https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:25:45 +0000 Sat, 07 Jul 2007 13:38:44 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=8841 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174485&title=what-to-do#174485 Author: MyMinis
Subject: 8841
Posted: 07 July 2007 at 1:38pm

I agree with Leish aswell.
Hope it all works out for you.
]]> Sat, 07 Jul 2007 13:38:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174485&title=what-to-do#174485 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174284&title=what-to-do#174284 Author: Kels
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 10:00pm

I agree with Leish about letting her know how you are feeling. Hopefully it will clear things up for you. Goodluck.]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 22:00:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174284&title=what-to-do#174284 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174258&title=what-to-do#174258 Author: Leish
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:37pm

You never know I guess. But if you are feeling like things aren't quite right then I don't think there would be anything wrong with just letting her know how you are feeling. There could be something that just needs to be cleared and if not - hopefully that will get it off your mind and you can start feeling better again. Good luck.]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 21:37:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174258&title=what-to-do#174258 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174097&title=what-to-do#174097 Author: Lisha
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 6:36pm

Thanks I should.. it's funny though as when we are together she acts like nothing is wrong, maybe it is just me?]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 18:36:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174097&title=what-to-do#174097 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174067&title=what-to-do#174067 Author: SMoody
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 5:31pm

Aaah bummer on the 2 hours. Maybe make a girly weekend thing or something perhaps? Agree with Leish, perhaps bring it up with her.

Hugs]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 17:31:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174067&title=what-to-do#174067 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174018&title=what-to-do#174018 Author: Leish
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 4:14pm

Thats so sad Lisha . In your situation I think I would feel the same and would have hoped that my friend and I would have been brought closer together having children who are close-ish in age. But I guess that isn't always the case.

She might not ask for advice out of pride. I know I can be a bit like that.

I agree with Shirena and maybe try to arrange a get togther with her to see how things go between the two of you. Perhaps if you feel some distance between the two of you then, it might be an idea to either bring it up with her to see if there is something actually wrong or just move on. Good luck and big hugs. ]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 16:14:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=174018&title=what-to-do#174018 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173974&title=what-to-do#173974 Author: Lisha
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:20pm

The problem is that she lives 2 hours away, to far to go for a day trip! I did expect things to change, but not as far as not returning my emails or text messages.]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 15:20:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173974&title=what-to-do#173974 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173970&title=what-to-do#173970 Author: SMoody
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:16pm

Maybe it just feels like it is a lot different now that she has a child of her own that she needs to spent time with. We always expect friendships to stay the same and to spent the same amount of time with our friends. But once you have your own family things just change slightly without you even realising.

How about just inviting her over one time with bubs for a cup of coffee and cake and let the kiddies play together.

Some people also tend to not ask advice with their own kids as they either cope or they dont want to upset a friend by not taking their advice afterwards.

But really think you should call her and give you guys the oppurtunity to spent some time together. Or call her and ask her for a girls night out. Some movies ect. (dont be alarmed if she says no. I didnt leave my baby alone at night until she was about 18 months old.)]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 15:16:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173970&title=what-to-do#173970 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173952&title=what-to-do#173952 Author: Lisha
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:56pm

Things changed when she got pregnant... I am lost! Thanks for your reply though! ]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 14:56:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173952&title=what-to-do#173952 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173912&title=what-to-do#173912 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:26pm

Sounds like a tricky family dynamic, with the sisters marying your brothers. Is there a reason why things have gone downhill? Or more that you have drifted apart? I am really sorry that you are feeling so down about it and the preggy hormones will not be helping at all! I dont have much advice sorry, but I'm sure someone on here will have something great. Big hugs.]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 14:26:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173912&title=what-to-do#173912 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173699&title=what-to-do#173699 Author: Lisha
Subject: 8841
Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:06am

I don't know where to start! My brother married my best friend 2 years ago, and the funny thing is that her sister married my other brother a few years before that. I thought great, not only am I gaining a new sister in law, I will still have my best friend! Well, things haven't turned out like that. For one, we hardly talk to eachother anymore, she has a 8 month old, and I thought that she would be asking me for advice and I have had nothing. If she had married someone other than my brother, I think that things would have been fine. And xmas's and get togethers are even worse, as when they all get together, they are in their own "clan" and because I married into a different family it feels like we are always left out. Maybe I am jealous, it always gets me down when I think about it, and I can't even brag to my mum as she thinks the sun shines out of my best friends bum!!! She has an 8 mth that she spends sooo much time with and is over the top with, I am sure that I wasn't like that with my daughter. My brother ( her hubby) and I hardly talk, he thinks that he is too col for me! They are all farmers so maybe we all don't have anything in common. sorry for all the ranting, I just want to know if I should get over it, I am pregnant so this issue is really sensitive, and I get upset easy at the mo!! Is there anyone out there that is in the same suituation?? I just feel like I am drifting away from my family.]]> Fri, 06 Jul 2007 09:06:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8841&PID=173699&title=what-to-do#173699