feb 2007 20:17:30 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=5672 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : I hate the &#034;So what do you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=110073&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#110073 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 5672
Posted: 14 February 2007 at 8:17pm

I hate the "So what do you do with yourself these days"
I got asked where I was working when Jack was 6 days old.

My friend had an op 3 weeks ago and keeps asking when i'm going to visit her, I actually don't have a spare day for ages and when I do it would be nice to stay at home so I could hopefully lie down for 5 mins.]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2007 20:17:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=110073&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#110073 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : That&#039;s the one that gets...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109846&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109846 Author: busymum
Subject: 5672
Posted: 14 February 2007 at 9:08am

That's the one that gets me big time and it's usually my family or in-laws! Will they ever 'get' to ring first??? I don't mind if it's a planned visit but if the kids are asleep and I need a break, I *will* take one!!

Or someone will come and it's fine for 1/2 hour and then an hour maybe, and then even though I'm "not doing anything" today, I do need to organise dinner or the washing etc.... or don't you get that it's been a busy week and that's *why* we're at home doing nothing today??

Guess I had better stop now lol ]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2007 09:08:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109846&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109846 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Its so annoying how people think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109831&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109831 Author: caraMel
Subject: 5672
Posted: 14 February 2007 at 8:24am

Its so annoying how people think staying home with your kids means you're free to call upon anytime.
My biggest falling out with MIL to date was when she decided I was free to babysit her international student at last minute notice 4 days in a row.
Aside from the fact that he was rude and demanding and kept pushing my daughter over, I really objected to her assumption that I had nothing to do for the next four days and was happy to not only play tourguide and hostess to him but finance the tours and feed him as well!
Anyway, I now ignore my phone unless I'm in the mood for a chat and have been known to ignore unannounced visitors at my door as well. Thank goodness for peepholes!
Don't people realise that after you have a baby, there is NEVER a good time to just pop by to visit people?!?]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2007 08:24:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109831&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109831 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Glad I haven&#039;t had those!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109823&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109823 Author: busymum
Subject: 5672
Posted: 14 February 2007 at 7:57am

Glad I haven't had those!]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2007 07:57:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109823&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109823 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : So true... so true. Being a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109710&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109710 Author: Andie
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 7:33pm

So true...    so true.    

Being a SAHM means my time is so much more flexible than when I was working, so I have been expected to do extra stuff sometimes.  I don't run all of our errands but would be happy to and I do do most of them, but I've been weary of the 'can you drop my daughter off at her piano lesson', 'can you pick me up... from another town!', 'can you water my garden' requests.  Hmph! 

]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 19:33:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109710&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109710 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : I&#039;m weary of the &#039;what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109705&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109705 Author: linda
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 7:21pm

I'm weary of the 'what are you up to today'....my reply 'oh nothing' and then being asked to babysit! I've learnt to cover myself so I have an 'out' if they want me to do something I don't want to do.]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 19:21:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109705&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109705 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : dont blush leish...say it proudly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109701&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109701 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 6:25pm

dont blush leish...say it proudly " my job is as a dream analyser and as part of my research i am required to sleep in during the day " ]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 18:25:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109701&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109701 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Well - i&#039;m not a SAHM mum...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109585&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109585 Author: Leish
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 1:33pm

Well - i'm not a SAHM mum yet - well I guess I am cos I am a mum but I just don't have a child at home with me yet - but if anyone asked me what I have been up to today, I would have to blush and say that I only just woke up!!]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 13:33:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109585&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109585 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : i got sick of hearing it as well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109576&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109576 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 1:19pm

i got sick of hearing it as well so i went back to work (where i didnt have to see them haha) fulltime, now ive cut my hours down to 30 and i hear the question again but not as often cos when they ask me i LOOK at them really angrily and say "i pulled out 3 teeth did two rootcanals and 5 fillings then came home and hung out with a grumpy 4 year old....how about u?"

