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Subject: 8392
Posted: 22 June 2007 at 9:32pm

Emz, I didnt used to worry, its only since having kids and thinking about raising them without their dad around.

And Renee, one of the reasons I do worry is cos mine DOES go rally driving - its very safe and I often go with him, but I still worry ]]> Fri, 22 Jun 2007 21:32:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165305&title=worried#165305 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165140&title=worried#165140 Author: emz
Subject: 8392
Posted: 22 June 2007 at 4:52pm

lil_miss wrote: I think its a female thing :) I dont know many ppl who dont..

I don't! I'm serious, I have never had the urge to worry, I'm not his mother. The only times I've worried, like I've said before, is when I heard NZ soldiers had been bombed in Afghanistan. Turned out it was him, but he wasn't hurt. There's bigger things in life to worry about than your men living their lives like normal people. Sorry just my opinion.]]> Fri, 22 Jun 2007 16:52:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165140&title=worried#165140 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165098&title=worried#165098 Author: peachy
Subject: 8392
Posted: 22 June 2007 at 3:46pm

This is an interesting thread as I am the one in our house that travels the country, usually over 1,000kms per week for my job! DH and my Mum ring me a couple of times a day on my mobile to check I am o.k, especially if the weather is bad, eg today it has been shocking and I had to drive Matamata, Morrinsville, Cambridge, Huntly with stops in each town for work, then back to home in Auckland! I have been doing it for 6 years now, so DH is fairly used to is, but I can't wait to leave when I have the baby and I don't have to drive so much anymore!!!]]> Fri, 22 Jun 2007 15:46:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165098&title=worried#165098 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165079&title=worried#165079 Author: mamanee
Subject: 8392
Posted: 22 June 2007 at 3:03pm

I am the same! But this also extends to me worrying when I am in the car with him. I HATE cars, motorbikes, anything with an engine just doesn't agree with me. I hate going fast, I hate corners, I hate trucks going past, I hate windy roads, I hate going in the car in wet weather, I hate going on long journeys and I really dislike going in the car at night time... Also, during the day isn't much better.

I don't know why I have a fear of cars, but my mum is the same and she doesn't drive and never will. I will also never drive.

I always worry, even though my DP is a really good driver and doesn't speed. But then for some reason whenever a boyracer goes past him or near him, he has this instinctive urge to start driving like a maniac or a rally car driver.

We are going to Dargaville for a wedding in a few weeks and I am absolutely dreading it!

Am I the only one?]]> Fri, 22 Jun 2007 15:03:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165079&title=worried#165079 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165077&title=worried#165077 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 8392
Posted: 22 June 2007 at 2:56pm

OMG Janine if he was my dh he would be sleeping in his car for week !!!

Edited by nictoddie]]> Fri, 22 Jun 2007 14:56:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165077&title=worried#165077 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165076&title=worried#165076 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 8392
Posted: 22 June 2007 at 2:54pm

lizzle wrote: i have on occasiona worried. i plan to get life insurance for him to ease my woes.

PMSL at your comment hehe

I a big worry wart!! Can't stop myself!!! Oh well]]> Fri, 22 Jun 2007 14:54:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=165076&title=worried#165076 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=164008&title=worried#164008 Author: lil_miss
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 7:59pm

I think its a female thing :) I dont know many ppl who dont.. ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 19:59:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=164008&title=worried#164008 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163925&title=worried#163925 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 4:05pm

busymum wrote: lizzle wrote: i have on occasiona worried. i plan to get life insurance for him to ease my woes. That would ease your worries?

We're talking about Liz here... of course it would ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 16:05:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163925&title=worried#163925 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163909&title=worried#163909 Author: Bel
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 3:41pm

I worry the same, Dh has a motorbike, an ever since I have been pregnant I worry that he won't come back... I can't sleep if he isn't home, and try and make him text me when arriving/before leaving places...

He just thinks I am crazy for worrying, but he tries hard to stay in contact, because now he knows that I do worry...]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 15:41:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163909&title=worried#163909 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163872&title=worried#163872 Author: busymum
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 2:35pm

oooo megrac Then I'd be freaked out everytime he went to the pub ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 14:35:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163872&title=worried#163872 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163837&title=worried#163837 Author: megrac
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 1:57pm

i do the same and cant sleep if he has gone out with his mates or if he goes for a long drive. but i have had the dreaded phone call before when he was a fisherman thay were on land for the night and thay had a few drinks at the clubs in taruranga and some 4 ramdon large guys he didnt even know (we do even come from there ) decided that it was a good idear to beat him up. his mum rang me in the morning and said he was i the hospital. he dosent rember much but he had broken = nose, eyebrow, coller bone and ribs and swolen so bad he had foot prints on his chest, and he had stitches in his eyebrow as well. thay did catch the guys thanks to a nice lady who saw the whole thing from her car and called the cops. and thay got taken to court and convivted and thay had to pay us out some money. the scrarist thing is that a week later a guy was killed the same way in tarunga. ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 13:57:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163837&title=worried#163837 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163788&title=worried#163788 Author: shaz
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 12:34pm


