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Subject: Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac
Posted: 31 December 2020 at 4:53pm

Recently I was advised here is such a drug for girls who are pregnant or planning to become pregnant, genderex, it recently appeared and I found very little information about it, tell me who can tell you what about it.]]> Thu, 31 Dec 2020 16:53:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5909966&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5909966 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : What are some tips for a new baby and toddler]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5907296&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5907296 Author: Woody
Subject: What are some tips for a new baby and toddler
Posted: 07 August 2018 at 12:46am

Really Fantastic tips, Do you think they get excited about a new toy and show empathy when that toy is lost? ]]> Tue, 07 Aug 2018 00:46:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5907296&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5907296 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples due nov 18]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=46753&PID=5907091&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-nov-18#5907091 Author: User231038
Subject: Pregnant with multiples due nov 18
Posted: 02 May 2018 at 8:08pm

Just wondering if there were any online groups or fb groups that are tailored for twin mums due October / November? I’m struggling to find an online multiples group.]]> Wed, 02 May 2018 20:08:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=46753&PID=5907091&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-nov-18#5907091 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Bad breath during pregnancy]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45159&PID=5906794&title=bad-breath-during-pregnancy#5906794 Author: Gracy205071
Subject: Bad breath during pregnancy
Posted: 27 December 2017 at 9:25pm

Originally posted by Smad1986 Smad1986 wrote:


Hey friends. Happy news. I am pregnant with twins. My previous deliveries were normal ( without the epidural ). Since it is twins I am worried. Is it possible to have the vaginal birth? I have one more concern - bad breath. Is it common during pregnancy? I am planning to visit my family dentistry clinic in Oakville for teeth cleaning session. I never had these issues during my previous pregnancies. Is it recommended during pregnancy? Kindly advice.



Congrats!

Boy or girl?]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2017 21:25:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45159&PID=5906794&title=bad-breath-during-pregnancy#5906794 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : What are some tips for a new baby and toddler]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5900384&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5900384 Author: Glach
Subject: What are some tips for a new baby and toddler
Posted: 23 August 2016 at 7:04pm

great tips!]]> Tue, 23 Aug 2016 19:04:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5900384&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5900384 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5900141&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5900141 Author: RanelleDoubl152826
Subject: Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac
Posted: 09 August 2016 at 8:48pm

I've been So stressed the past 3 weeks. I took a test on July 6th and then they measure me that early. By my lmp I should have been nearly 8 weeks. They told me they thought I was having a missed miscarriage and then the tell me there's two sacs. It's all very confusing and so hard to deal with it all. I have another scan in 3 days and I'll be 6+6 I wanted to wait a little longer but because I've been having bad cramps lmc wants it this week ]]> Tue, 09 Aug 2016 20:48:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5900141&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5900141 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5900126&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5900126 Author: NzVeggie
Subject: Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac
Posted: 09 August 2016 at 4:43pm

5+6 is still very early even for a heart beat at all.
So it may be that one twin is a few days behind (say 5+3 and you wouldn't see a heart beat at all even if it's all normal)
Try not to stress (I know that's hard). When is your next scan?]]> Tue, 09 Aug 2016 16:43:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5900126&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5900126 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5900107&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5900107 Author: RanelleDoubl152826
Subject: Twins??? One heartbeat one empty sac
Posted: 09 August 2016 at 10:36am

So I had an u/s last week that finally showed one baby with a slow heartbeat at 5+6.
But they also found a second sac that was empty. I'm hoping that it's not vanishing twin
Syndrome and that, that sac is just slower developing that the first and next week there will be two heartbeats.
Has anyone experienced this before?? I'm loosing my mind 😞]]> Tue, 09 Aug 2016 10:36:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45195&PID=5900107&title=twins-one-heartbeat-one-empty-sac#5900107 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Bad breath during pregnancy]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45159&PID=5899643&title=bad-breath-during-pregnancy#5899643 Author: Smad1986
Subject: Bad breath during pregnancy
Posted: 20 July 2016 at 9:39pm


Hey friends. Happy news. I am pregnant with twins. My previous deliveries were normal ( without the epidural ). Since it is twins I am worried. Is it possible to have the vaginal birth? I have one more concern - bad breath. Is it common during pregnancy? I am planning to visit my family dentistry clinic in Oakville for teeth cleaning session. I never had these issues during my previous pregnancies. Is it recommended during pregnancy? Kindly advice.



Edited by Kelz - 02 August 2016 at 8:53am]]> Wed, 20 Jul 2016 21:39:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45159&PID=5899643&title=bad-breath-during-pregnancy#5899643 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : What are some tips for a new baby and toddler]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5899641&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5899641 Author: Smad1986
Subject: What are some tips for a new baby and toddler
Posted: 20 July 2016 at 9:29pm

Here are some tips:
http://www.whattoexpect.com/toddler/preparing-for-a-new-baby-sibling]]> Wed, 20 Jul 2016 21:29:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5899641&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5899641 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=5899639&title=stress#5899639 Author: Smad1986
Subject: Stress
Posted: 20 July 2016 at 9:25pm

First of all, congrats on your pregnancy.Your colleague is actually depressed on her miscarriage and envies your twin pregnancy. My advice is to ignore her. There is nothing wrong in your part and there is no need for you to get stressed.You should maintain a peaceful mind. Relax and listen to music. Don't think about this issue.]]> Wed, 20 Jul 2016 21:25:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=5899639&title=stress#5899639 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Can I undergo liposuction after a C- section?]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45113&PID=5899006&title=can-i-undergo-liposuction-after-a-c-section#5899006 Author: Emu
Subject: Can I undergo liposuction after a C- section?
Posted: 21 June 2016 at 3:44pm

Hi, I wouldn't think there would be any problems with it. However it is normal to put on more weight with twins and normal for it to take longer to lose that weight and for your skin to improve in appearance. Many Women who have twins (such as myself) end up with split abdominal muscles and skin that has stretched beyond repair. It is baggy even when you lose the weight and can look like crepe paper. Some younger Mums manage to bounce back. I'm in my late 20s and I think my tummy has improved alot better than Mums at least 10 years older. Even still, tummy tuck is something I really want and they do lipo anyway most of the time alongside.
I'm pretty sure that you have to be done having kids to have an abdominoplasty though and I am just not sure. That is why I thought liposuction may be good in the mean time to at least make my tummy a bit better. I had a C-section and I don't know if it would get in the way of lipo or not but the scar likes to stick in close to my body like a kink even if I do put weight on. I hate it. I so wanted a natural birth and would have been more motivated to get it if I knew what my tummy was going to look like. A tummy tuck would eliminate the c-section scar and surroundings altogether hopefully.
I'm waffling on sorry. Alot of Mums of twins will have been through this dilemma. Have you tried the NZ twin support page on FB? I know one that has good advise on natural births if you are interested but it is an international one. ]]> Tue, 21 Jun 2016 15:44:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45113&PID=5899006&title=can-i-undergo-liposuction-after-a-c-section#5899006 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : What are some tips for a new baby and toddler]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5898263&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5898263 Author: RoberLarson207465
Subject: What are some tips for a new baby and toddler
Posted: 27 May 2016 at 5:19am

The best one is a double Bob, no question. They are really the only one that is on the market that is good, sadly.

