https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 11:30:17 +0000 Tue, 07 Aug 2007 18:08:24 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=9709 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193192&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193192 Author: Kels
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 6:08pm

 Big hugs Teresa! You and family are in my prayers!]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 18:08:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193192&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193192 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193156&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193156 Author: james
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 5:10pm

aww hunny i,m so sorry for your loss big hugs my gran died this year aswell bigt big hugs ]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 17:10:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193156&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193156 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193064&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193064 Author: Spudling
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 3:26pm

busymum, wishing you all the strenght you need to help you through. Grannys are so important and even though they are old and we all know that they are going to go before us, it still is a massive kick in the guts when they die.

You are always so supportive, friendly and helpful on this forum, please take a break of looking after everyone else and put yourself first this next few days.
]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 15:26:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193064&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193064 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193047&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193047 Author: Andie
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 2:56pm

Aw, Teresa - big  to you in your grief.  I'm grandparent-less now and I know it's a deep type of loss, losing a grandy - they've been there as long as you've ever known.  Take care, and I hope having family come to stay works out well for you, rather than being stressful.  ]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:56:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193047&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193047 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193007&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193007 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 2:30pm

]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:30:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=193007&title=need-to-have-a-cry#193007 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192974&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192974 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 1:59pm

to you and your family Theresa.]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 13:59:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192974&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192974 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192953&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192953 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 1:34pm

im so sorry for your loss teresa, my grandma passed away in march and i still miss her so much, my thoughts are with you xx]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 13:34:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192953&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192953 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192945&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192945 Author: susieq
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 1:19pm

Big hugs Theresa]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 13:19:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192945&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192945 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192915&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192915 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 12:30pm

oh teresa i'm so sorry! ]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 12:30:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192915&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192915 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192913&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192913 Author: ginger
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 12:30pm

Oh, Teresa ... it's so hard and the thing is with the people we love, we never stop missing them, not really, and grief is always there - sometimes it's a heavy burden, and sometimes it's not so bad.

My Mum's parents died when I was 9 and 15 respectively, and I still, all these years later, cry when I think of them - that they've missed out on my adulthood, and that I've missed out on knowing them as people ... and just missing them in general. It's such an ache.

I didn't really know my Grandma on my Dad's side, but was just getting to know my Grandpa when he died a few years ago now and it's still so hard to think of him

Most of us understand how hard it is to lose a family member, especially a close one, and we're all here for you ... and don't ever worry about how the grief hits you - the very nature of grief is that it's a bit unpredictable (sp?).

Thinking of you xoxo]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 12:30:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192913&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192913 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192908&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192908 Author: Maya
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 12:22pm

Big hugs Teresa, I hope getting it all out was cathartic. Best of luck with the funeral and with the impending onslaught of relatives. Try not to worry too much, the next few days will probably pass in a blur. And make sure that Chovynz is looking after you! ]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 12:22:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192908&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192908 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192896&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192896 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 11:58am

Teresa sorry to hear about your Granny, My great aunty died a few months agoa dn she was the one that kept the family together now it's like who is going to do it. Def try to get some time to yourself even if it is only a few minutes alone in the shower.]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:58:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192896&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192896 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192886&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192886 Author: Guests
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 11:41am

]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:41:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192886&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192886 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192872&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192872 Author: my2angels
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 11:15am

sorry to hear bout your grandmother. With everything going on make sure you make some time for yourself or you will go crazy]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:15:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192872&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192872 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192867&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192867 Author: nictoddie
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 11:02am

awww teresa hun big hugs to you , I hope that you get through today and have the strength to get through tomorrow, My grandad passed away 3 years ago and I miss him like crazy if lived in Levin and I would make sure I went and saw him at least once a fornight and when Braedon was born I made the trip weekly he was so proud of him it was just nice to see, I am having a cry with you. ]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:02:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192867&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192867 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192828&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192828 Author: daikini
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:31am

Thinking of you, Teresa. My nana passed away in 2000 so I understand the mess of emotions you are feeling.]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:31:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192828&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192828 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192826&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192826 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:30am

Sorry to hear that busymum but even though it will be sad you will probably find lots to smile about and be proud of. I remember when my Nana died I was really upset at her funeral but afterwards I got to meet all her extended family who are fantastic (lost one, gained half adozen) and we all sat around and compared stories of her shocking driving (we had all been sworn to secrecy by her). We all ended up laughing and now I smile and laugh when I think of her.]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:30:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192826&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192826 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192825&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192825 Author: Gwen_
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:30am

busymum wrote: Gwen there's always the washing line - my frequent visiting place But have you seen the weather in Palmy today! It's wet and freezing!