I do the same I think it's just natural to worry, what are we going to be like when our kids start going out.
No actually it's probably better not to start thinking about that yet. My eldest is 11 so it will start far to soon.
]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 12:34:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163788&title=worried#163788 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163738&title=worried#163738 Author: Guests
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 11:12am

If R is late coming home from work I get more annoyed than worried now, some of the skills I have learned for managing my anxiety problems are really useful in situations like these though - positive self-talk, challenging negative thoughts, and of course good old Rescue Remedy!]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 11:12:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163738&title=worried#163738 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163724&title=worried#163724 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 10:46am

i do it too, especially with some of the stories mike tells me about their antics when they all go travelling for speedway etc.

that and i know sometimes when we aren't in the car he isn't the best.. has stopped as far as i know now that he has kids to think of. he once got from palmy (by the esplanade) to sitting down in wanganui speedway... in 22 minutes. he got home and told me and i went nuts at him.]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 10:46:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163724&title=worried#163724 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163721&title=worried#163721 Author: caraMel
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 10:43am

I'm the same! So glad you posted this, I thought I was just an excessive case!]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 10:43:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163721&title=worried#163721 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163684&title=worried#163684 Author: daikini
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 9:53am

I worry too... I know it's irrational, but I can console myself with the knowledge that Nat worries just as much if I'm out alone!]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 09:53:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163684&title=worried#163684 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163675&title=worried#163675 Author: hailstones
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 9:29am

I am the same aimeejoy - the volunteer fire alarm is VERY close to us and it often means accidents too (we live down the otago peninsula and people often go into the harbour), when it goes off I freak and ring DH, I worry even more now that we are getting heaps of frosts as the road get VERY icy! Can't help it! ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 09:29:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163675&title=worried#163675 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163647&title=worried#163647 Author: Paws
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 8:33am

I always worry when B bikes to work...Albany highway can be nasty and goodness knows so many drivers don't give a stuff about cyclists!! The number of times I was pushed off the road cycling to work! ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 08:33:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163647&title=worried#163647 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163639&title=worried#163639 Author: busymum
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 8:20am

lizzle wrote: i have on occasiona worried. i plan to get life insurance for him to ease my woes.

That would ease your worries?]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 08:20:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163639&title=worried#163639 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163637&title=worried#163637 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 8:19am

I'm the same. DF drives an hour to work each day (no not too bad I know but all on SH1). I worry all the time. When he was working long days I worried more...but he knows this and is "quite" good at texting me to tell me I can go back to sleep he is nearly home. ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 08:19:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163637&title=worried#163637 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163625&title=worried#163625 Author: Leish
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 7:57am

LOL Chovynz - thats what I was thinking. I worry if hubby has been away longer than he says and doesn't answer phone or texts and when he does get home - all happy and alive - I am so pi$$ed with him for making me worry and not answering my calls or texts... It's kinda funny. ]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 07:57:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163625&title=worried#163625 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163610&title=worried#163610 Author: lizzle
Subject: 8392
Posted: 20 June 2007 at 7:02am

i have on occasiona worried. i plan to get life insurance for him to ease my woes.]]> Wed, 20 Jun 2007 07:02:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163610&title=worried#163610 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163593&title=worried#163593 Author: MILF
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 11:11pm

i worry about dh when he is late home from work - he takes a scooter to work and i always imagine him having an accident or some stupid car driver ignoring him on it.... then i get REALLY ratty when he does get home... ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 23:11:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163593&title=worried#163593 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163590&title=worried#163590 Author: Chovynz
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:48pm

Pshh... women....
You make yourselves sick with worry then get angry at us for not actually having anything wrong....!!!! ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:48:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163590&title=worried#163590 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163587&title=worried#163587 Author: busymum
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:42pm

It's not rational but women aren't rational

I do. I'm getting better, but if it seems unusually long that DH has been out, the thoughts go through my mind. Of course I tell myself how silly it is, but I can't help but feel a little relieved when he's home ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:42:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163587&title=worried#163587 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163581&title=worried#163581 Author: emz
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:26pm

Maybe you could try and wean yourself off worrying? I used to worry all the time when DH was away (but you know, with guns and bombs etc I thought I had good reason!) but then I realised after his 5 months in Afghanistan that the only thing you do when you worry and stress out about those things is harm yourself. If it happens, it happens, although I know its hard not to worry, they are big boys and unless he's been in quite a lot of accidents etc is it really rational to worry?