Mountain buggy also makes one, but it isn't as nice in my opinion. I wish some energy would go into engineering these things! you can check double jogging stroller.]]> Fri, 27 May 2016 05:19:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5898263&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5898263 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : What are some tips for a new baby and toddler]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5898175&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5898175 Author: nancestberne208638
Subject: What are some tips for a new baby and toddler
Posted: 24 May 2016 at 1:52am

So tips or hacks for people who already have a toddler or small child and are expecting a new baby.]]> Tue, 24 May 2016 01:52:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=45081&PID=5898175&title=what-are-some-tips-for-a-new-baby-and-toddler#5898175 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5823049&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5823049 Author: Hibiscus
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 07 January 2013 at 1:34pm

That's fabulous news Sarah! Such a huge milestone! As Danda said so appropriately earlier in this thread:
Pop over to the Twins, Triplets & More thread, that's where most of the multiple mums and mums to be hang out.]]> Mon, 07 Jan 2013 13:34:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5823049&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5823049 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5823043&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5823043 Author: Sarah_D
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 07 January 2013 at 12:39pm

Just had our anatomy scan, both babies are healthy and have all the right parts.. and they are both boys!]]> Mon, 07 Jan 2013 12:39:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5823043&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5823043 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5822785&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5822785 Author: seagersbaby
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 03 January 2013 at 6:17pm

HI Im 8 week pregnant with twins!!! first pregnancy - big surprise! cant wait to have another scan. ]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 18:17:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5822785&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5822785 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822662&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822662 Author: Danda08
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 01 January 2013 at 4:30pm

Welcome to the crazy world of multiples Nick. As the others have said, all your concerns are completely valid, some will eventuate as you expect and others won't even register.
My advice regarding the pregnancy and delivery would be to prepare yourself but don't stress too much about the whatifs. Take each day as it comes.

There is a saying that only those who can cope are blessed with multiples and IMO that makes your family very lucky .
It will be tough, no doubt about it but the amazing experiences and special moments will outweigh the dramas.

Def get in touch with your local Multiple Birth Club for support and resources. You can hire loads of baby items so a great way to save money.
The NZ Multiple Birth Facebook page is a huge resource for parents of multiples (including a place to vent about all the crazy and unhelpful behaviours you'll experience from friends, family and randoms!)I imagine the Triplets page would be the same so even though you avoid FB it may be worth it for the support.

Talk to some other triplet families before making decisions about buggies etc. You'll benefit from their experiences. The few that I know opt for a double buggy and a good baby carrier cos the triple buggies are enormous.

You'll also be entitled to homehelp hours from WINZ which can be used for a nanny or cleaner etc.

All the best and congratulations

Edited by Danda08 - 01 January 2013 at 4:33pm]]> Tue, 01 Jan 2013 16:30:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822662&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822662 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822635&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822635 Author: Hibiscus
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 01 January 2013 at 1:40am

Hi. I have twins who are now 2.5 years old. The Twins Triplets or More forum on here is great for support and of course your local multiple birth club. Zaylah has triplets but you would have to send her a personal message which she would get as an email as she hasn't been active on here for a while. She is lovely and would most probably be happy to share her experience.]]> Tue, 01 Jan 2013 01:40:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822635&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822635 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822572&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822572 Author: Mrs Mac
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 30 December 2012 at 3:29pm

Triplets would be quite a shock! I don't know if it helps much, but I can help you with one very small thing on your list. One of the guys from Phil & Teds started a new stroller company that makes strollers for multilples. They take up to 4 kids. They look kinda weird, but my cousin has one for her newborn twins + toddler and she loves it. They are called the Adventure Buggy Company

http://adventurebuggycompany.com/products.htm

I suspect the emotional shock is going to be the biggest, but there are probably practical solutions to the other stuff, good luck! ]]> Sun, 30 Dec 2012 15:29:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822572&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822572 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822474&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822474 Author: escadachic
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 29 December 2012 at 10:07am

Also, here's a link to a website for people with or having multiples.

Multiples NZ

They also have them based on your location.

I'm sure it is a scary time for you. But there is plenty of support for people having multiples. I know Zaylah was able to access it and all the people I know who have had twins or more have also.

]]> Sat, 29 Dec 2012 10:07:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822474&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822474 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822473&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822473 Author: escadachic
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 29 December 2012 at 9:59am

This is who you'd be referring to, with the triplets Zaylah

If I did it right that should link you to her profile. She might be able to offer you some advice.

Though she hasn't been online on ohbaby for about a year.

I will see if I can find her on FB and maybe you could message her privately Nick, if you are on FB too.

Edited by escadachic - 29 December 2012 at 10:12am]]> Sat, 29 Dec 2012 09:59:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822473&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822473 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822239&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822239 Author: Sarah_D
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 24 December 2012 at 9:11am

Hi Nick,

Im not in the same position as you, but I do understand the shock. We are in our 30's and never considered having a big family, maybe just one. At a 6 week scan we found out we are expecting twins.

Im 17 weeks now and I still dont think its really sunk in yet. I worry about additional complications that come with multiples also, and since we also had a miscarriage im constantly paranoid that something is wrong.

I think my husband came around to the idea a lot faster and he is understanding that the terrible morning sickness tends to take the shine of anything which is why im not 'excited'.

Have you been in touch with your local Multiple Birth club? They have reading material, coffee groups to meet others with multiples, ante natal class and you can hire equipment, which can take some of the sting out of the initial costs.

We also want to send out kids to private school.. have you looked into the different savings schemes which you can start right from birth to get a head start? how about grandparents, would they be keen to add a bit of cash to a saving scheme rather than buying toys etc in the first few years? maybe its still possible?

Good luck to you and your family Nick! ]]> Mon, 24 Dec 2012 09:11:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822239&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822239 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822193&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822193 Author: Kels152
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 22 December 2012 at 6:33pm

I know what you mean about the age thing - my partner and I are 28 and there will be things that we can't do now with 3 kids - 2 of them babies. But in saying that, we are about to fly to Australia for 3 weeks and will be going camping for a few days there also, this is something we love to do and we want to still be able to do that with our kids - even while we are babies. I think if theres something you still want to do give it a try and you'll soon find out if it can be done or not! All the best :)]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 18:33:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822193&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822193 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822188&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822188 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 22 December 2012 at 2:18pm

Id like to say WELL DONE, its takes a lot to reach out and ask for help and I would think more so for a male, not trying to be sexist but men do tend to be staunch about things lol Sounds like you are a wonderful caring husband and father, enjoy the future :)]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:18:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822188&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822188 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822182&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822182 Author: Nick102027
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 22 December 2012 at 12:40pm

Thank you all. Just by reading some posts on here I feel a little bit better already.

And thank you Kels. I really do hope that what you said about everything will be true in our case, especially with our daughter enjoying her brothers/sisters. I hope too, there will be at least one boy! 5 girls and me, argh! Haha nah, that's the least of my worries.

You're right though, none of these things are the end of the world, but I guess I am still quite young at 29 and I suppose I think that's it for young adult life now. I think we could have had the things we wanted to do as a family of 4 but now it's probably not going to be a reality.
All I can say is that we will be making up on lost time when everyone leaves home 20 odd years from now!! ]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:40:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822182&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822182 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822175&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822175 Author: Kels152
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 22 December 2012 at 11:40am

Hi Nick,

I am a mother of 3 month old twins, and also have a 7 year old daughter. I completely understand how you are feeling, and I know that in time your worries will lessen and you will be as excited as your wife.

