OHbaby! Forums : blah, blah, BLAH https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 12:21:54 +0000 Thu, 22 Mar 2007 20:34:25 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=6261 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : BIG to you Vick!! That is awful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=121580&title=blah-blah-blah#121580 Author: Brenna
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Posted: 22 March 2007 at 8:34pm

BIG to you Vick!!

That is awful what your mum said.

I swear by rescue rememdy. I went through a period of anxiety etc when Brenna was first born and RR was my life saver!!!!

I agree with Amy - writing a list would help. Especially if your in-laws are the helpful kind, I am sure that they will be able to help you out (whether it be with things on the list, or just taking the kids away for a while so you can have some time with no distractions).

Keep your chin up . We are all thinking of you ]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2007 20:34:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=121580&title=blah-blah-blah#121580 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Hubby helping, lol I almost feel...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=121102&title=blah-blah-blah#121102 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 6261
Posted: 22 March 2007 at 7:03am

Hubby helping, lol I almost feel off my chair laughing.

He works really long hours so by the time he comes home he eats sits down and goes to sleep! On weekends as far as he is concerned they are his days off!

Although he did help last night with a general tidy as the real estate agent is coming around for a look.

You guys have had some great advice, I really need to learn how to let go.]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2007 07:03:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=121102&title=blah-blah-blah#121102 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Oh Vick! That seriously sucks. Deb...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120714&title=blah-blah-blah#120714 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 2:56pm

Oh Vick! That seriously sucks.

Deb gave great advice

Best of luck with it all and hope you make it out the other side feeling as relaxed as ever! You can do it!]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 14:56:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120714&title=blah-blah-blah#120714 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Vick if you ever need a hand or...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120675&title=blah-blah-blah#120675 Author: my2angels
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 2:09pm

Vick if you ever need a hand or to talk or get out of the house then give me a call/text (you are in chch right) I know what the anxiety thing is like so really please get in touch if you want to. I can PM you my details.]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 14:09:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120675&title=blah-blah-blah#120675 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : thinking happy thoughts for u ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120674&title=blah-blah-blah#120674 Author: thunderwolves
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 2:08pm

thinking happy thoughts for u]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 14:08:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120674&title=blah-blah-blah#120674 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Hugs - it is awful when it all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120660&title=blah-blah-blah#120660 Author: miss
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 1:50pm

Hugs - it is awful when it all happens at once.

I just want to say, take it easy about the house. The landlords have decided to sell, not you - obviously you want it to be at a decent standard, but the fact is that you have kids and a busy life at themoment, do not break your back to make it into a show home!

Some of the rentals we looked at when we were looking to buy were so awful, you couldn't imagine it - undies on the floor, dirty dishes piled up (with food remnants in them) obviously there for days. Those houses still sold! So have a vacuum, try to get the kids to keep some of the toys away and that is more than enough! If they want it sparkling, they should pay for a cleaner, not you! After all, you will do a big clean when you do move, you don't want to do it twice.

Look after yourself, and ignore your mother, she is not a nice person to have said that to you. Big hugs.]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 13:50:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120660&title=blah-blah-blah#120660 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : I had an idea... you could mention...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120633&title=blah-blah-blah#120633 Author: busymum
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 1:31pm

I had an idea... you could mention open homes and tidiness to the kids and ask for their ideas for Michael's birthday. It could be quite a conversation starter! ]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 13:31:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120633&title=blah-blah-blah#120633 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Vick May I ask. Did you ever try...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120626&title=blah-blah-blah#120626 Author: SMoody
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 1:24pm

Vick May I ask. Did you ever try something like Rescue Remedy. You get it in drop form as well as tablet form from the chemist. It really does help me a lot when I feel superstressed. ( I get mild panic attacks as well.)

Hope it goes better from now on. ]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 13:24:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120626&title=blah-blah-blah#120626 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Hey Vick - you can do this! You...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120619&title=blah-blah-blah#120619 Author: Andie
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 1:11pm

Hey Vick - you can do this!  You can get through the next few weeks, and things are gonna really look up after then - you'll have the in-laws out of your hair, Michael will have enjoyed his birthday, and you'll be in a new house.   to ya.  I thoroughly agree with Deborah too!  And can your in-laws babysit while you go to the breathing and relaxation classes?  'cause I really think it's important to keep those up - you're doing them for all the right reasons and something that helps you shouldn't be first to be struck off the list when the squeeze is on.  Your in-laws might jump at the opportunity for some time alone with the kids. 

And one more thing - anxiety and panic attacks don't make you a bad mum.  You're a star for working through them and doing the job you're doing of raising your kids. 

]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 13:11:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120619&title=blah-blah-blah#120619 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Vick, big hugs to you, it makes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120615&title=blah-blah-blah#120615 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 12:50pm

Vick, big hugs to you, it makes me feel very sad to hear how tough life is for you at the moment I really hope that you have some support (doesn't sound like your mother is much to you), is your DH able to be around much? Is he able to ease the burden for you at all? I too have suffered depression, so if you want to chat ever, just PM me.]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 12:50:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120615&title=blah-blah-blah#120615 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Thank guys, it&#039;s been a very...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120613&title=blah-blah-blah#120613 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 12:46pm

Thank guys, it's been a very up and down day, I'm off to see the a registrar shortly to try and sort out new meds, so fingers crossed.

