OHbaby! Forums : Being a Mum https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 12:20:41 +0000 Thu, 14 Jan 2010 09:17:48 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=5825 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Being a Mum : ok, done, crying yes! Thinking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=896376&title=being-a-mum#896376 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 5825
Posted: 14 January 2010 at 9:17am

ok, done, crying yes! Thinking I was still that career driven woman after having my beautiful daughter I returned to work, only to leave again 6 months later to be there for my child.

Thanks for sharing that - Its easier to forget inbetween washing , feeding and changing bums that these little people are really our biggest achievements!]]> Thu, 14 Jan 2010 09:17:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=896376&title=being-a-mum#896376 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : It&#039;s so true, especially...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=896018&title=being-a-mum#896018 Author: Bexee
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 8:05pm

It's so true, especially about the whole husband thing. The way he reacts with our son just makes me fall in love with him over and over again and melts my heart.]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:05:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=896018&title=being-a-mum#896018 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : OMG, i read the first paragraph...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=896011&title=being-a-mum#896011 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 8:01pm

OMG, i read the first paragraph and totally related it to me, felt the tears well up - will come back for the rest when DH is at work]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:01:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=896011&title=being-a-mum#896011 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Joscia wrote:Aw man! Virtually...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895891&title=being-a-mum#895891 Author: pikelets
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 6:46pm

Originally posted by Joscia Joscia wrote:

Aw man! Virtually nothing like that makes me cry, but that one made me well up

Isn't it funny how the old cliches really are true - that pre-motherhood you could read that and think, 'ah, yeah, I get what that's about.'
But it's not until you have a child that you actually, properly understand it...


Ditto! So true and so lovely!
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Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 5:58pm

Oh thank goodness it didn't make someone else cry either... I cry at lots of things and love my kids to death but didn't shed one tear... ]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 17:58:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895803&title=being-a-mum#895803 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : It didn&#039;t make me cry it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895736&title=being-a-mum#895736 Author: GuestGuest
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 5:01pm

It didn't make me cry it actually made me laugh out loud because of how corny it is! (but then I'm not a mum).]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 17:01:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895736&title=being-a-mum#895736 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I think I&#039;m dead on the inside...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895731&title=being-a-mum#895731 Author: Hopes
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 4:57pm

I think I'm dead on the inside Things like that never make me cry (even ones more applicable to me, since I'm not really a Mum yet, even thought I swear I love this Bub to death and beyond).

Edited by Hopes]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:57:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895731&title=being-a-mum#895731 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Even though I know things like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895675&title=being-a-mum#895675 Author: littleLittle
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 4:22pm

Even though I know things like that are going to make me cry like a baby I still read it. Why do I do it to myself?!?!       ]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:22:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895675&title=being-a-mum#895675 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I had to stop reading because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895395&title=being-a-mum#895395 Author: EmDee
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 12:59pm

I had to stop reading because I'm at work and I'm a big sook so would have been sobbing! From the first 2 paragraphs it sounds so true! Will finish reading when I get home so I can blub in private!]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 12:59:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895395&title=being-a-mum#895395 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Aw man! Virtually nothing like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895186&title=being-a-mum#895186 Author: Joscia
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 10:34am

Aw man! Virtually nothing like that makes me cry, but that one made me well up

Isn't it funny how the old cliches really are true - that pre-motherhood you could read that and think, 'ah, yeah, I get what that's about.'
But it's not until you have a child that you actually, properly understand it... ]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 10:34:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895186&title=being-a-mum#895186 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : tears here too. Such a good description...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895059&title=being-a-mum#895059 Author: Jaxnz1
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 8:49am

tears here too.
Such a good description of motherhood.]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 08:49:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895059&title=being-a-mum#895059 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Ok, so I am at work, just got...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895022&title=being-a-mum#895022 Author: FionaO
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 8:12am

Ok, so I am at work, just got a few mins downtime so looked on and saw this and now I can't leave my office for tears streaming down my face!!

So lovely

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Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 7:19am

Yep Ive read it before, but STILL read it again, I like to be reminded just how lucky I am to be a Mum.

