OHbaby! Forums : DH question. What can I do? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 05 May 2026 00:04:43 +0000 Mon, 16 Jul 2007 20:36:44 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=9173 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Oh my gosh ginger I feel your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181363&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181363 Author: Guests
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 8:36pm

Oh my gosh ginger I feel your pain.

My DH has a problem with not finding the clothes basket, he only ever finds the floor, being floor in general, not just in bathroom or bedroom I am talking the whole house!
I have tried it all, do it myself, leave it, throw it in the rubbish (now that became a battle) buy more laundry baskets.

No luck. I have now had to resort to just doing it myself!

]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 20:36:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181363&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181363 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : It is hard ginger. I have to say...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181204&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181204 Author: miss
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 5:30pm

It is hard ginger. I have to say that I am like your DH, in that I am messy. Plus I just don't 'see' the mess that Dh sees. I wouldn't notice the shoes if they were mine. And no matter how many times I was reminded, I still wouldn't notice them. I would remember the first couple of times after being asked, then I would forget again. i don't do it on purpose! I just have eyes like a man!

Not that that helps any, but I am sure he doesn't mean to upset you!]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 17:30:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181204&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181204 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Ezza!! Oh good heavens! *sniffle*...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181056&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181056 Author: ginger
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 2:42pm

Ezza!! Oh good heavens! *sniffle* I think most of us with dogs have a shoe disaster to speak of (I have 1x shoe disaster, 1x wallet disaster, and countless x phone cord and xmas light disasters ... don't ask!) but 4??!!


We had success yesterday!

We took the dogs for a walk, and although the boots came into the house on his feet, and walked through to the lounge, he sat on the couch, took them off and then walked them back to the hot water cupboard that I cleaned out yesterday for him to store his crap in I'm not sure what happened to the work boots this morning - I was still half asleep when I left the house

I also bought a trug yesterday afternoon, and all the dog walking crap that piles up by the front door got biffed in that, and post-dog walk, that's where it ended up again. So, progress!

The next step, if we don't manage to maintain this, is Emma's suggestion

And from there, I'm just going to work my way through the list that you've all contributed to! Thanks!!]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 14:42:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181056&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181056 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : I think Jen had a special box...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181013&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181013 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 2:02pm

I think Jen had a special box made for her hubby where she shoved all his crap when he left it out.. I liked that.

Anyway, sounds like you've got the idea making it easy for him to put them somewhere that isn't the lounge floor... how's he doing?]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 14:02:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181013&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181013 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : i love shoes and i was almost...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181006&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181006 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 1:57pm

i love shoes and i was almost getting teary reading your post ezza lol

i like emmas idea about the stick and the idea about throwing them outside, and the one about the rubbish
Put a sign where they are supposed to go saying "put your effing shoes here buddy " (or worse words if you want)
]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 13:57:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=181006&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#181006 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Put the shoes in the rubbish bin....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180914&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180914 Author: ezza
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 12:36pm

Put the shoes in the rubbish bin. When he comes looking for them, tell him you put them where all the garbage lying on the floor goes.

I stopped leaving my shoes around when DF let the puppy eat 4 pairs (yes it took four for me to listen, my handmade three tone leather peep toes were the final straw - the puppy had to go on a "holiday" for a week till i calmed down LOL, i still get teary thinking about those shoes).



]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 12:36:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180914&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180914 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Id ask him when he comes in are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180803&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180803 Author: WRXnKids
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 10:03am

Id ask him when he comes in are those going to stay there and if he says yes pick them up and throw them outside rain or no rain while he is watching id only have to do it a couple of times before he would learn or give him the 'what the hell do you think your doing look' DP always thinks twice about what he might be doing wrong when i look at him like that]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 10:03:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180803&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180803 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : He knows it gets to you, he knows...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180708&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180708 Author: rug_nz
Subject: 9173
Posted: 16 July 2007 at 6:34am

He knows it gets to you, he knows you don't like it and the more you go on about it the more he will do it.