btw lol "housewifing it" i like that ]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 13:19:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109576&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109576 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : ...come to think of it though,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109575&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109575 Author: Andie
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 1:19pm

...come to think of it though, I guess I've always held off from listing what's kept me busy for the day because it'd make for a boring conversation - but if I DO do that, people will soon stop asking! ]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 13:19:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109575&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109575 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : My gripe isn&#039;t with hubby...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109574&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109574 Author: Andie
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 1:17pm

My gripe isn't with hubby (well, this gripe isn't!) but with women who should know better - especially my mother whose been a SAHM for some time herself so should remember how pathetic it makes you feel when someone says 'what you been up to' and you have to say 'lots of laundry, dishes, cooking, vaccuming, dusting... oh yeah, and I got thrown up on 3 times and pooped on once".  Do people really want to know this stuff?!?]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 13:17:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109574&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109574 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Yip I am in the &#034;So what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109566&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109566 Author: EthansMummy
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 1:04pm

Yip I am in the "So what have you done all day boat" My DH doesn't notice that they carpet is vaccumed and the washing is done, folded and put away, that the floors have been scrubed....etc, etc. Thankfully after the last time it was an exteremly quite two nights with me ignoring him and he hasn't said it since!!!! Bloody men.]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 13:04:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109566&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109566 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : i hate so hen are you going back...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109470&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109470 Author: james
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 8:06am

i hate so hen are you going back to work as son as i can find a job that pays anuff to surport me and my son then i will ]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 08:06:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109470&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109470 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : i know what you mean andie! i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109453&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109453 Author: ellabellame
Subject: 5672
Posted: 13 February 2007 at 7:35am

i know what you mean andie!
i hate it when people ask that, another pet hate is "what've you been up to?" which i get all the time. well duh, i've been doing exactly the same thing i was doing when you last asked me that!

and haha emma, glad to see you've got willie well trained.]]> Tue, 13 Feb 2007 07:35:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109453&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109453 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : LOL ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109441&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109441 Author: Kels
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 11:51pm

LOL]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 23:51:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109441&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109441 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : LOL Willie would be waaaaaay to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109391&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109391 Author: Maya
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 9:08pm

LOL Willie would be waaaaaay to scared to come home and ask me what I've done all day - that would be a month-long ticket to the spare room!]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 21:08:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109391&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109391 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : You better duck for cover, Busymum...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109376&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109376 Author: Andie
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 8:34pm

You better duck for cover, Busymum 'cause I'm coming over tomorrow with my attitide set at full volume!!  Mwah ha ha haaaaaa!

OK I promise not to angrily rant. 

Seriously though, I'm just going to tell my family that it really (trying to think of a non-swear way to say 'pisses me off') when they ask that, that they didn't ask me that when I was working, so I don't like what it implies when they ask me now.  No doubt even if I say it in my nicest tone or even just made a joke of it like I didn't mean it (but I won't take that route!) they'd get all upset!  Maybe my rant should really be about family with issues right now, anyway. 

]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 20:34:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109376&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109376 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Yeah, I always feel that is a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109372&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109372 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 8:31pm

Yeah, I always feel that is a loaded question if it comes from dh/dp etc, or the what have you done today? It could actually mean that, but I always see the mess ont he bench or the unvaccummed carpet and think that is what he means...]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 20:31:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109372&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109372 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Ah, the easy lives us SAHM&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109370&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109370 Author: meow
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 8:23pm

Ah, the easy lives us SAHM's lead aye ]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 20:23:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109370&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109370 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : I hate people asking me that oo.....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109367&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109367 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 8:02pm

I hate people asking me that oo.. well my mum especially.. cos even after i've said "well i've worked 4 days in a row and ihave 1 day off before 3 more" she'll still go "oh, so when am i going to see you?" hello lady - i have 1 day, to spend with my kids.. 1day. if you want to see me get off your butt and come see me... he he..