My partner and I decided to try for a baby at the end of last year, wanting just 1 more child to complete our family. I had always pictured having a 4 person family also - 2 kids would be enough for me and my partner was the same. We then found out we were having twins. We were shocked, scared, and stressed thinking about what we would do financially, how I would handle two newborns at home alone while my partner was at work, and all the rest of the worries you have.

Then we found out we were having twin girls, and I have to say we were a bit dissapointed - already having a daughter we would have loved to at least have one boy, but it wasnt to be. We got over it after a while and got excited about having 3 girls in the house.

After a while all you care about is having healthy children and doing the best you can for them. A private school may be your dream, but if it doesnt happen is it really the end of the world? Children can have a great education at public schools, and in all honesty you just do what you can!

People ask us now "how do you do it?" and the answer is - you just do. Yes it's hard and there are never enough hands but you work out ways of doing things that make it easier, you will get plenty of help from the government with triplets, and there are plenty of women who have triplet pregnancies and births with no complications. Our pregnancy with twins was fine, no problems whatsoever and had a great birth at 37 weeks, babies spent no time in special care and we were home in two days. You cant have ANY expectations with these things - good or bad - because you never know what is going to happen, you just do the best you can and deal with anything that comes up.

Your daughter will love having 3 brothers and/or sisters! How exciting for her to be able to help and play with them all and show them off to her friends. Our daughter is so proud of her twin sisters and loves to help and play with them.

I know triplets are one step up from twins but Im just trying to share from my point of view - someone who has had those worries and has now come out the other side if you know what I mean!

You may have your dreams etc and they may not all be possible now, but that's life, things happen that you have no control over and you cant change so you just get on with it. This has happened and you have to make the best out of what you have. Yes you will miss out on things and it will be hard financially, you may have to sell a vehicle to get a bigger car, but you will have three beautiful babies who share an amazing bond and the love you will have for them will make all of your worries and sacrifices worth it. I think it would really help you to talk to a father who has triplets, if you join the New Zealand Multiple Birth Group you will have access to lots of advice and be able to talk to parents of triplets.

All the best and enjoy your new family!]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 11:40:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822175&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822175 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822164&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822164 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 22 December 2012 at 7:53am

I think from memory, there were 3 ladies having triplets in one year and one lot made it too something like 37 weeks :) You will be under a specialist care team no doubt, so everything possible will be done to ensure your wife and the babies are healthy :) I have seen a triplet pushchair and you can get a quad one too :)

FB is a pain for some but is also a great place for info and support or you can try http://www.multiples.org.nz/ they can put you in touch with local support. The triplet fb page is a closed page, so cannot be seen by all and sundry but when I was following one of the stories, they were amazing support for each other.

Oh and try not to look to far ahead, worry about schools later on, that will turn you grey thinking about all that now :)

Edited by LateStarterLorna - 22 December 2012 at 7:54am]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:53:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822164&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822164 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822161&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822161 Author: Hopes
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 22 December 2012 at 6:59am

I don't blame you for being floored! I would love twins or triplets, but even then in the eventuality I think it would take some getting used to! I can also talk as someone who had to try for a while to have children - you don't sound selfish, all your concerns are pretty valid.

I do think that once the shock wears off, you'll be able to see the positives more, because I would put money on the fact once they're here you're going to be totally in love and wouldn't change things for the world. That doesn't mean it's not OK to be pretty freaked out right now, of course.

For now, would it help to work out how you're going to work around the things you talk about? For example, yes, it's going to be hard work getting three out and about. But with a good double stroller and a carrier like a manduca (I still carry my two-year-old in one from time to time, so it works for oldder toddlers), it would still be possible for one person to take them places. Other parents of multiples will have other tips for making this work, I'm sure!

I suppose as one of eight children, it would also be possible to say I've 'missed out' - while I didn't have three the same age to contend with, except for in the very early days my parents' attention was spread over seven other children. I would NEVER change it, it was great... I'm sure your older daughter will say the same thing when she's my age. There are disavantages, but there are advantages too.

With schooling, on the plus side you have time to think your options over. Some private schools have scholarships, which might be worth looking into. And even if you don't go that way due to lack of income, you'll be able to make a plan to ensure that your kids get a great education. ]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 06:59:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822161&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822161 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822153&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822153 Author: Nick102027
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 21 December 2012 at 11:15pm

Thank you. And thanks for the advice, unfortunately however, I avoid Facebook like the plague.

There is one other point I missed out that I would like to add, and that is the chance of complications with this pregnancy are so much higher than a singleton, I don't think I could deal with something happening to my partner or the babies. It's scary to know now that these babies will be pre-term and there's no two ways about it. Potentially not pre-term for triplets, but they're individual babies who require a 40week term, but full term for these little guys we're told is 36weeks, just becuase of room. And that's if they even make it to 36weeks...]]> Fri, 21 Dec 2012 23:15:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822153&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822153 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822152&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822152 Author: sem
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 21 December 2012 at 11:12pm

There is (was) a girl on here a year or two ago who had triplets. I can't remember her forum handle but somebody else might. 

I think your points are all pretty valid and I think most people would be pretty shocked and would find it hard to come to terms with such a big instant family.

Good Luck!
]]> Fri, 21 Dec 2012 23:12:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822152&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822152 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822151&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822151 Author: LateStarterLorna
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 21 December 2012 at 10:46pm

I would say congrats but I think you might be in too much shock at the moment, I dont have triplets but I do know there is a triplet and supports nz facebook private page -

http://www.facebook.com/groups/171965649262/?fref=ts

Good Luck



Edited by LateStarterLorna - 21 December 2012 at 10:47pm]]> Fri, 21 Dec 2012 22:46:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822151&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822151 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822149&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822149 Author: Nick102027
Subject: Worried father of 1 with triplets on their way
Posted: 21 December 2012 at 10:11pm

Hello,

An introduction.. Apart from a forum I built a few years ago, I never use them. But my current concerns raise the need, and I think the title says it all.

My partner and I have a beautiful 4yo girl who means the absolute world to me. Wanting her to have a brother/sister, as well as to make a complete family (in my view), we tried for another. Early this year we miscarried which was a big blow, but we got back on our horse and tried again.
We are now 12weeks to big healthy triplets. We had the 12week scan today.

I know there are people out there who would love just to fall pregnant at all, and I don't want to sound selfish but triplets is a huge shock. I guess this is why I am venting on a forum. I want to speak my thoughts without being judged, espcially to people who might understand. My partner is over the shock and is very excited, so it's hard to talk to her about my issues. She thinks she doesn't have my support, which in some ways might be true. Before I go any further, I would like to explain why.

1) I always pictured having a family of 4. 2 adults, 2 children. Although this is not a big deal at all, I'm having trouble coming to terms with it. 5 I could cope with, but I never ever imagined 6.

2) My daughter is going to miss out. The triplets will most likely group together and it'll be the triplets and her. Not "her and the baby".

3) Financially this is going to put a huge strain on us. For example, I always wanted to send my kids to private school. But with 4, and 3 all in the same year, this is going to be almost impossible. That's another dream of mine, almost in tatters. But everything we do is going to be much more expensive and potentially we are all going to miss out.