Debs you crack me up. I wish I could think in such a straight forward matter or fact manner.

Thanks for the advice everyone, my in laws are very nice people so I am lucky and I know they will help out where they can, so that is a bonus I just stress whenever they come as I want everything to be perfect for them (not their fault).

I like the idea of packing some stuff up now, I might get some boxes. And the list it might make things a little easier.

I have the real estate agent coming over tomorrow to take photo's etc so that should be fun.

As for my mother nothing should surprise me anymore but that just blew me away. I love my kids more than life itself and for her to say that was mind blowing. 101 on how to kick a person when they are down.

And your right this site has been fantastic especially lately, for a place to vent and get support.

Oooppps I'm going to be late for my appointment crap.]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 12:46:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120613&title=blah-blah-blah#120613 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Wow you have it all....I was in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120605&title=blah-blah-blah#120605 Author: Guests
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 12:28pm

Wow you have it all....

I was in your situation when I was pregnant. the in laws, the land lord selling.....the lot.
I would suggest writing down whats needs to be done and bit by bit cross it off.....BUT make sure those around you are helping.

You are not a basket case, you just have a bit to get through. You will get through it I am sure.

We are lucky to have a place like OH BABY to have support in our ventures and challenges!

BIG HUGS coming your way.

]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 12:28:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120605&title=blah-blah-blah#120605 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Gosh if I was closer I&#039;d...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120604&title=blah-blah-blah#120604 Author: busymum
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 12:27pm

Gosh if I was closer I'd offer to take in a kid for a morning a week or something.... how's your DH in all of this? I feel for you with a house on the market, it's a tough job. We did it last year (with our own home) and the best advice I can give is to pack up some "unnecessary for 3 months" items as you clean now, mark them well and put them in a (yours or a friend's) garage, and that way there's less to keep on top of.

Are your in-laws the laze-about type or would they be able to help out if they knew what was going on?

And that's a horrible thing for your mum to say. You've been proactive with breathing classes etc, so I think she's WRONG.]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 12:27:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120604&title=blah-blah-blah#120604 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : i like deps plan do you have a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120578&title=blah-blah-blah#120578 Author: james
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 10:38am

i like deps plan do you have a close friend near by who could help you i dont no were i would be without my close friendsbig hugs hun ]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 10:38:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120578&title=blah-blah-blah#120578 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : Oh Vick.....Big hugs!! Every one...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120555&title=blah-blah-blah#120555 Author: Roksana
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 9:35am

Oh Vick.....Big hugs!!
Every one of us go thru days like these....honestly you will pull thru! And that is not a very nice thing to say (your mum)..you dont abuse your kids and love them to bits so why would that happen??

And since your Inlaws are coming, make them useful...get them to help you out with the house and the kids so you can have some relax time! and once that happens you can get your strength back and do what you have to.

And you know we are here for you, when ever you need to vent. I know it always makes me feel better!!



Edited to say: Debs plan would work too...he he ha ha LOL

Edited by Roksana]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 09:35:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120555&title=blah-blah-blah#120555 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : take a deep breath - and then...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120554&title=blah-blah-blah#120554 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 9:34am

take a deep breath - and then hire a cleaner to get the house up to scratch - tell the inlaws the house is on the market and they cant stay now and then do a party at the park with cake and chips... the kids will love it. oh and tell mum thanks for the help, now can she sit for the kids so you can "get yourself together at relaxation clsss"...oh and blow off the school meetings. ]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 09:34:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120554&title=blah-blah-blah#120554 <![CDATA[blah, blah, BLAH : I feel like I am totally losing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120551&title=blah-blah-blah#120551 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 6261
Posted: 21 March 2007 at 9:30am

I feel like I am totally losing my grip on reality at the moment. I was just starting to get a hold of my anxiety and panic attacks and now I have had the rug pulled out from under my feet.

Our landlord rang the other night to say they are putting our house on the market!! So it looks like we are moving and that scares the sh*t out of me.

Where do I start, we have to get this place up to scratch for people to come through (big job), we have to house hunt, then move etc, on top of that we have Micheals 10th birthday in less than two weeks and I have done nothing for it and to make my life even more complete my in laws arrive the day before Micheals party for 9 days!!! Add to that my breathing and relaxation classes (Ha fat chance) and various school meetings and I am officially a basket case!!!!!!

I have had major trouble especially over the last few months keeping on top of even the little things I have no idea how the heck I am going to handle all of this. I woke up at 5-30 this morning and felt so sick (one of my many physical symptoms of anxiety) and it wears me out.

For the first time I feel like I have really lost control, it feels like someone is trying to drown me and I can't fight them off. then to make matters worse my mother tell me this morning that if I don't pull my act together soon, I'll run the risk of having my kids taken off me WTF thanks mum!!!

I'm sorry for the rant it's just all getting to me!]]> Wed, 21 Mar 2007 09:30:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=6261&PID=120551&title=blah-blah-blah#120551