but Andie - you know what question really gets to me.. both when i was a full time SAHm and a less-than-full-time SAHM.. and now when i have days off.. is when someone (not naming names here) comes home and says "so, what have you done today?" sometimes i call his bluff and say i sat on my A... and ate chocolate. (really, it's the truth but how dare he imply that.. he he)]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 20:02:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109367&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109367 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Was about to say the same thing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109345&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109345 Author: Maya
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 6:35pm

Was about to say the same thing Teresa

I wish I had nothing to do. I wish I could stay at home all day every day (although you could guarantee the house wouldn't be any tidier than it is now but in between taking Maya to preschool, the gremlins docs appts and all these 'lunches' I've been doing (apparently that's what us SAHM Mums do - lunch ) I actually have to SCHEDULE days at home. Go figure - I thought the point of being a SAHM was to SAH!

Anyways, off topic, sorry... ]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 18:35:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109345&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109345 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Grrr it really does get me too....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109333&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109333 Author: busymum
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 6:24pm

Grrr it really does get me too. Umm yea my to-do list today is grocery shopping, doing the dishes, and I'd really like to 'fit' a sleep in there sometime too. Sounds lame in my own ears let alone the insentives out there! Fortunately I don't have much trouble with in-laws about that but... I have my sister. Is that worse or what?

But I love to tease Andie ]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 18:24:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109333&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109333 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : you meaine lol busymum ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109327&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109327 Author: james
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 5:59pm

you meaine lol busymum ]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 17:59:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109327&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109327 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Well Andie, all I can say to that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109314&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109314 Author: busymum
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 4:59pm

Well Andie, all I can say to that is,


"What are you doing today???"


*ducks for cover* tee hee]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 16:59:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109314&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109314 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : Oh my gosh.... how embarrassing....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109309&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109309 Author: Andie
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 4:50pm

 Oh my gosh.... how embarrassing.  I clicked on the button to post that, then it crossed my mind that I think I posted pretty much the same rant a while ago.  I remember thinking about it... dunno if I did though.  It was probably the last time I tried the minipill, too, come to think of it!  Sorry!

]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 16:50:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109309&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109309 <![CDATA[what are you doing? (ranty) : My pet hate right now is being...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109307&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109307 Author: Andie
Subject: 5672
Posted: 12 February 2007 at 4:46pm

My pet hate right now is being asked... "WHAT ARE YOU DOING THIS WEEK?",  "WHAT HAVE YOU GOT PLANNED FOR TODAY?"  or any variations of those.  And while sometimes a friend who is working full-time will ask this, it's when my mum and sister ask (because that's how they're starting conversations these days) that really gets to me - probably because they always ask (not to hear the answer, but to tell me what they're doing).  I know - it's not a rude question, and yes, maybe it annoys me so much more because I'm once again trying out the minipill (don't think it's going too well, eh!) and everything is annoying me more, but I'm a SAHM... What the heck do they think the answer to that question is?!?  For want of a better answer I end up saying something like 'er, the usual, I'm housewifing it today' or if I've got a playgroup or something on I'll say I'm off to that.  I'm not about to list every little chore that somehow fills up the whole day and keeps me busy enough!  The result is that my family swing between thinking I'm incredibly boring and sit at home cleaning and watching TV all week and no longer have anything interesting to say about anything, or that I spend all week flitting about on coffee dates (leading to the time honoured tradition my mother has of telling me how she didn't have it anywhere near as easy).  If I'm asked once more I'm going to go postal at whoever the unsuspecting person is.  Most likely a family member, any one of which would frankly would deserve getting their head bitten off anyway (issues, issues).  Anyway, this really annoys me (he he... I keep having to go back while I type and delete my language... am making an effort to clean it up now for Ella!) because when I was working, no-one ever asked that and never needed to.  It was a given that I was busy working all week.  Now that I'm working at being a mum and looking after this house, it's like people think I'm not 'doing' anything.  GRRRRRR! ]]> Mon, 12 Feb 2007 16:46:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5672&PID=109307&title=what-are-you-doing-ranty#109307