4) Logistically. 4 kids at different times would be OK, but having 3 all at the same stage is going to prohibit us from doing so much. You can't buy triplet strollers. Cars and baby seats is a hassle, and when they learn to walk they will have to be on leads because they will all walk in different directions. We each only have 2 arms!

They would be the key points. They are so many points for each that at the moment, I can't get excited.
Please don't get me wrong. I will love these children with all my heart, as much as I love my daughter. But I want to provide for these in the best way I can, and by having 4, I don't think I can do that in the way I wanted to.

I need help. I would love to talk to some people that have gone through this, hopefully the dads too.

Thanks.]]> Fri, 21 Dec 2012 22:11:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42889&PID=5822149&title=worried-father-of-1-with-triplets-on-their-way#5822149 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5821261&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5821261 Author: Sarah_D
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 11 December 2012 at 12:41pm

Is there a due May 2013 facebook group?]]> Tue, 11 Dec 2012 12:41:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5821261&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5821261 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5819443&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5819443 Author: Sarah_D
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 19 November 2012 at 3:22pm

Hi, im new to this forum.

Im 12 weeks pregnant with Twins so due in May 2013. These are my first babies :)]]> Mon, 19 Nov 2012 15:22:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5819443&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5819443 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5811446&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5811446 Author: Manz0607
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 28 August 2012 at 8:29pm

Hi, I am 14 weeks pregnant with twins (most likely fraternal) due on 1 March 2013 (probably Feb)- All going well so far ]]> Tue, 28 Aug 2012 20:29:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5811446&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5811446 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5809795&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5809795 Author: T_pup
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 15 August 2012 at 10:22am

Hi Kindred! I'm 18 weeks pregnant with twins, officially due on 11 Jan 2013 :) I've joined the Jan 2013 Facebook group, so let me know if you are on there too. Would be great to talk to another twin mum-to-be.]]> Wed, 15 Aug 2012 10:22:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5809795&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5809795 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5808990&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5808990 Author: Danda08
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 08 August 2012 at 3:23pm

Hi Kindred, congrats on your pregnancy.
Pop over to the Twins, Triplets & More thread, that's where most of the multiple mums and mums to be hang out ]]> Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:23:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5808990&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5808990 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5808666&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5808666 Author: kindred
Subject: Pregnant with multiples; due in 2013
Posted: 06 August 2012 at 10:46am

Hi guys! Who else is expecting twins/multiples in January 2013 or beyond?

I'll be at 15 weeks tomorrow. Fairly happy and uneventual pregnancy so far - it took us ages to conceive, so I reckon we had all of our drama then!]]> Mon, 06 Aug 2012 10:46:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42405&PID=5808666&title=pregnant-with-multiples-due-in-2013#5808666 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5796667&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5796667 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 08 May 2012 at 1:06pm

Hi Animals 123, congratulations on your twins!

WOW 3 under 3 go you! Twins can be a bit daunting - I have a 6 year old who is very keen to help and it's still daunting! Im sure you will be absolutely fine - how nice your kids can all grow up together at similar ages!

A great place for advice and tips is the Twins Triplets and More forum - I have gotten so much great help from the girls there, its been a great help ]]> Tue, 08 May 2012 13:06:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5796667&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5796667 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5796665&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5796665 Author: animals123
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 08 May 2012 at 12:49pm

Hi there

I'm due 7 November with fraternal twins!

Very daunting, especially as our wee girl will be just under 2 when they arrive!]]> Tue, 08 May 2012 12:49:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5796665&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5796665 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793674&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793674 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 3:00pm

Due Dates

guest70840 - Fraternal? - Due April
efaith - Mono/Di - Due 18 August
Karen2707 - Fraternal - Due 13 September
Kels152 - Fraternal Girls - Due 30 September
sharpie - Identical - Due 4 October
Shells79 - Fraternal - Due 10 November]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:00:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793674&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793674 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793671&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793671 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 2:58pm

Hi Sharpie,

Yay congratulations!! How exciting for you!!

Be sure to have a read through the posts on the Twins, Triplets or More forum - I have found it so helpful for finding answers to the millions of questions and thoughts I've had, and the mums there are so nice and helpful ]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 14:58:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793671&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793671 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793667&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793667 Author: sharpie
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 18 April 2012 at 2:54pm

Hi everyone,

I am due on the 4th October with identical twins!
So excited!]]> Wed, 18 Apr 2012 14:54:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793667&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793667 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793410&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793410 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 17 April 2012 at 2:56pm

Thats good you rang them! I have heard you need to keep on top of the hospital team sometimes to make sure you are seen enough etc. Wow are they really! My midwife is great - she prefers to let things go naturally and only go to the caesar if there are problems and I need one, she was the same with epidural with my first - said to see how I go and if I cope ok then dont need it. Nice to have someone who understands what I want and is also looking at whats best for baby/babies ]]> Tue, 17 Apr 2012 14:56:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793410&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793410 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793406&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793406 Author: Shells79
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 17 April 2012 at 2:51pm

Thanks for that Kels152. I ended up ringing Auckland hospital and it turns out they never recieved my referal letter. They have it now and will be in touch soon. Perhaps i will get my own independant midwife too. I really want a natural birth but it seems like they are quite keen on caesarians!]]> Tue, 17 Apr 2012 14:51:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793406&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793406 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793360&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793360 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 17 April 2012 at 11:12am

I think it's different depending on where you are Shells, I have the same midwife I had with my Daughter 6 years ago - when I found out I was pregnant & doctor had confirmed it I got in touch with her. I will also be seeing an OB at our local hospital which was just automatically organised as it's twins, and have my first appointment with them next week. So my pregnancy will be shared between my private midwife and the hospital OB. I think in some places you go through the hospital they have midwives there which are assigned to you...not too sure though. Im sure you will hear from them as your pregnancy continues ]]> Tue, 17 Apr 2012 11:12:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793360&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793360 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793042&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793042 Author: Shells79
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 15 April 2012 at 9:21am

How did everyone get on getting a midwife? I had my first scan at about 7.5 weeks and at the stage the Doctor wrote to Auckland hospital to request a specialist for us. We were so excited to hear we were having twins that we didn't really hear the rest! We think she said that the hospital and a midwife would be in touch with us but we haven't heard anything yet.]]> Sun, 15 Apr 2012 09:21:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5793042&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5793042 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792431&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792431 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 3:08pm

Ohh how exciting for you having twins for your first pregnancy!

