SMBC - Single Mother By Choice

You mean you and me posted at the same time? I is confuseddddd

ahh sorry...I can delete my comment above if you like?

Choco69 good for you, doing it all by yourself won't be easy I'm sure you'll manage and find support.

I'm friends with a couple of SMBC and they're amazingly fantastic Mothers and they're babies are adorable.

I think it does take a community to raise a baby that community comes in all forms.

Children don't miss what they never had, I was adopted at birth and will never know who my biological father is - does this bother me not at all, I have such a loving family this one small detail doesn't matter.

He might but don't take it to heart, I told my Mother that I wanted to go back to Social Welfare when I was a kid. Such a mean thing to say, kids can be cruel especially to their mothers.

I am a single mum its not by chosie its properly the hardest thing i have done in my life but also the most fun exicting loving thing aswell

Agreed Bubalys, there are plenty of people out there not worthy of being a parent, why shouldn't someone deserving be given the opportunity to have a child?
Choco, I think it is an incredibly brave decision, but it will also be the best one you have ever made. Being a mother is AMAZING!

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caliandjack - i totally expect it when hes a teen of course. Along with the i hate you i didnt ask to be born thing. But when he's all grown up and adult, i hope he appreciates it!

Choco, I was so going to be a SMBC. I worked really hard so that I could be financial to have a child by myself. In hindsight I probably worked to hard and that made me a bit of a social hermit but to me, I could not contemplate not having a child (and needed some financial security behind me) and needed to have a back up plan should Mr right not come along. For me, he came along which was great but if he hadn't, I'd have been doing what you did.

Bizzy wrote: .Mel wrote: Bizzy wrote: HuntersMama wrote: Good on you! I am not a SMBC but I can fully understand why people would make that choice. Being a mum (single or not) is the best good that some people can... i think it is a bit selfish myself. I dont know if there are any others on here though so good luck in finding a SMBC community. That's a bit harsh! Why is it selfish? why is stating my opinion harsh? I think its selfish to purposely deny a child a parent. Once again though that is just my opinion, and as we all on OB know we dont all have to share the same opinions.

Bizzy it is all about how you say something. You can say that you don't think you agree with the choice that she has made without calling her selfish. Calling someone selfish is very judgmental.

I sit on the fence because I can see both sides to the situation. I only sit on the fence because I don't know if I could do it myself. In saying that I have just written in one of the other threads my longing to have a 2nd baby. And to be honest even if my husband and I were to get back together again I'm not sure that he wants to have another baby. That's a whole other story. The point is, I understand that deep longing. I also believe that babies need to have a father (ideally). So that's why I sit on the fence - but I would certainly not accuse someone of being selfish or judging another person's decision.

I have a friend who has chosen this (who happens to live on the Shore Coco actually!) and she is the first person I've ever met who chose to a sperm donor etc. She is a wonderful person and a good mother. Part of her reason for going ahead with it was to give a sibling to her child whose father wasn't interested in having any involvement. I understand that because I want that for my son too.

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SMBC should be congratulated for their brave decision to do it alone!!! They are hero's in my books!