https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 10 Apr 2026 02:58:07 +0000 Tue, 06 Mar 2007 21:36:22 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=5940 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=116103&title=other-mums#116103 Author: lizzle
Subject: 5940
Posted: 06 March 2007 at 9:36pm

Jake is a rather "charming" child at times and tends to beat up other children - to this day I have never been yelled at - i don't care what he does, he is a child and it is MY responsibility to discipline him. i would be furious if anyone yelled at him. Today he punched a little girl in the stomach (in a mood) and while the poor little girl howled, his mother very calmly said "jake thats not very nice, Erin is sad now. can you say sorry please" and he acted all concerned and said sorry, then came to me and said "erin's crying" like he had nothing to do with it at all - little terror. my point is - there is a way to deal with kids misbehaving if they aren't yours and what that woman did was unacceptable!]]> Tue, 06 Mar 2007 21:36:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=116103&title=other-mums#116103 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=116035&title=other-mums#116035 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 5940
Posted: 06 March 2007 at 8:33pm

Maya wrote: nikkiwhyte wrote: Don't take it personally. I'd say that woman is a munter. Dammit Nikki - you always say what I want to say only better...

I kinda wish that was the whole post I had made. It is so much more effective on its own!
]]> Tue, 06 Mar 2007 20:33:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=116035&title=other-mums#116035 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=115999&title=other-mums#115999 Author: Maya
Subject: 5940
Posted: 06 March 2007 at 8:04pm

nikkiwhyte wrote: Don't take it personally. I'd say that woman is a munter.

Dammit Nikki - you always say what I want to say only better...

Good on you Jennz for keeping your cool - I probably would have started some kind of all-out brawl - it is totally not OK to yell at/scream at/discipline at all someone elses kid, especially a stranger!

When we were transit in Singapore on our way home from London some kid about 6 or 7 kept trying to push Maya off the playground then came up to me and said "that baby swore at me". "That baby" (Maya) was all of 20 mths old I looked around for a parent to abuse but couldn't see one - so ended up just feeling sorry for the poor kid who had been dumped in the playground while Mum and Dad busied themselves elsewhere. I certainly didn't scream at the kid!]]> Tue, 06 Mar 2007 20:04:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=115999&title=other-mums#115999 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114729&title=other-mums#114729 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 4:02pm

it is not okay to scream at someone elses kid at all... and to be perfectly honest charlotte was quite right to push the little girl anyway as she bumped into her first ... the mum prob over reacted cause she knew her daughter was in the wrong in the first place, and she should have made sure that there was noone at the bottom of the slide anyway.
and i say good on charlotte for sticking up for herself. ]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 16:02:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114729&title=other-mums#114729 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114709&title=other-mums#114709 Author: fairsk8
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 3:06pm

I agree with you Nikki, that lady is a munter. It is not okay or alright to yell at somebody elses children, not like that lady did to Charlotte anyway.

Poor charlotte, I hope she is okay, big to her.]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 15:06:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114709&title=other-mums#114709 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114666&title=other-mums#114666 Author: ellabellame
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 1:51pm

Poor charlotte! personally i think that other woman was totally out of line.
i hope charlotte is ok now.]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 13:51:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114666&title=other-mums#114666 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114642&title=other-mums#114642 Author: Glow
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 12:56pm

OMG, poor Charlotte. I dont think that its acceptable to yell; Esp at someone elses child. What a loser the other mum is!! ]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 12:56:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114642&title=other-mums#114642 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114611&title=other-mums#114611 Author: busymum
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 10:55am

At Charlotte's age it would pay to talk things through with her to ease her uncertainty or whatever... if you haven't already. And watch her next time you go visiting there, she may tell you she doesn't want to go. I think I would try to get there again within the next couple of weeks to "get back on the horse" so to speak. Just help ease her mind and associate the place with a happier experience.]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 10:55:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114611&title=other-mums#114611 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114561&title=other-mums#114561 Author: caraMel
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 8:49am

Oh man that is so sad!
What a horrible woman, you are totally right she is a nutter!
I'm reluctant to even gently tell other kids off unless no one else will, let alone let fly like that crazy lady did!
Poor Charlotte, I hope she's bounced back from it today ]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 08:49:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114561&title=other-mums#114561 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114555&title=other-mums#114555 Author: Jennz
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 8:31am

Yeah she totally seemed like the screamer type- felt so sorry for her kid, if shes like that in public, hate to imagine what would she be like at home!

