https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 01 May 2026 00:39:08 +0000 Thu, 03 May 2007 13:45:53 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=7206 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139622&title=hard-going#139622 Author: catie
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Posted: 03 May 2007 at 1:45pm

Hi Emile

There are lots of us who do understand and our thoughts are with you. It's bad enough when people who don't know about your situation unknowingly make hurtful remarks, but even worse when people who should know better don't stop to think. and some days just seeing Mums pushing prams is all it takes. But I hope you feel better today and can take some comfort in the fact that things are moving in the right direction for you now, and hopefully, one day, all this will be a distant memory. ]]> Thu, 03 May 2007 13:45:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139622&title=hard-going#139622 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139591&title=hard-going#139591 Author: Lulu
Subject: 7206
Posted: 03 May 2007 at 12:42pm

Yes Ginger's suggestion of counselling is a good idea Emile - I think from memory you are entitled to one or two free sessions with your IVF cycle...?

I know it's difficult when people make comments and suggestions that are totally irrelevant or inappropriate, but as Ginger was told at the seminar they don't have a clue... and to be fair we can't expect them to. I found the same thing when I lost my Dad to cancer at 19 years old. No one knows how it feels unless they have been through it and why would they?

I think you have to listen to your body and mind - if you need some time out from work, take it. Try not to think about the work piling up. Ask for help. Delegate! Try to remember that you are part the way there, not long now and fingers crossed that the outcome will be so wonderful that the hardships will be forgotton.

Take care Emile...]]> Thu, 03 May 2007 12:42:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139591&title=hard-going#139591 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139502&title=hard-going#139502 Author: ginger
Subject: 7206
Posted: 03 May 2007 at 9:31am

Just remember, it's a means to an end that you desperately want Emile.

I went to a seminar at FA the other night, and they called non-infertile people DHACs (Don't Have a Clues) which is perfectly right. Remember that. You have to put them to one side in your mind. There are those that try to understand, but it is hard for them too, because they have nothing to base it on.

Have you had any counselling sessions with your IVF? It sounds like it would be a good idea, even if you have to pay for them. They will understand and be able to help you work through your grief (it is a form of grief all this, by the way).

I hope you're feeling better today though.]]> Thu, 03 May 2007 09:31:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139502&title=hard-going#139502 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139386&title=hard-going#139386 Author: noodle
Subject: 7206
Posted: 02 May 2007 at 8:26pm

Lots and lots of to you emile! Sorry you are having a rough time! Make sure you do take the day off tomorrow and treat yourself to something nice! ]]> Wed, 02 May 2007 20:26:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139386&title=hard-going#139386 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139369&title=hard-going#139369 Author: pikelets
Subject: 7206
Posted: 02 May 2007 at 8:05pm

Emile - big hugs to you

I'm sad to hear you are having a rough time.

It is hard but hang in there matey.
Take care and hope you have a better day tomorrow

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Subject: 7206
Posted: 02 May 2007 at 7:47pm

]]> Wed, 02 May 2007 19:47:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139354&title=hard-going#139354 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7206&PID=139348&title=hard-going#139348 Author: emile
Subject: 7206
Posted: 02 May 2007 at 7:40pm

Hey all
i had a blood test today - i have to stay on the buserilin injections for another week they say- my levels are still too high
i felt bad the last few days - terrible PMT symptoms and so real pmt too
the sister in law phoned saying "are you pregnant yet" (she has a brand new baby - 9 months exactly after she got married)- she says to me you should hurry up and have a cousin for baby -aaahhh
my workmate says ill be a surrogate for you - i have no trouble getting pregnant
i feel like no one really understands me- none of my friends down here have struggled to get pregnant
tonight i was crying
i think ill have tomorrow off work - although i know it will make next week busier for me
oh yeah - and i have another client whos kicking herself for getting pregnant again!!! (i do social type work)

Just a hard week - and id been doing so well
i hate that this is so hard
i feel like saying no more i cant do it
im sick of the injections - the blood tests
i feel like screaming NO ONE UNDERSTANDS
i feel like running away for a holiday

and now i feel fat - coz i didnt feel well i missed going to the gym for a week

ok - deep breaths
now i have shared i feel a little better
i cant wait to hear from u guys

feeling sad
emile
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