Leave them, clean around them, if you move them, put them away, he knows he doesn't have to, prob gets a kick out of #$%^ you off.]]> Mon, 16 Jul 2007 06:34:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180708&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180708 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : My solution to everything - beat...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180620&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180620 Author: Maya
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 9:13pm

My solution to everything - beat him with a big stick! ]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 21:13:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180620&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180620 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Ginger when I had Hannah, she...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180600&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180600 Author: busymum
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 8:57pm

Ginger when I had Hannah, she was a c/s delivery so my MIL came over to help out for a bit. She was trying to put a load of washing on and she asked me whether DH's socks on the front door step needed washing or not.
Her: "What are the socks by the front door waiting for?"
Me: "I don't actually know"
Her: "Do they need washing?"
Me: "Nope, cause DH knows if they need washing, to put them in the basket"

To this day I think she and Dh's father both think I'm a bit of a control freak (my mum is ) and I have even seen FIL cast pitying looks at my DH sometimes, when I have dared to argue his point! ]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 20:57:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180600&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180600 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Hehe. Well, I&#039;ve bought...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180468&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180468 Author: ginger
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 4:25pm

Hehe. Well, I've bought the trugs to dump all the dog walking etc stuff in, and cleaned out the hot water cupboard RIGHT BY THE DOOR to make it easier to take boots off ... lets see how we go!

Hiding stuff is not a good option as then everything gets turfed inside out and backwards (wardrobes etc) and then left like that ... ]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 16:25:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180468&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180468 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Garage???? Car Port???? and have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180413&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180413 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 3:04pm

Garage???? Car Port???? and have slippers or something else there that he can transfer to in order to encourage leaving the messy ones there???

DH knows to leave his outside...only trouble is we now have dead shoes all round the yard - esp when the dogs pick them up and run away with them....]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 15:04:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180413&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180413 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : Ok are they &#039;supposed&#039;...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180406&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180406 Author: busymum
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 2:50pm

Ok are they 'supposed' to go somewhere close to the door, nice and accessible? Or do they live in the bedroom at the end of the hall? Try to make it practical/easy for the shoes to 'walk home'

I'd be tempted to hide the next pair of boots that is left in the way, for a couple of days... but that would be a bit more son-ish not husband-ish ]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 14:50:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180406&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180406 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : A very special cardboard box to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180400&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180400 Author: SuziE
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 2:36pm

A very special cardboard box to put them all in ... you could decorate the outside of it all pretty ... he may get the hint???    ]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 14:36:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180400&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180400 <![CDATA[DH question. What can I do? : DH and I are opposites on the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180396&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180396 Author: ginger
Subject: 9173
Posted: 15 July 2007 at 2:16pm

DH and I are opposites on the clean and tidy front. I love things being clean, and I work really hard to keep them that way, whereas DH is very relaxed. That's ok - I understand that we're different, and that for me to have the house the way I really want it, I have to put a bit extra in eg. DH will clean the mud off his boots in the laundry, and leave mud splatters all down the cupboards, the walls etc. So, I clean it up.

He does help, don't get me wrong. He does washing, changes the bed, does the vacuuming etc for example.

One thing that really upsets me though is the constant battle we have is over his shoes and boots living everywhere but where they should live. At the moment, I have 3 pairs of dirty shoes on the carpet in the lounge, one pair of work boots, and one pair of very mud encrusted tramping boots. I've tried throwing them out the door, I've tried putting them in a pile so he can see how ridiculous it is, I've tried putting them away, and I've tried, several times, to explain to him that when I work so hard to keep the house tidy, it does actually upset and hurt me that he refuses to do something so simple as to leave something which will create extra work for me, where it won't. How hard is it for example, to mow the lawns then take your boots off before coming inside and leave them in the garage or on the porch, instead of walking into the lounge, taking them off and leaving them, grass clippings, mud and all, on the carpet?

I can deal with most of his other stuff which creates extra work for me, but this is sort of the straw that constantly breaks the camel's back.

What else can I do? It's such a simple thing, and I manage it just fine.

Of course, it didn't help that I put his boots out on the porch the other night because they were all muddy, and it rained horozontal into the porch. Argh

So, what would you guys try next?

I am going to go and buy a trug this afternoon, in the hope that he might take his boots/shoes off and at least leave them in there.]]> Sun, 15 Jul 2007 14:16:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9173&PID=180396&title=dh-question-what-can-i-do#180396