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Things we should have been told! : mamanee wrote:Another one I...

Tue, 11 Dec 2012 16:59:42 +0000

Author: anna1983
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�December�2012 at 4:59pm

mamanee wrote:

Another one I found was that lying on your side is impossible for the first couple of days and the nurses always tried to make me lie on my side to feed Sam and this just made me cry out in pain which made feeding really difficult. So let them know very sternly that it is too painful otherwise they keep making you try to turn on your side.

Wow so glad they never tried to make me lie on my side - it's only now after 2-3 weeks of recovery that side-lying is mostly ok!!!

Reading some of the tips mentioned in this thread, I'm thinking I got off fairly lightly with recovery. My biggest things I wish I was told are:

1. Your analgesia from the spinal wears off after 24 hours and then you will feel like you were hit by a truck.

2. For the first few days, every 12-24 hrs you'll feel hit by a truck again - ask for more tramadol (I was hardly given any, only told when I said I really hurt that actually I could have some - I could have had a whole lot more) - it's good stuff (although my aunt hates it - it made her hallucinate).

3. They can do delayed cord clamping with a CS! The one part of my birth plan I got, but only because both hubby and my midwife asked for it! I didn't really think they'd do it with a c section and was too loopy at the time to ask, but they actually will as it turns out.

4. You might not get told much about the surgery itself or what to expect during recovery - I came home with a prescription for pain relief and no advice on how long I might need pain relief for, what to look out for that could be signs of infection etc, what activities not to do and how long for... It seems to be all left to my midwife which is fine but I'm surprised I didn't get anything written when I left hospital. I've never had surgery of any kind before and didn't have a clue what to expect. Knowing what I know now, I would have asked way more questions about the surgery and recovery while still in hospital.

I also agree with tying the call button to your bed - I was very painfully trying to find mine dangling somewhere behind the raised bed head a few times during the first day or two, it was pretty upsetting on top of everything. TIE IT ON!

Edited by anna1983 - 19�December�2012 at 10:45am

Things we should have been told! : Totally agree, i do nont regret...

Tue, 07 Aug 2012 11:32:31 +0000

Author: ArisaRaine
Subject: 8068
Posted: 07�August�2012 at 11:32am

Totally agree, i do nont regret having a C section even though it was an EMCS due to pre eclampsia i would have another one, i liked avoiding labour

Things we should have been told! : Yeah that's the same here...

Tue, 03 Jul 2012 12:23:48 +0000

Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 03�July�2012 at 12:23pm

Yeah that's the same here (Stratford, Taranaki), we're about half an hour from the closest countdown. Definitely defeats the purpose, it's easy to stock up on pantry stuff, it's the fresh stuff you run out of!

Things we should have been told! : We can get countdown to deliver...

Mon, 02 Jul 2012 20:19:42 +0000

Author: Keleho
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�July�2012 at 8:19pm

We can get countdown to deliver here but its $30ish and very limited to what they will actually deliver - main ones I notice are no chilled foods or fruit and vege. Sort of defeats the purpose!

Things we should have been told! : Oh delivered groceries would be...

Mon, 02 Jul 2012 19:30:16 +0000

Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�July�2012 at 7:30pm

Oh delivered groceries would be awesome! We live in a rural town so I couldn't do that.
I'm a chronic list-making planner organiser, it definitely helps, .

Things we should have been told! : Thanks tictacjunkie - thats a...

Mon, 02 Jul 2012 15:37:00 +0000

Author: Keleho
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�July�2012 at 3:37pm

Thanks tictacjunkie - thats a huge help!
I tend to be overly organised when it comes to this sort of thing so I think it will work in my favour with a c-section. Plus looking at an elective is even better - means I have an actual date to work towards (as far as preparing for it) rather than just sort of ready whenever! Ill definitely be taking note of all your ideas!

We have 22 months between DD1 and DD2 and I love the gap, would like to have 1.5-2.5 years between the next two and sounds like its doable with a little help
Im also hoping that we will have moved closer to family before we do anything and with any luck, close enough to town that I can get my groceries delivered

Things we should have been told! : Hi KLH, I've had 5 c-sects...

Mon, 02 Jul 2012 14:36:54 +0000

Author: tictacjunkie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�July�2012 at 2:36pm

Hi KLH, I've had 5 c-sects now and each time recovery was slightly different, but if you are having an elective c-sect you have to stay in hospital for a minimum 72hrs after in most cases.

Looking after older children once you're out of hospital I didn't find a huge problem, I have approx 2 years between my children so have always had a 2yo in the house while recovering, and DH's job (hv electrician/ line mechanic) has meant he wasn't always able to be around to help.

You should be fine after 3 days to do most things by yourself, but you'll still have to TRY avoid picking the other kids/ heavy things up.

I planned ahead by getting the house pretty tidy before the surgery, I boxed up half the kids toys so it was harder for them to make a mess, hid the talc, pens etc that they like to make mess with. Did all the cleaning before too so it would "last" the week after. I did my groceries based on "easy", lots of dried fruit, crackers etc that you can give the kids for lunch and tea (and yourself) without having to prepare a lot. Precooking a few things like shepherds pie to reheat later works well.

I bought dettol wipes for just the week or two after, it just made cleaning benches/loo etc slightly easier/quicker. All the "slightly easier"s add up when you're tired, recovering and stretched for time.

I prepared a mental list of things I could get other people to do should someone turn up and offer. I was a bit mean and made the kids re-wear clothes that weren't dirty to cut down on washing.

I also kept the 4yo home from kindy for a week or two so there's less running around, a couple of weeks won't hurt . It also keeps the 2yo a bit more occupied having a friend at home.

Take a good multi-vitamin, insist your OH help, not just once baby's arrived but before too. If you have a choice between housework and sleep definitely choose sleep, even if it's a snooze on the couch, the housework will wait, so keep your expectations low on how tidy you want the house to be if you're inclined to be stressed if it's a mess. I'd get up, shower & get dressed every morning just to go back to a nap on the couch, at least if anyone turned up I felt "presentable", which was important to me. It also meant I was in the shower while DH was still home in the morning, and he could look after the littlies for 15mins.

I think waiting that extra few months depends entirely on the kids that you have already. But I found an 18-19mth old was easier to deal with than a throw-tanties-at-everything 2-3yo.

Just be kind to yourself, an exhausted Mum is no good to anyone! Those hairy first few weeks with a newborn post c-sect with older kids can be hard but they are only a few weeks. Definitely try to avoid a late winter/early spring due date though, can't have everyone calving at once!

Hope that helps.

Things we should have been told! : Hi ladies, It will be a while...

Sun, 01 Jul 2012 23:01:42 +0000

Author: Keleho
Subject: 8068
Posted: 01�July�2012 at 11:01pm

Hi ladies,
It will be a while off but Id love to know how any of you have got on with c-section recovery with older children to care for (particularly preschool age)?

Both my girls have been VB but I had massive issues birthing, it was long, traumatic and both times baby ended up in NICU. Second time round, DD2 was (from what I understand) in very bad shape .
On top of that, the damage she has caused to me means VB is not advisable.
So Im sort of planning (cause I totally overthink this sort of thing!) when we will look at ttc for #3 (looking at early-mid next year meaning the girls would be 2+ and 4+ when baby came along) knowing Ill go for an elective but Im not sure what to expect in terms of recovery with older kids. Im wondering really if waiting an additional 6months+ would make a huge difference or if it will be much the same regardless.
We are dairy farmers who (at the moment, but this might change) live far enough from family that I cant rely on them too much, and we dont have many friends locally so Im worried Ill end up a bit stuck - depending on the time of year, DH wont be able to take a block of time off and even if he could, it would only be a few days at best.

All advice/comments/stories welcome

Things we should have been told! : Thanks Girls Rock, appreciate...

