OHbaby! Forums : Showing your man respect https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 29 Apr 2026 16:28:36 +0000 Mon, 16 Jul 2007 09:53:13 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=9145 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : We are very much a partnership...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180799&title=showing-your-man-respect#180799 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 9145
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:53am

We are very much a partnership - we both recognise that we bring different things into the relationship. DH is great at 'helping' me when he realises that I am not coping or finding something physically challenging, like at the moment I cant unload the drier (find the bending down hurts my back), so he is proactive about doing things like that to help.

DH works prettty hard at the moment (building our future), so I am conscious that I need to be as supportive as possible, even though I sometimes get grumpy that he works too much! I know that its about being part of a team, rather than each of us 'marching to our drum'.

]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 09:53:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180799&title=showing-your-man-respect#180799 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Interesting thread It&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180765&title=showing-your-man-respect#180765 Author: newmum
Subject: 9145
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:08am

Interesting thread

It's funny because in some ways I am a "traditional hausfrau" and like to try and make DH realise that I do appreciate his working "for us". I get up and have brekkie with him and try not to be too bitchy I often sneak little notes into his pockets or lunch box or bag saying I love him or Thank You or I'm proud of him. I cook dinner every night and have it ready for when he comes home, we clean the house together on a Saturday morning (especially at the moment where I am finding it harder and harder to move with my bump ) but this is something we also did before children when I was working full time too, I do all the tidying, washing etc. but don't really mind.

On the other hand... some days I do get really "jealous" of his "time out" at work and am bitchy as hell when he gets home LOL, and some days I just can't be bothered doing everything and I think that is OK too.

I think it is important to show your love, appreciation and respect BUT not in a way that diminishes your own self worth. My hubby knew what he was getting when we got married, LOL, I'm not changing now ]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 09:08:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180765&title=showing-your-man-respect#180765 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : They broke the boat? ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180151&title=showing-your-man-respect#180151 Author: Maya
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:48pm

They broke the boat?]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:48:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180151&title=showing-your-man-respect#180151 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : actually they broke the boat so...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180135&title=showing-your-man-respect#180135 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:42pm

actually they broke the boat so am just leaving him alone....LOL....well apparently is was already broken but..... ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:42:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180135&title=showing-your-man-respect#180135 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : oooohhhh poor baby. bet you are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180131&title=showing-your-man-respect#180131 Author: MILF
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:41pm

oooohhhh poor baby. bet you are so sympathetic to him too! i know i would be ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:41:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180131&title=showing-your-man-respect#180131 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : i think BSDH is asleep on bed...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180128&title=showing-your-man-respect#180128 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:39pm

i think BSDH is asleep on bed watching tv....hes had a hard day on the water....!]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:39:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180128&title=showing-your-man-respect#180128 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Bombshell wrote:AH - HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180106&title=showing-your-man-respect#180106 Author: busymum
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:31pm

Originally posted by Bombshell Bombshell wrote:

AH - HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA are u trying to get BSDH and Chovy on here tonight????


Actually I was hoping for once that they would keep their sticky beaks out lol - well they can read but no smart-arse comments! LOL]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:31:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180106&title=showing-your-man-respect#180106 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : my2angels wrote:Ive been struggling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180091&title=showing-your-man-respect#180091 Author: MILF
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:24pm

Originally posted by my2angels my2angels wrote:

Ive been struggling with this lately, i think we are at that stage where we take each other for granted and dont really appreciate each other. I try not to nag and tell him off like I would the children. I try not to moan and b*tch at him the minute he gets in the door and I try not to be jealous that he has been at work all day, having adult conversation, having a coffee or even lunch in peace without fingers trying to steal his food or fighting and just be happy he came home to us at the end of the day cos to be honest some days I wouldnt want to be coming home to me!


that is so true! has made me think about what it must be like coming home to me and the kidlets.... poor dh some days!]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:24:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180091&title=showing-your-man-respect#180091 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : AH - HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180088&title=showing-your-man-respect#180088 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:24pm

AH - HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA are u trying to get BSDH and Chovy on here tonight????]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:24:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180088&title=showing-your-man-respect#180088 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : I agree robyn sometimes i have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180079&title=showing-your-man-respect#180079 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 9:18pm

I agree robyn sometimes i have to really try hard not to tell him off but it can be hard ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 21:18:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180079&title=showing-your-man-respect#180079 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Ive been struggling with this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180001&title=showing-your-man-respect#180001 Author: my2angels
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 8:13pm

Ive been struggling with this lately, i think we are at that stage where we take each other for granted and dont really appreciate each other. I try not to nag and tell him off like I would the children. I try not to moan and b*tch at him the minute he gets in the door and I try not to be jealous that he has been at work all day, having adult conversation, having a coffee or even lunch in peace without fingers trying to steal his food or fighting and just be happy he came home to us at the end of the day cos to be honest some days I wouldnt want to be coming home to me!]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 20:13:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=180001&title=showing-your-man-respect#180001 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : I guess for us it is that when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179923&title=showing-your-man-respect#179923 Author: miss
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 5:07pm