Thanks for the support guys. Glad to know its not just me who thinks that isn't ok! Thought possibly my hormones were just making me oversensitive.

Charlotte ended up sitting at the table with me for the rest of the time. She was really quiet and started crying in the car- then was quiet and sad for the rest of the day, she kept on coming up to have cuddles for no reason which isn't like her. As soon as DH got home the first thing she said to him was "the girl told me off" adn wanted a cuddle from him- it almost broke my heart. Because we never yell or scream at home either it seems to have really got to her

Edited by Jennz]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 08:31:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114555&title=other-mums#114555 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114548&title=other-mums#114548 Author: busymum
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 8:01am

I agree... I really hate it when people bully my girls but if their mum is in sight and is dealing with it, I usually leave it at that and take the time to give my daughter a cuddle. If the mum is out of sight, I would very sternly say something along the lines of 'that wasn't nice, it's not nice to push', then give my DD a cuddle and watch the other person's kid like a hawk whenever they got close lol

I wonder if that woman usually is a screamer? I don't scream at my kids, and very rarely yell, but we've seen the screamer types of mums at the supermarket so it might just be her usual OTT reaction Hope not tho.]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 08:01:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114548&title=other-mums#114548 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114543&title=other-mums#114543 Author: my2angels
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 7:49am

yeah try not to let it get to you. that reaction is just OTT. Just put it down to a bad experience, you did nothing any different to what most of us would have done unfortunately you just came across a nutter.
]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 07:49:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114543&title=other-mums#114543 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114539&title=other-mums#114539 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 7:45am

I don't think she had any right to yell at Charlotte at all.

Personally, if someone does something like that to Hannah, I just remind them to be gentle. But usually it is the other way around so I haven't encountered that much

But yeah, yelling is way over the top. And it is very unproductive as instead of calmly letting Charlotte know that her behavious is unacceptable - all you want to do is cuddle her and tell her it is alright! (Well, I would)

Don't take it personally. I'd say that woman is a munter.]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 07:45:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114539&title=other-mums#114539 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114532&title=other-mums#114532 Author: meow
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 7:11am

Not in your situation, no it wasn't okay to yell at her.. I would have been peeved if she'd done it to Ella, and would have had something to say to her.

I do get quite angry about older kids who come and bully Ella and I will tell them to leave her alone, as they should know better. I'm talking about kids 2 or 3 years older.]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 07:11:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114532&title=other-mums#114532 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114525&title=other-mums#114525 Author: Jennz
Subject: 5940
Posted: 02 March 2007 at 3:07am

Had a pretty awful experience today- we went to a soft play (like a lollipops playland type place but smaller) which has a seated area alongside it for the Mums. I was sitting with my friend while our daughters played and was keeping an eye on Charlotte from the table. This little girl and her mum were at the top of the slide and Charlotte was at the bottom waiting for her friend to come down (she was behind the Mum). The little girl came down the slide and bumped into Charlotte and when she got up Charlotte pushed her- I got up straight away to go tell Charlotte off and this Mum just SCREAMED at her from the top of the slide. She flew down and was yelling the whole time and I went up and told Charlotte off and although she didn't say anything to me she was ranting and raving at the top of her lungs about how some people were so rude etc etc. She went back to her table and just kept going on and on to her friend in this raised voice so that the whoe place could hear.

Obviously Charlotte was totally in the wrong, she should not have pushed that little girl but this Mums reaction was just so over the top. I didn't say anything to her as she was on a roll and to be honest she seemed the type who probably would have taken a swing at me but I just wanted to know what everyone else thought. I thought it was appauling that she yelled at another persons kid- I was there, I had my eye on her and I came and dealt with her straight away. I wouldn't have minded if she had of said something along the lines of 'don't do that' or 'don't hit' etc but the yelling and screaming just seemed to be so OTT to me. I know I hate it when other peoples kids hit or push Charlotte, but I feel just as awful when Charlotte is the one doing it and although it barely happens I do come down quite hard on her when she does. When she pushed the little girl she didn't fall over, it was just a tiny shove- it doesn't excuse it at all but by the way she reacted you would have thought she'd pulled a knife on her.

Sorry for the rant but it just really upset me, mostly because I felt like I really couldn't say anything. Usually I wouldn't hesitate but the type of woman she was I could have seen the situation escalating and Charlotte was upset enough by her outburst. What do you guys think? Do you think its ok to yell at other peoples kids or do you think I am right in being pretty upset by this?

Edited by Jennz]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2007 03:07:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=5940&PID=114525&title=other-mums#114525