Wed, 02 May 2012 12:53:39 +0000

Author: Kels152
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�May�2012 at 12:53pm

Thanks Girls Rock, appreciate your feedback...with twins you only get home help if you have another child under 5yrs so we dont qualify. I think we may just have to work on DP having more time off - If I dont have a c-sect i'll still need help with them so it's going to be the best option all round I think

Things we should have been told! : Ive had 3 children 1st was VB...

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:52:22 +0000

Author: InthemiddleMummy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 30�April�2012 at 3:52pm

Ive had 3 children
1st was VB recovery was difficult 9-10months of pain (twisted pelvis amongst other things)
2nd I was labouring at 36wks and 5cm diliated but it was planned c/s they did c/s an hour after I got to hospital and it was fab recovery
3rd was elective at 2 days off 40wks and it was the best recovery.

Your hubby definately needs more than 1 week off work. you will be in hospital for 5days minimum with twins. My friend was in hosp for 10days with her twins and other friend for 4 weeks. both c/s

Look into winz home help if you have a community services card I think you get a free house cleaner or something if you have twins/c.s??

Things we should have been told! : Thanks for your advice ladies...

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 08:33:17 +0000

Author: Kels152
Subject: 8068
Posted: 30�April�2012 at 8:33am

Thanks for your advice ladies it's a big eye opener!

My mum lives in oz and she may be able to come and help but we arent sure yet...We have a lot to think about - may have to see if DP can have more time off. As you say it's the basic stuff that will be the prob. Thanks again :)

Things we should have been told! : I second what Azza said, my first...

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 21:07:06 +0000

Author: millemama
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�April�2012 at 9:07pm

I second what Azza said, my first was an em CS but recovery seemed slightly quicker. But having said that both recoveries were pretty good with minimal or no complications. I think the second one may have been slightly longer to recover from because I then had a toddler to take care of too.

I tend to think that with the best intentions in the world only a week with hubby at home is pushing it, especially with twins. Is there someone else that could come and stay? It's the basic stuff that someone else really needs to take care of, ie cooking, cleaning, washing, grocery shopping, so that you can take care of you and the bubs. Driving is not advised for the first few wks and neither is putting out the washing etc etc.

Things we should have been told! : Kels152, my emergency c-section...

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 12:19:44 +0000

Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�April�2012 at 12:19pm

Kels152, my emergency c-section was oddly enough so much easier to recover from than my elective.

I looked after myself better after it though!

Things we should have been told! : Hi all, I am having twins later...

Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:43:43 +0000

Author: Kels152
Subject: 8068
Posted: 26�April�2012 at 12:43pm

Hi all, I am having twins later on this year and for certain reasons may have an elective caesar...

What im wondering is what the recovery time difference is with Emergency caesars vs Elective - if there is any? I've heard from a few different people that their elective was easier and faster to recover from than their emergency and I just wondered if this is true?

My DP will need to be back at work after a week of me having the babies and we are worried about the recovery time and if i'll be ok at home on my own after a caesar.

Things we should have been told! : Must say i agree with all of...

Fri, 16 Dec 2011 21:22:18 +0000

Author: MissAmz
Subject: 8068
Posted: 16�December�2011 at 9:22pm

Must say i agree with all of these, i ended up having an emergancy ceaser after 32hours, i ate in recovary as i hadnt eaten for 48hours!! i was up the next day and driving at 3 weeks, it never stopped me doing anything apart from sit ups and starting the lawn mower!! the BDing bit shocked me to start with but were all good now

Things we should have been told! : Ugh I feel your pain - DH picked...

Thu, 29 Sep 2011 13:22:19 +0000

Author: KH25
Subject: 8068
Posted: 29�September�2011 at 1:22pm

Ugh I feel your pain - DH picked me up in his van after my CS (bubs was still in NICU so didn't need to worry bout him) Man I felt every bump and pothole in the road for the 30 minute car (van) ride Not to mention having to get into and out of the bloody thing!

Things we should have been told! : LOl...I very much doubt I will...

Thu, 29 Sep 2011 10:02:30 +0000

Author: InthemiddleMummy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 29�September�2011 at 10:02am

LOl...I very much doubt I will be driving myself home from hospital this time, yes will be staying 5-7 nights, last time was 6nights.

DH went really fast over the speed bumps and gutter on the way leaving the hosptial (he didnt really think - he is a man!) and we were in his horrible old 4WD, so he has strict instructions to pick me up in my car and drive at crawling speed out of the carpark in the next few weeks whenever little bean decides its exit time.

So back to the topic....
Things you should have been told........

TELL your DH to drive SLOW over the speed bumps and gutters out of the carpark! as you leave the hospital!

Things we should have been told! : A lot of hospitals want you out...

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 20:00:57 +0000

Author: millemama
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�September�2011 at 8:00pm

A lot of hospitals want you out within 48hrs after CS, a couple of hours for VB, it depends on the hospital and how understaffed they are or overbooked they are, a joke really isn't it. Sure you can put your foot down but then the story goes that the 'service' becomes non existant and who needs that after having bubz.

I'm planning on CS in Waikato, which is a std 2 days then I can transfer to birthing unit for 2 days which sounds like bliss. Thats the plan anyway. Only needed 4 days with DD and was ready to go home, hopefully similar birth

Things we should have been told! : I just read through this page...

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:39:34 +0000

Author: UpsyDaisy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�September�2011 at 7:39pm

I just read through this page and wasn't til I read what you said Miss Angel that I realised GirlsRock said she wanted to drive herself home post c-section. That was written a long time ago in May, bet she didn't/or doesn't seems like something you might say you want to but then when it really cocmes to it you would be crazy to.

Also where in the country are you going home 24-48 hrs post c-section? THe norm where I live is a 5 day sat up to 7 days depending.

Things we should have been told! : Ooooookay, back that truck right...

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:15:25 +0000

Author: MissAngel
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�September�2011 at 7:15pm

Ooooookay, back that truck right on up from there. Driving home from hospital after your CS? I hate to say this but that's really irresponsible. Your body is NOT ready for you to do that 24-48 hours after MAJOR abdominal surgery. My goodness. What if you have an accident and you slam on the breaks and rupture? What if you cant put down the pressure required and kill all of you? Come on now. Thing logically about it. I was driving 3 weeks after both of my CS's. If you dont like the way your DP drives, get someone else to drive you. I've never heard anything so rediculous in my whole life.

After baby 1 i wasnt even able to wipe my own backside nearly without assistance for a week, baby 2 I felt like I was drugged up on god knows what for days. I dont know what makes you think you're going to drive yourself home - unless you're planning on staying in the hospital for over a week.
And GirlsRock, I'm sorry if this offends you, its just the way I feel about it.

Things we should have been told! : 2 of my friends have had transfusions...

Tue, 20 Sep 2011 12:20:25 +0000

Author: InthemiddleMummy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 20�September�2011 at 12:20pm

2 of my friends have had transfusions with vagainal deliverys, and a 3rd was very close but the used the filler type stuff cos her blood type rare and didnt have it available urgently.

its very sad and tough to go thru traumatic deliveries either c/s or vaginal, its a rough way to start out being a mum to your new baby

Sorry to hear of your rough time Ban08

Things we should have been told! : Something I wish I knew was that...

Mon, 19 Sep 2011 21:28:08 +0000

Author: ALittleLoopy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 19�September�2011 at 9:28pm

Something I wish I knew was that chest infections from fluid on the lungs is a common prob with cs, I had an emergency and lost alot of blood they didn't give me a transfusion till day three and then day four I had fluid on the lungs which gave me an infection and had IV antibiotics...I didn't have my first walk or shower till day 5 as it was so painful and I was so sick, hoping for a vbac as I had such a horrid cs experience. I definitly didn't drive til 6weeks.

Edited to add I hope that link to endo is crap as I already had it, and adeno which is endo tissue in the uterine muscle so I don't want more, I was told having a baby may help with endo/pain but that wasn't talking about ending in cs

Edited by BAMN08

Things we should have been told! : Yeah, I'm been wondering...