I'm sure it wont be long till you have a cute baby bump - so exciting with twins as everything seems to happen earlier and you get more scans which is nice for seeing your babies! ]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:08:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792431&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792431 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792427&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792427 Author: Shells79
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 2:57pm

Thanks for that. This is my first pregnancy. I'm 10 weeks perhaps i'm just about to pop out :)I can't wait!]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:57:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792427&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792427 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792420&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792420 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 2:37pm

I started to get a bump VERY early, and at 13 weeks I was measuring 20-24weeks. It is my 2nd & 3rd though and I know if you've already had a baby you usually start to show sooner as well as the twin factor]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:37:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792420&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792420 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792419&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792419 Author: Shells79
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 2:27pm

Just curious, when did everyone start to show?]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:27:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792419&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792419 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792389&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792389 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 1:15pm

[QUOTE=Kels152] Due Dates

guest70840 - Fraternal? - Due April
efaith - Mono/Di - Due 18 August
Karen2707 - Fraternal - Due 13 September
Kels152 - Fraternal - Due 30 September
Shells79 - Fraternal - Due 10 November]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:15:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792389&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792389 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792388&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792388 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 1:13pm

Hi Shells79,

Welcome and a huge congrats! I hope your pregnancy is going well so far

Be sure to pop into the Twins, Triplets or More Forum and have a read back through the posts - I found it so helpful and have met some lovely twin mummies who give out great advice & tips ]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:13:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792388&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792388 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792385&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792385 Author: Shells79
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 11 April 2012 at 1:10pm

I'm due on November 10th with fraternal twins.]]> Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:10:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5792385&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5792385 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785109&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785109 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 05 March 2012 at 7:56am

Please feel free to edit our list or add yourself if you are having multiples and due this year! Let me know if you wouldlike to know how to do this...]]> Mon, 05 Mar 2012 07:56:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785109&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785109 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785108&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785108 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 05 March 2012 at 7:54am

Due Dates

guest70840 - Fraternal? - Due April
efaith - Mono/Di - Due 18 August
Karen2707 - Fraternal - Due 13 Sept
Kels152 - Fraternal - Due 30 Sept]]> Mon, 05 Mar 2012 07:54:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785108&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785108 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785069&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785069 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 04 March 2012 at 9:26pm

Hi efaith, congrats and welcome!
]]> Sun, 04 Mar 2012 21:26:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785069&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785069 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785023&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785023 Author: efaith
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 04 March 2012 at 4:47pm

Hi, I am due with twins (mono/di) august 18th. ]]> Sun, 04 Mar 2012 16:47:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5785023&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5785023 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784995&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784995 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 04 March 2012 at 2:46pm

Hi karen2707, congats!! How exciting I hope you've had a good pregnancy so far.

You should come onto the Due in Sept forum if you havent already - lots of great women over there and Im excited there is someone else having twins in the same monthas me! Where are you from?]]> Sun, 04 Mar 2012 14:46:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784995&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784995 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784959&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784959 Author: Karen2707
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 04 March 2012 at 12:05pm

Hi

Just found out on Thursday Fraternal twins due 13 Sept 2012.]]> Sun, 04 Mar 2012 12:05:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784959&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784959 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784584&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784584 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 02 March 2012 at 1:47pm

Hi Guest 70840!

Thats great! Hope you have had a good pregnancy so far, not long for you to go now you must be getting excited! ]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2012 13:47:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784584&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784584 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784580&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784580 Author: Guest_70840
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 02 March 2012 at 1:41pm

Yes, pregnant with twins and due in April :) Probably fraternal]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2012 13:41:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784580&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784580 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784480&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784480 Author: Kels152
Subject: Pregnant with mulitples & Due in 2012
Posted: 02 March 2012 at 7:53am

Hi all,

I would love to get a list going of who is pregnant with twins or more and when you are due!

Kels152 - Fraternal - Due 30 Sept]]> Fri, 02 Mar 2012 07:53:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41666&PID=5784480&title=pregnant-with-mulitples-due-in-2012#5784480 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1428576&title=stress#1428576 Author: Bobchannz
Subject: Stress
Posted: 05 February 2012 at 9:52pm

So sensible Hopes!

It is fantastic that you are excited about your pregnancy. It sounds as though most of your colleagues are really happy for you.

I'm going in to bat for the other woman - trying to explore some of her experience. If you aren't interested in this then please don't read on! I don't want to come across as mean without a heads up!

Two months is not that long a time to grieve - many women grieve hard for the duration of the time that they would have been pregnant, and then for a short period of time later. The fact that she already has children of no consequence - if you lost a five year old child and had a six and seven year old child as well it wouldn't hurt less because you have other children.

I had a second trimester miscarriage while working at a hospital. I started hating to see new families go home with their babies - previously a perk of the job. But the hardest bit was a colleague who had her first grandchild due around the same time as I had been due. She was thrilled, and very happily showed me scan pics, gave me lengthy pregnancy updates and of course heaps of baby pics. I received a text when the baby was born.

It just about killed me. We were friendly, and I didn't want to diminish her joy and experience. But it hurt a lot. Perhaps I should have mentioned something to her quietly - but I didn't want to make a huge fuss. It was really painful and made work really trying. I would come home crying some days.   I grieved really hard for my lost baby for well over a year, and the date that she was born and died is still very difficult for me.

I kind of get the feeling here that it seems that there is no space in your workplace for her to grieve and for you to celebrate. All the congratulations and excitement that you receive for your pregancy is something that she was going to get as well. It really, really hurts. I bet you are asked how you are doing regularly - people very rarely ask women who have miscarried how they are doing after a couple of weeks. It may be very hard for her to get this kind of enquiry from you - a lot of women who have recently miscarried find it very, very difficult to be around pregnant women generally.

It sounds like your colleague would like some space from you - if you are unhappy with her not responding to your greetings then why bother? If she is still upset two months after her miscarriage that is still a very normal timeframe for grieving. It is in no way dysfunctional (most health professionals use a rough timeframe of six months as a normal time to grieve).

I worry about the benefits of talking to your manager about this. Is it genuinely a work problem? Or is it an interpersonal problem that does not impact on the work that you do, just your enjoyment of it? I ask because I wonder about what a manager would do with this kind of scenario. How is it likely to play out? I think your manager would be between a rock and a hard place.

Can you just ignore her and enjoy your special pregnancy with those who choose to share in your happiness? Discuss it at work and be happy, just try and keep the conversations to a minimum around her.]]> Sun, 05 Feb 2012 21:52:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1428576&title=stress#1428576 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1428151&title=stress#1428151 Author: Hopes
Subject: Stress
Posted: 03 February 2012 at 5:33pm

It does sound like she's struggling. To be honest I have a lot of sympathy for her. I'm sure you've had times in your life when its all been a bit much too, and you've struggled to cope.

But back to what you do about it... what is it you want? My guess would be ideally, her back to being on friendly terms, aware of her loss but with it not affecting your relationship. And perhaps if that's not possible, at least having a decent working relationship, where you can communicate past the essentials and do pleasantries like saying hello in the mornings. Let me know if I'm reading you wrong.

So, how do you get that? Well, I honestly can't see any answer that's going to work for you other than giving her time and space and being understanding of how she's feeling even if it hurts your own feelings. What are your options otherwise? Somehow force her to talk to you - perhaps by having her up about it, or talking to a manager? If she's not so inclined to at the moment, I can only see that going one of two ways - her forcing herself to talk to you for the sake of her job (and I'm sure that's not what you really want) or leaving work (and lets try not to put more pressure on someone already hurting, no?)

One other option would be to put how you feel in writing to her. It might help your relationship - but I'm reluctant to suggest it because honestly, I think that only something phrased in a really nice, caring loving way would do anything to help. Something a little blunter would probably just make things worse. And from the way you explain your feelings here, I'm thinking that you're hurt by her actions and that might affect how you wrote to her. But if you wanted to, feel free to run what you were going to send her past us, sometimes it helps to have the point of view from someone who's been on the other side of the fence

ETA that there's no need to either hide your pregnancy (as you say, like you could anyway!) or your happiness. Being happy, talking about it to your colleauges, having work throw you a baby shower (hopefully they will ) is part of being pregnant, and she does need to live with that even if she finds it hard. Obviously, talking to her about it is probably a no-go, as is loudly proclaiming near her desk that you're so HAPPY to be PREGNANT (I'm sure you wouldn't!)