On a side note - I havent "seen" you around lately Jennz! ]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 07:19:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=895006&title=being-a-mum#895006 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I came across this (because I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=894994&title=being-a-mum#894994 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 5825
Posted: 13 January 2010 at 1:48am

I came across this
(because I searched specifically for it )

I think its so beautiful ]]> Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:48:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=894994&title=being-a-mum#894994 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I loooooove reading the chick...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=113471&title=being-a-mum#113471 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 5825
Posted: 26 February 2007 at 5:07pm

I loooooove reading the chick soup books!!!!!!!! and I looooove this story, its so true isn't it. Thanks so much for sharing it with us ]]> Mon, 26 Feb 2007 17:07:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=113471&title=being-a-mum#113471 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Yeah its good if you like things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112790&title=being-a-mum#112790 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 5825
Posted: 23 February 2007 at 11:19pm

Yeah its good if you like things like that get chicken soup for the mothers soul out of the library ]]> Fri, 23 Feb 2007 23:19:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112790&title=being-a-mum#112790 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : It&#039;s beautiful. I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112697&title=being-a-mum#112697 Author: Andie
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Posted: 23 February 2007 at 4:31pm

It's beautiful.  I'm copying it to send on.  ]]> Fri, 23 Feb 2007 16:31:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112697&title=being-a-mum#112697 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I read it the first time, unwittingly,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112506&title=being-a-mum#112506 Author: Leish
Subject: 5825
Posted: 23 February 2007 at 7:42am

I read it the first time, unwittingly, at my desk at work and bawled for AGES!!!! ]]> Fri, 23 Feb 2007 07:42:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112506&title=being-a-mum#112506 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I&#039;m with the last two as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112432&title=being-a-mum#112432 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 9:05pm

I'm with the last two as well - its really lovely but not something to read again!! ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 21:05:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112432&title=being-a-mum#112432 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Ha ha no tears here either -coz...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112428&title=being-a-mum#112428 Author: Maya
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 8:59pm

Ha ha no tears here either -coz I've read it before and I'm not getting sucked in twice Will confess to goosebumps tho (or is that the aircon ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 20:59:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112428&title=being-a-mum#112428 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : hahahaha - i&#039;ve read that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112283&title=being-a-mum#112283 Author: Leish
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 1:28pm

hahahaha - i've read that before and bawled that time. I didn't read it this time Jennz so you didn't get me!! ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 13:28:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112283&title=being-a-mum#112283 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I join the club too and a big...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112261&title=being-a-mum#112261 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 11:45am

I join the club too and a big hug to all the mums out there ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 11:45:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112261&title=being-a-mum#112261 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : that was nice ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112254&title=being-a-mum#112254 Author: Deez
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 11:16am

that was nice]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 11:16:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112254&title=being-a-mum#112254 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : I will join the club ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112252&title=being-a-mum#112252 Author: Sarah Beth
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 11:04am

I will join the club ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 11:04:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112252&title=being-a-mum#112252 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : What else can I say!!!!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112239&title=being-a-mum#112239 Author: Kels
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 10:31am

 What else can I say!!!!!]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 10:31:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112239&title=being-a-mum#112239 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Bugger ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112214&title=being-a-mum#112214 Author: jax
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 9:38am

Bugger ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 09:38:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112214&title=being-a-mum#112214 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : OMG me too, Dammit!! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112189&title=being-a-mum#112189 Author: caraMel
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 8:19am

OMG me too, Dammit!!]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 08:19:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112189&title=being-a-mum#112189 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : oh yeah thanks for making this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112178&title=being-a-mum#112178 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 7:46am

oh yeah thanks for making this big fat preggy professional career driven 8 plus months preggy woman bawl....!!!!! ]]> Thu, 22 Feb 2007 07:46:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112178&title=being-a-mum#112178 <![CDATA[Being a Mum : Made me blub like a baby... Being...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5825&PID=112158&title=being-a-mum#112158 Author: Jennz
Subject: 5825
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 1:33am

Made me blub like a baby...

Being A Mum

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of a family. “We’re taking a survey,” she says half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby? “It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral. “I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations.” But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.

I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking, “What if that had been MY child?” That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her that when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die. I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of “Mum!” will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moment’s hesitation.

I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby’s sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from runninghome , just to make sure her baby is all right. I want my daughter to know that everyday decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy’s desire to go to the men’s room rather than the women’s at McDonald’s will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom.

However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother. Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs. I want her to know that a caesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honour. My daughter’s relationship with her husband will change, and not in the way she thinks.

I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving. I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time.

I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts. My daughter’s quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. “You’ll never regret it,” I finally say. Then I reached across the table, squeezed my daughter’s hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings. Please share this with a Mum that you know or all of your girlfriends who may someday be Mums. May you always have in your arms the one who is in your heart.

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