Sat, 11 Jun 2011 19:50:21 +0000

Author: millemama
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�June�2011 at 7:50pm

Yeah, I'm been wondering about the cutting as my OB told me that he didn't cut either just pushed the layers aside too. So I guess that must be correct, but I wonder is this the norm or down to each individual doctor, and does it affect your recovery, mine was really good, hobbling round next day and no probs or pain with feeding bubz either.

But if I wasn't cut then what excuse do I have for the wobbly bulge that stayed!!!

Things we should have been told! : I wasn't allowed to drive...

Sun, 05 Jun 2011 20:41:03 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�June�2011 at 8:41pm

I wasn't allowed to drive until 4 weeks with my son(emergency cs), but was driving at 2 weeks with my daughter(elective) and that's only because I felt like I had more control over my muscles that time round. With my son I was sick for ages afterwards and couldn't stand straight or walk much for 3 weeks.

The definitely cut through mine but I know they dont cut the uterus they actually tear it open with their fingers as it heals better than being cut.

Things we should have been told! : Aethalia My OB told me that they...

Tue, 17 May 2011 20:53:25 +0000

Author: InthemiddleMummy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 17�May�2011 at 8:53pm

Aethalia

My OB told me that they dont cut and he didnt cut my stomach muscles, they just cut the skin,fat and uterus, they push your bladder out of the way to access the uterus. they stitch up too 7 layers and as soon as the skin is healed it means that all the other layers inside have healed themselves together.

yes you can get driven into even as a passanger it wouldnt be good, but you could also get run over by a bus.

Well I believe in what the OB/MW/GP tell me not every tom dick and harry. each to there own thou aye.

Things we should have been told! : The reason you cant drive is not...

Mon, 16 May 2011 21:48:32 +0000

Author: Nothing
Subject: 8068
Posted: 16�May�2011 at 9:48pm

The reason you cant drive is not an insurance issue its wether you can physically slam your foot on the brake in an emergency situation.

When you have a c-sect they have to cut through all your muscles which means you are unable to stamp your foot onto the brake fast enough and so if you have a crash you are helpless to do anything.

You should only drive when you are able to stand upright and slam your foot hard down onto the floor very quickly without doubling over or feeling any pain. Most people take 4-6 weeks before they can do this.

Before then you should not drive as you are a hazard to other road users- remember it might not be you doing the crashing, someone could come at you.

Things we should have been told! : Howcome every tom dick and harry...

Mon, 16 May 2011 20:41:02 +0000

Author: InthemiddleMummy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 16�May�2011 at 8:41pm

Howcome every tom dick and harry tells you that you cant drive till 6weeks. I phoned my insurance and they said if you havent had a GA then you can drive anytime. MW seconded that opinion, I was driving by 2weeks post C>S, felt too weak before that. THis time I wana drive myself home from hospital after c/s as DH driving too rough and felt like my stomach was guna fall out over the speed bumps in his old 4WD. lol

Things we should have been told! : Edited by K8TB

Fri, 06 May 2011 09:12:19 +0000

Author: K8TB
Subject: 8068
Posted: 06�May�2011 at 9:12am

Edited by K8TB

Things we should have been told! : pomikiwi wrote:Making sure...

Thu, 24 Mar 2011 22:05:40 +0000

Author: Deb-Amy -H
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�March�2011 at 10:05pm

pomikiwi wrote:

Making sure your hospital bell is tied to your bed so it doesn't fall off, then when your baby cries you're not waiting in tears for 20 minutes for someone to come and pick her up and give her to you :-(

That's what happened to me too! They took the catheter out before I could walk, and I was painfully busting for a wee, and Sean was crying his eyes out and I was calling out "Help ME!!!!!" for nearly an hour.
Couldn't reach nurse call button but could reach cell phone, text DH (we live 40 mins away) and he arrived to help me just as a nurse finally came in and helped me.
In hindsight he should have just called the ward and told them to get their acts together!

Things we should have been told! : I was planning a natural birth...

Mon, 06 Dec 2010 20:41:53 +0000

Author: Chantelle_SA
Subject: 8068
Posted: 06�December�2010 at 8:41pm

I was planning a natural birth for my DD (first baby) and only skim read info about C-sections because I was so adamant that I was going to pull it off. I was in labour for about 6 hours before we went to the hospital, where after manually breaking my water my gyne said there was meconium in the fluid and gave me the 'option' to do a C-section because the baby 'could' go into distress. It all went downhill from there. I was in too much pain to really focus and all I heard was 'baby in distress' so I automatically said 'do it'. I had to wait 2 hours for my 'emergency'(I say with very heavy sarcasm) C-section and it was such a pain when they tried to put in the epidural because the guy would try every single time I'd get a contraction. It took three goes before he finally got it right, and another five to ten minutes before they had baby out. I didn't get to hold DD for 3 hours. Nobody told me what to expect, and nobody told me that my baby had to receive phototherapy and therefore was not brought to me, and they didn't leave her with me in the room either.

With DS (baby two) I had a midwife with me, and I feel really bad for not remembering her name because she was so awesome. We decided to try VBAC, so on a decided day I went in to hospital and 'laboured' from 10 am to around 6pm by being induced. But I'd read up on C-sections this time around and we were prepared that it could end up in another emergency one. I think I passed out during labour twice, and the third time I really did blank out because when I opened my eyes my room was swarmed with people that weren't there a second ago. Baby's heart rate dropped on every contraction, so they rushed me in for an emergency C-section. And I do mean, an emergency C-section. They had me in the operating theatre before I realised they'd moved me from my room, and get this: I was waiting to feel them cut, like the first time. One of the guys told me 'if you feel anything just squeeze my hand ok?' I managed a nod - I was shaking like crazy, shock I think - and two seconds later I hear this weird sound, and then my partner was holding a baby next to me and I was O_O Whut? That's it? He's out ALREADY? LOL. I didn't even know they'd cut me yet. So it was all really quick, and as frightening as that ordeal was, as soon as they rolled me out of theatre and put baby in my arms, the shaking stopped. It was pure magic.
Ruined by him pooping all over both of us two seconds later, but that's life for you.

I bonded much better with DS because he was with me from the moment I left the theatre, and I think your mindset and emotional state during the pregnancy plays a very large factor on how you bond with your baby too.

But what I've personally gained from these experiences, which I don't know if it's been mentioned or not, is that if you get a really bad headache after a C-section, you should mention it to the nurses because it's likely to be caused by some of the fluid from the epidural collecting in your spine, or something like that. I have a weird back, apparently, because this is the second anaethesist that had to try more than once to administer it to me right. But he was a really nice guy, and he felt genuinely bad about it, but again I believe I have something wrong with my back.

For bubs number three due next year August/September, I'll have to have a select C-section. It should be a piece of cake since I now officially know what to expect.

Things we should have been told! : Sheza wrote:mcshort- If you...

Sat, 16 Oct 2010 13:22:23 +0000

Author: mcshort
Subject: 8068
Posted: 16�October�2010 at 1:22pm

Sheza wrote:

mcshort- If you google it there are quite a few links about it. CS's can cause endo Im afraid.

Its to do with the scar tissue and what not, as they do a lot of cutting down there to get the baby out,

Ive had 2 CS's but apart from stronger ovulation pain, I dont have any of others with my period.

Hmm I might just have a wee google of it... but am pretty skeptical still (no offence!). I don't usually google things anymore due to info being either totally unreliable, or 'worst-case-scenario' - but thanks!

I've had endo diagnosed in 1999 and have done a heap of research into it so am always keen to gain more knowledge

Things we should have been told! : I have had 3 csection, shortly...

Mon, 11 Oct 2010 12:27:54 +0000

Author: mum24
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�October�2010 at 12:27pm

I have had 3 csection, shortly to have my fourth, my sister has had 5. A couple of my were very emergencies and the 2nd was not such a rush. There are not as bad a s some say, however we are all different and so are our expectations. I never had a problem bonding with my babies and 2 of them spent a week or more in neonates and all were breastfed successfully. I am not an earth mother type or super mum just your average mum who works part time and loves her babies.