*looks out the window* hmm good point!]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:30:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192825&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192825 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192822&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192822 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:27am

BIG BIG Hugs Teresa....

]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:27:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192822&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192822 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192817&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192817 Author: busymum
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:22am

Gwen there's always the washing line - my frequent visiting place But have you seen the weather in Palmy today! It's wet and freezing!]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:22:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192817&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192817 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192809&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192809 Author: Faraway
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:20am

to you and your family today.]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:20:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192809&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192809 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192801&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192801 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:14am

Hugs to you.

Your Granny sounds like an amazing woman, and while there will be sadness, I can see her funeral being a celebration of an amazing life, and an inspiration to you and your generation of what one woman can achieve.

I could say its all part of the grieving process, and very normal. But that doesn't make it any easier don't be too hard on yourself.

Give your girls extra cuddles.

]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:14:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192801&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192801 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192796&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192796 Author: Gwen_
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:08am


I am so sorry about your Grandma, Is there any way you could just go outside and have amoment to your self or can be alone to gather you thought or reflect?
xxx If you ever need to talk you know where I am !]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:08:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192796&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192796 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192793&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192793 Author: becsscolly
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 10:04am

Hugs!]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:04:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192793&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192793 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192788&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192788 Author: busymum
Subject: 9709
Posted: 07 August 2007 at 9:57am

My Granny passed away suddenly last Friday and the funeral is tomorrow. I'm really having a hard time coming to terms with it all. She was reasonably fit and still in her own home - I just didn't think it would happen yet. My grief is coming in waves and sometimes I'm fine but then other times I just feel a bit overwhelmed, and that's generally followed by me getting kinda distracted and the kids mucking around and then I snap at them

Today I'm trying to make sure the dishes and washing are up to date (Only one more load to do of each plus heaps of folding) and I thought it would help for tomorrow if I could half-pack. (We leave by 11am tomorrow so still a lot of time but I don't like leaving everything to the last minute if I can help it.) But it's a big week and this afternoon I'm meeting with my MIL and SIL to discuss FIL's 50th birthday celebrations on Saturday night (it's a surprise party) and on Friday afternoon/evening two of his sisters are coming to stay at our place until Sunday. (They are in Auck.) One of them is a little bit crazy but the other is a minister's wife so hopefully she will help lol. (We are the only ones of their family with room to put them up - even floor space - but we've said we can only do two days and they are going to stay at Backpacker's for the Sunday night.)

My granny is the second oldest in the family. She's survived by an older brother and a younger brother, whom I've met but don't know well since one lives in Auckland (I've only been to Auck three times) and one in Canada. One of my great-aunts (by marriage) sent through an email the other day with a bit of tribute, I guess it will probably be read at the funeral since they are too old to travel down (both my great-uncles are in rest homes as of the last 2 years). She put down some things that I didn't even know about my granny, like because she was born with a hole in her heart she wasn't actually supposed to have children (she had 4, but one was my dad's twin sister who died in her first week, they were 3lb prem). And now she has 16 grandchildren and 5 great-grandchildren Also her mum was anti-operations and didn't want Granny to have heart surgery but after she died the doctors managed to convince Granny (who was then 40 I think) to undergo the operation, which she did with success but then on the afternoon she got back from that her husband died. I didn't know that either.

Granny was our big link with the family. She would forward us updates from the Auckland/Canada families and even between the Palmy/Waikanae cousins when we left home and started families/got married. She housed the family christening gown and in so doing, made it to all of the grandchildren's dedication ceremonies. We could ask her anything about her parents and her husband (all of whom died well before we were born) and I really felt that she linked us with them somehow.

Now she's gone and there will be a big family gathering tomorrow, which I'm desperately trying to prepare for (food, clothes, all the baby/child type stuff that you NEED even when you go away for a single day). And right now I'm just feeling so very 'low' about it all. Tomorrow's not that far away and I think that's why it has hit me again today (yesterday I was fine - go figure ).

Thanks everyone, just needed to get that load off and cry a bit.]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2007 09:57:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=9709&PID=192788&title=need-to-have-a-cry#192788