No peace I will PM you her name tho.  I not like to name and shame.

OMG Andie that is awful I would have been the same stunned into slience.

Katherine wrote: There are a lot of working mums on this board, myself included, and I think we all need to be sensitive to the fact that mothers face many difficult issues and decisions with regards to whether they want to stay home full-time, work part-time and stay home part-time, work full-time, or any number of configurations of these options. Many mothers who work don't have a choice about the matter, and they are no less women OR mothers because they choose to work -- I don't think anyone would dispute that. Many women do have a choice about working, and make the choice to go back to work after having their children, for various reasons -- again, that does not make them "lesser women" or "lesser mothers". We don't know the circumstances of the doctor's childcare arrangements, and it's not fair to speculate on them. The issue here is that the doctor's handling of her patient's situation was inappropriate, and that is what loadsofkids is posting about. Let's try to give her options and creative solutions rather than taking sideswipes at the doctor's personal circumstances, because they are frankly irrelevant to the topic -- just like the doctor's mentioning her child was completely irrelevant to loadsofkids' situation, and should never have occurred. The moral of this cautionary tale: Stick to the topic!

Exactly well said Kathrine.

I was not in anyway taking a dig at this woman as a Mother or a woman for that matter her doctoering skills could do wih some help tho.  I do not agree with the comment's BS highlighted.  I personally chosr to stay home with my boy's at this stage and that certainly does not make me any better then any Mother who choses to go out to work.  We all do what is best for us and our families and to be honest if i had a job that made it worth my while to go back and work then i would in a heart beat.

There are a lot of working mums on this board, myself included, and I think we all need to be sensitive to the fact that mothers face many difficult issues and decisions with regards to whether they want to stay home full-time, work part-time and stay home part-time, work full-time, or any number of configurations of these options. Many mothers who work don't have a choice about the matter, and they are no less women OR mothers because they choose to work -- I don't think anyone would dispute that. Many women do have a choice about working, and make the choice to go back to work after having their children, for various reasons -- again, that does not make them "lesser women" or "lesser mothers". We don't know the circumstances of the doctor's childcare arrangements, and it's not fair to speculate on them. The issue here is that the doctor's handling of her patient's situation was inappropriate, and that is what loadsofkids is posting about. Let's try to give her options and creative solutions rather than taking sideswipes at the doctor's personal circumstances, because they are frankly irrelevant to the topic -- just like the doctor's mentioning her child was completely irrelevant to loadsofkids' situation, and should never have occurred. The moral of this cautionary tale: Stick to the topic!

Loadsofkids, I personally feel that your doctor behaved inappropriately, and that you have every right to be upset at the way you were treated. I think it would be totally appropriate for you to write a letter to the practice explaining how you don't appreciate being treated in this manner, and that you expect an apology in writing from the doctor or you will take the matter further. She should never have mentioned her own child's experience in relation to your child's situation, because it is completely irrelevant. Every child is different, and as a doctor, she should understand that her job is to ensure your children's health, not belittle your parenting skills.

Besides that, I would definitely consider seeing another doctor next time. Is there another practice in the area that you could switch to? Is there another doctor at the practice that you could visit instead? You deserve to be listened to and have your concerns addressed, not made to feel paranoid and stupid. Hang in there -- your feelings are legitimate! 

Bombshell wrote: was this a doc at an a and e and not your usual doc??? if so complain.... I have to say i find some of the immigrant docs the worst...esp asian female ones...they are so clueless...and i had to complain about one DH went and saw at ascot last year...her bedside manner and diagnosis left a lot to be desired!!! Complain about your treatment....that is so not on!

Funny thing about this is she was a kiwi doctor had seh been form oversea's i would have understood abit better.

She is not my GP i went into the walk in clinic and my doc surgery  Iam planning ot make an appointment with my doc next week.

COMPLAIN COMPLAIN COMPLAIN!!!!!! that is so not on..... what an idiot!! i wouldn't put something on my childs head for nits that had to be left for 12hr!!! not good...what kind of doctor is that, obviously a Pharmac doc...

i feel sorry for her, that she has a 20mth old and obvisouly doesn't stay at home and care for her kids, no wonder it's never been sick, she probably fills it up on drugs all the time..... sounds like a jealous cow who probably had kids as an accessory!!!

Your a mother,  you know when your kids are off, you are with them 24/7..... she has no right, i mean for goodness sake, if you don't take them to the doc you get criticised, for not being a caring mother, but if you don then you still cop it...

I would so complain and make a big stink... what ever happend to patient confidentiality!!! she can't discuss your case with others!!!!

Get in there babe and complain!!!!

Just an example...my girlfriend went the the after hours medical centre when she was 4mths preggy, as she had some cramps and bleeding....her first and she was rightfully worried....saw this idiot male, who didn't even check her, no ultrasound nothing and said" you are having a miscarriage, go home and wait for it to come out"... bill ..$75...thank you ver much!!!

No miscarriage, beautiful baby, she was so distressed, he was such an ass, so i took her the monday to her GP at the time, no miscarriage, emergency ultrasound, reason was the had a bit to of a hard relations that night!!!

she complained to the afterhrs, and medical board, it was removed from the after hours registra as he had apparently had several complaints....

it pays to complain, i mean you pay her!!!! she works for us!!!!

  I went to the doctor yesterday as both boy's have had a constant cold for about 2 month's alan has been pulling on and complaining about his ear and Mikey has had really yucky runny nose.   I saw this doctor who was so mean she made me feel like a paranoid Mummy comment's like"dont' know what Mum is on about the boy's are in perfect health"   Then she informed me that she has a 20 month old who has never been to the doctor.  Like I needed to know that.  She then told  me that I can't befeedign them the right food that is why they are sick.  This is after she told me there was nothing wrong.  She never addressed the fact that Mikey had been throwing up and off his food.  And then made a huige fuss abouth the nit's and how she needed to itch when I told.  That is fine, but after all she had said it jsut made me feel even worse.  She then precribed something for the nit's that needed to be left in for 12 hour's ithout him touch his head or getting it in his eyes.  Then when we were leaving she forgot to give us the darn script and we had to wait till she had finished with the her next pacitent.  And I could hear her still going on about the nit's as she came out of the room to give us the script.  She made me feel so small the whole time i was in there.  I have calmed down now,  but yesaterday  was a diffent story.   I thight maybe I was over reacting cause I had had a bad day, but I talked to DH (who was there as well) he totally agreeded with me.  I can't believe she feel's she is in such a place to make me feel so small and stupid.

Oh and we now know why Mikey as not been well he has just popped abig tooth which no doubt she would have seen when she looke in his mouth.