Things we should have been told! : mcshort- If you google it there...

Thu, 16 Sep 2010 10:42:10 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 16�September�2010 at 10:42am

mcshort- If you google it there are quite a few links about it. CS's can cause endo Im afraid.

Its to do with the scar tissue and what not, as they do a lot of cutting down there to get the baby out,

Ive had 2 CS's but apart from stronger ovulation pain, I dont have any of others with my period.

Things we should have been told! : Smartmum wrote:I have just...

Sun, 08 Aug 2010 22:11:14 +0000

Author: mcshort
Subject: 8068
Posted: 08�August�2010 at 10:11pm

Smartmum wrote:

I have just found out that a c-section or rather abdominal surgery can give you endometriosis!!!!!!!!!

TMI warning, but i have been having painful s3x and i have endo as it turns out from the abdominal surgery of 2 c-s

... just wondering who told you that you can get endometriosis from a caesarean section??

I think they're still unsure about the exact cause of endometriosis so it sounds like a bit of a porkie! However they may have found some existing endometriosis growths whilst stitching you back up. I'm intrigued..

Things we should have been told! : Odettenz wrote:I had an emergency...

Mon, 05 Jul 2010 22:39:55 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�July�2010 at 10:39pm

Odettenz wrote:

I had an emergency c section after DS (who is now 2). After 12 hours of labour where I did not progress past 4cm dilated, even after having syntocin, he went into distress & had to be removed asap. It was a very scary experience as for a good 10 to 15 minutes we weren't sure he was going to be okay. Turns out he was facing the wrong way (to the front instead of to the back), his chin was flexed when it should have been tucked under, & the cord was around his neck. The specialist said he was NEVER going to come out on his own.
I found the recovery from the C section really easy. I was up & walking short distances that evening & I really didn't have much trouble with pain. I was driving about 3 weeks later.
I am now 6 weeks pregnant & to be honest, I think I'll opt for the Csection again. I don't ever want to feel the way I did when I thought my baby wasn't going to make it. If someone could guarantee without a doubt that I wouldn't need another emergency csection then I'd have the next one naturally, but if there's any doubt, then I'd rather just go the csection. And I don't care if people think I am being a wuss. The C section was great. All that matters in the end is having a healthy baby.

Edited to say that on 22 apr 2010 I had my baby by VBAC & it was the most amazing experience of my life. I can't believe I was considering an elective C section! The recovery was 100 times easier than a csection...what the hell was I thinking? I never ever want anotehr c section again. I'm so glad my fear of the unknown doidn't stop me from having the vbac.

I was going to have a VBAC, but at 9 days over due my cervis was doing nothing and I was totally over it, and didnt want to risk another horrible labour and delivery so went for the elective. I reckon it was the right choice for me, even though Id have loved the chance to have a VBAC.

Things we should have been told! : Spinals are so much nicer to deal...

Sat, 05 Jun 2010 03:45:59 +0000

Author: MissAngel
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�June�2010 at 3:45am

Spinals are so much nicer to deal with than an epidural! I have ALL feeling back now instead of being numb from my belly button down (right up until Lily was born 2 years after Thomas!)

They removed the old scarring and I have since found out that they took a good inch of crap, so free small tummy tuck for me ;)

Electives are so much more relaxed than an 'emergency' section except the anticipation kills you.

Elective babies come out so much nicer than emergency babies :P

Things we should have been told! : Wearing a catheter for three days...

Thu, 03 Sep 2009 14:48:05 +0000

Author: MrsSmith
Subject: 8068
Posted: 03�September�2009 at 2:48pm

Wearing a catheter for three days was a new one. A blessing in disguise though, as no running to the loo.

No one warned me that I couldn't stand straight for 2 weeks or drive for 3 months due to the pain.

Taking morphine, voltaren and tramadol for 6 weeks was a surprise.

After reducing the medications, I found that they were the reason why my daughter would stop breathing 4-6 times a day, long enough for the monitor to go off and then start again. Overnight it all stopped when I changed to neurofen.

The pediatrician didn't pick that up.

Now I worry about the meds being a factor in her development being about a year behind my other daughter. Or it could be just what second kids do.

At 21 months post c-section I am still numb to my belly button, and some skin feel like it is burning when I touch it. So I just don't touch it :) Hospital physio recommended rolling a tennis ball over the healed scar to help the ropey/sore feeling. It actually did help me.

Edited by MrsSmith

Things we should have been told! : I had an emergency c section after...

Sat, 29 Aug 2009 15:31:41 +0000

Author: X
Subject: 8068
Posted: 29�August�2009 at 3:31pm

I had an emergency c section after DS (who is now 2). After 12 hours of labour where I did not progress past 4cm dilated, even after having syntocin, he went into distress & had to be removed asap. It was a very scary experience as for a good 10 to 15 minutes we weren't sure he was going to be okay. Turns out he was facing the wrong way (to the front instead of to the back), his chin was flexed when it should have been tucked under, & the cord was around his neck. The specialist said he was NEVER going to come out on his own.
I found the recovery from the C section really easy. I was up & walking short distances that evening & I really didn't have much trouble with pain. I was driving about 3 weeks later.
I am now 6 weeks pregnant & to be honest, I think I'll opt for the Csection again. I don't ever want to feel the way I did when I thought my baby wasn't going to make it. If someone could guarantee without a doubt that I wouldn't need another emergency csection then I'd have the next one naturally, but if there's any doubt, then I'd rather just go the csection. And I don't care if people think I am being a wuss. The C section was great. All that matters in the end is having a healthy baby.

Edited to say that on 22 apr 2010 I had my baby by VBAC & it was the most amazing experience of my life. I can't believe I was considering an elective C section! The recovery was 100 times easier than a csection...what the hell was I thinking? I never ever want anotehr c section again. I'm so glad my fear of the unknown doidn't stop me from having the vbac.

Edited by Odettenz

Things we should have been told! : AF- Aunt Flow(period) BDing -...

Wed, 19 Aug 2009 12:35:58 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 19�August�2009 at 12:35pm

AF- Aunt Flow(period)
BDing - Baby Dancing(sex)

Things we should have been told! : lurker Sprackleberries - BDing...

Tue, 18 Aug 2009 22:25:32 +0000

Author: shadowfeet
Subject: 8068
Posted: 18�August�2009 at 10:25pm

*lurker*

Sprackleberries - BDing stands for sex, and AF means your period.

Things we should have been told! : Hiya! Can someone please tell...

Tue, 18 Aug 2009 09:28:27 +0000

Author: Sprackleberries
Subject: 8068
Posted: 18�August�2009 at 9:28am

Hiya! Can someone please tell me what "BDing" and "AF" stand for? Am contemplating a C-Section - so very interested in what you all have to say! Thanks!

Things we should have been told! : Im the same Salz. I don't...

Mon, 22 Jun 2009 06:45:38 +0000

Author: CarrieMum
Subject: 8068
Posted: 22�June�2009 at 6:45am

Im the same Salz. I don't see the point in going through 12 hours of painful labour just to end up with an emerg c-section again!! I'll probably be going for an elective c-section next time.

Things we should have been told! : I had a great experience with...

Sat, 20 Jun 2009 21:26:54 +0000

Author: salz
Subject: 8068
Posted: 20�June�2009 at 9:26pm

I had a great experience with my C-section recovered really well, it all went so smoothly that I wouldn't mind having a c section for my next baby, however am worried if people will think im a woss or not a real woman for not wanting to go au naturale

Things we should have been told! : Oh wow im gutted to read that...

Mon, 18 May 2009 14:13:56 +0000

Author: Manda08
Subject: 8068
Posted: 18�May�2009 at 2:13pm

Oh wow im gutted to read that the sharp pains and itchyness doesnt go away... i keep thinking it will soon stop... but coming up to 8 weeks on now... bummer!!!