Edited by Hopes]]> Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:33:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1428151&title=stress#1428151 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1428139&title=stress#1428139 Author: Pixi
Subject: Stress
Posted: 03 February 2012 at 4:35pm

Originally posted by Guest_64538 Guest_64538 wrote:

Hi there, just found out at my 12 week scan last week we are having identical twins. Complete shock! Just trying to remain positive as ive noticed a few friends and family mention negative issues that i dont really need to dwell on. I started having breathing problems the other day just worrying about things so decided i cant do that, i need to remain relaxed for the babies.
However having an issue at my work with a colleague. We used to be on good friendly terms but recently she had a miscarriage. She came back to work after two weeks off and has barely looked me in the eye or talked to me since then. I walk in the room when shes talking to someone and she rushes out as fast as she can. She's talking normally and acting normal with everyone else apart from myself. I feel for her situation but i dont deserve to be treated this way. Her reaction to me having twins that she told another colleague was that i better not complain because she would rather have twins than not be pregnant at all. She admitted to another colleague that she finds it hard to be around me which i understand but its been a month now and im feeling a bit bullied. Shes already got two young girls and can always try again but this is my first and a stressful time for me and im not sure if i should confront her (probably make it worse) or just keep giving her time and space (which ive been doing). Any suggestions or advice?


First Congratulations!

Agree with you, you seemed of answered your own Qs," " keep given her all the space she needs to worked through her own issues".

Grief makes can make no sense the person who is going through it at times, but as you are a good friend to her, just hope she will see that in you.
If she a true friend she will bounce back.

The Neg stuff you mention:

Surround your self with uplifting friends and family, who will inspire you and not drag you down , even if they do unintentionally, people simply don't think as sensitive as others may hope. And go pamper yourself!

You have 2 wee ones to place all you good thoughts into. :) But must be still hard for you if you have to face all this, as if she was a good friend she should brave up to you her self sooner rather than never, as sounds as she is hurting more and thus, " blinded by her own concerns".

Focus on all the good, the rest will just be obstacles to over come and make you stronger.

Enjoy all the new things to come with you wee ones. And hope you friend may come back as friend to you if you both feel it can work, is she does not , lest you know you care.


]]> Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:35:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1428139&title=stress#1428139 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1427368&title=stress#1427368 Author: Guest_64538
Subject: Stress
Posted: 01 February 2012 at 4:28pm

Hi there

I have a great amount of support from family & friends which is fab. I have given her my support after two months and given her some space, and i know there is no timeframe for how long to grieve for but its not fair to be accusing me of making her environment uncomfortable. She's making it uncomfortable for herself. I can't hide my giant belly or hush whisper to my other colleagues who ask me questions about my pregnancy, and its actually not fair on me to have to hide what is my first pregnancy and my happiness.

I cannot talk to her as she won't even respond to my good mornings when i walk in or when i have asked how she is she walks out so no chance of talking about something non pregnancy related. Also I just got engaged at Christmas and there was no congratulations on my engagement i still got ignored.

I feel for her situation and i do think about how she feels but its not two way, if she's having emotional difficulties healing then ignoring me or treating me like I'm the bad guy then she needs to get some help because its not helping her heal to treat me this way its holding her back. ]]> Wed, 01 Feb 2012 16:28:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1427368&title=stress#1427368 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1420657&title=stress#1420657 Author: KellyBee
Subject: Stress
Posted: 06 January 2012 at 2:35pm

Perhaps you could try and get support from your friends rather than co-workers. This way you'll still be getting plenty of support but you wont be making your workplace an uncomfortable enviroment for her. Have you tried talking to her about non-baby related things? Maybe you could try talking about something you did over the weekend or something and try going from there?


As stressfull as finding out your having twins is, I imagine losing a baby is a lot more stressfull and upsetting. A month is really not a long time to grieve for a baby she lost....... Also I have to say it probably still hurts regardless of if she has other kids and there could also be a possibility that she actually can't try again or can't face dealing with the chances of it happening again.

Maybe try thinking of how she feels and what she is going through, You've just got a double blessing and she's lost a child. She's probably not mad at you but rather finding it very difficult to deal with the loss of her baby.....]]> Fri, 06 Jan 2012 14:35:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1420657&title=stress#1420657 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418416&title=stress#1418416 Author: Hibiscus
Subject: Stress
Posted: 26 December 2011 at 11:54pm

Sounds like a fair comment Hopes.]]> Mon, 26 Dec 2011 23:54:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418416&title=stress#1418416 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418389&title=stress#1418389 Author: Hopes
Subject: Stress
Posted: 26 December 2011 at 7:07pm

As someone who's struggled with infertility, your colleague’s reaction is totally normal. That doesn't make it right, necessarily, but I totally understand it. Even with secondary infertility - since she's already got kids - she's struggling so badly with the fact that you've got what she so, so badly wants. She's probably still grieving the loss of her much-wanted baby, and you complaining WILL hurt like hell. To her, you're about the luckiest person alive, and if you whinge you look like you don'' appreciate it.

My advice would be to continue avoiding her, and not be hurt by the fact she wants to avoid you. It's not you, she's just hurt. By all means, feel free to express your feelings around people who will understand (being surprised with twins would be a bit of a shock, and I can totally understand you needing to talk it through, and worrying about the added concerns that come with an extra baby). Just don't do it while she's round... she doesn't want to hear, and you're not going to get any support from her for obvious reasons.

Most of all - and this is perhaps coloured by my own experience, so take it with a grain of salt - but don't consider yourself the injured party here. Despite the added challenges of twins, they'll be a double blessing too. She's not bullying you if she's hurting so much she chooses to avoid you. It could even be the opposite, she could easily be trying to steer clear of you because she doesn't want to say all the things that spring to mind that she knows WOULD be cruel and unfair. Feel sorry for her, not aggrieved. ]]> Mon, 26 Dec 2011 19:07:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418389&title=stress#1418389 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418385&title=stress#1418385 Author: Hibiscus
Subject: Stress
Posted: 26 December 2011 at 6:13pm

Hi Guest_64538, here is where the multiple mums usually hang out:

http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23153&PN=1

There's usually lots of good advice there!
Congrats to your twin pregnancy and I would try to ignore that woman at your work. As you say, she has already two kids, so what is she complaining about? That she had a MC has nothing to do with you and while I can understand that she is probably depressed about it, she should not make you feel bad about being pregnant with twins. So my advice would be to ignore her and just focus on your own wellbeing entirely, that is important now. Try to not think about other peoples problems. Just walk away from it and say that is her problem, not mine.

edited for spelling

Edited by Hibiscus]]> Mon, 26 Dec 2011 18:13:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418385&title=stress#1418385 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Stress]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418101&title=stress#1418101 Author: Guest_64538
Subject: Stress
Posted: 23 December 2011 at 12:24pm