Sorry to be blunt, it is just my opinion and I know that I have an unusual situation where you have to learn to let go so maybe I'm a bit biased on the blaze sie of things]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:26:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163581&title=worried#163581 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163575&title=worried#163575 Author: Roksana
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:18pm

oh Aimee.... I am the same. Today I was phoning Atish and his phone says inactive...I started to stress as he was feeling unwell with tummy bug at work and said he was going home. I was thinking ok why would the damn thing say inactive?? I phoned and phoned and then I just drove home at lunch and there he was. Arrgggg. So we found out that vodafone is having some problems.

And you having preggy hormones also helps. Big hugs!!]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:18:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163575&title=worried#163575 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163572&title=worried#163572 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:12pm

He has finally just text now (10pm) to say he's on his way home... Grrr.]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:12:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163572&title=worried#163572 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163567&title=worried#163567 Author: miss
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:08pm

I worry if Dh is out and I text him but dont hear back - usually its because he has put it on silent then left it somewhere where he cant fel the vibrations. But it always me worry heaps, then i get angry.]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:08:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163567&title=worried#163567 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163562&title=worried#163562 Author: Paws
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 10:00pm

Thank freaking goodness I'm not the only nutcase whose like that!!!

I tend to worry too if B is going somewhere big and I like to hear from him....heck if I don't hear from him all day I've been known to worry.

Gosh I'm a dag! ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:00:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163562&title=worried#163562 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163559&title=worried#163559 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:59pm

So not just you Aimee. Whenever DH goes away I am very worried when he either doesn't answer his phone or takes a while to respond to a txt.]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:59:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163559&title=worried#163559 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163533&title=worried#163533 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:19pm

From our house we can hear the fire siren (volunteer fire service here) and it usually means accident, if Daniel has recently left home and it goes off I totally freak! So glad its not just me, and it has got lots worse since we had Han.]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:19:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163533&title=worried#163533 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163530&title=worried#163530 Author: Maya
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:15pm

Big hugs Aimee! I am exactly the same! Whenever I hear there's been a truck involved in an accident I ring Willie immediately, and I've been known to call his dispatcher and make them call him on the RT if he doesn't answer his phone

I worry about my family too, when I'm staying at Mum and Dad's I stay up and worry myself sick if my sister stays out too late, yet when I'm here I have no idea how late she is so I don't worry.

Completely irrational - and completely normal!]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:15:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163530&title=worried#163530 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163529&title=worried#163529 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:14pm

Phew, was beginning to seriously worry about my mental health. Thank you so much. ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:14:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163529&title=worried#163529 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163528&title=worried#163528 Author: Bumble
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:12pm

Its normal... I do that too...

My DH travels a heck of a lot. Like in 2.5 yrs he has done 77thou k's. and he does things like travel to Tauranga and back in a day (i.e. leave at 6 home at 6..) that kind of thing. He has had this job for 6 yrs and I still freak out when he travels.....

My "thing" that I do is donate to the Westpac Rescue Helicopter Trust...I figure the year that I dont donate will be the year he needs it....]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:12:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163528&title=worried#163528 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163527&title=worried#163527 Author: Brenna
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:12pm

HUGS!!! I'm just the same and it's worse since Brenna's arrived. I worry that he'll be in an accident then Brenna and I will be all our own

I'm sure you'll hear from DH any minute ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:12:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163527&title=worried#163527 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163522&title=worried#163522 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8392
Posted: 19 June 2007 at 9:07pm

I know we have talked a bit before about fears and stuff, but do any of you get really worried when your significant other is out? Whenever Daniel goes anywhere (not around town, but out of town driving somewhere) I spend the whole evening quietly worrying that something will happen (car crash) and he won't come home. I am almost waiting for a policeman to turn up on my doorstep I'm fine if he texts me when he gets there and when he leaves, but he usually forgets or is out of range. Tonight he has gone up the bay, left at 6 and was meant to text when he got there but didnt. I sent a message but no reply. My rational mind is saying he is most likely our of range, but still sitting here worried. Is this normal, or is it starting to go a bit far (like getting so worked up I cry, not always but has happened)? ]]> Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:07:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8392&PID=163522&title=worried#163522