Things we should have been told! : If you had Endo there is nothing...

Thu, 14 May 2009 09:43:32 +0000

Author: Smartmum
Subject: 8068
Posted: 14�May�2009 at 9:43am

If you had Endo there is nothing they can do while you are preggers anyway I am sure? The only way to get rid of Endo is with surgery and I am sure there is a significant down time after surgery before pregnancy is safe.....dont quote me though!
I had sugrey on my cervix for cancerous cells before #2 and i wasnt allowed to concieve till the scarring had healed.

I am with soveriegn health insurance and had to choose 'womens specialty cover' on top of my regular insurance to cover a gyno.........
Good luck!!

Things we should have been told! : well smartmum - that would be...

Wed, 13 May 2009 21:22:34 +0000

Author: charlncassy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 13�May�2009 at 9:22pm

well smartmum - that would be the case if i could see one!
i am on a 6m waiting list at this stupid hospital - i want to be pregnant again in 6m time - so fat lot of good they are going to do me!

Am looking into health insurance - southern cross - anyone else using them??

Yes BeckyB - i get itchy, sharp pains, tenderness, numbness, pins and needles u name it! And its almost 9m on - doc says that will never go away and she has had 2 c-secs herself!

Things we should have been told! : Does anyones scar itch sometimes...

Wed, 13 May 2009 21:14:43 +0000

Author: BeckyB
Subject: 8068
Posted: 13�May�2009 at 9:14pm

Does anyones scar itch sometimes or get sharp pains in it sometimes? I know the itching could be healing but almost 6mths on I would have thought it would have been ok by now?

Things we should have been told! : I have just found out that a c-section...

Wed, 13 May 2009 12:42:24 +0000

Author: Smartmum
Subject: 8068
Posted: 13�May�2009 at 12:42pm

I have just found out that a c-section or rather abdominal surgery can give you endometriosis!!!!!!!!!

TMI warning, but i have been having painful s3x and i have endo as it turns out from the abdominal surgery of 2 c-s

Red dragon, this very well could be what your Gyno is looking for?

Things we should have been told! : my c-section scar is 5.5 years...

Tue, 12 May 2009 22:13:13 +0000

Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 8068
Posted: 12�May�2009 at 10:13pm

my c-section scar is 5.5 years old and the scar itself, and surrounding skin is still as numb as it was straight after...

Things we should have been told! : Hi all Some docs say u may always...

Tue, 12 May 2009 21:24:04 +0000

Author: charlncassy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 12�May�2009 at 9:24pm

Hi all

Some docs say u may always have a numb patch i still do.

this may be a bit TMI - but i have been having a second bleed after my P about a week later and it is dark brown - as in old blood - the doc did smear etc came back clear. He then referred me to gyne - but its a 6m waiting list and want it fix or sorted now because i want to be preg with no to by october this year.

Anyone had this or know what it might be??

Thanks

ps i bonded instantly with Shenny my girl

Things we should have been told! : Amanda I understand it does come...

Tue, 12 May 2009 20:14:15 +0000

Author: weegee
Subject: 8068
Posted: 12�May�2009 at 8:14pm

Amanda I understand it does come back eventually... mine is better than it was, but I still have a numb patch more than 10 months on!

And red_dragon, my Mum had 4 c sections with no problems

Things we should have been told! : Wow i should have read this along...

Tue, 12 May 2009 18:07:58 +0000

Author: Manda08
Subject: 8068
Posted: 12�May�2009 at 6:07pm

Wow i should have read this along time ago... Good to read. I had an emergency c-sec, and bonded with Angus as soon as i could. I wasnt able to hold him for some time as i was very unwell afterwards.

1 thing i will ask, my tummy around my scar is numb... mw says this is normal... does the feeling come back?

Things we should have been told! : ^^ I got told if I wanted another...

Mon, 11 May 2009 19:41:36 +0000

Author: pomikiwi
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�May�2009 at 7:41pm

^^ I got told if I wanted another baby then I should go straight for a c -section. But buggar that I'm over it, no more kids for me.

Victoria Beckham had 3 sections

Things we should have been told! : ^^ I got told if I wanted another...

Mon, 11 May 2009 19:40:40 +0000

Author: pomikiwi
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�May�2009 at 7:40pm

^^ I got told if I wanted another baby then I should go straight for a c -section. But buggar that I'm over it, no more kids for me.

Victoria Beckham had 3 sections

Things we should have been told! : ^^ I got told if I wanted another...

Mon, 11 May 2009 19:39:42 +0000

Author: pomikiwi
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�May�2009 at 7:39pm

^^ I got told if I wanted another baby then I should go straight for a c -section. But buggar that I'm over it, no more kids for me.

Victoria Beckham had 2 sections

Things we should have been told! : I wanted to add that - if the...

Mon, 11 May 2009 09:55:08 +0000

Author: charlncassy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�May�2009 at 9:55am

I wanted to add that - if the morphine does nothing for you - you are no going crazy! So don't be afraid to say so!

Morphine had no effect on me - it did not work - so they put me on oxynorm - which worked a treat!

I had a spinal block and the catheter was put in after - though i was not asked about either but so glad it happened this this way.

Have to have another C-Sec next time due to pre-eclampcia last time.

Want to ask what you mums think is 3 c-secs to many??

My DP is dead set on 3 kids - i am just not so sure...

Things we should have been told! : I got a body stocking/ tummy wrap...

Sat, 28 Feb 2009 18:46:18 +0000

Author: jazzy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�February�2009 at 6:46pm

I got a body stocking/ tummy wrap (not sure what it is called) from the physio in the hospital, it held everything in tight and I could walk standing straight, & I also had a pain pack that I had to take everywhere (shower, walkies) & I could dial how relief much I needed without over doing it.

Things we should have been told! : Not sure who said it now - but...

Tue, 24 Feb 2009 09:29:42 +0000

Author: Spirals
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�February�2009 at 9:29am

Not sure who said it now - but I second the point about keeping your pain relief up.

I didn't the day after - I wasn't feeling too bad (still dosed up with morphine I guess!) and the nurses didn't insist that I take it either. Boy - did I suffer later on that day. My obs wasn't happy either - he said the nurses should have known better.

Apart from that though, the hospital staff were wonderful. They couldn't do enough for us. We were very lucky.

Things we should have been told! : ....also, sometimes an Epidural...

Sat, 14 Feb 2009 10:35:47 +0000

Author: kaaza
Subject: 8068
Posted: 14�February�2009 at 10:35am

....also, sometimes an Epidural does not work effectively (as I experienced), which means you will need a general anaesthetic. Your partner will then be asked to do the skin to skin and no support people allowed into operating theater with you .....

Things we should have been told! : regarding getting out of bed.......

Wed, 11 Feb 2009 12:17:47 +0000

Author: megabux
Subject: 8068
Posted: 11�February�2009 at 12:17pm

regarding getting out of bed.... you just roll out lol.

Things we should have been told! : LeeLee, you will wake up one morning...

Fri, 30 Jan 2009 12:55:43 +0000

Author: peanut butter
Subject: 8068
Posted: 30�January�2009 at 12:55pm

LeeLee, you will wake up one morning and look down and see ankles again....your day will feel so much better!

Things we should have been told! : Yeah I had that too Leelee, I...

Fri, 30 Jan 2009 12:54:14 +0000

Author: cuppatea
Subject: 8068
Posted: 30�January�2009 at 12:54pm

Yeah I had that too Leelee, I didn't get any swelling when pregnant but have had it postnatally both times, once from the spinal for the c/s and then this time to cos I had an epi. Keep your legs raised as much as poss as that is suppose to help, but yeah takes time I'm afraid

Things we should have been told! : Fluid retention is what I'm...

Fri, 30 Jan 2009 12:50:33 +0000

Author: Leelee
Subject: 8068
Posted: 30�January�2009 at 12:50pm

Fluid retention is what I'm having issues with, my feet and ankles are so swollen and all my mw says it will take time to go down you just need to pee it out, if only it was that easy.