I guess for us it is that when he does something i don't tell him how to do it (unless he wants me to, we do lots of things together!) and I dont' 'fix' things if they are wrong and I don't take over if i don't like the way he is doing it. He is as capable as me at doing anything and in some cases more so!]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 17:07:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179923&title=showing-your-man-respect#179923 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : I totally agree Emz! I am a control...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179920&title=showing-your-man-respect#179920 Author: Maya
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 4:59pm

I totally agree Emz! I am a control freak so have real issues when things aren't done 'my way' which can be a bit belittling to Willie sometimes. Like I don't 'trust' him with the kids not coz I think he's hurt them but just coz he doesn't do things the same way as me and *obviously* my way is the best, duh! But when he thinks I am getting too naggy and overbearing he does tell me to sod off, altho for the most part he humours me and I think that is why we have a half-decent relationship - coz he does what he's told.]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 16:59:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179920&title=showing-your-man-respect#179920 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Mine&#039;s trying not to mother...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179917&title=showing-your-man-respect#179917 Author: emz
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 4:56pm

Mine's trying not to mother him - you know, actually respecting his opinions although you know that you would do it a different way etc. A lot of women (especially me) seem to have a lot of power in that regard, so I try to give some back to DH.]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 16:56:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179917&title=showing-your-man-respect#179917 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : We are pretty similar although...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179915&title=showing-your-man-respect#179915 Author: Guests
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 4:53pm

We are pretty similar although I don't necessarily see some of the things I do as 'womens' things or his as 'man things', just like Shirena said it is more that the tasks are things we either like doing more, or are better at than the other. ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 16:53:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179915&title=showing-your-man-respect#179915 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : SMoody wrote:We also have our...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179900&title=showing-your-man-respect#179900 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 4:05pm

Originally posted by SMoody SMoody wrote:

We also have our own jobs and dont see it is sexist. He is just better at certain stuff than I am and vice verca.


I agree with this. I know Ben loves having the bed made over him and being made milos so I do it and he takes out the rubbish.]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 16:05:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179900&title=showing-your-man-respect#179900 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Lulu wrote:I reckon it has...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179896&title=showing-your-man-respect#179896 Author: SMoody
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 3:56pm

Originally posted by Lulu Lulu wrote:

I reckon it has a lot to do with building your man up and making him feel like he's a great provider/worker/partner...etc. People laugh at me and think I'm mad for getting up at the crack of dawn everyday to make brekkie in bed for DH and a packed lunch, but to me it's a small thing that he loves and appreciates. I think alot of Woman 'de-man' their Men these days and the Men are left wondering what their role is. While I am all for the liberation of Women, I still think there are Men's tasks and Women's tasks. I think recognising this shows respect to your Man...
Works for us anyway!


It works for us as well. Everyone thinks I am mad making him lunch ect. Dont get up for him for breakfast anymore unless my dad is nearby. He insist that hubby needs coffee as soon as he comes into the door. We also have our own jobs and dont see it is sexist. He is just better at certain stuff than I am and vice verca. ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 15:56:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179896&title=showing-your-man-respect#179896 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : I reckon it has a lot to do with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179893&title=showing-your-man-respect#179893 Author: Lulu
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 3:49pm

I reckon it has a lot to do with building your man up and making him feel like he's a great provider/worker/partner...etc. People laugh at me and think I'm mad for getting up at the crack of dawn everyday to make brekkie in bed for DH and a packed lunch, but to me it's a small thing that he loves and appreciates. I think alot of Woman 'de-man' their Men these days and the Men are left wondering what their role is. While I am all for the liberation of Women, I still think there are Men's tasks and Women's tasks. I think recognising this shows respect to your Man...
Works for us anyway!]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 15:49:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179893&title=showing-your-man-respect#179893 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Respect? erm ... no. I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179888&title=showing-your-man-respect#179888 Author: ginger
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 3:22pm

Respect? erm ... no. I'm forever telling my DH he's an idiot    No man respect in this house! ]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 15:22:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179888&title=showing-your-man-respect#179888 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : Good luck with that!!! Did you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179862&title=showing-your-man-respect#179862 Author: Lissy
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 2:32pm

Good luck with that!!!   Did you read that article in the Womens Day?]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 14:32:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179862&title=showing-your-man-respect#179862 <![CDATA[Showing your man respect : I heard a while back that women...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179855&title=showing-your-man-respect#179855 Author: busymum
Subject: 9145
Posted: 14 July 2007 at 2:23pm

I heard a while back that women need/give love and men need/give respect... and that it's hard for men to learn to love their women and similarly hard for women to learn to respect their men. Certainly for me this is true, I haven't a clue what 'male respect' is!! Anyone got any tried and true success/advice on this one?]]> Sat, 14 Jul 2007 14:23:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9145&PID=179855&title=showing-your-man-respect#179855