My friend story

Hello, today I read your post and decided to answer you. You see, what happened before, then you can not fix it. Yes, this is your mistake and you will remember it all your life. But I do not think that your husband fell in love with only your positive qualities. Surely he loves everything in you - both good and bad. Why did you decide that he would be disappointed in you? I think you need to tell him. You see, he is not stupid, he will understand that everything is not easy. He will force you to go to the doctor and then everything will be even worse. Because when he finds out that you have kept everything from him, he will take offense at you. Better tell him everything now, maybe he will be upset or offended. But all the same it will be the first step to overcoming this problem. He will not blame himself for not having children. And you can find a good clinic and do IVF there. And also you can use the program of surrogate motherhood. Of course, not in all countries commercial surrogate motherhood is allowed, but you can go abroad. For example, I know that in Ukraine there are many clinics in which it is possible to do IVF procedure or use the service of surrogate motherhood. But first of all you need to tell your husband everything. Perhaps he will understand everything, he loves you, which means that he accepted you with all your shortcomings. After all, I'm sure that he, too, is not perfect. You do not know what happened to him in the past. Each of us has mistakes in the past, mistakes of youth. Unfortunately, we can not fix many of these mistakes. But do not think about them all the time, because you are losing your future. Maybe you just need to undergo a course of treatment. Why are you running away from your problems? Tell me, are you seeing a doctor? Have you had an abortion at a late age or after an abortion there were complications? In which country do you live now and what methods of eliminating the problem are you considering? You know, it's just that we are going to fly to Ukraine for the program of surrogate motherhood. We have already decided on the clinic and I can keep you informed. You just need to consult with the gynecologist you are seeing. You must know your exact diagnosis and forecasts for the future. I would like to support you in this forum.

honestly it is always better to be 100 per cent open before your spouse. it is the secret of healthy family life. and you should consider opening up before you have kids. just because it is what is marriage and relationships are all about. being honest and being fully together.
I wish you and your friend the best of luck

It is important to find out what caused the inability to conceive for such a long time. Perhaps an abortion done at a young age is not the main reason. You know that the male factor may be the cause of this failure. If an abortion does not affect the possibility of conception, you can not tell your husband about it. Generally, even if the main reason is an abortion, your husband cannot judge you. But to tell him that you may have difficulty in conception is necessary. It will be more honest, right?