Things we should have been told! : One of the worst parts for me...

Thu, 29 Jan 2009 23:58:58 +0000

Author: Charly
Subject: 8068
Posted: 29�January�2009 at 11:58pm

One of the worst parts for me (emergency C-section after 4 days in Labour!) was the spray that the anesthetist used on me to see if I was numb enough for them to start the operation!

He kept saying "if it feels cold, then you're not numb enough", which in my delusional over-tired state was making me think "OMG, they're going to cut me open and I'll feel it!" This was so incredibly frightening at the time.

Things we should have been told! : I didn't even see the name...

Sat, 24 Jan 2009 21:27:22 +0000

Author: JoJames
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�January�2009 at 9:27pm

I didn't even see the name great name!!
I had the shakes terribly due to the epidural, they also went away when I held the baby, awful feeling.

Things we should have been told! : Congrats on baby peppercorn, and...

Sat, 24 Jan 2009 21:13:49 +0000

Author: LeahandJoel
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�January�2009 at 9:13pm

Congrats on baby peppercorn, and welcome James.

I had the shakes with my cs for about 3 hours, but a lot of that was because Leah was taken to special care and I didn't know what was going on. Once I got down to the ward and was finally allowed to see her and hold her the shakes went away pretty quickly.

Things we should have been told! : Especially cause you were home...

Sat, 24 Jan 2009 20:44:41 +0000

Author: JoJames
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�January�2009 at 8:44pm

Especially cause you were home so quickly!!!
Stuff your Mum, do the bare minimum, your body will thank you for it, otherwise you'll be back in hospital as soon as. You did have major surgery!!!!
Good luck with your new baby and don't be afraid to ask for help.

Things we should have been told! : This is a great thread. I was...

Sat, 24 Jan 2009 19:19:59 +0000

Author: peanut butter
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�January�2009 at 7:19pm

This is a great thread. I was totally unprepared for my CS. It was the last thing I wanted. When they told me they needed to consent me for a c-section I burst into tears (amongst the contractions....end of transition I think). But once bubs was out I was totally ok with it! Before that I was shaking uncontrollably and sh*t SCARED!!!

Now I am home and overdoing it! Eat, feed and sleep sounds great but my mum is here to help and she thinks I am lazy if I dont do much. After all, I only had a baby...suck it up! GREAT! Its also hard with a toddler. But after reading all this its good to know things are normal

Things we should have been told! : Completely agree about the amnesia,...

Mon, 05 Jan 2009 14:21:25 +0000

Author: JoJames
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�January�2009 at 2:21pm

Completely agree about the amnesia, I'm not entirely sure what happened the first 2 days after the birth either, I know I was on bed rest for the first day, and there were visitors but I was so shattered I'm sure I kept drifting in and out.
J also got taken to SCBU which was a lifesaver cause they would take him and bring him back for a feed so I got to sleep, also they gave him a bottle of formula one night so i could have a long sleep. The first night they bought him in and the nurse helped hold him to my breast and I fell asleep! When i woke up I apologised and she said "no worry he's been fed" She had just held the baby to my breasts while I was asleep!

I got given 2 doses of lactulose and boy at 3am did it open the floodgates.

Things we should have been told! : I second the heat pack! At the...

Mon, 05 Jan 2009 11:10:40 +0000

Author: weegee
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�January�2009 at 11:10am

I second the heat pack! At the hospital I was in you weren't allowed to use the food microwaves to heat them up though, you had to use a special microwave that was hidden away in the sluice room, it was a bit scary going in there, all sorts of medical paraphernalia and a big poster on the wall saying how to estimate quantities of blood loss, complete with pics!

Also, if you have an emergency c-section, just because you haven't pushed your baby out doesn't mean you won't have some of the same after pains as if you had a VB. Labour is still pretty rough on the body even without the last two stages.

TMI warning: I have to say, unfortunately lactulose doesn't always work. I got given several doses of the horrible stuff and they didn't seem to make any difference. In the end - a week later! - lots of grapes and a massive quantity of water did the trick. And if you get bunged up like that, don't think that once you've finally passed your big chunk of clay-like poo the floodgates will open , it's a gradual process to get rid of all the concentrated waste.

In hindsight, I was lucky - I felt very sorry for myself at the time but I was separated from JJ for 5 days at the beginning because he was in SCBU, then I developed a wound infection and we were there for another week and a half. But it meant someone else was doing all the basic baby care when I still couldn't walk etc, and I was basically fully mobile again by the time we got home. So count your blessings I guess.

Oh, and I think everyone should keep a record of things they want for their labour next time if they want to try for a VBAC - I think part of my problem was that I hadn't fully prepared myself (I remember thinking once we got to the hospital "I'm not sure I've thought through this!") and I'll have far more specific instructions for my DH for next time. Plus I was too independent and didn't want any other support people there, next time I'll enlist a whole team

ETA: I recently realised that I basically have amnesia for the first 48 or so hours after the birth, don't know if it was the pain meds or some kind of response to trauma, but I don't remember much at all! I must have been so out of it!

Edited by weegee

Things we should have been told! : Mt MW also told my DF that he...

Mon, 05 Jan 2009 10:34:22 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�January�2009 at 10:34am

Mt MW also told my DF that he was to make sure that I didnt move from the couch unless I needed to go toilet or shower lol, I was to just eat feed and sleep! for 2 weeks!
I didnt listen....and I should have. I tried to clean and stuff and ended up sore as heck!

So, LISTEN to your MW lol. Mine growled me!

Pamol and a heat sack were my best friends, the heat sack helped loosen up my muscles a bit and made getting up and walking/hobbling easier.

Things we should have been told! : This is a great topic, brings...

Fri, 02 Jan 2009 16:57:27 +0000

Author: JoJames
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�January�2009 at 4:57pm

This is a great topic, brings back memories.
I have to admit that I lied to the nurses and told them I'd farted cause I was so starving, mmm hospital food.
When you are finally allowed out of bed the first few days be aware of your body and don't push it, definately get up and about, but take rests, I almost dropped my baby because I had to sit down so fast, I yelled at the doctor to grab him quickly.

Lactulose worked REALLY well

Driving home was painful and yes stairs when you finally get home are the worst, took me 10 mins to get up them, kept having to really concentrate on using my legs, you don't realise how important your ab muscles are until they are out of service.

And my MW told me to take Pamol and Brufen regularly when I was at home fo rthe first week or so, even if you don't feel you need it. When I didn't take it, it definately hurts and slows ya down.
And the other great advice my MW told my husband was for me to feed, eat and sleep and do nothing else, I think that helped my recovery heaps.
Oh and having a good height change table helped heaps.

And my mother came evryday and cooked dinner and cleaned the house, lifesaver.

Things we should have been told! : I loved reading all these posts!...

Tue, 09 Dec 2008 14:50:42 +0000

Author: thomasina
Subject: 8068
Posted: 09�December�2008 at 2:50pm

I loved reading all these posts! It brought back many memories.
pomikiwi - lol! your comments made me laugh. I remember walking to theatre while my waters were breaking& I had to keep stopping for contractions, but the worst thing was wearing those awful hospital gowns!!! they have to be the most uncomfortable thing ever to wear! why do they do up at the back!

ooohhh the first poo....! and it wasnt until I was at home that someone bothered to tell me that the codiene can make you a bit constipated- so this made going to the loo even worse. I also felt quite queasy days after my c-section

Things we should have been told! : I didn't realise how much...

Wed, 08 Oct 2008 11:17:01 +0000

Author: Charlis_Mum
Subject: 8068
Posted: 08�October�2008 at 11:17am

I didn't realise how much water you can retain. I was quite puffy in my feet and I thought that was the only area, it wasn't until I got up for my first shower that I actually had to do a double take at myself in the mirror as I hardly reconised myself my face was so puffy!!