Hi there, just found out at my 12 week scan last week we are having identical twins. Complete shock! Just trying to remain positive as ive noticed a few friends and family mention negative issues that i dont really need to dwell on. I started having breathing problems the other day just worrying about things so decided i cant do that, i need to remain relaxed for the babies.
However having an issue at my work with a colleague. We used to be on good friendly terms but recently she had a miscarriage. She came back to work after two weeks off and has barely looked me in the eye or talked to me since then. I walk in the room when shes talking to someone and she rushes out as fast as she can. She's talking normally and acting normal with everyone else apart from myself. I feel for her situation but i dont deserve to be treated this way. Her reaction to me having twins that she told another colleague was that i better not complain because she would rather have twins than not be pregnant at all. She admitted to another colleague that she finds it hard to be around me which i understand but its been a month now and im feeling a bit bullied. Shes already got two young girls and can always try again but this is my first and a stressful time for me and im not sure if i should confront her (probably make it worse) or just keep giving her time and space (which ive been doing). Any suggestions or advice?]]> Fri, 23 Dec 2011 12:24:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41224&PID=1418101&title=stress#1418101 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1319666&title=introductions#1319666 Author: lisa85
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 06 May 2011 at 10:38am

Hi Domestic engineer. I'm so sorry about you wee guy Benjamin. I can't think of anything more devestating than the loss of a child

I have twin girls that will be three in 6 days Do you have boys or girls or both? Feel free to join us in the twins, triplets or more thread. ]]> Fri, 06 May 2011 10:38:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1319666&title=introductions#1319666 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1319640&title=introductions#1319640 Author: TwinnyBump
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 06 May 2011 at 10:16am

Thanks Lisa85 & minik8e, the shock wore off after a couple of days and we are just so so excited to be having twins. I still can’t believe Im finally pregnant! Yeah my DH was with me when we found out, he wasn’t overly shocked as we knew there could be a chance of twins (we’d been on fertility drugs) and I’d had a couple of dreams about twins ( a boy and girl, I wonder if that will come true too). Thanks Lisa I might pop on over to the twins, triplets or more thread shortly.

Hi Domestic Engineer and welcome to OB, Im so very sorry to hear about wee Benjamin. All the best with TTC!


Edited by Wantabub]]> Fri, 06 May 2011 10:16:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1319640&title=introductions#1319640 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1319379&title=introductions#1319379 Author: Domestic Engineer
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 05 May 2011 at 8:43pm

Just want to say hi, I had triplet at 24w 6 days, lost my wee man Benjamin at 12 days old. I now have 2 3 year old trouble makers whom I love to bits and have us in fits of laughter. We had a hard road but are here and its a breeze now. Infact trying to get preggy again, but got too many eggs at present and have to skip a month! Or I would be the next Octo mum... So hi all and nice to meet you!




]]> Thu, 05 May 2011 20:43:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1319379&title=introductions#1319379 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1313242&title=introductions#1313242 Author: minik8e
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 26 April 2011 at 11:25pm

OMG Wantabub - that is freaking awesome!!! ]]> Tue, 26 Apr 2011 23:25:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1313242&title=introductions#1313242 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312921&title=introductions#1312921 Author: lisa85
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 26 April 2011 at 3:50pm

Yay Wantabub! Congrats on the amazing news! It's such an amazing journey :) It's a day you'll never forget. I still remember the day I found out it was twins. It was my first scan and I was 12 weeks. I could see two babies straight away before anyone said anything I still remember every moment and every feeling. Was your partner with you when you found out?

By the way ladies feel free to join us in the twins, triplets or more thread. Theres not a huge number of us on this website but we all hang out in there :) They are a great bunch of ladies that love sharing stories and advice. I'm the only other one in CHCH. I think most of our ladies are in the North Island :) Heres the link to our main multiples thread - http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=23153&PN=1&TPN=178]]> Tue, 26 Apr 2011 15:50:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312921&title=introductions#1312921 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312773&title=introductions#1312773 Author: TwinnyBump
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 26 April 2011 at 11:58am

Hi ladies, just found out this morning we are expecting twins. They will be our first babies lol! So excited/nervous all rolled into one. Its starting to sink in slowly. Just rung my mw to let her know and shes filled me in on what happens next etc. Yay!]]> Tue, 26 Apr 2011 11:58:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312773&title=introductions#1312773 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312689&title=introductions#1312689 Author: lisa85
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 26 April 2011 at 10:23am

I actually never joined the multiples group. As there weren't any close to where I was living at the time so I just went with a normal coffee group. I did enquire about it in the beginning though.
Here's the link to the CMBC website http://www.cmbc.co.nz/ it has all the contact details. You should ask them about multiple antenatal classes as well. Even if you've done antenatal classes with your son I've heard it's quite worth while. I never got to do it though as they only run it depending on how many women they have interested. So it always pays to ask if they have one coming up :)
Are you planning on trying for a natural birth or are you thinking of going for the c-section?]]> Tue, 26 Apr 2011 10:23:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312689&title=introductions#1312689 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312125&title=introductions#1312125 Author: becky
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 25 April 2011 at 9:58am

Hey Lisa yes we have told him he also knows mum is having two babies not sure if it has quite sunk in for him probably once I get bigger and he can feel the babies kick. How do you join the multiples club?]]> Mon, 25 Apr 2011 09:58:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1312125&title=introductions#1312125 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1310892&title=introductions#1310892 Author: lisa85
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 21 April 2011 at 6:56pm

LOL 3 is my magic number too Although if I got another set of twins I certainly wouldn't complain. At least this time round I would know what I'm doing But I am very much looking forward to seeing what having one bubs to dote on is like. I was kind of thrown in the deep end with the girls. It was all a bit like being on auto pilot for the first few months. I was so lost being a first time Mum and having two This time around I'm hoping to spend a little more time drinking in all those amazing little newborn moments.

Have you told your son he's going to be a big brother yet?
]]> Thu, 21 Apr 2011 18:56:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1310892&title=introductions#1310892 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1309899&title=introductions#1309899 Author: becky
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 1:04pm

Hey Lisa85 DS is coping ok with the Shakes, when he feels one he asks for a cuddle he usually gets over it pretty quickly. Thats awesome about ttrying for number three I always wanted three children just thought there would be a bigger gap between 2nd and 3rd LOL however we are stoked I am so looking forward to meeting my wee babies but still enjoying pregnancy!]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 13:04:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1309899&title=introductions#1309899 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1309342&title=introductions#1309342 Author: lisa85
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 19 April 2011 at 6:50pm

Hi Becky! And welcome to the wonderful world of twins! I have identical twin girls Hazel & Esme who will be three in a few weeks :) So pretty close in age to your wee man. We are in the process of trying for number 3.

I see your living in Crumble town too lol. How's your son handling the earthquakes?

Edited by lisa85]]> Tue, 19 Apr 2011 18:50:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1309342&title=introductions#1309342 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1307761&title=introductions#1307761 Author: becky
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 17 April 2011 at 10:54am

They have said they are farternal twins as two placentas. Fraternal twins run in our family two! Very excited!

Edited by becky]]> Sun, 17 Apr 2011 10:54:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1307761&title=introductions#1307761 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1306541&title=introductions#1306541 Author: bext1
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 14 April 2011 at 8:21pm

Hi Becky, congrats, are you having ID twins? ]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2011 20:21:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1306541&title=introductions#1306541 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1303143&title=introductions#1303143 Author: becky
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 9:29pm

Hi everybody I have a 2 and a half year old son and we are now expecting twins on 11th October. Any tips or advice would be very welcome!!]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 21:29:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1303143&title=introductions#1303143 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1263679&title=introductions#1263679 Author: hennypenny
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 10 February 2011 at 12:20pm

Hi wannabe

Al going well with me, we are now almost 30 weeks and I finish work next week. We have been discahrged from the high risk fetal medicine clinic as both boys are growing and measuring great weights for gestation so all good. Looking forward to finishing work and hopefully putting my feet up for a few weeks. The humidity has been horrid to deal with. Feel relatively organised and looking forward to the arrival of family from the UK to lend a helping hand atround the house.

