OHbaby! Forums : How do I help??? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:09:49 +0000 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:33:07 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=8200 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Our thoughts are with the family,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159587&title=how-do-i-help#159587 Author: Guests
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 8:33pm

Our thoughts are with the family, big
I think the food is a good idea.

]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:33:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159587&title=how-do-i-help#159587 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : How truly awful for the family,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159578&title=how-do-i-help#159578 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 8:24pm

How truly awful for the family, and terribly sad for all of you that know this lady too.

I agree with Ginger, this lady will be likely to be overwhelmed with help and support over the next few weeks, but after all the fuss (excuse the phrase) has died down she will need a lot of support too. Prob just company some evenings, as I would imagine she will be very lonely.  

Again - my thoughts are with this lady and her family at this awful time.

]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:24:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159578&title=how-do-i-help#159578 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Wow I have kiddies just older...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159506&title=how-do-i-help#159506 Author: busymum
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 7:02pm

Wow I have kiddies just older than hers, so very sad to imagine kids that age without a dad all of a sudden ]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 19:02:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159506&title=how-do-i-help#159506 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : That is so sad. My heart goes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159494&title=how-do-i-help#159494 Author: caraMel
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 6:50pm

That is so sad. My heart goes out to her and her wee babies, and to all of you on here affected by this tragedy.

Edited by caraMel]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 18:50:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159494&title=how-do-i-help#159494 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Aww that&#039;s truely sad :(...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159456&title=how-do-i-help#159456 Author: lil_miss
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:43pm

Aww that's truely sad :( I can't imagine what she's going through right now.

]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 17:43:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159456&title=how-do-i-help#159456 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : I&#039;ve been there, my partner...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159448&title=how-do-i-help#159448 Author: .Mel
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:23pm

I've been there, my partner died tragically 7 1/2 years ago, and the one thing that helped me was contact. By that I mean, phone calls, people dropping over to see me and Conor, and not feeling like people had forgotten about me. Sure I needed the time on my own to deal with both mine and Conor's grief, but it was good to have some normality (sp) at the same time. Also remember that it's just not about the grief she's feeling now and for the next few days, it's the grief that she will feel in a months time or even longer, so make sure you are there for her later on.. cause to be honest people forget that... that's what I learnt and what I went through.. ]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 17:23:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159448&title=how-do-i-help#159448 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Joy is my good friend as well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159425&title=how-do-i-help#159425 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 4:47pm

Joy is my good friend as well and I went and saw her this morning I have not stopped crying since she texted me this morning it is just so sad he was a great dad and it is just sad that they will not ever know him. I'm on little t as well and we are organising a koha for her she has lots of support but will well and truley need it in the coming weeks. There wee babes are 18 months and 3 weeks old very heart renching.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 16:47:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159425&title=how-do-i-help#159425 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Joy is a good mate of mine and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159407&title=how-do-i-help#159407 Author: Xander&Harmony
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 4:26pm

Joy is a good mate of mine and is just so sad bout her hubby.she has appreciated everyones ph clls,txts and messages of sympathies.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 16:26:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159407&title=how-do-i-help#159407 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Argh, that is so sad! Another...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159320&title=how-do-i-help#159320 Author: Maya
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 2:17pm

Argh, that is so sad! Another mum on the Lost Ones was just telling us about this, it's awful.
I do agree with the food thing - it's hard to think about food at times like this but it's also important to keep your strength up so having someone else do the hard work is good.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:17:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159320&title=how-do-i-help#159320 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Big Big to all of those affected...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159315&title=how-do-i-help#159315 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 2:12pm

Big Big to all of those affected by this.

How sad!

you'd be surprised what just being there can do for a person who is grieving.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:12:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159315&title=how-do-i-help#159315 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Im sitting here wondering what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159289&title=how-do-i-help#159289 Author: kell
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:50pm

Im sitting here wondering what to do to. Joy is my friend ]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:50:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159289&title=how-do-i-help#159289 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : my little sister died a few years...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159288&title=how-do-i-help#159288 Author: Konagirl
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:49pm

my little sister died a few years ago and I have to say the best things were getting food, visits and texts from people. It of course never makes up for what's going on but it was so nice knowing people were thinking of our family. And also it was nice people that people in the following months remembered and still asked how I was going as the grief of course goes on.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:49:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159288&title=how-do-i-help#159288 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Oh gosh thats awful. Like everyone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159287&title=how-do-i-help#159287 Author: Kels
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:49pm

Oh gosh thats awful. Like everyone else has said just being there for support and someone to listen can help loads.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:49:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159287&title=how-do-i-help#159287 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Oh man, that sucks. I wouldnt...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159261&title=how-do-i-help#159261 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:30pm

Oh man, that sucks. I wouldnt know what to do...just being there when she needs you will help.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:30:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159261&title=how-do-i-help#159261 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Well I&#039;m a bit like Ginger...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159260&title=how-do-i-help#159260 Author: busymum
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:30pm

Well I'm a bit like Ginger with sad things - food! So all I would know to do is to offer sympathy, send flowers or a card if you want to, but bring on the easy meals and chocolate cake ]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:30:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159260&title=how-do-i-help#159260 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : yup thats the one Poor things...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159250&title=how-do-i-help#159250 Author: Gwen_
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:08pm

yup thats the one
Poor things ]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:08:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159250&title=how-do-i-help#159250 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : If its the Treasures forum yes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159248&title=how-do-i-help#159248 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 1:02pm

If its the Treasures forum yes its Joy's Hubby that was killed she rang my friend this morning to tell her as they grew up together.]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 13:02:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159248&title=how-do-i-help#159248 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : Sorry I wouldn&#039;t no what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159246&title=how-do-i-help#159246 Author: Gwen_
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 12:59pm

Sorry I wouldn't no what to say aswell, But a lady from another form that i go on, her DH was killed last night in PN so I think it might be the same person.
I agree with Ginger, just be there for her]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 12:59:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159246&title=how-do-i-help#159246 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : There&#039;s very little you can...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159243&title=how-do-i-help#159243 Author: ginger
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 12:55pm

There's very little you can do. That's awful adn incredibly sad. Be there for her, however you can, to talk to, to give hugs ... it'll be in a month or 2 or 6 that you will be the best support to her. It's when the 7-day-wonder if it all dies down (if you'll excuse the bad use of that expression), and she's left with this big hole in her life long-term.

Grief is a terrible thing, and there is little you can do to lighten the load for someone else ]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 12:55:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159243&title=how-do-i-help#159243 <![CDATA[How do I help??? : My friend rang me this morning...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159240&title=how-do-i-help#159240 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 8200
Posted: 12 June 2007 at 12:52pm

My friend rang me this morning to tell me her bestest male friend was killed last night. She is a mess and I don't know how to help her or what to say?]]> Tue, 12 Jun 2007 12:52:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8200&PID=159240&title=how-do-i-help#159240