Also, kiwifruit is a good way to get the bowels moving, I was scared to push when on the toilet and my midwife told me I just need to get on with it and I wasn't going to split apart. Eat 6 kiwifruit and you are good to go!!

Things we should have been told! : Making sure your hospital bell...

Tue, 07 Oct 2008 15:35:26 +0000

Author: pomikiwi
Subject: 8068
Posted: 07�October�2008 at 3:35pm

Making sure your hospital bell is tied to your bed so it doesn't fall off, then when your baby cries you're not waiting in tears for 20 minutes for someone to come and pick her up and give her to you :-(

Oh and just incase you do have a hot anaethetist (sp?) make sure you look half decent before you go down to theatre, lol! I looked so messy and i'm sure I didnt smell very pretty either.

Things we should have been told! : LOL WTF? Lazy buggers Mind you,...

Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:06:26 +0000

Author: Neeks
Subject: 8068
Posted: 16�September�2008 at 10:06pm

LOL WTF? Lazy buggers

Mind you, the hospital staff I had were pretty sh*te too actually... right hand had no idea what the left hand was doing.... Keziah didn't have a bath until the day we went home and ended up sick because it was too cold
Bubs needed to go under the PTU lights (for jaundice) so I went back after going home for a day and I hadn't eaten anything at all before going back, but tough I wasn't a patient anymore

Things we should have been told! : Ha ha fat chance of getting a...

Mon, 15 Sep 2008 21:34:58 +0000

Author: MalibuBarbie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 15�September�2008 at 9:34pm

Ha ha fat chance of getting a sponge bath at my local hospital. All the staff are always so "busy" lol. I couldn't stand the day after my cs due to nausea and dizzy spells and all they did was chuck me a bowl of water and a flannel and said here you go. I really struggled lol as each time I moved I felt like I was going to throw up or faint. Ah well won't kill ya makes ya stronger I guess lol.

Things we should have been told! : I got wicked bed sores on my back...

Mon, 15 Sep 2008 20:53:42 +0000

Author: Neeks
Subject: 8068
Posted: 15�September�2008 at 8:53pm

I got wicked bed sores on my back that took a wee while to heal. If you can't get out of bed, ask for a sponge bath it makes you feel so much better and it will help prevent nasty sores from being in one place for so long

Things we should have been told! : MalibuBarbie wrote: kiwikid...

Mon, 15 Sep 2008 12:52:27 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 15�September�2008 at 12:52pm

MalibuBarbie wrote:

kiwikid wrote:

Giving birth is just a moment in time, you'll be a mother for the rest of your life so dont get upset that you didnt get the birth you planned on, the most important thing at the end of the day is you and your baby are safe and well.

That is such a great thing to say. I really truly have felt inadequate and like a failure after 2 failed vb's and a comment like this really helps me to pull myself together and to look at the positives. I have always wanted a large family but swore after ds#2 that I would not have any more children because of needing to now have a c/s each time I have a baby and the feelings of inadequacy that follow after a c/s for me. But you are right how you give birth is not the most important thing. I also have two things to add to the list.

Allow as much fresh air into the shower as possible when you have your first shower after c/s as you may feel woosy and the steam from the shower may worsen that woosiness and cause you to faint. (That just about happened to me)

Try not to stay sitting on your backside in the same position for long periods as this may cause blisters. (I got blisters on my bum and I swear they hurt more than my c/s wound!)

Sleep when you can even if it means visitors have to wait to see you and the new bubba as a c/s can really take it out of you. (Also applies for vb so I hear. I lost a lot of blood after my 2nd c/s and I felt like I was suffering from chronic fatigue for ages until my iron stores built back up again)

It's funny how we each have our own interpretation on a c/s. It has been an informative read going through all these posts and if I have to have a 3rd c/s I will be in the know even mre than I was 2nd time round, thanks to all you ladies.

Ohh i got the blisters/bed sores on my bum I felt bruised down there for weeks!! Actually I had brusing and shaffing and blisters it was awful!

Things we should have been told! : MalibuBarbie wrote:[I have...

Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:55:52 +0000

Author: 2bmumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 05�September�2008 at 7:55pm

MalibuBarbie wrote:

[I have always wanted a large family but swore after ds#2 that I would not have any more children because of needing to now have a c/s each time I have a baby and the feelings of inadequacy that follow after a c/s for me.

Don't let it put you off your dreams of a large family. My best c-section was my first as I knew it was going to happen (it was elective due to breech bubs)and I often wonder if I hadn't tried and failed with my other two whether I'd have that feeling. I've spoken to a couple of mums who have only had elective c-sectinos and they simply can't understand why anyone would want to birth naturally and feel quite settled with their birth experiences.

Things we should have been told! : Ok I had a little more than two...

Wed, 03 Sep 2008 09:48:01 +0000

Author: MalibuBarbie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 03�September�2008 at 9:48am

Ok I had a little more than two things to add to the list. Sorry I can't count very well can I? Lol.

Things we should have been told! : kiwikid wrote:Giving birth...

Wed, 03 Sep 2008 09:45:53 +0000

Author: MalibuBarbie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 03�September�2008 at 9:45am

Allow as much fresh air into the shower as possible when you have your first shower after c/s as you may feel woosy and the steam from the shower may worsen that woosiness and cause you to faint. (That just about happened to me)
Try not to stay sitting on your backside in the same position for long periods as this may cause blisters. (I got blisters on my bum and I swear they hurt more than my c/s wound!)
Sleep when you can even if it means visitors have to wait to see you and the new bubba as a c/s can really take it out of you. (Also applies for vb so I hear. I lost a lot of blood after my 2nd c/s and I felt like I was suffering from chronic fatigue for ages until my iron stores built back up again)

Things we should have been told! : I think peppermint tea can help...

Mon, 25 Aug 2008 08:33:14 +0000

Author: kiwikid
Subject: 8068
Posted: 25�August�2008 at 8:33am

I think peppermint tea can help with digestion and hence wind, it really does hurt when you need to fart!

I found it hard in the first few days to get up and down off the hospital loo, it must have been quite low, use the disabled toilet if you can as it has rails.

Definately recommend arnica tablets to help with the internal healing.

I was given pain killers rather than morphine and they were fine, also the catheter removal didnt hurt for me.

Get up and about as soon as you can and into the shower, you really will feel good afterwards and more prepared to tackle being a new mum.

Dont forget its still possible to do skin to skin with your baby immediately after he/she is out of you, I forgot in all the rush and didnt get this, really wish I had remembered but I think because of the meconium they had to check him out first anyway but Hayden was all cleaned up and dressed when I first held him (they lifted him up for me to see before they took him away to be cleaned and checked etc)

The anesthetics can make you vomit on the operating table, not great when you are emotionally all over the place anyway and trying to bond with your new baby but they can give you an anti nausea drug which may take a few mins but will stop you being sick.

Take your own pillow to hospital and on the drive home / other car trips in the early days put it over your tummy and then do up the seat belt. Same process for coughing as the ladies mentioned earlier.

Giving birth is just a moment in time, you'll be a mother for the rest of your life so dont get upset that you didnt get the birth you planned on, the most important thing at the end of the day is you and your baby are safe and well.

Things we should have been told! : I agree missangel, having the...

Thu, 03 Jul 2008 21:35:06 +0000

Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 8068
Posted: 03�July�2008 at 9:35pm

I agree missangel, having the catheter out SUCKED, but I was so glad when it was out, my pee hole is still a bit sore from the damn thing! Peeong doesnt sting though so thats good.

I definitly agree with holding something against your scar while you pee/poo etc, as the straining and pressure from your bladder etc can make going really uncomfy, I find holding something soft hard against my scar and leaning back slightly when I go loo helps stop it hurting.

ETA- Also, when my scar is quite sore, like after walking round or standing for too long I put the heat sack on it for a while and it feels so much better afterwards.

Edited by CadensMum

Things we should have been told! : To have some Tea Tree oil around...