Welcome bubsy - I am in Mt Eden too :-)]]> Thu, 10 Feb 2011 12:20:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1263679&title=introductions#1263679 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1254886&title=introductions#1254886 Author: Wannabe
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 30 January 2011 at 12:25pm

Welcome MomoMum & bubsy!!!
Goodness bubsy you are going to be one busy lady. I think its great they'll all be close in age when they are older.

hennypenny - how is everything going with you doll???

Our twins are 8 weeks old now (born 5 weeks prem) & we started them on the "Save Our Sleep" routine last Friday when they both weighed in just over 3kgs so didn't need 3 hourly feeds anymore - yay!). It took 5 nights & they have slept from 10.30pm-7am for 4 nights in a row now - whoop whoop! I still have to get up at 3.30am to express but Dr 90210 entertains me for half an hour    In a week we'll trial the next routine of 7pm-7am with a 10pm dreamfeed.

They are such good babies even tho the boy has a bit of reflux & can get really upset from the pain. Poor little man!

Edited by Wannabe]]> Sun, 30 Jan 2011 12:25:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1254886&title=introductions#1254886 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1254866&title=introductions#1254866 Author: bubsy
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 30 January 2011 at 11:32am

Hiya everybody I have a 3 1/2yr old girl Stella a 22mth old girl Danika and we are expecting twins at the end of may begining of june. We are in auckland, Mt Eden]]> Sun, 30 Jan 2011 11:32:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1254866&title=introductions#1254866 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1240650&title=introductions#1240650 Author: bext1
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 14 January 2011 at 10:53pm

Hi Ladies

What part of Auckland are you in, it would be a good idea to join one of the Multiple birth clubs, they run new parent evenings, and it's a great heads up of what to expect before you have your twins!

PM me if you need any more info ]]> Fri, 14 Jan 2011 22:53:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1240650&title=introductions#1240650 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1239370&title=introductions#1239370 Author: hennypenny
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 13 January 2011 at 5:19pm

Hi Momo Mum I am in Auckland and my monodi boys are due April. Cant believe how quickly its all come round. Welcome x]]> Thu, 13 Jan 2011 17:19:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1239370&title=introductions#1239370 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1239126&title=introductions#1239126 Author: MomoMum
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 13 January 2011 at 1:45pm

HI there,

I'm pregnant with MoDi twins (monochorionic diamniotic). I'm in Auckland, EDD is early August. Anyone out there?]]> Thu, 13 Jan 2011 13:45:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1239126&title=introductions#1239126 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1224833&title=introductions#1224833 Author: jadex3
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 8:41am

Hey congrats! id love to meet up! i hope all is going well! i hope you have a fab christmas with youe littlies and hopefully you get to spend it at home! ]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 08:41:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1224833&title=introductions#1224833 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1223870&title=introductions#1223870 Author: Wannabe
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 6:36pm

Hi jadex3

I too am in Papakura - in the Maternity Unit at the moment with my 16 day old boy/girl twins.

Maybe once they've fattened up & we're all out (fingers crossed by Christmas) we could catch up in the new year & you can give me some tips on what to expect etc????]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 18:36:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1223870&title=introductions#1223870 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1223168&title=introductions#1223168 Author: jadex3
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 18 December 2010 at 12:11pm

Hi im not pregnant with twin, but i have 3 year old twin boys will be good to hear how you are all getting along. im also in papakura. ]]> Sat, 18 Dec 2010 12:11:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1223168&title=introductions#1223168 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1201919&title=introductions#1201919 Author: bext1
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 17 November 2010 at 9:49am

How are you going now Wannabe? Bet you are getting excited now]]> Wed, 17 Nov 2010 09:49:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1201919&title=introductions#1201919 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1182282&title=introductions#1182282 Author: Wannabe
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 21 October 2010 at 2:52pm

Hello ladies!

Back from our 29wk growth scans.

Good news is she is only 70gms smaller than him now - 3 weeks ago she was 110gms behind. He is still breech on the left & she's still transverse & sitting on his head!

Weights:
He is 1370gms but has dropped from 80th percentile to 50th for his abdominal circumference.
She is 1300gms and has dropped from 50th percentile to 25th for her abdominal circumference.

I've just googled average gestational weights for twins (there are none), & for singles. At 29 wks they should be around 1150-1260gms so I feel relieved that I haven't been starving them - although my appetite has dropped right off & I get fuller much quicker now.

Right off to have a lay down - I can hardly keep my eyes open as had a real crap sleep last night.]]> Thu, 21 Oct 2010 14:52:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1182282&title=introductions#1182282 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1181804&title=introductions#1181804 Author: hennypenny
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 20 October 2010 at 9:46pm

Thanks Wannabe good to hear I am not alone. Am seeing the specialist on Friday and have not had any bleeding now for a week. We are also having 2 week growth scans.

welcome Janine snap on the di amniotic monochorionic though as yet we dont know if boys or girls. We are due beginning of April so not far behind you. We are based in Auckland.

]]> Wed, 20 Oct 2010 21:46:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1181804&title=introductions#1181804 <![CDATA[Pregnant with multiples : Introductions!]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1181379&title=introductions#1181379 Author: Wannabe
Subject: Introductions!
Posted: 20 October 2010 at 12:54pm

Hi & welcome Janine to a fantastic adventure! Looking forwards to getting to know you along the way.

We're having DC/DA fraternal boy/girl twins and it's been quite a ride so far - I'm 29 weeks tomorrow.

hennypenny:
Sorry I wanted to reply sooner but had to go back through all our scan reports to make sure we had the same thing.

OK, at our 12wk ultrasound & nuchal scans they discovered two areas of subchorionic haemorrhaging: one by the dividing membrane measuring 4.9cm x 1.6cm x 4.1cm (with 17mls of fluid) and another inferior to one of the twins gestational sac measuring 5.3cm x 1.1 cm x 4cm (?mls fluid).

Prior to this scan I had had several light bleeds. My Obstetrician did a quick portable fuzzy scan each week from week 8 to 14 to check that there were still two heartbeats and movements but did not pick up the haemorrhages. I was put on house arrest from week 8 to week 15 & advised NOT to do ANYTHING involving lifting, pushing, or straining (including going to the toilet!). Kinda hard when I was so constipated anyway - sorry to much info!

Anyhoo - I rested up, with great difficulty & the bleeding stopped a week or two later, & I was cleared to go back on light duties with no stress (kinda hard when you're a relief teacher).

By the time we had our 20 wk scans there were no trace of the haemorrhages so I must have done something right!

I hope you have the same positive outcome hennypenny!

Sizes:
Twin 1 (boy) has aways measured slightly bigger than Twin 2 (girl) & at our 26 week growth scan he is almost 110gms heavier (960grams) so we are now on 2 weekly growth scans to make sure she is still growing. She sure does wriggle/kick ALOT more than him so maybe she's burning more calories

Next growth scan is tomorrow so I'll let you know how they are growing.]]> Wed, 20 Oct 2010 12:54:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35693&PID=1181379&title=introductions#1181379