Wed, 02 Jul 2008 23:29:32 +0000

Author: spiritgal
Subject: 8068
Posted: 02�July�2008 at 11:29pm

To have some Tea Tree oil around as it helps if your scar starts to get a little infected.

Things we should have been told! : I had no problems with my first...

Mon, 23 Jun 2008 06:55:54 +0000

Author: MissAngel
Subject: 8068
Posted: 23�June�2008 at 6:55am

I had no problems with my first poo - or farting!

Coming off morphine is REAL itchy >.<
Having the catheter removed - NASTY.. I dont know why they tell you to breathe out when they take it out, It hurts anyway!

Things we should have been told! : only the lucky people get morphine...

Mon, 26 May 2008 06:39:52 +0000

Author: james
Subject: 8068
Posted: 26�May�2008 at 6:39am

only the lucky people get morphine pumps some like me get one lot and then it panadol and codine which can work fine
oh and coming offffff morphine is bloody icthy

Things we should have been told! : That's so true Ann. I know...

Sun, 25 May 2008 22:13:22 +0000

Author: Bobbie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 25�May�2008 at 10:13pm

That's so true Ann. I know people in my coffee group who had VB's and didn't bond straight away and I was surprised that as soon as I saw Rowan I did.

Edited by Bobbie

Things we should have been told! : #3 Having a CS does NOT mean you...

Sun, 25 May 2008 22:01:43 +0000

Author: AnnC
Subject: 8068
Posted: 25�May�2008 at 10:01pm

#3 Having a CS does NOT mean you will have problems bonding with your baby anymore/anyless than a VB

I actually did have trouble Bonding with Rhyley (my ceasar baby) it took till the next day to truely bond with him.

so mine would be ..

Its okay if you don't bond with your baby straight away doesn't mean your a bad mother just means you been thru major surgery .

Things we should have been told! : the first poo - not fun at all! Oh...

Sat, 24 May 2008 20:38:02 +0000

Author: Bobbie
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�May�2008 at 8:38pm

the first poo - not fun at all!

Oh and just reminiscing with someone about this. The feeling morphine gives you like having something crawling under your skin (and making you itch) and the weird morphine dreams.

Things we should have been told! : slow release stuff? i just had...

Sat, 24 May 2008 14:14:55 +0000

Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 8068
Posted: 24�May�2008 at 2:14pm

slow release stuff? i just had the pump then it got taken off me when it made me sick.. they say those drugs dont get to bub..dunno bout that..:( that pamphlet Susie sent me was great..should be given to everyone!:)

Things we should have been told! : Good tips here!! +Put your maternity...

Fri, 23 May 2008 20:58:09 +0000

Author: Smartmum
Subject: 8068
Posted: 23�May�2008 at 8:58pm

Good tips here!!

+Put your maternity pads for your wound in the freezer before applying them, the cold is soothing!
+Also use an icepack on your would if you have done too much in one day.
+ YOu can react to the drugs and vomit. ( i vomited after i got out of the recovery room, most painful thing!!)
+ First poo.....OUCH
+Take anusol cream or suppositories in your bag for the hemoroids you might get from the first poo..
+ Have food in your hospital bag in case you are ready to eat and the hospital hasnt saved you anything.
+ the nurses can't give you anything to help your fart!

Things we should have been told! : oh, i wasnt told that on day 4...

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 20:14:43 +0000

Author: Bizzy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 29�March�2008 at 8:14pm

oh, i wasnt told that on day 4 they stop the slow release morphine i had been on... wasnt till i was half way round the ward on a walk that i realised why i hurt so much...(cant remember if i mentioned that already). apparently they cant give it to you more than 6 times... whats it called - um....... oh sevradol.

that was a kicker...a bit of fore warning might have been nice.

Things we should have been told! : Lol Bizzy, poor you . At least...

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 16:53:54 +0000

Author: sally belly
Subject: 8068
Posted: 29�March�2008 at 4:53pm

Lol Bizzy, poor you . At least you were at home though & not out & about.

Things we should have been told! : miss wrote:Another one... -if...

Tue, 25 Mar 2008 16:55:04 +0000

Author: Bizzy
Subject: 8068
Posted: 25�March�2008 at 4:55pm

miss wrote:

Another one...

-if they give you lactulose to get your bowels moving, they will move and you could be on and off the toiet for the rest of the day. Be prepared!

wish someone had warned me about that!!! i had to abandon my visitors it came on so quickly!

Things we should have been told! : I've had three c-sections...

Tue, 25 Mar 2008 16:26:20 +0000

Author: WigglesFan
Subject: 8068
Posted: 25�March�2008 at 4:26pm

I've had three c-sections and my contributions are:

a) Don't bother bribing your DH or a friend to paint your toenails so you can feel halfway human. The nurse will make you take it off again.

b) Take a doughnut pillow to sit/lie on for the first 24 hours. Seriously, my backside hurt worse than my c-section wound after 24 hours of sitting on a crease in the plastic mattress cover!

c) Drink HEAPS while you still have the catheter in. It means you can make sure you are really well hydrated without having to totter into the bathroom.

d) Getting baby into and out of the plastic fish bowls provided by the hospital is almost impossible for the first day and very painful for the next few days. So don't bother! Just keep bubs close to you in bed. They are used to being close to you anyway so it eases the transition into the big wide world.

e) The sooner you get up and moving around the easier the recovery will be. Take it slow and easy and if you decide to walk round the corridors get someone a bit steadier to carry your baby!

f) Hold a flat pillow tight against your tummy when you get out of bed.

g) If you need to cough, imitate a cat with a hairball and 'huurrr huurrr' first to move the phlegm. Then sit with a pillow pressed against your tum and cough. You can also get dh to stand behind you and hold the pillow tight while you cough.

h) Make a fuss if it hurts! Studies show that if pain is effectively dealt with in the initial period then it passes faster. You shouldn't be in pain as long as you have the morphine drip in. If you do then it isn't working. They can give you another booster shot. And keep taking your panadol, tramadol and voltaren for the full recommended period. You won't get dependent on the.

i) Stay in you pj's once you get home. If you have a shower then get dressed into clean pj's. You are less likely to try and do too much or be expected to do more if you look like an invalid!

Things we should have been told! : The spasms your legs have when...

Fri, 28 Dec 2007 15:32:47 +0000

Author: Neeks
Subject: 8068
Posted: 28�December�2007 at 3:32pm

The spasms your legs have when your coming off the spinal block are pretty random too lol they just start flying all over the place for no apparent reason what so ever.

The first number 2 you do hurts quite badly.. especially if your like me and lost quite a bit of blood during the C-S (emergency) and are taking iron supplements

Pulling yourself to a sitting position is almost impossible, especially if your short and can't even reach the end of the bed to 'push' yourself up somewhat and your hands and arms just don't want to co-operate LOL

And as for dignity... what's that? ;)

Edited by Neeks

Things we should have been told! : miss wrote:Another one... -if...

Thu, 27 Sep 2007 20:43:13 +0000

Author: justme
Subject: 8068
Posted: 27�September�2007 at 8:43pm

miss wrote:

Another one...

-if they give you lactulose to get your bowels moving, they will move and you could be on and off the toiet for the rest of the day. Be prepared!

God I wish I had known this before i went into have ethan - you're not wrong!

Things we should have been told! : If anyone still wants copies of...

Wed, 19 Sep 2007 13:34:39 +0000

Author: susieq
Subject: 8068
Posted: 19�September�2007 at 1:34pm

If anyone still wants copies of the Ceasarean booklet that I have called Recovery after Ceasarean let me know

Things we should have been told! : Oh... And I second the maternity...

Tue, 18 Sep 2007 16:18:11 +0000

Author: buzimumto3boys
Subject: 8068
Posted: 18�September�2007 at 4:18pm

Oh... And I second the maternity pads for the c section wound! helped keep it dry and clean! also used baby wipes to clean it.... and "aired" the wound as much as possible.

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